when you marry a man with children, they are part of the package. You learn to deal with it.
Posted By: btdt on 2006-06-28
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- when you marry a man with children, they are part of the package. You learn to deal with it. - btdt
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Yes, a gay love story about men who also marry women and have children and betray them. HOW sm
is that a GOOD THING???????????????? Good grief! Oh, bad bad prejudiced society MADE them get married and have families to hide their true love for each other. BALONEY. If you want to be gay, then be gay. Just don't give me all this angst. Not when children are involved. I saw the movie. Phooey.
He already knows I'm part of the package! nm
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yep, for some it's a big deal so learn it *LOL*
The patient will be seen for followup in a week.
Followup one week.
The patient came in for follow up of her acne. (I believe this can be hyphenated to follow-up.)
The patient will be seen for followup care in a month. (This, too, some MTs hyphenate to follow-up but I do not.)
The BOS has this very issue - Book of Style by the AAMT 2nd edition - discussed in it.
You dont have to * learn to deal with it * - sm
If you feel you are being taken advantage of, then ask for more money... 1 cent or 1/2 cent....whatever you choose. The worst that happens is you get refused. But you will never know if you can make more if you don't ask.
My advice would be not to make it a situation of * pay me more or i'm out of here*. I am an IC and I have asked for 1/2 cent raise about 4 times. Three times I got it and the last time they just said they could not afford to pay me that much right now. I will give them about a year and then say "can we go 1/2 cpl higher?" If so, then great. If not, then I am still happy and do not feel I am being taken advantage of.
I have worked where I felt taken advantage of. When it got to me enough, I turned in my resignation and went elsewhere. Never regretted it.
BTW....if you get rid of this account that is paying you 12 cpl, maybe you could auction it off here on the board...hundreds of MTs here (i'm sure) would love to take it! 
My children don't have part-time jobs
For my kids, their job is to be excellent students and sons/daughters. As a parent, I pay for their financial obligations, and as long as they fulfill their end of the bargain (do exceptional in school and be respectful, successful, and good children), they will not be expected to have part-time jobs. They do volunteer work, however, so they do know the value of hard work. They are just not paid monetarily for it.
Plus, with as busy as they are (Boy Scouts, many sports, afterschool study groups, volunteer work, acting workshops, etc.), they simply don't have time to hold down a job.
Working full time at home with small children is hard but part time works great
is almost impossible. You will either have to work when your spouse is home or for only a few hours during the day and then more when they are asleep. I work part time at home and my kids (2&5 now) have done very, very well. They are great kids, very well behaved, don't get into much. I stop working to check on them/give them some attention every hour or so while I work (5 hours each afternoon or so) and they get all my attention in the morning and at night. It has worked out beautifully for us.
It is an okay deal - TR 11 font is small. Not as good a deal as Courier.
Personally, I would have to think really hard and compare reports and line counts, like the other poster below suggested, before I would jump right into it. It is probably 75-80 characters to a line +/- the single character lines you get for initials, and 2 word lines you get with op reports such as Surgeon:
IV Fluids:
Anesthesia:
etc.
It probably is comparable to 9 cpl with a larger font.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
Good Luck!
I do this job with young children around and neither my job nor children have suffered...
It can be done...
But why marry?
Why not just live with the guy???
Would you NOT marry someone because of his last name?
I heard this on a local radio station...something like 30-something% of women polled said they would not or had not married someone that they truly loved because of his last name, so my question is...would any of you NOT marry someone just because you didn't like his last name?
I, for one, don't think I would let that stop me from marrying someone I loved and really wanted to marry. However, I am already married and don't mind my honey's last name at all! 
Why does she want to marry him?
Okay, maybe he is blinded by love, blah blah blah, but why would she want to marry him if she loves another girl too? This is insane. You have got a real problem on your hands. Yes, it is his life, but when she is accusing you and your husband of these sort of cazy things - that is when it becomes your life and you need to get involved, not butt out! I know you love your son but you need to have a major heart to heart (alone). I would not subject myself to her in any way, shape or form. He can love her and marry her or whatever and you can still love your son and have a one on one relationship without being subject to this lunatic. She may need to be admitted somewhere!
Would you rather he marry a man? There is a
time where we just have to let our children be who they want to be and live their own lives. I am sure he has thought about this so if it is a mistake, let him make it. It might not be and they might be very happy together. It could be worse and even had he chosen a man...my initial comment...it is still his choice. He is the one that has to live with them so just love your son and do not worry. Be there for him should he ever need you
Why did you marry this guy?
He did not get to be 500 pounds overnight. Maybe if he got up to make his own breakfast and actually went to work, he wouldn't be 500 pounds. I hate to sound judgmental, but my first thought about someone that morbidly obese is that they have some severe mental issues. It is absolutely ridiculous that he is draining the system and you being on disability. I would get out and get out fast if I were you. I would not keep a bite of food in the house and I would refuse to drive him anywhere. YOU need to go on a "diet" and lose 500 pounds! I think you could probably do it overnight.
Marry a doctor...
I absolute would not not marry someone because of their last name!
I would keep my own last name as I plan to do whether I like his or not.
I wouldn't marry someone with the last
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So why did she marry him, cause she's dumb, or it
was a coverup.
Same as saying"who should I marry?" Who
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My husband said he knew he would marry me sm
even before I met him. We have been together since high school - 20 years!
I doubt that. She was dumb enough to marry him.
Is this what the package says?
I didn't get mine yet. They will be "monitoring" us?
No they only do that if you buy the package - sm
that offers that. I get the "upgrade" every other year as I posted below and I get no other "updates" throughout the year. If you buy the top package then Stedmans does do that, but I don't. I can usually get the upgrade for $40-$50 if I wait for the sale offer they usually do. That is good enough for me.
Hun, the "platform" is the package sm
you type in. Dictaphone EXText is a platform, Chartscript is a platform, Careflow is a platform.....all of these PLATFORMS use Word as their word processor.
Word itself is NOT a platform. The person who answered Dictaphone EXText is correct.
I buy it and use it and it is all caps on the package. nm
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ATT/SBC has an unlimited package. sm
We use it on 10 lines in our office. It runs $54.99 (or something close to that) every month. It is called Total Solutions or Complete Solutions. You have to ask as they do not offer it unless you ask.
Transcend sent out a package...sm
with all sorts of goodies in it.
anyone watch deal or no deal?
I love Deal or No Deal.......nm
wish I knew where to go to meet, date and marry a man with a lot of money!!!
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Care package ideas
I've been doing care packages for deployed military now for a little over a year. There are great sites where you can get a TON of ideas and can even find folks to support if you don't know someone personally. My favorite is:
www.anysoldier.com
This organization has done a lot and you can search on their site for folks from your states or from a specific branch of the military. In addition to doing many of these myself, our company adopted a unit from our state this last year and it's been great to see so many participating.
TAYLOR all the way now for the WIN. He's the TOTAL package.
Spunk, energy, personality, showmanship, and voice. He's got it all going for him.
Kat should never have gotten this far. She's not singing well and had a bad week. There are songs that she can sing, she's just not well-rounded to do any kind of music.
Lots of people will buy Elliott's CD. He's got a great voice.
I wish they'd publish the vote counts. I can't believe that Chris got the boot! Just shows you how sick this can all get. We'll all be angry if Kat goes on to win. Probably more of the sick "vote for the worst" revenge.
Drew Lachey is my future brother in law, that is, after Nick and I marry!
Is he drop-dead gorgeous or what? OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Good job! Chose the right man to marry, common goals. KUDOS!
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MQ letter/comprehensive benefit package
 I really did not make much of it. It would be GREAT,especially if they can offer something for the part timers, but I'm not holding my breath to hear the news. It's been promised/talked about for forever, sure would be nice to finally hear.
The MT software I use has an accounting package for my docs - SM
My docs can search on the software I use by entering date parameters to see how much their transcription costs are. They can break their transcription costs down by date, by dictator, by type of report, by report, etc.
The first of each month, I e-mail them my invoice; they merely check the accounting package of their software to see if the figures tally up.
This really takes the mystery out of billing for my docs.
The basic Stedman's package is great and they you
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I have an Open Office package that came free
It's legit. I bought a refurbished hard drive so that I could run XP as opposed to buying a new computer, and Open Office came loaded. I just don't think it's Microsoft. I don't use it because I use Microsoft Office 2003, but Open Office works very similar to Word and Excel by Microsoft.
I get Sirrus/XM included through my digital TV package,
So I just play it through the home theater system. It rocks
The easy part is making the decision to leave, the hard part is
actually doing it. Been in your shoes and it took me a year and a half to leave after I had made the decision to do so. It was the best thing I have ever done for myself and my girls. I had family and friends and a counselor telling me what needed to be done and I knew what needed to be done but until I had the courage on my own to do it I stayed. One day, we had an argument and he spit in my face and that was the last straw for me. Even though it is something that I will NEVER forget, that day is also a day I will never forget because it is the day that I took my kids and left. I am a single mom of 2 and have been single and supporting us for 5 years now. I have been healing ever since and still am to this day. You can do this. I know that if I hadn't have left and I would have stayed one of us would be dead by now or both.
What did you make of the comprehensive benefit package they talked about
URGENT REQUEST: An MT that we sent a box of gifts to did not receive the package.
It was delivered to their porch according to UPS but she did not get it. It contained gifts for her children. Because we did not put insurance on the package, UPS will do nothing to assist. The box alone to ship had cost $45.00 and insurance would have cost another $25.00. It is a sad story, but what it boils down to is that the kids won't have a Christmas. All monies in the Santa's House for Christmas Angels fund have been dispersed through the Christmas Angel program.
So, I am here to ask for help. I would like to raise $150 to $200 today if at all possible and for anyone who donates $10.00 or more to this special cause, I will give a software package that contains a word Expander and spellchecker that is worth over $100.00 for your trouble. Donations can be made to sales@mtstars.com via Paypal.
Again, thank you for your consideration.
care package for military in iraq ideas?? sm
i have a very close friend who is in iraq and i went to send something but no idea what? he ideas or someone know anyone in military and what they like to receive or need? FYI, they are on a ship. TYIA!
I should point out that the benefits package with the pathology group... SM
is significantly better than what I've got right now. They are offering a matching 401K, profit sharing, flexible spending account, healthcare benefits and dental for me and my kids for about 150 per month versus 400 per month where I work now.
Then there is the issue of job security. I'm a realist and I know that in this business of medical transcription, my job could be gone tomorrow due to lost accounts, low work volume, or offshoring. Not to mention, the powers that be at my company could decide that it would be more cost effective to pay their editors per line versus hourly (which has happened to me before) and only offer 4 cpl because after all "we don't actually type all that much."
Maybe I'm paranoid, but I've lost jobs due to all those things I listed. It's upsetting the thought of losing another job. So that is one of my major considerations with this job offer. I'm sure they could offer me a measure of job security because they are a locally owned practice by the physician and all of the the transcriptionists there have been with the practice for more than five years. This position I'm being offered was created because they have increased their work load.
I just don't know. Geez, I hate making big decisions!
Have you tried the Custom Biz Saver package Snow Bunny? sm
It's through AT&T and it's a business plan. C-phones were supported. I used it for a Lanier when I was IC and I was on it a lot, sometimes 10 hours a day. I had unlimited long distance and never had the problems you are having. Problem is you need to sign a contract for 1 year but even with that it was only $10.00 a month more than a residential line.
Quit before I got married. Fiance told me "no way would I marry a smoker," and I was smitten.
Marlboro Reds. I smoked all throughout high school and college before that. Was highly addicted. Had to go for a smoke break between classes.
It's been 10+ years since quitting. Cold turkey. Don't want it, don't want to smell it, won't eat at a restaurant that allows smoking. Fortunately (sorry smokers) in GA, all restaurants are smoke-free now. I like it that way. Can enjoy food better.
BUT, I have a completely different problem that is probably killing me - I'm addicted to sugar and carbs. Highly. Wake up craving it. 40+ pounds overweight. Hate every minute of it. No matter how hard I try, I absolutely cannot stop eating the "white, starchy" stuff. So, the cigarettes may not kill me now, but food might. Sad.
Mouse included in the package lit up right after battery insertion. No on lights
come on when the batteries are inserted and power button doesn't do a thing. Power isn't being transmitted to keyboard for some reason.
where I live, bundle package for HSI/CABLE/PHONE is $99 a month. nm
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what size package do you have? i have basic and i couldn't make good lines due to speed. nm
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Yes, I lost mine. I upgraded the Office 2000 package to Office 2003. sm
I have over 2000 autocorrect entries and lost them all as well as my supplemental dictionary for my Stedman's spellcheck. Lots of grief!
Maybe you will be lucky and not lose anything. Good luck to you.
Marry me?! :) Seriously...hear, hear. Good post. - nm
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What's up with the CMT part A and part B exams?
I thought it was all one test. How can a half a test last 6-1/2 hours? If anyone knows, please share your info! Thanks!
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