very thoughtful and caring of you to do this.
Posted By: n/m on 2007-12-23
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You are very thoughtful
Thank you for the response, I really appreciate you taking the time to write me and I took your advice to heart. I'm glad I posted this, i'm not a very open person and so this is kind of all I have right now. I've already taken the time to write an email to my mom, and through the advice of others, told her basically i'm uncomfortable going around there, but I love her and for her to remember that, and I just need space right now. She wrote back that whenever i'm ready to talk, please write. So the door is open. Its a start.
I'm also going to write another person in my family, who will understand more than anything, and then help me out with the actual bringing everything to light. My stepfather is in therapy for something else, maybe if he's confronted by this he'll get help for this too, even though he's 70, its never too late. The only thing, he more than likely will deny it and say I blew things out of proportion, or my mom will. Thats my worst fear, or to have my mom fall deeper into her depression. But even I have questioned this...and its undeniable to me that something is wrong.
This has taken so long to get to this point, I wish I were like some of you and to just confront and nip it in the bud, but like I said, its my nature to want to keep things as peaceful as possible and hopefully it will get ironed out on its own. Thats awful, I know. And I want to say again, in no way am I comparing myself to sexually abused children, but this is something that has been eating away at me for awhile, its been a hurtful burden because my mom and I are kind of all each other has, even though we do not relate well, we are always there, and I just do not want to lose that, or have her hurt and humiliated more than she has to be.
Thanks again everyone..well most of you, for your responses. They have really helped me.
Thank you for your thoughtful reply
I am going to keep looking elsewhere. The company I work for is very large, and the things I mentioned seem to be a problem in pretty much any region you are talking about from what I have heard from other people who work here in this company. I will keep hoping to come across a company that was like this company USED to be years ago before it got too big for its britches and greed took over. Thank you again for your help.
I think it is thoughtful of you and you should not be too concerned if (sm)
someone thought it "weird" as gifts are given from the heart and yours seems to be overflowing!!! It is so nice to see someone actually more worried about giving this year than receiving!! I work from home as well for a small MTSO and I will follow in your footsteps!!!
Very thoughtful post.
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You're very thoughtful
The girls are lucky to have you. Frankly, if they had boyfriends a year ago and now they are both suddenly into women, I have to agree with your husband that it is exploration and most likely will pass.
I would worry about anyone putting their place of employment on their blog. There are a lot of idiots in the world and a lot of hate-filled sociopaths would might target a person because of where they work - like an abortion clinic, the post office, a certain religious organization, etc.
Gay men and women particularly have to be circumspect - there are people out there who will do them harm just for being gay. I realize your girls are young and full of life and in love, but they need to temper their enthusiasm with some caution. Instead of putting the name of the company, put the field - such as healthcare, marketing, education, etc.
Now THAT's a doc I wouldn't mind seeing! How thoughtful! nm
Yes, thanks for a thoughtful and constructive comment. SM
Much too rare on this board. I'm shocked by how many people still don't use Expanders and use them very extensively. People need to understand and accept that today's much higher standard of production is set by those who do.
You guys sound more thoughtful than most here...
Of course most coding will be point-and-click to computer, but don't you think the EMR will allow a broader range of medical record work to be done remotely?
THANK YOU FOR CARING!!! nm
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No, she comes off as a caring
but frustrated professional to me. If you don't care what QA people think I don't suppose you care that other MTs also care about quality. You call QA person narcissistic, but you don't portray yourself well at all IMO.
Poor kid. You sound like a very caring mom. (sm)
Maybe a few months to get himself feeling better (antidepressants?) and you keeping him up in his studies will be enough to get him back on his feet and feeling better about school. I bet the school would be willing to help you with this (maybe even have a tutor come to the house a few times a week) if you speak to the right people.
Good luck to you, mom! 
caring for elderly parents
My dad died last year at age 89, my mom died last month at 92. My husband and I and our three kids moved in to my parents house 8 years ago to help my parents (I also have 3 siblings). We lived with my parents, and I cooked, cleaned, took them to doctors appointments, etc. My siblings did not do much, even living close by. It was a mistake, my mother said it was her house and not mine and Alzheimer was setting in on both parents. we ended up moving out as I was very unhappy as was my family. My parents health got worse, 24 hour nursing care, finally a nursing home for mother. They had to sell their house to pay for the nursing home because they did not trust anyone to have anything in their names and now everything goes to probate for the estate, which is now hardly anything. Anyone who has aging parents should contact an elder lawyer and know the laws of your state, have bank accounts put in sibling name or even lawyer's name. I really tried to take care of my mother and father but they were very stubborn, would not listen to anyone, took risks and fell etc, and it was not a good thing for anyone to watch. My siblings were all in charge of my parents care for the last four years and they realized what I had gone through. It is very difficult and you try to help but sometimes it does not work. Yes, I loved my parents and tried the best I could, but sometimes it just will not work with living with them as they get so set in their ways. I am a very easy going person. I just know that I will set up will and trusts, etc for my family
God bless you for caring for that child,
dealing with state/CPS, legal system, therapists, nonsense appointments, and meeting her heavy emotional needs to give her a better life. The other posters who are critical of you just have no idea what it's like to take on a large amount of responsibility.
I hope she is feeling better soon. :)
When we all stop caring about these issues,
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I love what you say about not caring since 1988
That is so true. I try to do my best but care, oh I wouldn’t go that far. I laughed also when I read about the post about hyphens and the person talking about how the dictators can hardly make a coherent sentence. That was the absolute truth. Thank goodness, I work for a place where the hypens, semicolons, etc. are so not a necessity. Readable reports, yes, other nitpicking not.
Another day of investing wisely in your health and caring for yourself and those
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The difference between not caring what you spend and spending as
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Enough already! I am a very caring person. I don't make a lot of money either.
I still have canned goods stocked up and I know how to wash out a plastic soda bottle or milk jug and fill it up with water when I'm told to do so. That has nothing to do with posttraumatic stress or FEMA. I never said anything about either of those, so quit jumping down my throat about things I never said. It's not about the people that NEED help because they lost everything. It's about the people in their Lincoln Town Cars who can obviously afford a jug of water and DID not do it. The ones who didn't bother to prepare are sucking up the resources that should be used for those people who lost everything and NEED the help. How can you disagree with that?
Physicians and caring or lack thereof
recently I have experienced both sides of this aspect. In January I was hospitalized for asthma by my then family physician. I had been to him 3 times in the month before that with problems but he made no effort to adjust meds, etc. About a month later, he walks into his office and tells his staff today is your last day. I'm closing the office.
I got strep throat and went to a different doctor. She was absolutely the best. She looked at ME while she was in the room, not at the chart or her PDA in her hand (like the first doctor used to do). She talked to ME. Asked ME questions and answered any I had. asked about allergies (which I have many). The first doctor tried to give me medicine I was allergic to (and he had been told multiple times). Two weeks ago I was hospitalized through the emergency room with another asthma attack (brought on by the flu). My new doctor sat down beside me in the room. Talked to me. Got a very detailed history. Explained what tests she was going to do. Explained the results of what tests had already been done. Told me she was going to refer me to a pulmonologist to evaluate if my meds need tweaking. Even asked me which one I preferred based on how my insurance would pay. I have only seen her in the office twice and then while hospitalized and I already feel more at ease and reassured that 2 years of using the other doctor.
Also, at work this past week a patient was admitted after lunch. Because the patient had missed the noon meal, the PHYSICIAN went to the cafeteria and bought lunch for the patient and took it to him. Now THAT is a physician that cares about the welbeing of their patient!
I wish all doctors could be like these two - both of them female! Maybe it has something to do with our nurturing instincts! 
When you stop caring, it is time to find
It does not matter if you do QA or greet people at Wal-Mart, if you don't care it is time to find something else to do.
It isn't just about you that QA makes these changes. QA is doing their job to their employer's expectations. Either take it as constructive criticism or leave, but don't make someone else pay for your lack of concern. Having done everything in a medical office from scheduling appointments to transcription to bill collection, I can honestly say that quality matters - it matters to someone, somewhere - and if you are not in that loop, please for the rest of us that still care even after close to 30 years of this business, please, please take yourself to someplace you can be happy.
I do not agree with every nick-picking change QA makes, but I don't dwell on it or stop caring. I keep plugging away at doing the best job I can. I am doing something where I make good money and feel like I have an impact on patient care without having face-to-face patient contact or co-employee issues that come with working on-site.
So, go, shoo, get, go on now. Let me have your work.
Being educated about the environment and caring about what is left for the next generation does not
nm.
You're so sweet for caring. Just my hormones kicking a little too much. Thx
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Naw, they're in it for the bucks. Not many really caring docs anymore
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Not all of us are parents. Not everyone had caring parents. nm,
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