this is my kind of relationship too
Posted By: sm on 2006-02-14
In Reply to: I went the other way - The Opposite
 Just being comfortable and enjoying each other. Its so hard to find that, people want you to be a certain way and it creates so much stress. Just allow each other to "be", no criticizing allowed! I see married couples just picking at one another, its sad. I'm definitely a hard person to match up because of how laid back I am. You mentioned being lazy, well I probably have you beat, i'm like a lion, i'm thrilled to take a nap. I'm really very easy to please, if my guy found a blade of grass outside my door and attempted to tie it in the shape of a rose to hand to me, I would break out in tears of happiness. Its just so easy, wish people would understand that. Just cuddle and do the little things and be joyful. Happy Valentines day.
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This sounds like my kind of relationship! No great expectations and you can relax
I always have a fear of disappointing people. It has caused me to isolate myself...
Maybe you need to reconsider this relationship.
What you have described has many elements of an abusive relationship. He blames you for everything. He becomes angry at you for no reason. He withdraws from you. He accuses you of lying. You're walking around on eggshells trying to cater to his "moods". He never takes any responsibility for problems. This cannot be a rewarding relationship for you. You are obviously a very loyal and caring person. You deserve to be treated better. You deserve a relationship with someone who will return your affection and will treat you with respect. You might at least want to consider getting out of this relationship for awhile, until your current boyfriend takes some initiative himself to get help. I don't think anything you say or do will have an effect; he will need to determine for himself that he needs to change. Otherwise, he'll just keep blaming you. Please take care of yourself.
Yes, if you have a good relationship, obviously - sm
if you have been estranged for years, or they abused you, etc. then NO. I am not looking forward to possibly taking in one of my in-laws in the future (my dad has a younger wife, so he has her to take care of him). I get along with them but I don't want to live with them though, they each drive me nuts in different ways. My goal would be to get them a small house or apt. in the area and do it that way though. Condo's are coming near us soon, hard to believe in the rural area we are in but the sprawl is coming, so that would be my wish (5 miles away). However lots of down sides to doing this, and perceived as being selfish I am sure, it will totally disrupt your life, you may become a taxi driver if they cannot or are unwilling to drive (my MIL won't drive more than 5 miles to get somewhere)(they are strict catholics, nearest catholic church is 45+ minutes away), become nurse/cook, etc. So if we ever do do it, we will have to think long and hard, and not erroneously open up our mouths before we think of what it really means. Responsibility is the word, though had it been my mom I wouldn't have felt that way. Obviously you don't want to do it if you are going to be resentful, that is the problem I will probably have to overcome at some point.
Definite relationship here...
Note that as transcription has moved further and further from the hospital (to outside hospital employee, then to US transcription vendor, then to offshore, and finally to the ultimate form of distance - machine-generated transcription) the hourly compensation and benefits have deteriorated steadily.
As the MT is pushed further and further from the source, she becomes more and more of an faceless and, consequently, powerless entity. Welcome to Never-Never Land!
yes, have a very good relationship
with my supervisor. Like I said, neither the MTSO or our MAJOR client have converted to it yet, so maybe we won't.
Absolutely. Our relationship is first priority. sm
Otherwise our marriage would have failed years ago as so many do. Sure we both have different interests and different ways of thinking, but we respect each others space in that regard and we teach this to our children as well.
We were both married before to the types that needed to make themselves and their controlling families top priority and neither of us could ever figure out why they did that.
We were lucky though as our parents never interfered and they always made their relationship their number one priority. What happened in their private lives was none of our business. My parents would have been married for 60 years in May, but both are gone now. His parents have been married for 51 years.
Our older two are grown and gone and thankfully live locally (by their own choice). They call to say hello, but not every day. We watch the grandkids when we can. We do say no when we can't. We'd never dream of interfering in their private lives unless there was an obvious issue that put any of them in danger.
We still have 2 younger teens at home and both are doing fine . . . .for teens that is!
I've no turkey left already with the teenager appetite! 
Love/hate relationship
There are so many things I love about this job, working on my own, being at home, no office politics, better money than I can make anywhere locally, (I live in a rural community) can work in my jammies, flexibility, intellectually challenging...but then again so many things I dislike too.. no appreciation, being squeezed out by technology, not being paid what you're worth, forcing yourself to be self-disciplined, sitting for hours, hands aching, no respect from doctors or the public (Hey, I can type so can I get a job doing what you do??? UGH!), ESLs and poor dictators... it's hard to say which side of me wins out on most days.. It's a job, like any other job, good days/bad days... suits my lifestyle for now so I'll keep at it.. but always keep my eyes open for the future.
I agree with having a good relationship.
Patti, you have probably earned respect because of your excellent turnaround, attention to detail, and responding in a timely fashion when things can get "hairy" so to speak and the office is in need of a report. I also have that kind of relationship with the offices I transcribe for and it is very nice. When I lost my mother, one of my docs, called me personally and told me that he was not at all worried about late dictation because "family comes first". I know these docs are hard to come by, but I have also responded to his STAT requests in a timely manner. I have managed to please his staff and do not come off (just because I'm an IC) that I am not a part of their team and feel the same stresses that come along with being part of the staff. I have been offered lunch if I'm there and a rep has brought in some sandwiches. I have sat and eaten that lunch, too (not everytime) but I want to be part of the team. I think this very much increases your productivity and then like you said when it comes time that you may not have gotten that report back, it is not taken as such a bad thing. We are all human. I feel the OP should have a contract with this office and specify her charges as such. I'm sure glad someone understands though that there are some great offices out there that really do care about their staff, including their IC transcriptionist. 
abusive relationship ruining mt career
I had an extramarital affair. I deeply regret it and am trying to get my life straightened out. I ended the affair and I believe this man wants to see me lose everything out of spite and revenge. I had to quit my last MT job because my computer was hacked and had alerted the company there was a security problem and then a bunch of personal correspondence with this man got uploaded to the company server via "technical assistance" on the phone. I have had harassing phone calls as well and calls that were programmed in my autodial end up at the wrong number or playing Mexican music, etc. I went to the sheriff's department and they did believe my situation, but said there is little I can do about it without filing a report. I do not want to appear spiteful or vengeful, but may have to file a report against this man, but he lives in another state. I just want to put my life back together. I fear with my computer tapped and my phone calls screened I will be unable to secure another job or get the harassment to stop. I have three firewalls on my computer am rural and had to work via satellite. I live in a small town with little opportunity. I am going to lose everything if I cannot work as an MT.
Any MTs victims of domestic abuse and had to deal with anything similar?
If someone is sabotaging my career what am I to do?
I agree here. He may have developed a new relationship on the side. Sorry. nm
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Isn't it an "at will" relationship, meaning that no cause is needed at all?
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..usually reading that either party can end the relationship at any time, but yours may be dif
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kind of
I feel your pain. I had been providing excellent service, never increased rates, always met TAT (usually supposed to be 48 hr, but most times office mgr would call and needed it in 24 -- a huge amount of dictation). As you did, I always put them first, above everything else. Well, the office manager decided to start transcribing it herself, and she did not even tell me that she was going to do it. I waited a little while (longer than I should have) hoping she was just trying to pay for Christmas (she had actually done that before) and I finally had to do something else. The something else did not work out either, and I am lucky to have what little work I do have right now. Meanwhile, she now has two full-time paychecks (yes, this was a full-time paycheck for me). It is a good thing that although I was making full-time money on their account (working 2 days per week) I never let go of my other work, but I still may wind up in the big "B" court as my options now are few, and I stupidly took care of things I needed to with credit cards while waiting for her to return the work to me. I also knew that she was going to call me spur of the moment wanting me to do the work when she was ready for a break/vacation, which she did, but I was unavailable to her as I had picked up the something else by then. I just wish that I had never heard of being an MT. As much as I love the work, the business is awful.
what kind of dog?
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What kind of KVM do you have? -sm
I have heard that if you get a cheap one you'll have problems with the screen freezing up when switching back and forth. I'd really like to get one where you can use a hot key to switch back and forth. Can you please tell me what brand yours is?
Any kind
of sin, which is what this is, is not progressive or open-minded. What it is is sin. Go back and read the story about Sodom and Gomorrah and see if you understand then. Granted, there are other kinds lots of sins in this world also, but call this one what it is.
Usually those kind of
licenses are only for one computer. You can buy licenses for multiple computers from their websites.
A different kind of job
I have no idea how these things fall into my lap and don't how this will go but just met and got offered to do "formatting and editing" of finished documents for a Waste Recovery Company -- fancy name for garbage and recycling company. This manager has to do long reports, handouts, employee manuels, etc. and just wants to type the report and all I do is edit -- not grammar or punctuation -- use a consistent outline form, do title pages, do headers and footers, make sure pages are correctly numbered for $25 an hour. She wants me to make it have "eye appeal and look pretty." She spends hours formatting and hates it and so I am going to try it. Decided I had nothing to lose to try. Depending on how fast I am probably not more than 6 to 12 hours per month so we will see how it goes. But she did say if it worked out well, they have several other branches in Montana, Idaho, California and they might be able to use me more at those facilities also that have to do the same reports. So guess I am branching out somewhat. Just as one door closes, another open as had one of my most profitable account, suddenly retired due to ill health. So was thinking of looking for another account when I got this call. SOmething different at least.
you are MY kind of MT
but I might have done this far sooner than you - I have almost zero tolerance for this cr____pola.
Would love to see this doc in court trying to prove a CHIMPANZEE (or even a sharp HUMAN typist) could do what we do...
LOL
Thank you very much for your kind help!!!
:-)))
Can someone tell me what kind of (sm)
foot pedal works with winscribe? I've got two Infinity wave pedals - they don't. Any help is appreciated!
That was kind of like what I was saying before
Right to work states do that to people.
However, I am sorry you lost your job after all of that. It would have been easier if they had just told you the truth in the first place.
Yes ma'am. It's kind of cool actually..............
you can see everything they're doing and once they're done, they're gone.
what kind of person are you?????
"don't dog the people looking for your daughter and investigating the people who may have seen her last. "
okay, well maybe she feels that not enough is being done. I mean, she did just lose her daughter. Imagine that feeling. I can't. I am quite sure if it were me, no one COULD be doing enough. I would probably be on everyone's case until she were found. Also, are you dense? OF COURSE they are going to investigate the people who have seen her last. HAHAHAHAHA. I cannot believe that comment. Who else would they investigate??????
As far as the rest of your post, I don't believe it even deserves acknowledging. Your thoughts speak for the kind of person you are.
What kind of advice do you want?
It's a rough life raising your kids and running a household by yourself while you worry about your husband's safety. The kids can sense your stress, so they act up as well. Then when your husband gets home from wherever he's been, you have to readjust to having him around again. A lot of it also depends on what branch of the military he wants to get into, as well as active duty or guard/reserve. If you're active duty, you never know where you're going to be sent to next. It could be somewhere nice, or it could be a foreign country with mandatory boarding schools for your kids. People think that military families have it so easy, but the military pay and benefits aren't great compared to what we could make if we moved to a big city. Military housing has a lot of problems, and the old housing development with the leaking foundations, high water table, and backed up sewer lines is still being used by young military families 25 years after we lived there. I could get into more details, but every time I do, people here think they know more about my life experience than I do, so I won't.
what kind of keyboard
Just curious, what type of keyboard do you type on? I use the Microsoft erogonomic. I absolutely love it! I find that if I type on the traditional keyboards my hands hurt. Also, do you wear gloves for carpal tunnel protection? I wear gloves and have found this helps me tremendously. I have been doing transcription for about 15 years.
What kind of software is best?
Thanks.
thanks for the kind words - it does help...:)
I know lots of places are hiring, but I don't have enough experience for most of them and am afraid to jump from the frying pan into the fire....
Well, it kind of depends. SM
Most of the pain management I've seen strongly encourages other modalities, depending on the patient and the condition. Exercise (swimming or aqua therapy are popular), stationary bicycle, walking, physical therapy (massage), acupuncture, sometimes counseling to help adjust to the chronic pain and accept it better, diet - an overall healthy lifestyle. Whatever the patient can do to make them feel better.
However, pain medication is still a fairly normal component - it's just watched and managed carefully with an emphasis on using it appropriately.
Unfortunately, even though our understanding of pain has grown over the years, sometimes all they can do is try and medicate it.
It depends on what kind of (sm)
disability you are talking about. SS will not consider any type of disability unless you've been off work for a year.
What kind of lip balms are you using?
Some of them can actually CAUSE chapped and swollen lips. Skip the mentholatum and other additives. Try just plain old Vaseline petroleum jelly instead of chapsticks to see how it works. None of that Carmex junk either. Also, monitor your behaviors to make sure that you're not licking, biting, or any other habits on your lips. I used to get a callous on my lower lip until I realized that when I was nervous or stressed, I chewed my lower lip. Drink plenty of water, skip the day-long bath of sugar or artificially sweetened sodas. If these suggestions don't help, then I would see a doctor.
what kind of info are you looking for?
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What kind of doctor.
I used to type ENT docs who treated this condition. I would definitely not go to an oral surgeon. They deal with surgery. You want your condition treated not surgically fixed.
OTI is just that kind of place. nm
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I have. No biggie. It was really kind of SM
fun for me, because I got to watch it. Amazing to the doc AND me because he couldn't believe what he was seeing. My symptoms weren't even that bad but woweee did I have horrible reflux.
What kind of pedal is it?
USB or 15-pin? If it's 15 pin, you'll probably have to set it up. If not, you might try going to the Express Scribe website to see if there's a patch to play the certain file you're trying to play. They'll probably have technical information regarding Olympus footpedals there as well.
That's kind of standard, isn't it? I mean (SM)
every hospital and every MT company I've ever worked for, to be a full-time employee you had to account for 40 hours a week, either by working it, or taking PTO, unless you were covered under FMLA.
I think sometimes we expect even more flexibility working from home and forget the fact that working from home IS flexibility -- not having to go into the office, being in the comfort of our home (if we want our children or family around us, that is our option--not so in an office), etc.
The 40-hour expectation is very standard, in my experience. You have PTO to use for when you cannot make up your absence. My guess is they will offer more PTO with this new plan coming up.
Try not to panic or be upset. No one knows what the new plan will be. We will each have to decide if the new plan is what we need or not. If it isn't, thank goodness there are other companies to work for out there.
Please try to relax.
What kind of music? nm
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Well that's mighty kind of you...
I am a hard worker so I think it just might...I just dread the learning curve...6 kids have fried my brains!!!! hahaa.
Seems like the best kind of drug to take...
when doing MT would be uppers like truck drivers use. Stay up all night and type really fast!
I kind of know how you feel....
My heart goes out to you....While my daughter is a lot younger at age 4 she has recently some bilateral hearing loss due to chronic ear infections and had to have tubes put in her ears. So far the hearing loss has not returned. It was a fight to have the surgery performed even though she was continuously getting infections and I finally had to switch doctors until I found someone who would perform the surgery but it was too late and she now has hearing loss. Then a couple of months later she was covered with hives and we couldn't figure out why. Finally narrowed it down to artificial food colors. Well that is in about everything. I have noticed a change in her since taking away all of her favorite foods (even though we've found a few substitutes at the health food store) but there is a definite depression factor even in a 4-year-old so I can imagine that it has to be multiplied many times over for a teen.
I previously worked for social workers for a children's center and there are definite differences between the bonds between kids and their counselors. Does your son like his? Trust him/her and want to see them? Maybe a different one would strike a better bond if not.
It sound like he was really enjoying school before and maybe I'm wrong but just needs a time of adjustment with his new sense of self.
If YOU need a shoulder would be happy to oblige...my thoughts are with you.
kind of on the same subject, but not really
Just an observation. The ONE good thing that came from Hurricane Katrina is the pet situation. After that, they made it where you could bring your pets shelters as long as they were in crates. I don't know if that will be the case everywhere from now on, but it did bring this to the public's attention, at least. Many people will not leave without their pets. I know I wouldn't.
And it is exactly this kind of attitude....sm
that will continue to keep MTs classified as clerical help. Until we start taking some accountability for our own professionalism, nobody else will sure recognize it!
'scuse me?? Before I get mad, is that some kind of jab?
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kind of confused
I only thought EMR meant to push from having paper records to having all records available electronically; hence, making it is easier to store and access patient information.
Thank you for your kind words...
I am hopeful too. I really try to be good on any promises I make. But as I said earlier, I would have probably taken it easier if I would have just been fired that day rather than think things were fine and keep having work given to me for another week and then after that, when I wasn't having a problem with TAT, get fired. To me, if someone didn't fulfill their promise, I would have just ended the relationship right there. I would not have gone on for another week while I got my ducks in a row. That is almost as bad as I what I did. All she did was lie to me and keep strining me along and won't even discuss this at all. Is that right?
Saying this in a kind spirit
how can you really be surprised then if you have not been keeping up your end of the contract?
That's the kind of QA I'm lucky enough to
They are very good about giving a thumbs up on how well you are doing at the same time gently correcting your mistakes.
What kind of job did you have to be dressed up for? nm
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I am kind of in the same boat as you..sm
My husband was the manager at a furniture store and made good money but he just quit to take over an irrigation business for a year and then buy it. I am making more money right now but within in the next couple months he will for sure make more.
Just an observation, but is there some kind of
has to stink? I have satellite....over 300 channels. Something like 30 movie channels and can't find anything worth watching. I know it's a silly post, I was just thinking out loud I guess.
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