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• this is my dilemma - need advice
  • when you marry a man with children, they are part of the package. You learn to deal with it. - btdt
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  • Try to remember there are phases - Just a thought
  • thanks to those who replied - need advice
  • A little advice - 4u
    • Partially is your husband's fault - Patti
      • i agree with you - need advice
        • Dealing with it - Patti
  • One suggestion....let HIM deal with it. - noyb
    • You hit the nail on the head. - msbeanctr
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Thanks for your advice.  I know I just need to search and search some more but sometimes I get soooo very down about the whole thing.. and to think that I left an MT position at a hospital near my home four years ago that I enjoyed but wanted/needed to go home to work.. Thing is.. about a year down the road, all their MTs went home to work for them--all making nice cash per line and benefits.. all local doctors.. waaahhhh.. I seem to make THE WORST choices..

 Guess I'll keep looking..  thanks again.

I really appreciate all of you for taking the time to respond... Being new to the business, I was wondering if I was just going crazy to be a little hurt by my boss' behavior. 

Thanks again, everyone! 

It seems that I need to have a serious discussion with my boyfriend.  I agree that if the children don't want to eat what we are eating then they can fix something for themselves.  I don't mind purchasing alternate food items every now and then for them, but that can become expensive.  I also feel that it teaches them that they can have whatever they want whenever they want no matter what.  I was raised that you didn't get your own "special" meal just because you didn't like what was being made for dinner.

Even though they are not my children, it is partly my money that is going into their picky little gullets.  I feel that I should be able to enjoy a meal instead of feeling sick to my stomach from eating the same old things all the time.  My boyfriend has different feelings about the matter.  He feels guilty if he doesn't do what they want.  It's really kind of scary sometimes how he babies them.  Like I said before, his daughter is 18 years old and is AFRAID to use the oven.  I can understand wanting your children to have the best and to be happy...and I can also understand how we, sometimes, as single parents can feel very guilty about things, but there comes a point when enough is enough! 

I thank goodness sometimes that we don't live together yet.  They live next door.  It's actually very nice this way for now.  I do love his children very much and I love him so very much, but there comes a time when children need to grow up a little and get out of that stage that everything is about them.  I raised my son in a very different manner.  Yes, he is spoiled, but not in such a way that he thinks the whole world revolves around him and everyone else is just supposed to fall in line.

I should say that they are great kids and are not snotty or rude.  They make excellent grades in school and they treat me like gold.  I don't want to sound like they are monsters.  I think that I will sit down with him and tell him how I feel about this, and tell him that if we can't make some kind of compromise about dinners my son and I will be eating at home from now on and will come over after dinner.  I am not going to keep contributing to the grocery bill for dinners if I can't have what I want to eat from time to time.  I'm hoping he will agree.   

They never even acknowledged receipt of my resume with over 20 years of experience in acute care.

This is not the first time -- she's the first to blast you if she thinks you didn't make your line count, work when you should, etc., but if she makes a mistake, she NEVER says "I'm sorry," or "I was wrong" ... nada!  Most of the time, I just blow it off.  The pay is great, the accounts good, and sufficient work, but other times, I wonder if it is worth it.  I suppose in today's job market, I should just be glad to be employed ... maybe I'm just greedy in also wanting to be treated with professionalism, respect, and courtesy. 

Not sure if I even have a point -- guess I just needed to vent a bit.  Thanks for "listening."