teenage daughters
Posted By: lisa on 2005-12-02
In Reply to: I can REALLY relate to you in one area... - SM
Excuse me for being clueless but what do DH and DD stand for?
I understand where you are coming from. My 2nd daughter from 1st marriage is almost 16 and lives with her dad. Her stepmom is very disrespectful of me. Always telling daughter what I should be doing, like getting a "real job". Now my daughter has taken to calling me names any chance she gets, cursing and disrespecting my fiance's family also. Since she lives with her dad we decided not to let her come down for a few weeks but that will not solve the problem.
Any ideas anyone. I think the names and lack of respect is coming from the stepmom but she of course denies doing anything wrong.
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