staying home w/teenagers
Posted By: Debee714 on 2005-08-04
In Reply to: Teenagers good to be home with - I did the same thing - nm
 Can not agree with you more. Where my preteen & teen hated that I was at home all the time, their friends loved it...duh, guess which mom was there to haul them around before they got their drivers lisc. Still think they should be 30 before they can drive
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Teenagers good to be home with - I did the same thing
 Once had an argument with my boss working in the office, because my hours were supposed to be 7-3, or 3:30. I was on salary (can you believe that) at the time, and she expected me to stay till 5 or 6. She herself used to practically live there. I told her no, I wanted to be home with my kids, and she said they weren't babies anymore and didn't need me. Well, I left everyday after that by 3:30, and believe U me, it is a very good idea to be able to monitor your teenagers, and I would do it again (God forbid I ever had teenagers again) They are all grown now.
Staying at home with the kids, yeh, right
Your message just said it all. That is why the field is looked down on so much now. Staying at home and go broke, no one really cares anymore. I had heard it all now. You get asked reasonable questions and you say in a little wifey-mamma talk, "can't we all just stay at home with Junior." I guess it will be important when the employer starts charging you just to work, will it still be that important. Get real.
Why does not driving equate to staying home? (nm)
Mine got worse after staying home and working...
I think having to get up and leave the house and face people daily actually helped me. It wasn't until I started staying home that my anxiety got worse and I went back to a psychiatrist and then got back on medication. I make a point to not get stuck in a rut and venture out very often. If it is severe though where someone could not work at all, then I think this would give them another opportunity to earn a living where they wouldn't have had one at all.
teenagers
I am glad to hear that some people still set boundaries for teens. My son is 13 and I am strict wtih him compared to what I see almost everywhere. So far he hasn't rebelled but it wouldn't surprise me when you see how wild how so many are these days. No bedtime, no curfew, no manners, skipping school, very foul language, destructive of property, oh man, I could go on an on. It has crossed my mind more than once if/when I will handle these situations. So many of the parents don't seem to notice/care. Glad to know some still do. Keep up the good work. We're following in your footsteps.
When my kids were teenagers,
 they had to do their own wash, along with a few other things. Many days at first, their clothes and wet towels (used once) were on the floor of their room. When there were no clean towels left (I kept 2 for myself), and one morning, no clean shirts that were up to par for my son, he never forgot to do the wash again. Ever. You have to be strong and not give in, even though it's hard. But his wife is sure happy and tells me that she's glad I raised a son who is not afraid to pitch in and help with housework and even knows how to run a washing machine!
Most teenagers are irresponsible
and some are just LUCKY. And they're all having sex. So there.
As I said, doctors want to get teenagers
to try out the new drug, so, whenever they get hands on one, they try to 'push' it on them, as the OP stated.
It seems to me that the doctor started with this issue as the OP did not mention anything about her previous cervical cancer.
And, BTW, there is a heightened risk for certain diseases to be hereditary, but it does not always occur.
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! All teenagers need to work for
My mom and dad bought me a $1000 car which I had to make payments back to them to get it paid off. I got a job and did just that!! If you do this, you will learn to appreciate what you have!!! Teenagers have too much handed to them on silver platters these days!!! It is ruining our teens!!
Do you believe parents should GIVE their teenagers a nice new car?
My 17yo claims the parking lot at school is FULL of nice new cars that were given to their drivers. I think she's exaggerating, like teenagers do. She has her grandmother's old car that we have made her either pay for or work off by cleaning her grandmother's house... Value - 500 dollars. I'm a little disappointed in my daughter who seems to be crying the blues here and making me feel like a negligent parent. Heck, I didn't even HAVE a car of my won until I was 19, and I bought it with my dad co-signing and made payments on my own.
Not me. I'm staying. NM
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Staying with IC definitely. Thanks.
I make 700.00 a week 4 days a week at my IC job. I turned the job down. Thanks again.
STAYING AWAY FROM TRANS.
A. I strongly discouraged anyone I meet who has signed up for any kind of program at the community colleges or elsewhere who wants to learn transcription. It's really distressing to see people pay their hard earned money for training in a field that is virtually in the toilet. I find myself making 1/2 of what I was making 10 years ago as an MT with no benefits and 50% more grief.
In staying with this man for as long as you have,
having his children, and allowing him to verbally and emotionally abuse those children, you're setting the example to your children that this is how a relationship works. Now that your 16 y.o. daughter is reaching the age where she will begin dating, she has learned from home life that men call women names and expect women to clean up after them. She's going to wind up in some lousy dysfunctional relationships herself. Where is her bioDad? I'll bet he wouldn't be happy to hear from her how stepfather dearest treats her. Is he a positive role model in her life? Probably not, or he wouldn't be your ex. Teach her to have respect for herself and never tolerate mistreatment.
Anyway, off the soapbox now. You go, go quickly, and never look back. Get out of there!
I am staying at the Stratosphere
for the first time in May. We had booked the Stardust, but its being torn down to build a new hotel :( Stardust was our favorite. I have also stayed at Fitzgerald's downtown a couple years ago and it was really reasonable and nice, no complaints, but it is downtown.
Those situations different than STAYING in bad
Robbery or scamming are an in and out situation that you have little control over. Staying in a bad job is usually a long term situation that you CAN control. It is hard to change jobs. However, the longer you put off starting the process, the longer you are allowing yourself to stay in a bad situation. It is sad to think you would give someone else such control over your life that you let yourself be abused. And the only one that can change something like that is YOU. The buck stops with you when it comes to who has control of your life.
Staying in MT for the "perks" - sm
Is not a good enough reason to do this job. period, end of story.
The money is out there, but you have to look for it and you really have to want it. You are looking for "everything" and you cannot have it - it's just not possible or reasonable. You have to like the job to make it worth your while or to push yourself to achieve what you are looking for. Chances are, you are probably make good money doing editing at 5cpl, but its your lack of desire that takes you so long to get the job done thus driving down your hourly wage. You're in love with staying home and getting a paycheck and not the job.
If you do not like your job, your performance is going to suffer no matter what field you are in and when your performance suffers, so does your wage especially in a production based job like this.
staying away from message boards
Two years into MT I found message boards. I had some small complaints about my job and was kind of in a love/hate stage of my relationship with MT. Reading the boards with people complaining so much really put me more in that frame of mind to the point where I started hating my company and hating transcription in general. When I left the job I had at the time and started a new one I vowed no more message boards because I felt they had poisoned my attitude, which was easily influenced at that time. I stayed completely off message boards for the next five years and now am back (obviously), but that gave me enough time to get more established with my company and actually know and like my career enough that reading a lot of MT complaints doesn't bother me now.
It'll flame. I'm staying out of it.
Just ignore this poster! Obviously staying on
subject and reading comprehension must not be a strong point in their skills list! Of course we all care more about children. This poster just doesn't know how to stay on topic and obviously wants a fight.
what are your ideas on staying focused??
When I am on my game I can do 250 to 300 lines per hour, but then after a couple of hours I start dropping to less than 150 lines per hour. How do you stay focused? I have tried working different shifts, split shifts, etc., but I just do not seem to be able to stay focused. I have no small children at home, so that is not a problem. I am in my own office space, but I just seem to start drifting after about an hour and then that is it. Any suggestions? Thanks.
Help staying awake and productive
I have real problems staying awake, focused and productive. I am alone all day, I think I get enough sleep, and I keep the TV on in the other room for another voice, but I get bored and can't keep my concentration and then I start web surfing and my productivity goes in the hopper. Any suggestions on staying awake and focused? 
If the meeting consists of her staying
and listening to dictation, yes, it should be paid and she as an IC should set the amount she should be paid.
I pick-up and deliver, and that's in my line charge. I also do that at my convenience, not theirs. A real office is fine with that and understands the meaning of IC. Lisa is a vendor like any other contractor.
If I had to sit and listen and sort patient lists, etc. and spend more than 5-10 minutes tops at an office, then I would charge for that time spent at that office sorting through their mess.
Let's face it. The office is a mess and Lisa is their scape goat. Since now they know she's bending over backwards, they will take advantage.
Again, Lisa should not spend her time sorting out their mess. Furthermore, if they can't figure out what to give her and "don't have time", then Lisa's response should be that she doesn't have the time either unless she charges them for that time.
It just sounds like a real mess of a deal. I can't wait to hear if they actually pay her at all!
Okay, I'll shut up now! Just the fact that she's posting again is hysterical. I guess I'll keep my mouth shut after saying from the last thread regarding this "I told ya'' so."
You all thought "oh just this one time." Why do you think the other girl quit? Hello? Can you say doormat?
does anyone have a problem staying awake while typing?
even when I dont feel tired, I sit down to type and my eyes start dropping. HELP. SUGGESTIONS PLEASE!
Reasons for staying, not as simple as just quitting!
Well, for me, I stay because of reasons already mentioned on this board - fear of unknown, dread of getting stuck with an even worse company (it could happen), but also very realistic reasons - my research into other MTSOs, taking tests, and gathering info has yielded no good news - I would be taking at minimum a 2 cents/line pay cut from my current pay at MQ but yet if I stay with MQ, my pay is likely to go down anyway (yet some part of me keeps hoping, probably naively, that I will not experience this). Not a single company I contacted would offer me my current pay or even talk about that I could hope to reach it at some point in the future. So, you tell me, with my 20 years of experience, does anyone really think it's that easy to just go to another company and purposefully take a pay cut - yet knowing the one you have been with for 8 yrs is likely gonna give you one anyway - can you see the dilemma of trying to figure it out???? Add in that I know of MTs who got fed up with MQ long ago, moved on to other large MT services, "better" ones, only to have it bought out by MQ!!
Have you read these boards and found any company that sounds ideal, one that would make you feel secure enough to know it will be better, one that you would jump ship for? At another time, this may have been possible, but our industry is changing and fast, and pay across the board is going down. A friend of mine keeps saying "the writing is on the wall."
So, for those of you question why we stay - first, be glad you are okay with your job, with MQ or not - and also remember for most of us, life isn't black or white. It just ain't that simple! I.e, Job/Company Sucks does not always equal Quit and Find A Better Job! If you are tired of hearing the complaints and frustration and your experience with MQ is just great, count your blessings. Remember, there are lots of other postings on this board to read unrelated to MQ complaints, so why waste your time telling those of us who are trying to figure out what to do that we should hurry up and do it. If we sound like broken records while we commiserate, are validated by one another, and are all trying to figure it out, well, geez, quit listening to the record. I'm sure it gets old for you all if your MQ experience is a good one.
Sorry for the rambling thoughts, but thanks for listening.
Atlanta sure enough is. Folks need places to go. A lot are staying
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How? I've done pretty well staying out of debt, but
I'd like to get some money set aside for retirement and pay off my home. Any advice you can give?
Staying on board a sinking ship
I worked at a different company in an unrelated field where all the employees were required (not requested) to take a 15% pay cut and receive stock options in return. I left. Others chose to stay with the company and told me I was crazy to leave; I would "never" earn as much money elsewhere. I thought they were crazy to stay and said so. The older employees said they had to stay or lose their pension. Well, the company went under anyway, the stock was (of course) worthless, and the pension fund had long since been looted by the major shareholders. Staying on board a sinking ship of a job may be more comfortable but not in your overall best economic interests.
Staying on board a sinking ship..maybe
I forgot to add that if you are making top pay at that company and the 1 cent per line pay cut is still better than you would earn elsewhere, it may well be in your best interests to stay on board that ship patching and bailing (grin) but still being mindful that the ship may go under suddenly.
Staying Focused -Energy Drinks
I am having a huge problem. I cannot seem to find the energy to work all day. This sounds so bad because I sit all day! Seriously though, it feels like I get so bored sitting here at the computer. When I drink some of a Nos energy drink, however, work is so fun, I have tons of energy, and I make a lot of money sitting here. I love this work, but what's the deal? I don't even like consuming caffeine. I got an energy drink the other night to stay up all night and finish some STATs, and now I feel like I can't work without it. It was hard to focus even before I started the caffeine. What is going on here?  Why can't I just get my work done like a normal person?
I am glad you cleared up the reason for staying in bed
I was thinking gosh she sure is lazy but then you said RA. I got out of bed this morning so stiff and took 1/2 of a pain pill just so I could start to function and not feel so bad. I am bothered with fibromyalgia but once I get up and get started I don't think I could start to type any other way than what I have done for years.
I see posting all the time about transcription, why are you staying, really?
First of all let me tell you about myself. I am way past the time when I have to "make" a living, do not have children to raise, can work if I want and not if I want, have just reached that point of not having to put up with much of anything anymore. My question is to you- yes you- the one who is posting here complaining and complaining about how this work has gone downhill and it has. If you are younger and really need the money and need to work and make a decent salary, why are you hanging on to something that does not look like it will change? I see the letters supposedly being written to the president, 60 minutes and the like. What do you think that will do, if anything? I am really surprised that the trend in this job is sinking even further in the money department, no raises ever and if you want more money, then work long, long hours and 7 days a week. Instead of fussing and being irritated about the lack of work, the lack of money, etc., why in the world do you not try to find another "real" profession before you get to an age to where you would really be stuck, that is not ever being able to pull out from this hole ever. I could not raise a family on what I make now but that is the difference in me and most I read on here. Ladies (with an occasional gent thrown in here or there) what are you thinking about? Why not make a change while you are young and can? There are loads of jobs for the medical field, if this is what interests you. Staying at home with the kids was perhaps ok at 1 time but not anymore. Why not get out while the getting is good and you still have a chance to really enjoy your job while at the same time being able to survive? Think about it.
I see posting all the time about transcription, why are you staying, really?
First of all let me tell you about myself. I am way past the time when I have to "make" a living, do not have children to raise, can work if I want and not if I want, have just reached that point of not having to put up with much of anything anymore. My question is to you- yes you- the one who is posting here complaining and complaining about how this work has gone downhill and it has. If you are younger and really need the money and need to work and make a decent salary, why are you hanging on to something that does not look like it will change? I see the letters supposedly being written to the president, 60 minutes and the like. What do you think that will do, if anything? I am really surprised that the trend in this job is sinking even further in the money department, no raises ever and if you want more money, then work long, long hours and 7 days a week. Instead of fussing and being irritated about the lack of work, the lack of money, etc., why in the world do you not try to find another "real" profession before you get to an age to where you would really be stuck, that is not ever being able to pull out from this hole ever. I could not raise a family on what I make now but that is the difference in me and most I read on here. Ladies (with an occasional gent thrown in here or there) what are you thinking about? Why not make a change while you are young and can? There are loads of jobs for the medical field, if this is what interests you. Staying at home with the kids was perhaps ok at 1 time but not anymore. Why not get out while the getting is good and you still have a chance to really enjoy your job while at the same time being able to survive? Think about it.
Virginia is taking 4000--- some are staying at the Mariot
Nice digs. They are also putting them in camps by the lake.
I know it is nice, but think of what it is like to not have a home.
I would not want to be like this, but it could happen to any of us.
Having trouble staying on task to produce lines?
I do. I was beginning to think I'd developed adult ADD, but I think I found the cure. It's a free download called Home Typist 4.01. This program is a small utility application which makes each keystroke sound like the strike of a typewriter key. I cannot believe how much this has helped my line count. There was something about the typewriter sound that just drove all distractions from my mind. My fingers were flying, and believe me, they haven't flown for years! This was my first full day with the program. I had my usual mix of good and bad with one really long, horrible resident who had no clue what he wanted to say (it took me an hour and a half to get through his dictation), and I still increased my count today by a little over 300 lines! I kid you not. Windows XP is not listed as a system it can be used on, but I assure you, it works quite well with XP.
I see lots of reason people are staying in the field,
about the low wages. If everyone is so happy with the satisfaction MT gives, the flexibility, etc., are these the same people complaining of low pay? It almost sounds like it's okay to make a lousy wage in exchange for what it gives. I still don't think Pattie's question has been addressed: Why complain?
if people are anything like our higher education with a degree person, i'm staying in.
really and truly, i have a very intelligent and supportive network of friends and family and i am not a recluse. i just don't mingle well with people who don't think before they talk as in the higher education chick. that's downright scary when you think about it.
I'm having a hart time lately staying motivated and getting a good count,
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Oh one more thing..if your traveling and staying at hotels, plan ahead. I learned the hard way.
A hotel that states they have "internet access" does not necessarily have it in your room. A lot of them have what they call a "business" center where they have like a community computer to share with other guests or to have access on your laptop you need to sit in that room. I dont know about you but I dont feel like dragging out all of my equipment and sitting in a lobby somewhere to work. Double check that they have internet access available in your room.. and be forewarned that most chart for wireless internet access like maybe $10-12 for a 24-hour period. We just got back from Vegas, and to me, it was worth that fee for a whole 24 hours. I got the most work I could out of it.
My kids have suffered greatly from me working at home with them home. SM
I have been working at home as an MT since my two kids were born. They are now 4 and 5. In the first few years, I had no help whatsoever. Their father was a bum who didnt work or take care of them while I worked. Your children get neglected while you work basically. And babies and young children desperately need your attention while they are home with you.
My kids have so many behavioral problems right now because of their neglect. I would try to set them up with things to occupy themselves, like coloring or a movie, etc.
I finally put them in day care and things have improved, but there are still a lot of issues because of the damage that was done. They still try to seek attention by doing bad things and they dont listen to me because they are so used to me letting them get away with a lot of stuff because I was too busy typing to discipline them in their early years.
If I could do it all over again, I would definitely have put them into day care from the very beginning.
My advice would be to seek PT care for your baby. Maybe you can do some work around her schedule a little when she is home, like when she takes a nap, and then bang out a bunch of work while she is in day care.
I enjoy being alone at home, but I've got one home sick from school already.
One on one with a kid is nice, too.
This summer has been absolutely crazy. I haven't had a moment to myself for three months because all of my kids were home traipsing their friends through the house and yard. My husband switched his work schedule, too, so he's around more than usual. However, I like not having to do two loads of dishes and four loads of laundry a day. There are no toys or clutter dragged out everywhere. I can clean the house first thing in the morning, and it stays clean until everyone gets home at night.
I even got to relax with a cup of coffee and watch TV for half an hour this morning, something I liked for a change instead of cartoons or kids' movies. I signed up for an online class that I've been wanting to take. I can exercise without being interrupted. Yesterday, I went to the mall and spent all my saved up gift cards. I got some clothes, books, bath stuff, and a new coffee mug. My work gets done a lot faster, too. Call me nuts, but I've never had the luxury of being alone in the house for 14 years. It's kinda nice. I love my family with all my heart, but I love having a few hours to myself each week, too.
Except now the cat and dogs have been acting weird since the kids went back to school. They must think that I need someone or something to clean up after and correct behavior on. They're getting into everything and racing around the house behind me.
my take is that she worked inhouse, not at home, and now wants to find out how to work at home. nm
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Forget "per line." Your take-home pay should be taking home SM
roughly what it was before. If it is not, is it because your current pay rate for editing (which in many companies keeps changing as the VR system is developed) is too low or is it because your talents and skills are more for speed typing than speed editing?
If the first, discuss it with higherups, and go get a new job if you don't get the response you need. My last MTSO was secretly refiguring how production was counted to pay us less. I can accept hard reality, it was the secrecy that burned. Sometimes, though, it's just that the learning curves of individual editors and that of the system aren't in sync, and you end up temporarily making less.
If the second, though, recognize it as soon as possible and change to straight transcription work, in your company or a new one, for as long as you can find it.
As for why we aren't paid more for a higher skill, that's just the way the labor supply ball bounces. Best wishes.
I love it too - love doing my nails 5 hours a day and staying awake
Love NOT getting paid while sitting doing my nails too. It's a real turn on.
I tell all my friends to try it -- sit in front of your computer while you have no money to pay your rent and instead do your nails, you get a real buzz down in the pit of your stomach.
I think she means she has wireless TO her home, not IN her home..nm
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hospital at-home -vs- national at home
I have an interview today with a hospital...work in-house for 3 months, then go home, paid on production. I don't know as of yet what they pay production, so my question is to anyone who works for a hospital at home AND has also worked for a national at home...
Which would be the best to choose? The hospital offers great benefits, but the national I work for now also has benefits, not as good as the hospital, though. Any input would be most appreciated!
Ditto for me. Have done both outside the home and in the home. We all have
bad days, but I sure would not want to trade working at home for anything. Just being here for my kids is worth every bad day!
Does anyone use VR at home? nm
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yes, I use VR at home
nm
At home may be possible
My husband has sleep apnea (although, since he lost some weight, he no longer has it). Depending on where you live, you may be able to be tested at home. We live in a populated area, and my husband was tested at home. A technician came to our home, showed him how to hook up the wires, and then picked up the machine the next day. He did, indeed, show sleep apnea (interrupted breathing spells many times a night), and was prescribed a sleep apnea machine. The machine is not a big deal, except maybe getting tangled up in the cords. Good luck!!
I have XP Home.
It is Works 2005 that came with my new Dell computer. I had Word that came with another version of Works that I had on older computer with XP. I don't think Word came with the first version of Works that I bought for an even older computer. I bought it separate for a Windows 98 OS, so maybe Works programs are different.
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