not all kids go through the no grandparents stage (sm)
Posted By: mom of 3 on 2005-08-18
In Reply to: Kids are sweet! - ozmt
my son is 18 YO and guess where he takes his g/f on Friday and Saturday nights? To his grandparents house! He and his friends love to hang out at their house...dont' know exactly why, but I'm glad! At least I know they aren't out getting into trouble. If you start out building a strong relationship with your grandkids, they will always want to be with you...and don't act too much like a grandma to them, more like a good, um not friend, but just a good person! I think that's why my kids love the most about their grandparents. Kids are a blessing...at any age! 
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I think that grandparents who babysit for free are just making their kids dependent on them
Maybe stop babying her and she'll respect you more.
I doubt this generation of kids will grow up to watch their grandchildren - they're way too selfish.
Just a suggestion.
Grandparents
 You didn't give specifics on what they do with your kids, but as a grandparent, I find that the kids (without spoiling them) understand that there are different rules at different places. It's a relief for them to be allowed to stay up a little later, get a little more one-on-one time, be wrestled with, etc. etc. They know how to behave and understand that their parents are the true disciplinarians. Don't cheat yourself out of some alone time if they want to keep them overnight because you're afraid they might not eat a green bean for a day or get too much attention. I do respect their parents' wishes on diet, health, and rest, but I don't think they can get too much love from others.
Grandparents
Thanks for sharing and clarifying. I understand completely. Kids go through enough ridicule and put downs from others in society. The one constant positive in their lives should be a grandparent. I sympathize with your daughter who is tall. Our granddaughter is off the chart on height. She's 8. There is no one who meets her who does not say, "You are so tall." This is said in a way that sounds like it's ugly or something, and she is getting really self conscious. Life is hard. Kids need support and unconditional love. Sounds like you're doing a fine job.
The grandparents thing.....sm
Those kids are your responsibility, as you obviously very well know, whether you're physically with them or not.
You're right. Hubby and grandma are WRONG. Do not let anyone bully you or guilt you into thinking otherwise. 'Nuff said.
I'm sure your grandparents would be ashamed of you
maybe that's why you hate successful whites so much - you're jealous
cigs took out my parents, grandparents, aunt
Unfortunately, I still smoke though - it's the worst drug habit I have encountered in my many decades. For me, it's the only drug habit I have had. It's tough, so I sympathize with the ones who are trying to quit and KUDOS TO THE ONES WHO HAVE!!!!!
Maybe stage 1?
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Not OP - I wish more grandparents and uncles/aunts would worry about doing things wrong - sm
My in-laws like to play mind games with our kids...which is the cause of a lot of "parental headaches", thus we curtail visits to about once a month, supervised for about 6-8 hours (they live 2 hours away). We plan to never let them have the kids overnight, etc. though DHs mom constants asks....so through guilt my DH is now considering it (which I won't allow so I will be forced to go and stay too which I don't want to do but will) but he wants his brother to stay too as a condition (he's winds the kids up like crazy). So we have 3 winners who love to spoil the kids but don't care about the consequences of their actions after they leave. It has gotten better now the kids are not so nuts anymore after a visit, though grandma and uncle are always saying they want the kids to visit, stay , etc. If they had common sense then I probably wouldn't mind the break (no near relatives) but that is not the case. I just hope I learn enough from them and remember and don't make the same mistakes when I have grandchildren. Yes, my kids love them, and their other grandparents (now just my dad) but you just can't have the attitude we can do what we want because we are the grandparents. Parents have there way of doing things and unless it is harmful to the child should be respected and followed.
At my stage of farsightedness it has been
recommended by my ophthalmologist. but ONLY at this point in my deteriorating near vision. You do make a very valid point, as my ophthalmologist did warn me that I will probably eventually require bifocals. I would NEVER recommend dollar store reading glasses to a person that does not have regular eye exams. Deterioration of vision under any circumstance could be a warning sign of potential health problems.
I have been wearing glasses for far vision for almost 40 years. This near vision problem just started recently. I only use the dollar store reading glasses when I am wearing my contact lenses. I have routine eye exams every year, including glaucoma screening etc. and I am fortunate enough, at least for now, to be able to get away with dollar store reading glasses.
My appointment with the eye doc is coming up in December and I have this sinking feeling that the time has come for bifocals for my regular glasses or prescription reading glasses when I'm wearing my contacts. Worst case scenario would be bifocal contacts. WAY too expensive for those and I'm not THAT vain! I just like the far vision much better with contacts than with glasses.
Gosh, I'm only 45. I was in hopes that the companies that print the instructions/warnings, etc., on a bottle of over the counter analgesics were just making the print smaller.
Ain't life just grand? 
Stage Fright
In answer to your first question, I just hope MT stays lucrative at least until I can collect Social Security.....four more years, I think.
About stage fright, my son teaches fourth grade. He is a wonderful teacher and is to at ease with his students. But whenever he has to speak in front of any other type of crowd, he's a basket case. If you're meant to be a teacher you'll do fine. 
WAY better - now there's actually room on the stage...
for all the others!
I'm in the 'now what' stage, as well. I know I need -
to do something to get out of a profession that pays such low wages that I qualify for food stamps, but I'm pushin' 60, and it's getting a little late to go back to school, and working 12-hr. days, where would I get the time (or the energy)? I keep looking around for a profession involving writing/words, but the few I see out there, such as technical writers and other similar jobs, all want a B.A. degree. Most secretarial jobs require proficiency in computer programs I've never learned, and would again require going back to school. Would probably go back to an inhouse MT job (if I could find one.... they're kind of few and far-between), and I don't want to relocate. It really is a catch-22; need more education for the few jobs out there that I could do, but have to work so long & so hard each day at this one just to pay the bills and get by, that there's nothing left, unless I want to get by with little or no sleep each night. Flipping burgers at McDonald's is starting to look better and better.
Stage IB s/l thego 1 adenocarcinoma
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grade versus stage
grades are regular numbers, 1, 2, 3, etc. Stages are I, II, III. It's easy to remember this way - The Romans are on the Stage.
Beta is usually a program that is in the development stage
where lots of people use the program to test it out to help make it better and fix all the bugs before the final release.
Have seen them twice (Las Vegas and L.A.). They put on great stage show. Tickets were under $100.
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makes sense, but I don't know if I could stand the "in-between" stage (nm)
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SOAP's pay is higher even in the trainee/newbie stage. nm
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stage fright solution? I knew a wise older man once who
said the key was to think about the people you r speaking to, instead of yourself. Think about how much they need you, the positive effect you can have on their lives, the gift you are giving them in your education, how much they need the human contact, the kindness, the discipline, the "touch" of your voice and smile. Once the focus is off of YOU, and on THEM, it becomes much easier. Takes practice, tho.
Do little kids like caramel? My big kids won't even eat it! We make the basic Baker's chocolat
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I never said you shouldn't have kids! Feeling guilty? I asked WHY you had kids.
You clearly stated in your post that you ship the kids off to camp all day, and they're TIRED AT NIGHT!! You know exactly what you said. You said it as a PERK - AS IN GREAT! They're gone all day, it wears them out, and so I shovel dinner in their mouths and off to bed! You can try to paint it any way you want, but YOU SAID IT. Again, I only hope your kids never hear you speak that way or write that way. Shame on you. Why have kids at all? Just another parent who has them, gets rid of them for day AND night, BRAGS ABOUT IT, and then calls ME wicked! Give me a break! Camp is fine - its WHAT YOU SAID AND YOU KNOW IT. Your own words showed your heart. Period.
Kids are demanding and so is MT work. My question is how CAN you do this with kids, rather than how
When you have two young kids, 11 months apart, (like I stated they are now 4 and 5) and have been doing this since they were born with no help from their father and no family around, YES, the kids get neglected. Part time might work but living on one salary, part time, is not an option. How can you possible tell me that anyone with two young kids can stay at home and work a full-time, 8-hour shift, and still give their kids the attention they NEED. I dont care how good you are at multitasking and how great your organizational skills are. It is a very difficult thing to do. And I am offended by your post making it sound as if it is easy to do.
I do agree that it can depend on how well your kids behave and how well they are able to play on their own. But my kids were not able to play well on their own. They needed constant attention.
So please take the time to realize that there are people out there in different situations than your own.
Reading our posts should help you to understand that everyone has a different situation. I believe everyone should have the right to shares their experiences as it might benefit the original poster in her questions and concerns.
I dont think anyone should be bashed for taking the time out to write about their experiences. I dont usually come on here to argue but you really ticked me off with your post. And try reading the post correctly. I said next time around I would have put them in day care. What I DID do with them was set them up to an activity like art or put on a movie for them. Geez.
Stayed "because of the kids?" I say "leave because of the kids"
You're in no position to buy right now. Keep saving, keep paying down your bills, and for heaven's sake get rid of that dead weight of a BF you're living with. You can do better.
So, should I return the $75 (x2 kids) in music cards I got the kids for x-mas...sm
My son has been telling me about free music sites and I was very leary. How do they skirt the law Radguy?
I don't have kids, but my Mom was from the "old school," and still had everyone, kids inclu
call her by her first name. The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away.
I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated. Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie. :-)
But, as someone pointed out, to each his own. If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that. I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks." 
Please do not simply give up, kids or no kids!
Talk with a professional. This can be worked through if he really puts forth the effort and you participate. The right counseling can truly make your marriage even better than it was before, if BOTH parties are willing to be honest. Give it a try. Nothing to lose at this point and everything to gain!
No I said thank God I do not have kids
I think the wrong point is being taken here. Yes he does not worry about money and is used to that. I am afraid of not making ends meet if I stop working my day job and I refuse to stop working either MT jobs as we all know it takes a lot of education to make it.
I am my kids mom
My children are lucky to have their mother taking care of them, not a stranger. I work my butt of taking care of my kids and have made many sacrifices to be able to live this life of working PT and being a full time mother. I know that I am my kids mom.
I know that it must be hard for you to look at your kids and tell them that you don't want them to be with you everyday. The sacrifices could be made.
Thank God you have no kids. NM
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How much can you get done with 2 kids?
I haven't done transcription for a few years and would like to get back in. My question is--if you don't mind me asking--how many lines a week can you get done with kids? Is 1000 reasonable or way out there? I have 5 kids, but 3 of them will be in school during the day and the other two nap...any advice?
For kids
Tacos, as son to work and daughter off too, and me and hubby home made wedding soup, ummm ummm good, and sweet italian sausage on hard rolls, not stale, just good.
28 WF, M, 2 kids. nm
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Kids come first for both of us, then each other, I don't think I'd want a man who
and catering to me constantly. I like the fact that he does all the cooking, and most of the grocery shopping and gets me things I like w/o me having to ask him to buy them. I do the same for him. We don't get much alone time but enjoy what time we do get together. My man does a lot other men don't but doesn't act like a doormat either.
Same here... kids come first, then each other. sm
Our kids are still at home, and the kids come first. I've seen lots of other parents who put themselves/each other first, and the kids always seem to be second thoughts to them. That's not how it works in our family. We're all equally important, but the kids' needs come first. If I only have $30 and we all need shoes, the kids get them first. I wouldn't have it any other way.
How old are the kids?nm
We have three kids.
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DH does his own. So do the kids.
I used to have Mount Everest on the basement floor every single day and then I just got fed up and stopped doing laundry except for my own and household items, i.e., towels, etc. Half of the pile was clean stuff that I had folded and put in the kids' rooms that they just put back in the pile when they "cleaned" their rooms.
It took them a while to adjust, but the youngest was 8 and the older ones were 12 and 17 and I left their stuff in the mountain until they realized that they couild actually work the washing machine AND the dryer. They also know if they put the washer on the extra small cycle for only one pair of pants, one shirt, one pair of socks and one pair of underwear for themselves, and I actually find it, it gets hauled out of the washer and thrown back on the pile wet.
And don't even think about not scraping AND rinsing your plate. You won't get fed.
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yep and even KIDS..........nm
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How many kids do you have?
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My kids are now in their mid-20's and
we always had them save their money. I'd give them $20 of their paychecks and put the rest in high-interest CD's for them.
My son recently used the money from his childhood savings as a downpayment on his house.
My daughter is using hers to pay off her student loans from college.
They are now very responsible savers/investors.
Teach them young. It's a great learning experience that can be applied to the rest of their lives.
We pay our kids...
to watch the baby, but it works like this. They are 14 and 16 and the "baby" is 4. They watch her for more than 2 hours, they get $6 an hour. Those first 2 hours are considered just being part of our family.
It would be the end of it for me. Not something I would want as an example for the kids, either.
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Do you have kids?
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Your kids will be gone before you know it.
sound like an experienced MT and I'm sure if something happens to the job you have, you can find another one with no problem. And there are ALWAYS hospital jobs open. When the time comes that you need it, a job will be there. Don't stress out over it and enjoy the time you have with your family. That time goes by so fast. We really are lucky or blessed or whatever you want to call it to be able to do what so many people would love to do - bring in some income and still stay home with our families. MT has served me well over the years. I never tried to work with little babies or toddlers, but have ever since they got a little older. AND - so many kids are own their own between the time that school is out when a parent gets home. I saw my kids' friends through middle school and high school just run wild after school, cause there was no one to know they weren't home or to even care. I realize my kids would have been running with them if I had been at work - and I'm glad I was at home!
I have kids to think about
I'm a single mom. No way am I dragging my kids around the country constantly for any job.
Yes, I do just like most have kids but
I used to work in an office and do not let them or others interfere with my working. It is called teaching your kids, I believe. Same works for all outsiders I know. Oh, for your info, I mostly was telling the person above how to save on costs (they mentioned about how much more it cost working from home, things you can take off on taxes and the like. I saw nothing wrong with it myself. Did you get up on the wrong side of the bed this morning?
Sorry kids?! You are QA?
What do YOUR kids have to do
Not everyone chose this career in order to stay home with their kids. I know I didn't, and I worked inhouse first. I liked the job and mastered it outside the home; then took the opportunty to work at home once I was a good MT, and I'm sure I'm not the only one. Don't assume everyone joined this profession merely to sit home with a bunch of rugrats. Some of us actually consider it a career, vs an alternative to paying a sitter, or a supplement to hubby's income. So leave the hubby and kids out of it, many MTs don't have either.
Use the kids for an example...
If you have kids, they do that yearly testing and the classrooms always send out a printed sheet to make sure your child is psychologically and physically ready for the test.
I don't remember all of the tips, but one was to make sure you've had plenty of rest the night before and to eat a good breakfast so being hungry or having low blood sugar at test time doesn't interfere with your processing abilities.
Not a lot, but I think those are 2 pretty good tips. Nothing can be as distracting as an empty tummy or being amped up on adrenaline from lack of sleep or being tired from a sudden drop in blood sugar.
I'm going to tell you just as I always told my daughter. Just do your best, no one can expect any more nor any less from you.
Good luck to you!
You could do it with kids
I have 3 kids at home all day long while I work. I don't recommend MT though. MT34+ is right...its not what it used to be. I'm thinking about medical billing/coding myself. I think they make a little more too, although I would like to work in a hospital to do it.
I did it before I had kids so that when I did (sm)
have them I could stay home. I thought it would be better for me to be established in this field. I have 2 more years and my youngest will be starting school. I have been in this business since 1996. So, in that sense it has been good to us, because I was able to raise my children and not send them to a daycare, which was my dream.
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