loud foul-mouthed neighbor
Posted By: advice wanted on 2006-02-28
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I could make this really long because I am so frustrated I could just strangle my neighbor. Without going into detail it will probably sound like I am overreacting but I'll spare you all the drama. Just know I am at my wits and am hoping for some "nice" advice on what to do about a loud mouthy neighbor. Can someone please, please tell me the best thing to do? I expect to hear everyday noises and don't mind those a bit--I'm used to that. But she talks very loud and has a shrill whiny voice that I can hear through the walls. She talks nonstop on the phone or to anyone who stops by who will listen. All day. And it is LOUD. That is irritating enough but she thinks it is cute to use curse words. She has 5 favorite ones she uses over and over and over. I avoid going around her because it is so repulsive and I don't want my son hearing it either as she doesn't mind saying things in front of him either. I am trying to bite my tongue because I will probably make her cry once I get started because I am so angry with her. So the less I can say to get my point cross the better. I really wish there was a way to handle it without speaking to her at all. I have her email address but that doesn't seem right either. There are lots of "details" that makes the situation much worse than it sounds but I just need some advice on how to be kind and still get my point across. As much as I dislike her I don't want to be mean. Help, please! Thanks.
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Foul-mouthed neighbor sm
Welcome to the club. I have the exact same problem. In my case, it is husband and wife, using the "F" word constantly, fighting, threatening divorce, drinking, then they decide to stay together and they know it upsets us to no end for our grandchildren to hear all this foul mouth language and they make it even worse for us by "yelling" things like, "Look at these ..... leaves, we have enough to do." She at one time called my husband a ......... idiot because he asked them not to throw snow in our yard when they shovel because when it melts it goes into the ground around our house and into the basement. They are very close to the street, there is no reason for them to throw it in our yard. They are just being spiteful. . By saying the slightest thing to these people it sets them off. They have a limited education and hang out with the same type people. I am afraid that it will actually come to blows if this continues. I am actually hoping that one day they'll kill each other off with one of their fights. In the meantime, I keep my windows closed in the hot weather and avoid even looking at them. It's a shame but there's not much you can do with this type of person, as they seem to thrive on making everyone around them miserable. You can send a "cease and desist letter" via a lawyer but you would have to have proof and it would only make them worse. Welcome to the horrible neighbor club, I understand completely. Toilet mouths belong with other toilet mouths. Sometimes it just helps to know someone else is going through the same hell on earth. Sorry for your problem, it's an awful way to live. They say, "pray for them" but that's kind of hard when you're the "victim." I hate to even go out in my own yard. Guess what she does? She has an expired CNA license and calls herself a "private duty nurse." She uses the "F" word when speaking of her "clients" and I wish I could report her to the authorities but she would call me an ....... liar. Terrible situation - I understand. 
loud-mouth neighbor
ooooooooooo, I would love 1 minute alone with your neighbor!!!!
You're right, you could be my neighbor. My neighbor is flaky, too.
:+
Oh, and to the smart-mouthed poster below trying to be ugly to
those who are wanting to know more....SHUT THE H*** UP. You're not helping anyone.
I had to learn how to use macros, word expanders, etc., to get faster and there is no reason why these MTs shouldn't be given insight, hints, and tips to do it either.
Go mind your own business and stop being a snotty jerk.
foul language
I meant to reply to Tomahawk's post. If you scroll down a few to MQ, you will see what I a referring to.
Well, work is super busy..so not much time..no harm no foul..sm
Working 14 hours a day puts a cramp into watching the news lately, so have not seen much, nor had much time to really think about it. Did the donation through both of our work, caught a bit of news...but I cannot help anymore by sitting in front of a television, so a bit slow on the news intake here.
Foul posts are not coming from me. There is a troll among us. Please do not feed the troll.
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Say it loud!!
So true, so true.....
LOUD AND CLEAR
and let us not forget the nonresponsive e-mails when one does inquire as to where their lines are going. Take the old server down here and there and lose 300 LINES A DAY. YES, WE LOVE IT! NOT
Laughing Out Loud. nm
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Then for CRYING OUT LOUD.....
Let HIM worry about this. How and why do you think it's YOUR problem!! They're paying you to transcribe, not to breast feed/babysit them. Learn to pull that monkey off your back and put it on the back where it belongs, would you?????????????????? I swear, this is the last air head post I'm ever going to read or respond to on this ridiculous board. 
No loud music at all. It is more sm
like soothing music you would get with yoga. A lot of people like Windsor Pilates. I personally did not care for them. I LOVE Denise Austin's pilates DVDs. I have a couple. One has a 30-minute workout and then I have one that is Hit the Spot in which the work outs are only 10 minutes. I will do one of the core or abdomen ones in the a.m. and then do a lower bod one later in the day.
Pilates do wonders for your strength, toning, flexibility. I have been doing them off and on for years. If I stop doing them for a few months and come back, I can tell the different in my flexibility and strength in just about 4 work outs. I do them about 3 times a week.
LOL=laughing out loud (nm)
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Just thinking out loud...
I live within walking distance of a hospital and am occasionally curious (like when I'm having an especially bad night transcribing) regarding what kind of jobs are available there, clerical-wise, though I haven't actually checked it out. I worked in house at a now-defunct hospital for 18 years as a transcriber/lab secretary and have been at home now for 12 years transcribing for 2 national companies. I feel woefully out of it regarding what goes on in hospitals these days. I'll have to say I did better overall financially transcribing in-house but frankly will never miss the office atmosphere. Frankly just hoping to hang in there another 10 years till I can retire but realize I'm gonna have to learn some different skill sets no matter what. I do believe my working second shift has always been a smart move, looks to me like way too many people competing for lines during the day. I have almost never run out of work on second shift. Not really interested in coding, either; I do enjoy transcribing. Maybe unit clerk (?) if that job title still exists? Anyway, will have to check this out.
I almost laughed out loud at what he did.
This has happened to me many times before as well. And I am always disgusted. I think that I laughed to myself because in my mind I could hear the belch, nice and juicy, and know how typically disgusting this is of these guys. Uggg. I am sorry for you, and feel for you. But it actually lightened up my day to think that I am not alone in this job. Hope your dictators are better the rest of the day.
OMG! laughed right out loud at this one sm
brand spanking new PA student dictating for the first time this week! (hoo-boy). I thought I heard her wrong when she said "uncontributory" (I didn't), but I about fell on the floor when she gave me.....wait for it......
"no ee-lik-it drug use" BWAAAAAAAHHAAAAAA. 
Oh, for crying out loud, let it go. nm
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I have a neighbor who is always... sm
pestering me to "teach her to do what I do". She stopped over one time while I was working and said it again... This time I stacked every one of my reference books up, handed them to her and told her "Go home and memorize these. Then we'll talk about it". Needless to say she hasn't mentioned it since.
They were after the other neighbor.
They came over and asked if we had seen anyone at the neighbor's house. Uh, no, I don't watch my neighbors all day long.
My neighbor has one. I would
like to get one, but cannot afford it right now. He paid around $10,000. That includes installation I think. He uses it to heat his home and has radiant floor heat and uses that to heat the water pipes in his flooring. It is way cool. It looks like a metal shed almost outside his house. He is saving lots of money, but it does make smoke, so you would have to be in an area that is zoned for it.
My neighbor had one (sm)
and they are VERY high energy. They have a tendency to experience separation anxiety also. I can tell you they are not like most big dogs, in that they have a strong personality of their own and you have to dedicate a lot of time to training them.
My neighbor has/had PKD- he is 51 now - sm
He has had it for years, since he was about 35 or so. He has always been a vegatarian and the doctors said that helped him stay healthy as long as he did. He did start to eat meat and eggs some though as he got worse for the protein though. He was doing quite well until about 18 months ago when he started getting worse. He ended up have right and left radical nephrectomies, and lived on peritoneal dialysis at home and used a cycler at night. He was due to have a transplant about 2 weeks or so after the double nephrectomy but unfortunately at the last minute the donor was deemed unacceptable after they looked at her kidneys via a CT (to figure out which one to take) and found issues with hers with blood vessels and the fact that her kidneys were not functioning at 100% capacity (about 60% between the 2 of them), so that nixed the transplant. Luckily he did very well on dialysis (he has some other issues going on as well such as permanent vertigo due to the former hospital he was going to screwed up and have him the wrong antibiotics when the PD access got infected--ones you do not give a patient with no kidneys and he ended up with antibiotic poisoning which unfortunately resulted in permanent damage). So he ended up on the transplant list. Fortunately for him a young blood relative with no sign of PKD stepped forward and donated a kidney in January. He has done great and the donor has done quite well too. He still cannot drive or work due to the veritgo but is trying to get better with that with some PT though I don't think it will ever go away. I am "on-call" if he ever needs anything since I am usually home and his wife works about 35 minutes away. I don't see them too often but I know he is well as his wife and I email on a regular basis. Obviously everyone is different, but I do a lot of kidney transplant reports and for the most part they go very well. I have only done about 10 or so due to PKD though, most kidney failures are due to other issues from what I can tell from my experience anyways. All I can say it read up, ask plenty of questions and don't be shy about asking friends and relatives about a transplant when/if it comes to that. The list can take anywhere from 2-5 years or longer and they won't list you until you need it basically. You have to meet the parameters of need first. I hope it all works out for you though.
Use my neighbor's. sm
When I go on vacation there is a lawyer who lives a few houses away. He has Netscape wirless tower and I have a Linksys on my laptop. I have all the latest virus and Spyware as does he. He gives me permission to use his connection as the house where I stay does not have internet. I can work off his as though it is my own. He also uses his laptop in the parking lot of Starbucks, he states, when he is on a case away from his main tower. I don't know, just see if it works for you as far as confidentiality is concerned. I don't think anything is compromised. At first I was very worried but a nephew who is tech savvy said it was safe. Just my humble opinion. Not sure. I don't use it for work, don't work on vacation but sure do appreciate using the net, I am addicted and can't leave home without my laptop!
it's the old thing, say it long enough, loud enough,
propaganda becomes "truth" to some who can't think for themselves. Either that, or throw out a zillion reasons why the heinous act was done to make it "sound" good, like he is a "liberator." OMG, too funny to even think that shrub is a liberator...shrub a liberator....too funny!
For crying out loud, it's a job. Don't take it personal.
Or a whole paragraph! Yes, I have actually cussed out loud!
We should get paid for this! It is our time and money!
I hear you loud and clear - sm....
I'm handing out walking papers today  to a very large practice for those exact reasons, coupled with the fact the docs dictate past the speed of sound  and their OM and medical records girl are - well, let's just say a celery stalk has more intelligence than both of them combined. They all disgust me  and I don't want their account, not for ANY amount of money! 
lol=laughing out loud, tia= thanks in advance
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I hear you loud and clear! sm
I am feeling the EXACT same way as you. The eagerness is apparently just for show, the skill level is well below actual ability and the expectation level regarding pay is beyond reality. I know there are LOTS of good MTs out there but most of them are already employed in jobs that are fulfilling their needs. We're now looking at a lot of wannabes who don't understand what it takes to be successful in this business.
Volume is fine--it was too loud though.
I have volume controls everywhere...on speakers, on keyboard itself, on GearPlayer, and of course on the Windows "master volume" control. I wasted so much time trying to tweak each one of those only to learn (from your awesome post) that it was the friggin' speakers!
If the problem is the loud volume you
have to keep it at to hear, there are some really good headphones out there that actually cancel outside noise so you can hear the dictator without having to keep turning it up.
Sometimes it gets like that here- last night it seemed like there were 4 different conversations going on on either side of me (and loud) and then the girl in the next cubicle's cell phone kept ringing and ringing because she wasn't there to answer it (and it was a very loud obnoxious ring). I was on total sensory overload and about ready to scream! I am thinking of getting these headphones myself- they run about 30 to 40 bucks but I guess they are worth it.
That made me laugh out loud
15 blanks! I laughed out loud. Because, I had one which I think was 20 LOL. Well, it was worthwhile...I typed a lot of discharges for people who wanted to go home to their family and hopefully those stats got out in time. There ended up really being only 1 ESL that was horrible. When I got back on later in the day, it was not so bad. Maybe the turkey brain food helped my hearing. :)
I laughed out loud for 5 minutes.
Thank you!
I hear you loud and clear
I've been an MT for 20 plus years and have decided, at the ripe old age of 49, to go to cosmetology school...because it is the quickest and cheapest thing I could find to do......and I'm a girlie girl and love makeup, hair, nails, etc. We will see how it turns out......I'm sure I'll be the oldest one there.
What to do about a neighbor's yapping dog?
This thing is driving me CRAZY. Yes I know that there are times during the day that a dog is not considered "disturbing the peace," but these people moved in about a year ago and they now have a Yorkie that they leave outside ALL DAY on a 6 foot leash and all that thing does is "yap, yap, yap, yap, yap!" CONSTANTLY. . . ALL DAY LONG until they finally bring the poor thing in for the night.
We tried to welcome the couple to the neighborhood, but they don't assoiciate with anybody. When anyone comes near their property, they run inside and lock the doors, leaving the "yapper" outside to "yap" even louder if anyone is within 20 feet from their property.
I've actually resorted to yelling out the window, SOMEBODY MAKE THE DOG STOP! PLEASE!!!!"
We have a dog, but I wouldn't even get one until we had fenced in the entire back yard and then trained him from a puppy not to bark. Of course our dog will bark if somebody knocks on thedoor, which is a good thing, but I shake a coffee can with some pennies in it (Hint from Heloise) and he stops.
I feel bad for the poor Yorkie who never gets walked or paid attention to as he sits all day "yapping" on his 6 foot chain. But I don't want to cause any discord in the neighborhood either. 
What to do?
Lucky neighbor....
My ex-neighbor also experienced this and was lucky enough to live (very high mortality rate). She delivered her baby OK but then all her problems began. She swelled up like a balloon and had an emergency hysterectomy (thinking she had internal bleeding) before being airlifted to a bigger hospital. After over six months in the hospital and rehab, she is fine with no brain damage, but she suffers from bilateral foot drop and sometimes wears braces. She is one very lucky lady!!!
I had a neighbor like this once but after a frank
She had a boyfriend and they were the have a fight and make up kind. One night they had a particularly nasty argument and I didn't know who was going to win the _ugly word_ you, no _ugly word_ you argument. She kicked him out. We lived in NJ and he lived in Brooklyn and it was after public transportation had stopped running so he was looking at a $100 cab fare home.
The next day I made a point of running into her and being curiously interested in the bus schedules to Brooklyn and cab fares and when she asked why I was asking, I told her I was concerned for her boyfriend after what had happened the night before, using my best "bless your heart" face and telling her if she ever needed someone to talk to, just knock on my door.
She avoided me like the plague after that and they started meeting at his house
:)
noisy neighbor
I say get a mop, cover it with material and rap on the ceiling when SHE is trying to sleep. When I have noisey cotranscriptionists at work, I take noisemaking machine that makes sounds like the ocean waves. I focus on it between the words and that helps a little. When my Co MTs were really noisy I actually used to listen to music in my left ear and dictation in my right....takes a little practice...but it CAN be done. That eliminates background noise altogether.
howdy neighbor! nm
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Hi, neighbor....I'm in Reading, PA.
;)
Look in your own backyard first before your neighbor's...
I am Canadian and take offence to you blaming the whole country...are there not innocent PEOPLE dying at the hands of Americans in Afghanistan? You want to fight a cause don't do it here on this board, that's not what it was meant for. Innocent people, woman, children and soldiers and dying at the hands of your government....take up that issue. PLEASE! I'm sure there are numerous other NON-TRANSCRIPTION boards dedictated to it!
Neighbor trouble
I agree with ignoring her. She is seeking sympathy and attention.
They have doctors that can help her and unless she is seeking help herself, she will just drag you down with her.
Talking with friends does not solve this problem, but a psychiatrist/psychologist might be able to help her, along with medication.
Look at what she is doing already, trying to pit you and the other neighbor against each other out of jealousy. She is smarter than you think girl!!!! enough said
Howdy neighbor!
Same here, August 14th, in Gwinnett County.
I just found out that my neighbor
with a BB gun when they come on his property. I live on a small farm and everybody has acreage. My cats go crazy when I lock them up in the house. Don't know what to do.
Hey neighbor! Arkadelphia here!
Neighbor Noise
Any chance of selling your place and getting a little place in the country? We live far out and have high speed internet and only critter noise to deal with. Your hours are tough ones. Don't you hate those friends who call when they know you need to be sleeping and say, "I hope I didn't awaken you."
fer cryin out loud. Now this md says "she was placed on layoff"
When my husband ignores me, I get really loud and yell
HI, HONEY, HOW WAS YOUR DAY TODAY? I LOVE YOU!
That usually gets a smile or chuckle and a peck on the cheek out of him.
I hear ya' loud and clear, Sistah!
I know exactly what you're saying! I'm so sick of this business and these doctors that I could scream!!!!
Oh yes, please. go get your own accounts. This is a newbie for crying out loud
I've run into a lot of people in this field who say, Just go get your own accounts, yet very few do. why?
Thank you so much for making me laugh out loud. I really needed it right now...
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