kids, spagettiOs, husband, whatever.

• What's on the menu for din-din tonight? I'm making... - Anon
  • cottage cheese and leftover alfredo noodles - MTbird
  • Hmmm - a can of Wasabi peas. :) nm - Blu
  • Glad to see someone post this. sm - omt
  • Just had to let you know, tonight is Steak Diane and a - He's my sweetheart.
    • Well, I messed that up, meant to say DH is cooking - Steak Diane. nm
  • kids, spagettiOs, husband, whatever. - NYMT
    • My kinda cook! I can sure relate! nm - MQQA
  • grilled salmon and brown rice, Greek salad. - memt
  • hot spicy chili - cold in texas
  • No dinner - medtype10
  • That sounds delish!! We are having - Jacy
  • Homemade meatballs -- spag and meatballs and - salad and garlic toast
  • Whatever DH decides to cook here. - He's a sweetheart! NM
  • And by the way: - Anon
    • I hate sage. My mom used to put it in her - YUK
      • DH puts it stuffing for turkey too- sometimes OVERDOES it - yuk is right - me2

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I would never work myself to death for any man, no matter what he did for me.  Men are SUPPOSED to be the primary breadwinners in the family.  Paying for your school and your computer.  Pshaw!  I think you've more than made that up already.  Who takes care of your kids while you're working all these jobs?  You're going to regret it so bad when your kids are grown up and all they remember is being in daycare while you work.  Wow, he's got it pretty good with his little indentured servant, doesn't he?  What about what YOU want out of life?  I suppose you do all the housework, too?  You're going to burn out and fry yourself.  How much life insurance does he have on you?  Since obviously money means more to him than his wife and kids' happiness.    Geez, I'd rather be poor, broke, bankrupt, single, and on welfare than working myself to death for any man.

When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?" 

Him: "No."

Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"

Him: "No."

Me:  "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"

Him: (shrug)

etc., etc., etc.

Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)

call her by her first name.  The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away. 

I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated.   Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie.  :-)

But, as someone pointed out, to each his own.  If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that.  I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks."    

The word on the street is that your husband left with the better-looking, better-smelling, thinner girl next door.  POOR MOLESTED YUCK!!

He mumbles and grumbles, rolls his eyes, etc.  He says I spend all my time on the stinkin' computer.  He wants me to stop working whenever he calls, whenever he is hungry, whenever he wants to go somewhere, etc.  I feel so stressed out too.  It is a regular argument in our home as well.  I routinely work to 2 to 3 a.m.  I get up at 6:45 to get the kids dressed and fed (big struggle as I am dead tired and they are generally uncooperative-not morning people-so I'm yelling, he's snoring (can you say "resentment??").  Finally, about 7:30 I wake him up and tell him to take the kids to school.  He thinks he's so great because he spends 10 minutes dropping them off...ugh.  Then he has the gall to throw it in my face that I go back to bed for 2 hours.  Geesh...he comes home from work each night and crashes on the couch until it is time to go to bed.

Well, he certainly doesn't mind spending my paychecks and complains that they are not as big as they used to be (when I worked in house).  Sigh...Men!  Can't live with them, can't....nah, just can't live with 'em! ;)  Waaaaahhhh!!  I need a wife!

LOL....well, at least you know you're not alone!  Hugs to you,

Chickadee

Wow - I feel like we are back in the Dark Ages....with the neanderthals...."husband won't let me go back to school" and "husband will not babysit the child" - or words to those effect.

Father's are not babysitters if the children are theirs!  That's a crock.  A babysitter is someone the parent(s) hires.

And as for "husband won't let me" - I'd have gotten rid of him DECADES ago.  *lol* but not really laughing.  Any man who will not let  (allow) his wife to better herself in any way, shape, or form is a terribly INSECURE man.  Get out before it's too late for you to save your own life and become your own HERO (heroine)!!! 

feel very bad for the poster(s)........pitiful actually (the controlling husband)

 Why does he put his clothes on the bathroom or bedroom floor two inches away from the basket?    Why does he take his plate to the sink with food on it when he knows he hasn't installed a garbage disposal?  While I'm on that subject, why does he take PAPER plates to the sink?   This is not helpful.  

Some people are sooooooooo incredibly stupid. Some people are also plain ol' bigots and will attempt to lump everyone in the same category based on their race.  How in the heck does your husband know the race of his classmates if he takes classes over the internet.  Did his classmates tell him what their race was?

I am a black person and am extremely offended by your statement.  Did you think that only white people visited this site?

did the shopping when I was pregnant. One time he came home and had spent $400 at Kroger. WOW!!!!  AND.........didn't buy any meat. I couldn't believe it. With the # of bags he brought in I would have thought $150 to $200.  UGH. And no meat. I still can't get over that. LOL.

Needless to say I am back to doing the shopping. I would hate to imagine our financial situation if he handled the money. LOL.

for each big decision on job change, moving to a different state, or a situation similar to what you are facing now, one where we find it hard to decide but think we would be happy with either one.  Scarey spot to be in, I know!

Make a list of two columns, one column for each choice (Admin Asst and MT).

 Then list each pro/con for both options (each choice has to have the same pros and cons).  Gas money, time spent with kids, social contact, type of work, etc., etc. - list whatever options are important to you. 

Then assign a percentage or number to each option (my husband is an engineer so we have had to use this elaborate percentage work sheet thing he makes up!!!  I just give him my number on a scale of 1 to 5 how I would rate each option and he does his mathematical calculations). 

Then sit down with whoever you want to have input and start assigning numbers to each option in order of importance.  If you use 1 as low importance and 5 as high importance  - then, say, "Gas Money" option - working at home would be a 5 and the office would be a 1 (no gas money for home, lots of gas money for office).  In other words, if gas money were the only consideration, home would win with a number 5 and office would lose with a number 1.  Then go down your list assigning numbers.

When you are done, add up your numbers and see which option has the most points and that should tell you which you would prefer.

This may sound convoluted and I guess it is (unless you are an engineer or a math major) but, like I said, we have used this each time we have had a big decision to make, have gone ahead with the "most desirable" in terms of percentage outcome, and have been very content with our choice.

I might add that we have lived in 5 different states in 10 years - so we have really put this to the test!!!

The hardest part for me, I think, was getting to the point where I felt each option was equal in desirability.  But you seem to be at that point already, having two choices and facing the anxiety of picking one over the other.  So you are probably ready for THE BIG TEST. 

Good luck to you no matter which you pick and whether or not you use my method!! 

My husband, 30 years old, had an ear infection.  It got so bad that it caused him to develop Bell's palsy.  They told him that it takes anywhere from three weeks to six months to return to normal, but he may have some permanent residual palsy.  It has been about seven months and he still has some problems.  He can only shut his eye about 75%, his smile is not all there and he has some noticeable paralysis to his cheek.  Stress, common cold or hot days can bring on a recurrence or worsen residual symptoms.  Our outlook is that there are worse things to have.  Hope you do well with yours.

Just kidding. Sort of. But how long has it been since you've had a REAL vacation? The kind where you sit on the beach and drink Bahama Mamas? Or go camping, or hiking, or whatever it is you like to do on vacation?

If the answer is "more than two years ago" or "I don't remember", then you need a break.

If a vacation doesn't help, then you need a new job.