gees where is all this mistrust and anger coming from? sm
Posted By: none on 2006-07-19
In Reply to: I agree with GATrans below. Don't trust him. He may be covering his own rear end. Either he - MissouriMT
not EVERY man cheats on his wife and not EVERY man is guilty until proven innocent. Where there is no trust, there is no love and therefore, no relationship, just control and ownership. That's not marriage. Just because you got burned once does not mean that EVERYONE is out to burn you again. no wonder you are divorced! sheesh.
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gees, I used to know how to do this, but --sm
I can't think of how I did it. Can you possibly *grab* it with your cursor and pull it down? Otherwise, right click on the toolbar and see what pops up. There should be something in there that will move it. good luck.
First, don't say anything to her in anger - sm
Let it simmer, give yourself a few days to think about what you want to convey to your MIL AND your son, then call her over for a sit down.
I have had to do this more than once with my MIL. Scary for sure the first time, irritating the second, and third time was okay. Hopefully there won't be a fourth.
Although my situations were not quite the same, the same resolution could work for you.
AFTER you calm down, and I know this is hard to swallow, make a list of the parenting rules that YOU lay down and expect to be followed by everyone, including grandma.
Next, explain your reasoning behind those rules.
Explain how upset you were that those rules were not enforced by someone you trusted with your children and how it makes you hesitant to leave her with that responsibility again. They are YOUR children. Hers to love but yours to teach and raise to be responsible adults.
Explain to her that her role as a grandparent is just as important as a parent but you have the ultimate responsibility of making sure that your children grow up to respect authority and any time she goes against your wishes, that it teaching them that your word does not matter in the end.
Once you clear the air with your MIL. Sit your kids down and have the same chat.
I have always told my kids that if they get into ANY kind of trouble, minor or major, I had better hear it from THEIR mouths FIRST. If I have to hear about it from someone else, the $1*% is gonna hit the fan!
Punishment will doled out accordingly but I gaurantee that the punishment will be much more severe if I hear about anything second hand. PERIOD!
By the way... grandma is still sometimes difficult to get through to on the parenting thing but... I promise you that my kids DO tell me if they are in trouble. Even for things they really aren't in trouble for but aren't sure. They tell me EVERYTHING.
Good luck Sista!
Even if they anger you.....sm
try to keep your cool and don't respond. If they know they're getting a rise out of you, they'll just keep coming back. Ignore them. If they make you mad, you've let them win.
I have so much anger in me towards the
people on this board I am going to unleash it on you guys.
Why the anger?
You didn't mention that you were waiting a year but we were supposed to know that?
You were given advice about what to do and how to go about doing it. What more do you want?
What anger?
I don't see any anger in her post . . . she even put a smiley! No YELLING or anything. It seems she is just looking for advice.
Why are you angry?
ESL Anger
Yes, I relate. When I get really angry I have a margarita! I can't do that too often because basically I am a nondrinker. This ESL anger comes on for me every day and I would be an alcoholic, so I kick back in my chair and imagine what the reports would look like if I typed them "verbatim" - this in turn cracks me up and I laugh. I guess the bottom line is to try to find a way to laugh, because that is all you can do. Sometimes I give them names (ESLs). My favorite one is the one that sounds like that guy from Taxi, remember Andy? Swear I have one who sounds just like that. I have others as bad or worse. I also try to imagine what they look like and dress them up in strange costumes sometimes. If all that fails, run a mile. I did that once and it almost killed me, so now I just go to my ruminations and nicknames. See what happens when we are anal retentive about blanks? I have one that I have a fantasy of driving over to his hospital and luring him onto a boat headed back to his native country! He is screaming for help while I wave joyfully from the pier.
anger
I think I agree. I haven't even started working and I find this great website where I can talk to new people (MTs)and get some feedback but lately everything I have been reading is people lashing out! I am getting a little discouraged with this site.
anger
That was a little harsh wouldn't you say? Unless you've been there then don't judge!
There is so much anger in all parts of the (sm)
transcription community, that I'm seriously surprised that it hasn't resulted in something really terrible.
Talk about anger
Nan didn't sound angry at all to me. It was a very thoughtful, well written post. You sound like you got up on the wrong side of the bed.
BTW, just because someone has the title of QA doesn't mean they are qualified for the job. Of the last 9 "feedback" reports I have received from QA, I have a challenge on 8 of them!!
anger management
I really think that humor is a good tool for anger management! Friends will send some really funny emails that will just crack me up even when I am in the worst mood ever, it always helps...or sometimes just going for a good run to burn off some steam? There are a lot of things, also I like to look up at the big guy and ask for some help there, that helps me quite abit!!
anger management
I love it!!! What a fun game!
Anger management
Just get away and go out for a brisk walk and possibly a swim in a pool if one is available. Go for a hike in the woods. I can sympathize with you. We do not have an easy job and it can really test our metal at times.
look, i understand our anger, but not
where it is directed. The workers don't deserve our wrath! it's the companies that send our work abroad, it's the clients that just want the bottom price, it's the government policy that makes it lucrative for same. Those MTs are just like yourself, trying to make a living. If the tables were turned, would you decline a job saying, "no, i'm not going to take it away from the MTs across the pond"...of course not. At the MT level, we're just all trying to keep our heads above water.
You have some real anger issues!
I don't think the post called for the venom of your answer. You must be quite an angry person. I will pray for you.
Wow! Lots of anger here..am I on the right board?...
I could swear this is the "other" board. (Not to be mentioned or I will be deleted from here.)
I can only guess which company you work for, but maybe you should be blaming the company instead of the MTs. I am an SE (IC), and I work a pretty steady schedule, as do a lot of SEs. There has been a chronic lack of work at my company recently, but I KNOW my company has lost huge accounts lately, and has shifted those MTs to other accounts (yours and mine maybe?) This spreads the work too thin. My company has also, possibly, overhired lately, which also spreads the work too thin.
I sat from 8 a.m. to 6 p.m. yesterday with only 10 reports. Luckily, at 6 p.m., Dr. transcribemeifyoucanski started showing up. Got three of him in a row and was starting to get touchy and depressed when, after 8:30 (my usual quitting time is 8p.m.), here comes Dr. Iamdifficultalsobutdrtranscribemeifyoucanskimakesmelookgood came along, so I kept pushing on until there were no more (8 in all, all the above doctor). Still did not get in my usual line count, but came within shooting distance.
I am not blaming the other MTs for my lack of work, and not even blaming the company entirely. After all, when they lost those accounts, they COULD have just laid off their MTs. I wouldn't want that if it was MY account they had lost! I don't even know if my lack of good dictators lately is the result of cherry picking or voice recognition. My good dictators have, for the most part, vanished.
Such anger! Clearly uneducated and frustrated.
accept responsibility or you're going to be pointing fingers into thin air for years to come.
You truly have some anger problems. Maybe you should look into medication for yourself.
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You really need some counseling and anger management
tsk, tsk, tsk
What's your anger management strategy?
I'm finishing up a day of the most horrendous ESL I've heard in a long time. I don't leave blanks, even if that means spending 20 minutes on a 1-minute report trying to figure it out. This in turn causes me much distress and I know I'm not alone, as others frequently mention the pitfalls of ESL-hell.
After I finish posting this, I'm going to go outside and do something to release this built-up anger that will probably get me hurt. How do you guys do it without going absolutely insane?!?
Talk about anger management! SM
I work for that famous company that has 70% of the work done in India. Well, those Indian MT's must be great at ESL's, because I have been getting less of those and more of American doctors going a mile a minute. When I receive them, they sound like they are on fast forward. I can slow them down some, but that distorts the sound. I have never had a problem and I have been doing this for close to 20 years. I feel I have been emotionally machine gunned with dictation.
I would love to borrow (from below) anyone's dog, hatchet, margarita or, for that matter, anyone's ESL report. Thanks for letting me vent.
Without repercussions? You get to cause anger and hurt and probably make some
innocent people sob their eyes out. Boy, are you a monster, or what? No repercussions.
So much anger you harbor! I am wondering why you let it upset you
so much. It certainly is not worth the anger you are demonstrating in your post
That's called a typo. Seems your anger is just a little misplaced. nm
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IMO, anger toward India and its people is misplaced. sm
Refocus your anger, if you must experience it, toward the system here, which values cheap labor over accuracy.
No problem with the anger the OP showed towards home-schooling?
I didn't spew venom, only pointed out the obvious, kids are kids are kids. Anybody who thinks that people home-school their children to keep them away from "bad kids" is greatly mistaken. The minority may be for that reason. The majority have real reasons for their conviction to home-school.
Some people choose to home-school because their kids are the bad kids. Some people are forced into home-schooling bad kids by the public schools who can't handle them. It does happen, I've personally witnessed a friend being put through exactly that.
But, thanks for pointing out my venom (it was not intended as such) and thanks for the prayers.
jeeze louise, lady! Talk about ANGER?
Have you seen Anger Management with Jack N? Worst movie ever! nm
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Talk about anger...anyone who posts a high IQ score is a pathological liar.....
So, are you saying that no MTs can have high IQ scores?? Just because you don't, we all have to be pathological liars? Sorry.
where are you coming from????
Do you actually think these people are all addicts? These are the common people who could not afford to get out, probably making a lot less an hour than you do. They had no vehicle, and they left their homes with all their possessions in their arms. These people are starving and dying on the streets. It could just as easily have been you or me, and they just want to survive! If it had been a foreign country, help would have been there lickity split.
Are these cks coming
I don't think I'd cash them either. They don't make sense from what I'm reading. Has anybody contacted the law firm handling the class action suit for the MTs to see what's up there and if these are connected?
I'd sure hate to have your be "settling" by you cashing them and you not even know it.
Their day is coming! Nobody
If they were smart they invested what things came to them under
the table for selling us out down the river, because the bottom will
fall out from under them soon enough.
Right now the United States is in such a weakened state, the world is
ready to pounce on us. They are talking in the Trillions we are in debt now as
a nation.
And this coming from someone
who works at Scribes? LOLOLOL This is the funniest thing I have heard all year. They are the biggest scam artists around!
Hey! I'm coming right over to help!
Does not sound bad to me! The only thing is...be sure to check out what other posters said about "Are they making you claim 13 cpl or just what you are really getting, which is 9.75 cpl." You do not want to claim more than you are receiving. Don't worry about the taxes. They are a headache but you would be, basically, self-employed and would have to pay federal taxes just like EVERYONE does, and you would have to pay BOTH your share of SS, just like we all do anyway, PLUS the employers half of SS. Then, at the end of the year, you get the employers half back on your federal income tax form. You might even have to fill quarterly, but maybe not if you don't make very much. An accountant could give you advise on all this.
They know what's coming
I have relatives in Naples and the last time I saw, the center of the projected path puts Naples right in the center.
me, too.... keep it coming.... nm
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They know what is coming. So now we pay big
bucks for tons of ice to melt in warehouses in northern states because of incompetence of govt officials. Maybe if people relied less on the govt we could have lower taxes.
I do not object to helping those in areas who have a disaster that cannot be predicted such as an earthquake, but it seems that Florida wants everyone to rebuild their houses several times a year and feed them even longer. Those areas are known to be hurricane prone, so get out when disaster is coming.
At least they got a little of what they had coming to them.
I don't envy you at all. I know my husband would have no qualms about closing the road leading to their house. Unfortunately, you still have to live near them, so probably don't want to cause any more problems than necessary.
Good luck.
And you are coming across like you want me to be in ... sm
complete agreement with you...well, I put in my facts based on my experience....I wish you well...take care and have a blessed week!!
They might just get what's coming to them
Already thousands of people in the U.S. are going to India for their medical care. They can pay for the flight there and back, a top-notch operation in a top-notch facility with a private nurse and a private room afterwards, some time to vacation and recuperate--all for about 25% of what it would cost just to have the operation in the U.S., forget all the other goodies. What goes around comes around. When a doctor gives you the "I don't give a crap" look when you discuss offshoring, do be sure to bring up how offshoring affects him as well.
I see where you are coming from
but I don't feel the need to type fast for low wages. I type fast too, but I don't like to compromise patient care by being a speed demon. It is just too dangerous in my opinion.  Why are you so against someone staying at home to take care of children meanwhile making a little part-time money? Not all newbies only make 8 cpl. Not all newbies sign up to work for the nationals that post jobs here either. Not everyone that posts here work for nationals either. JMO.
No, I see where you are coming from.
However, you have to understand that most MTs are not paid hourly and are paid per line. Some of us with 20 years are still only offered between 8-10 cpl if we're lucky.
Just be ready to job hunt and read here about the different companies. Spheris big time off shores and underpays.
You may want to either go to school (hopefully your hospital pays for that) or look for another on-site job that pays hourly. With Spheris you'll have to work from home (which sounds dandy) until you actually do it.
It works well for me right now, but I plan to get back on site as soon as my kids get a little older. It is very hard to separate work from home when you work from home.
There will probably be no benefits for you either especially at part-time.
You could wait until the bridge is there to cross it, try out Spheris, and then go from there.
thank you for coming to my defense (sm)
Of course I know my financial situation, but we have missed a few payments, have tried to contact the lein holder, but to no avail.
coming from corporate
corporate requiring 12,000 lines/pay on avg or you will be dropped to SE status
I am going to be coming to this site
from now on. I get so sick and tired of the rudeness and trolling at another board. You all rock here!!! Thanks for having me:)
Something is coming..Spheris
Get ready to bend over.
Pisces here, don't know if I am coming or going. nm
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Probably take out as we will be coming back that day - sm
from VA Beach. Jenny spent last Easter in hospital after her nephrectomy for Wilm's, so we thought it would be good to do something different this year. Seeing DH's parents the following weekend probably. She just got her Port-A-Cath out so its a celebration of sorts for us.
coming back to MT--??? gone?
I thought I had posted this question on this board, but the topic seems to have been removed. Anyone know why?
It is coming back
There are a bunch of shows that start later, "mid-season" and the only dates I can find are "early 2007", but I was wondering about Medium is how I found it. Medium will be back mid-season, along with Scrubs, According to Jim, Reba, George Lopez, King of Queens, Supernanny, The Sopranos American Idol, America's Got Talent, etc...... bunch of them!
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