find a teen in your neighborhood to sit for a few hours (nm)

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I wish I had all boys!  How do you deal with a teenage girl who continues to lie about everything.  Sweet in your face one minute and the next thing you know it is all a lie.  It is so devastating every time it happens.  It breaks my heart.  We have even tried counseling.  This is a girl who has everything going for her.  She's beautiful, talented beautiful voice (college scholarships), athletic and top student.  She draws trashy boys like flies and tries to hide the relationship from us because she knows we will disapprove.  Daddy teaches at the same high school so it is hard on them both.  Him, because what she does reflects on him and the little respect he gets from his students and her, because I know it has to be hard having Daddy around all the time.  But she has not earned our trust.  There has been one incident after another for four years (She is a junior in high school).  Just when we begin to trust just a little, we find something else.  Last night while we were at a meeting, she had a "boyfriend" whom we do not approve of, come to our house.  How she got her little brother to keep quiet I don't know but I will find out.  (He is the worst secret keeper.) 

My husband and I are struggling financially to provide the things she needs to further her talent and school activities and functions.  The latest is giving up things we usually do for Christmas to buy her a used vehicle.  Now, after this latest stunt I can't justify it or trust her enough to let her get into to go anywhere.

Thanks for letting me vent.  Anyone have any advice?

I'm not sure why you think boys are easier.  I have both and they all try to pull the same stunts. 

Most are doing great but one in particular (a boy) could just as easily have been your daughter.  Lie, lie, lie and he acts like we have stupid written on our foreheads or were never teens. 

With the last "minor" accident, but the 4th one, the car is locked up tight and Lord, you'd think we were depriving him of food and water.  Thank God he has never hurt anyone or himself but when you already have restrictions, (no use of cell phone, no more than 1 kid and only a sibling in the car)...well...you just can't justify letting your girlfriend drive the car home because you were feeling "kinda dizzy"........He just does not get the drift of the need to call home for any reason that he can not handle, and especially if your "kinda dizzy" 56 miles from home when you were supposed to be right around the block...

He's sulking, trying to make our lives miserable, disrupting the rest of the household, but I've now put a chart up and for every act of defiance, whining etc, another week gets added to the lack of wheels... took him a couple of hours and 4 more weeks tacked on to realize I mean business. 

Christmas vacation is coming up and guess who will be w/o wheels during it 

You have to realize that your not her friend and the decisions you make now on your expectations and her inability to follow them needs to be cleared up.  Hang in there, they do eventually grow out of this stage...only to head into another one.

not cystic.  We've been to the dermatologist twice without success.  He now uses a generic (Wal-Mart) version of Proactiv and it isn't 100%, but lots better.  Accutane can cause you to be suicidal and to me the risks just are too great versus any possible benefit. 

The blackheads can be handled with good hand washing, keep his hands off his face, washing his hair daily if it is oily like my son's, and washing his wash a couple of times a day.  The white heads could be handled with a soft puffing, like those disposable pads that are on the market.   There are antibiotics that might be helpful.  There are lots of OTC products that might be a little pricey, but I would exhaust every possible option before trying Accutane.   We have a local oral/maxillofacial surgeon that has a clinician in his office to help with skin problems and they sell products that are not prescription.  I can't remember the name, but do a goggle search for acne products. 

It paid maybe $.20 more than minimum wage.  I think you can make more than that as an MT, don't you?  You just haven't found your fit yet.  If housekeeping is something you really want to do, go for it.  It was a really nasty job, though.  I'd rather do transcription at home than clean up after a bunch of slobs.  Oh, disgusting.  And the things people would leave behind in their rooms.

before, no collar.  I took to our vet to scan for a microchip and doesn't have one.  Vet won't keep the dog because it needs all shots, which we can't afford to do.  Dog is a lab and we have no place to keep her, plus we have a dog who is not tolerant of another dog and has chronic medical problems.   We feed/water the dog and are providing it with a warm place to sleep, though it is a very small space and not suitable for long-term.

I have notified all the vets in our area, called the shelter, sent e-mails to all residents with e-mail addy in our community, placed an ad in our local newspaper and placed signs at major neighborhood intersections.   There has been no ad in the paper looking for a dog, no signs, no one appears to be looking for her.  What do you think is an appropiate amount of time to keep her before we try to find her a new home?   She is just the sweetest dog and we have all fallen in love with her, but cannot provide for her.  We find it difficult to believe that no one appears to be looking for her.   DH says she is very conscious of cars like she is searching for "the one" and feels like she was dumped.   I can't/won't take her to the pound, although due to her personality we feel she will be adopted immediately. 

We're too close to the situation to be objective. 

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There were always literally hundreds of kids out in our neighborhood on Halloween.  When I was about 12, I got a gray wig and messed up the hair, a rubber mask with a large nose and lots of wrinkles, wore an old long plaid robe tied at the waist and socks with open-toe bedroom slippers.  So here I am, messy gray hair, ugly face, robe and slippers and walked with a limp down the dark street.  Two men were waiting at the end of a driveway for their children.  Here I come, limping by and one man pokes the other one in the side and says, "Hey, Jim.  Is that your wife or mine?" 

I will remember that for as long as I live.

having a race to see who can have the most babies.  It's horrible.  They think of the babies as little pets or dolls, then dump them on their mothers to go out and party.  None of the girls has a high school education, job, driver's license or anything.  They have police records, too.  Four of the girls were over here one day wanting to use my phone, and one of them wanted me to feel her stomach to see if I thought she was pregnant.  She was disappointed later when she found out she wasn't.  I got onto soapbox mode telling them to finish their education or at least get a GED so they could support those babies.  Life's not easy being a young, uneducated mother.  They use the excuse that they have bad home lives, they just want someone to love them, they'll get a regular income with WIC, foodstamps, and welfare checks, or maybe even get their own house when low income apartments become available.  My goodness, their thinking is so messed up.  They don't even have a single clue in their little heads.  This isn't even the inner city.

I keep telling my boys to stay away from girls.  Save it for marriage or you're going to get trapped into fatherhood.

It's a bit scary when you can't even get home because of the cops!

I was NOT talking to a telemarketer at SBC.  I originally talked to one (I assume) when I called, but when I explained what I was using it for, I talked with his supervisor.  As long as I am accessing voice files and NOT using it for faxing, accessing the internet, or other "computer to computer" things, it is fine.  I have not had any hassle, except for once, and then when I called and talked to them and changed to a business line, I was fine. 

Hope you have better luck than you have so far.  :-)

I am thinking of starting a neighborhood watch in my area but was wondering if people really want to get involved.  I know this would depend on my neighbors, but for the most part do people care?  The main problem I am having with my neighborhood is that down the street there is a section of what would be called *low income rental units* which are actually just one bedroom tiny houses, and the people who rent there just do not care about the neighborhood, the noise level, the litter, so on. 

The main problem I am having is noise.... It comes from about three car stereos and there is really no way to pinpoint it unless you physically sit at the end of the street and get the make and license # of the car.  The noise ends about 3:00 a.m. and starts up again about 7:00 a.m.  I have phoned the police several times regarding this, but what can they do really if they don't know what car it is coming from?  They said they can drive by the block a few extra times a night, but really that has done no good.  I have had to start taking sleeping pills and wearing ear plugs to even get some sleep lately, but the noise is still so loud it sounds like thunder, and I cannot believe somebody who lives right next to that noise does not call it in to the police.  That is why I question whether people actually want to get involved.  I can only call the police so many times myself before they think I am crazy and am hearing things. 

As for the littering, it is not just bottles and cans, it is pieces of furniture that nobody wants anymore and they push it out to the curb hoping it will magically disappear.  It doesn't disappear, and I'm getting embarassed to have any friends over to my house because they have to pass that area before reaching my end of the street. 

As for starting the neighborhood watch, would I just basically go door to door and see what kind of response I would get?  Has anybody else had a noise problem like this, and does it ever get better if people complain, or does that just make it worse?  Thanks for any input.  I'm just so tired and grouchy lately, I hate to even be at home anymore and this is making me depressed. 

you slice it, both companies will still get 8 hours worth of work out of you.

That is the problem I've been having lately being an MT.  Companies want to pay us on production and they set minimum productivity standards, but want us timed in for 8 hours a day.  My thinking is, if they want 8 hours of work out of me, pay me hourly with production incentive.  If they want to pay me on production and tell how much I have to produce in an 8 hour period, then when I hit that mark, I should be able to call it a day even if I've only worked 4 hours.

Seems these companies want it both ways and it is simply not fair to us MTs.  JMO, tho.