family or not....they are NOT UR friend....sm
Posted By: people who get off on it are NOT friends... on 2006-03-07
In Reply to: Anyone in your life who enjoys seeing you upset -- gets a kick out of it? - annoyed..sm
and the life is all about choices......
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Sending prayers for your friend and your family.
Praying for strength for you.
Tell that to my friend. They had a dog they treated as a member of their family. That is, until it a
Dogs need to be trained and need to know they're lowest in the pack. I tried telling my friend this, but she wouldn't listen and she continued to treat the dog as a member of the family instead of as a dog. And eventually that "member of their family" decided it didn't want any more competition for affection, and attacked their son. Thank God he survived, 92 stitches and some nasty scars tho. If you love your family and you love your dog, then TRAIN your dog. Don't treat him like an extra child.
Typing Family/Friend/Own Reports
How do you handle having to type a report for a close friend, family member or for yourself? If you have independent contractors, do you allow them to type a report on a family member or themselves?
Has anyone had any experience with a family or friend with bipolar disorder or some form of
mental problems. How do you handle this person if you deal with them almost daily and you can see something is wrong in their thinking?
How about your husband tells the friend to tell his female friend to lose the #?
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A friend of a friend is taking CareerStep - sm
she is under the misguided idea that she will be making very good $ upon completing the course (a friend of hers supposedly makes $55K a year). I told her no way, at least not starting out and not unless all the factors click together, i.e. good typing speed, good pay (not for a newbie), good dictators (unlikely) and dedication to working hard. I told her what I make after 5 years (16K) but that is PT and I have the potential to double that if I would push myself, not procrastinate so much (I web surf way too much) and work more than I already do. I am not a fast typist but am good at what I do. I will be surprised if she follows though. She told me she'd call me when she finished the course, I just hope she is ready for reality.
family is family wheter 3 or 8 sm
i live in MA and $1200-$1400 a month is what good health insurance costs, ie $20-$40 copays. it was just passed into law that if you live in MA you have to have medical insurance so without being self-employed, you can go right to BCBS etc and get a plan directly from the major health insurace companies, but for a family plan and a decent income bracket, forget it. the prices are outragous. right now my husband pays $120 a week for family plan and this is after his employer pays 30% of the total cost. we have $20 copays, but we have a $2000 individual deductable per year with a $4000 family deductible cap. so when my daughther needed her tonsils out, $2000 and when my son broke his arm, $2000. someone on this board has to be able to tell you what they pay for insurance through their company as an employee. good luck.
Looking for friend
Hundreds of people are coming into Alabama and Florida away from NO and Mississippi. Go to www.nola.com (Times-Picayune newspaper in New Orleans) and look for message boards. Local papers and other shelters are posting names. Still waiting to hear about family members from Gautier, Long Beach, and Gulfport, MS. Hope you hear from her soon!
To "a friend"
I wanted to personally thank you for your opinion and also for putting yourself out there for me. The serious physical abuse for me happened mostly while I was pregnant (both times)with his children. He had not touched me in three years until two weeks ago. I am aware that I am in a volatile situation and I am doing something about it. I just needed to reach out today for some comfort and support. I feel I got both. I'm sorry I opened the door for people on here to hurt you. That was not my intention. Thank you and big hugs for paying attention to me. J.
Same here. Have a friend who is
a biller who is the same way. We all work at home and have very little people contact. It makes you a little agoraphobic. I have to run all my errands at once, or I will not do them. All the MTs I know are the same way. Can we get disability for this?LOL
Tell your friend
She can go online and change the settings on her bandwidth from the Vonage site. We had some problems and found out it was our cable modem. The strength of the service depends on your internet provider as well.
Is this a friend of yours? nm
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not a friend...sm
actually, it's a patient that I did a note on...the doc went into great detail about her home life, her husband, her finances...but it still burns me up  ! I'd love, love to talk to her...but guess my prayers will have to do...
think twice about a friend
Rather than worrying about training a newbie, I would think twice about a friend. I have had friends as IC's whichI have helped to train as well as just newbies. It is hard to keep that line between friendship and working relationship especially if you are the one giving her the work, checking the work and training her. Have almost lost two friends over this because they felt because they were friends I would understand their problems, family problems, time off needed, not getting work back, etc. They saw me work and bring in the big bucks and wanted to share in it but did not understand how it worked. You don't produce work, you don't get paid. I have trained a lot of people and helped out a lot but never again will it be a friend that is actually doing work for me. If they are working for someone else, I will help them out but just not for me. So I worry more about it being a friend than a newbie. Patti
Have a friend who is MT and she has
bought this, paid quite a bit for it. She had used escription before and now she does straight. She has arthritis in her hands and trying to alleviate some of the pain she has with straight but said wasted her money, tried and tried to educate the machine and still not worth the money she spent.
My friend went not once, but twice. sm
My friend went and she loved it. I lost touch with her the last time she went back. They did live in a compound and you had to adhere to the religious, traditional ways over there. When you left the compound you had to wear a burka. She said they furnished you your own really nice apartment. I thought about going back then, but with the political climate, I am too afraid. After all, they are our "allie" (wink), and over 10 of the 911 bombers were from Sauda Arabia our "allie" (wink).
My friend said she
could never do this as she's not disciplined enough. She's honest as it does take discipline.
You get out of it what you put in. Pretty simple!
i have a friend
Who is working for Inscribe, and is very happy there. She says that the people are nice, and there is always enough work. They hire part time, as long as you can commit to 20 hours a week.
very well put my friend.
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I have a friend...sm
I have a friend who works at home as a MT for a hospital and her internet is disabled somehow where she can't go on or check email or anything. I was like I don't know what I would do because like you I think the quickest way to find something you aren't sure of is to go on the internet. But the computer she uses to work belongs to the hospital so I guess she can't say anything.
your friend
Gosh, been there, done that, religious beliefs has nothing to do with it, went to one of these hospitals to "heal" and give them my all in terms of experience, etc., willing to take less for the comfort of being in a peaceful place. This was nothing near what I expected; in fact, the worst experience of my life. One of the "supers" was nutty as a fruitcake, slammed doors in people's faces, made people cry, etc., but no one did anything for a whole year about her after I left in tears. The suits rule, but put your complaint in the "Bishop's" hands and see if he has what it takes to walk his talk. I can relate, it was the worst 6 months of my life but somehow evil will not prevail if you have the guts to go forward with what you know she went through, even anonymously, if you have to, then let the chips fall where they may. Hopefully, in God's hands, not yours. So sorry for your friend, I know what she went through. Thanks for sharing and God bless you for caring
re your friend.
this is America. Talk about what you want to. My heart goes out to you all in the loss of your friend. but stand up and don't be a door mat. You cannot be walked on if you don't lay down and let them. I had a mean supvr and it happened to be in a Catholic hospital. I refused to do what i was told (practice forging doctor's names) and it was quite a scene. Once i stood up for what was right, it gave the others courage to do so. i didn't lose my job either. but if you do, you were looking for one when you found this one, right? be strong; set the example and don't follow in your friend's footsteps to the same end. God bless. p.s. Catholics follow the pope first and Christ second. To me, that does not a Chrisian make.
So sorry about your friend
Maybe this is just my personality constantly bucking heads with authority, but I really enjoy working from home. You have a very marketable skill, and there is a lot of work out there for you to do. They do not own you. You rent PART of your life to them when you work. They have no right to work you to death. Would looking for other opportunities, home or otherwise be an option? There is a lot of work out there for experienced MTs.
very well put my friend.
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I had a friend who was...
a pharmacy tech. He went to school for that believing that it would pay decent, but he ended up disappointed. He said the pay stunk and it was extremely boring. Maybe others have had a different experience. 
Had a friend who did it. (SM)
She was about 40, I think, when she made the switch. I know the training took her almost two years to get the point (speed, accuracy) where she was employable.
I remember she told me they start you out doing "one voice", then "two voices", etc., until (I think) you get to where you can do either five or six voices like a conference or a deposition.
It was very hard, but she's making pretty good money now. She works for herself, not for a court, and has a number of attorneys and companies for clients.
Also, my friend who is an MT at one of
these hospitals has virtually no work now that they are in the process of converting to EMR. She is being sent to different doctor's offices to abstract (pull important info from reports to put on EMR) since she has no (or very little) MT work now.
Had a friend who was on VR
she had rheumatoid arthritis and her hands after years of straight were killing her. She did not like VR and at age 50 something got inhouse job working at hospital in town, not doing transcription but in the medical field. Not for everyone.
your family
What kind of shelters were you in that they did not help you? If your husband is mentally ill, cannot hold down a job and provide for his family, go to Social Security office and start filling out for SSI or Disability. It is a long drawn out process, but worth it, if you want to keep your family intact and safe.
Well, every family is different, but for us (sm)
When we initially signed with them three years ago, we were a family of four with a husband with hypertension and hypercholesterolemia. The first year our rate was $340/mo with a $750 deductible. Every year since then we are given the option of either jacking our payment or increasing our deductible. We are now a family of five, and we are paying $750 a month with a $1750 deductible (per person). We have no maternity coverage, baby #3 was paid for out of pocket. Prescriptions are $10/30 after a $500 deductible (because of my husband's medications, otherwise I don't think they usually require a deductible for prescriptions). Each of us is allowed four office visits per year at $25/each. Well baby care is sporadic, depending on the mood of the adjuster that day, I think. We have gotten stuck paying for a $700 ER bill (applied to our deductible, apparently) and several well baby visits (at about $200 a pop). Overall, I was thrilled when we were paying $340 a month, but now I'm ready to start looking elsewhere. I would go for it, you're going to get jacked every year wherever you are. I think what put us over the edge was baby #3 (unplanned), but I wouldn't trade her for anything of course!
Family
I have often said that if I met some of my family on the street and were not related often wonder if I would "like them" let alone "love them" but because they are family we are obligated to instantly "love them." Sorry to me blood is not thicker than water and my friends and part of my family are very dear to me and I would do anything for them as it has been a two way street with friendship and love. Lover your parents though and do anything you can for them.
Patti
not me, my family gets along
doesn't fight Hmmmmm- I'm not invited anywhere this year- Do you suppose its me??? HA
The other family
Kym and I remain friends. She hates to watch the reruns as much as I do. We both agree that they did a lot of manipulation as far as the show goes and the editing process. She and Hallmark divorced following the show and I have not had any contact with him at all.
Family of 5
1. Me, although, my husband always pulls out the towels and washclothes and folds them and my 5-year-old loves to fold washclothes and can fold them better than me.
2. Me.
3. My husband does them most of the time because I always have to sit down after supper and work some more.
4. My husband does most of the mowing.
Since you know the family,
perhaps you can tell us what happened to him?
About my family
grown and out of the home but I worked at home when they were younger and made it very clear no work, no money, simple as that. I did not get into this job to work from home, in fact worked years away from home doing same because it was not a "home job." If you want to work from home, don't complain about what you are unable to do in your "profession" when you don't come across as being professional doing all the household duties. I started in this because I knew I loved the medical field, fast typist and knew possibility of making more money, nothing to do with just a job to stay home so I could watch after kids, cook or clean. Married but hubby is gourmet chef so he cooks and I have housekeeper. I work because I happen to love the type work I do.
Your family
Well, I would tell you to get a new family, but that's too flip because I know you are hurting.
Why do you care so much about such a thoughtless remark by your father? Obviously, he has no real understanding of your situation. You are working several jobs, wife, mother, caregiver, etc., plus your MT work.
Just try to let go of he hurt and anger from your parents' lack of understanding (or deliberate undermining of you, whichever it is), and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Give yourself a huge pat on the back because you more than deserve it!! Stay positive about yourself and your situation and things will work out to your advantage. Let go of the need for approval from your parents, because you probably won't get it and you don't need it anyway, really.
You should like a great person to me!
what does your family think?
are you going to want to work at home while attending school, and if so would you want to keep the account you have now, and how do your kids feel about it?
I think its great what you did for your friend
A few of us were planning an "intervention" where we confront her basically to tell her we think she needs help, because the pain has made her very depressed and she is just not herself anymore. I will look into finding her a rheumatologist myself, since that is probably all it takes, and also pushing her in the right direction. Although like your friend, I know she will be angry, but gotta do it. She can barely move and I can see the pain on her face. I don't think anyone should live in chronic pain.  Thank you for your kind words
I have a friend that is an excellent MT and she -
dances one or two nights a week in the fall. It's not for me, but hey, it works for her!
Brash friend
I wonder if I am just being moody or if I just get my feelings hurt too easily. Today, I ran into a friend of mine while picking up my child from kindergarden. I know she works and is rushed, but, in my opinion, she was quite rude. I said hello to her and she very rudely said, "I can't talk, I'm in a hurry." I wasn't expecting an hour long conversation but a pleasant exchange would have been nice! She does this a lot - she is sooo moody. Also, sometimes she calls me when I am in the middle of typing a job, and I very politely tell her that I will call her back. She always gets her feelings hurt. She is not from this country (Germany). I can't seem to get used to her ways.
brash friend
I wouldn't take it personally...I know it is hard. Next time you see her just give her a friendly wave and keep going on your way. If she calls again while you are typing, tell her that you have certain hours that your work....but anytime after that is fine. Let her be the rude one...and you be the tactful one. It will give you peace of mind and she will know where she stands. If her feelings are hurt, that isn't your problem!
Take the post from "a friend"
Sounds like she's been in your shoes. Everyone that posted has given the best advice and offered their support.
As much as they say people can be mean on this board, there are some very compassionate people too! I was happy to see this!
I was wondering, since you have the skill, could you get a job in a facility doing transcription? That would take care of the problem with phone lines, internet, etc. Take anything you can use that the government will offer (food stamps, TANF). Food should not be one of your problems. Not sure how old your children are, but could you place them with family members for a short period of time, even if you have to split them up this way? Is your husband getting SSDI (mental health is a disability)? Is your husband being treated?
Keep posting on your progress - we care about you.
My friend said she took her rugs up (sm)
and eventually the stains faded so they weren't so obvious!
It's an acquaintance, not a friend.
He's temporarily disabled because some drunk guy ran him over on his motorcycle. Therefore, he can't pay his bills so this particular company posted his name on their marquee telling him to pay up now.
I don't believe in not paying bills or writing bad checks, but there's no reason these businesses can't turn the checks over to CheckRite or another third party collection agency. They can also report the debts on credit reports, garnish wages, execute on assets, and file civil and criminal complaints. Am I wrong in thinking that violating people's privacy is not OK? Sure, some people are habitual offenders who have no problem stealing from others, which is what bad checks essentially are. This is not the case in every situation, though. I just don't see how two wrongs make a right. I can't believe I'm the only person who thinks it's wrong to post people's names in public regarding debt collection. It's not like the olden days with public bannes (sp?) and debtors prison.
I worked in collections before doing repos, skip tracing, and phone calls on bad debts. I also lost my job when my company went under due to illegal acts by the CEOs. I know what it's like to be the collector and the debtor.
Is this my new friend, Sandi? - sm
When that happened to me, it was my provider's problem. Maybe someone here has another suggestion. I know, it's a real pain. If it helps, I didn't e-mail you today! Good luck and hope to talk to you soon!
Yes, Susan, this is your new friend
You can E-mail me if you would like as I am able to get mail from my regular ISP E-mail address in my Yahoo web site. I use my ISP address for my work and I am working today so this is a PTIB when trying to stay in touch, asking questions, etc.! :D
Hey, one of my friend's daughter
is a duck queen!
I think you're right! Thanks, friend! ...
I am so sorry for your friend and this situation sm
They should try to get a referral to a child psychiatrist (not just a psychologist) immediately. They are the ones equipped to deal with these kinds of serious issues.
I hope they can handle this extremely difficult situation. It truly sounds like Tater is mentally ill.
My friend has tried to get me to go to work for
MDI for over a year now. I do live near them. But I have to say I opted for MQ because I had worked for them before and knew what they were like.
To be honest, although I know nothing about the company other than what she tells me, both good and bad, I have to say I am afraid to go to work for them. I am very sensitive and I do not get the feeling that they value their employees or ICs at all. I have seen so many posts where your answer is to "go find another job". If you care that little about the people you have and want to do nothing to improve things, it is no wonder you have a bad reputation. I have a feeling that if anyone called and made a complaint you would fire them.
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