emotional adultry

Posted By: dls on 2005-12-30
In Reply to: Way off subject, but I need opinions... - hope this doesn't get deleted...sm

There physical adultry and emotional adultry, both are being unfaithful. Adultry is giving any part of yourself to someone you are not married to. Being married, you should never allow yourself to walk down a path in your emotions that could lead to something physical. Men will not admit to this, but their emotions are just as fragile as ours and they need the emotional ties just as wel do. If someone else is feeding your emotions instead of your husband, then you are walking down a very dangerous path. Please, consider all that is around you. If your marriage falls, no matter who is at fault, who will suffer with you and who will fall along side of you. Just so you know, if you need a friend, even though you do not know me, I am here. freedomsiff2@mchsi.com

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Way off subject, but I need opinions... - hope this doesn't get deleted...sm
- Cheating = anything you're doing with - sm
- I thank you all so much...sm - OP
  - we make mistakes - aj
  - Boredom does, sometimes (sm) - MT
  - Good luck to both of you. Just be honest - honey
- it's not only in actions - nee
- If you wouldn't do/say it in front of your spouse, it's wrong. - Busy MT'ing
- the easiest way to decide (sm) - my penny's worth
  - That's how I would decide also. Treat others the way you - honey
- I'm not going to remove this thread but ask that religious discussion be moved - Administrator (sm)
  - this isn't a religious discussion...sm - in my opinion...OP
- Even if you have a lustful thought in your mind, it is considered sinful. - nm
  - No, it is you act on that thought. nm - MT
    - Not according to my NIV bible. It says even if you have lustful thoughts, they are considered sin. - nm
- Momma always told me that if it looks and feels wrong, - shades of grey
- Any kind of intimacy emotional or physical - mt
- for what its worth - my opinion
- being faithful - sm
  - Gotta say I agree with above. I was in the same - not right
- As far as it being wrong, well who defines right and wrong? On the - Dancinn Shoes
  - God defines right and wrong. - nm
- Whatever you are thinking of doing, DON'T! It's not worth it. nm - Anonymous
- Personal opinion: If it's a secret, it's probably wrong. SM - Becky
- If it's something you wouldn't do with your spouse - or SO standing right there, it is cheating. nm
  - Absolutely right. I use this philosophy - when I am tempted to
- emotional adultry - dls
- No, I don't think you have to have sex to - be unfaithful. I think definitely
  - Gambling, excessive drinking, working too much, etc. - Nancy
    - Yes, but being with a spouse who does those things - sounds like my ex
- Emotional involvement worse, sm - Love my mind
- I think that any form of indiscretion with someone - Wannie
  - I think that while its true that most men - My 2 cents
    - Can't help being attracted to people but - sgh
  - I think Wannie is exactly right. If in doubt, - Nancy

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Set aside the emotional aspect of it and try to look at it objectively - sm
I know if my daughter ends up needing a kidney (since she only has 1 now) I would not hesitate, though I would be terrified as well, you're not human if you don't think of your own welfare too. I do a lot of kidney transplant reports/evaluations. They have to do a premliminary checkup to see first if you even qualify to be a donor, if you have diabetes, high BP, hypertension, depression, etc. you would not be a good candidate. You need to be a good cross-match too, you may or may not be. They can now put in non-matching blood types but it would mean more drugs for the recepient to take for possible rejection of the organ. How will you feel if you give her a kidney and it lasts only 5 days, or 5 weeks, etc. Will you be angry? (probably) You will need to under a psych evaluation prior to donating and have a healthy outlook. Do you have support from your spouse if married, your children? A good support group behind you is important. Is you sister a responsible person and will she respect the gift she would be receiving? Will she take the daily lifelong drugs that she will have to be on? If she is not compliant with her drug regimen the kidney will be rejected in the long run, and of course there is always a possibility of rejection at any time regardless of how compliant she is. I'm sure you have most of this information already. Just try to set aside the emotional garbage since it hinders making the decision that is right for you and your family. Good luck.

Emotional involvement worse, sm
I think men can have sex and it is no different than scratching an itch, there is no emotional involvement there at all. I think it is much worse to be emotionally involved with someone, even without a physical component to that relationship.

Any kind of intimacy emotional or physical

is being unfaithful. Put your effort into your best friend, who should be your mate, otherwise, what is the point? If you put your effort into someone else, of course you would be close.

Honestly, your heart knows what is right and wrong. Listen to it. Respect your relationships or expect to be disrespected yourself.