dilema with teenager

• dilemma with teenager - mom
  • dilema with teenager - Becky
  • No way, no how. Pay for the gas. - Mom of 4
  • Dilemma... - typ4food
  • Go get to know the family and the boy, introduce yourself to the parents. - sm
  • No--I drive 12 miles 2 x a day (roundtrip) just to get them at the bus-sm - xxx
  • It would depend on whether (sm) - Lori
  • No way! Is saving a little money on gas worth - risking it? I don't think so. nm
  • Thankfully in Georgia it's unlawful for a teenager to....sm - Georgia gal
  • I have a 15 year old daughter.... - MT
  • Daughter's friend drove her car into a pond the first week she had her license! Let him prove him - self for a few months first! nm
  • PLEASE don't do it. nm - Dano
  • I wasi n the same situation as your daughter at 14. sm - Former 14-year-old daughter
  • I won't let my kids ride with inexperienced drivers. - teen drivers AUGH!!!!
  • No way, my DD has JUST started going in cars w/boyfriend. nm - Mom of 17 yo girl
  • do not do it. - Anna
  • Too soon, sm - my2cents
  • I wouldn't let her do this! - no way! sm

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Okay, 5 years ago, our family threw a huge party - a pig roast actually - with over 100 people during the course of the night.  My father-in-law said he wanted to do it again this year, but has since backed out because of his health not being the best and my husband has no interest in planning.  I would love to charge in and do it myself except for one thing - I have no idea how to roast a pig.  I was thinking of just having burgers and dogs as well as whatever sides people want to bring, soda, beer, etc and just turn up the music and have a blast.  My husband says you can't have a pig roast one year and turn around and just have hamburgers another time.   I think he's full of it!  Any opinions?  And be kind...he IS a great guy.  Just a party p**per when it comes to this.

Happy 4th!

My oldest graduated last year and started dressing in black (mostly black t-shirts and jeans) in his junior year.  This drove my DH absolutely crazy and still does!  We never had any trouble with him in school either; good grades, part-time job, never ran with the wrong crowd, always called to keep in touch when he was out, etc., just like your daughter.  We let it go.  He never wanted any tattoos, collars or piercings (although he did buy a bracelet with the metal points once.  He never wore this to school however.)  The biggest problem we ever had was the kind of music he liked to listen to.  We did forbid him to buy certain types and bands after we listened to them, but he didn't argue.  He is now in college and is doing great.  His grades are high and he still checks in a few times a week just to "talk." 

If I were you, I would let the clothing thing go, as long as it doesn't change into anything concerning.  Most teens need to express themselves somewhat and this really seems pretty innocent.  My DH and I are really pretty conservative.  We found that it is best to pick you battles. There are certainly a lot more horrific problems out there to be concerned about than dressing in black.  Your job is to just keep an eye on things and if you see any drastic changes in her (grades, personality, friends, etc), that is the time to step in.  She seems like a well rounded young lady with a good head on her shoulders.  You seem to have done an excellent job in raising her.  She will soon be a legal adult and you now have to start trusting her judgement.  I think she will be just fine!  Good luck!