abusive relationship ruining mt career
Posted By: anon on 2005-11-01
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I had an extramarital affair. I deeply regret it and am trying to get my life straightened out. I ended the affair and I believe this man wants to see me lose everything out of spite and revenge. I had to quit my last MT job because my computer was hacked and had alerted the company there was a security problem and then a bunch of personal correspondence with this man got uploaded to the company server via "technical assistance" on the phone. I have had harassing phone calls as well and calls that were programmed in my autodial end up at the wrong number or playing Mexican music, etc. I went to the sheriff's department and they did believe my situation, but said there is little I can do about it without filing a report. I do not want to appear spiteful or vengeful, but may have to file a report against this man, but he lives in another state. I just want to put my life back together. I fear with my computer tapped and my phone calls screened I will be unable to secure another job or get the harassment to stop. I have three firewalls on my computer am rural and had to work via satellite. I live in a small town with little opportunity. I am going to lose everything if I cannot work as an MT.
Any MTs victims of domestic abuse and had to deal with anything similar?
If someone is sabotaging my career what am I to do?
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Verbally and physically abusive to all of you -- sm
That's the line that jumps out at me in your post. I know you're scared, but you've got a responsibility to your children and yourself to leave if this is true.
Start planning. Contact your YWCA. They have free counseling. If there's no YWCA near you, look in the phone book for other numbers. Women like you leave their abusive spouses all the time, and they have children just like you do. There are resources. Courage, lady. Bolster yourself up and find them. You have to do this for your children and yourself regardless of fear.
Hugs and prayers...
Your keywords are "physically abusive to us all." Get out!!!
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That's still no excuse to be rude and critical, or abusive
to others.
Don't mind extra work as long as it is not abusive
I used to always work my shift and then try to do 2-3 early Sunday mornings. I was stopped from doing that because we could not work more than 40 hours. If there is help needed after my 40 hours I certainly do not mind helping out when needed - as long as this does not become abusive and you are expected to be available 10, 12 or more hours a day, night, and weekends. I have been there and it just got out of hand. I am comfortable with less than 50 hours a week.
CAREER versus JOB--lovin' my CAREER
Career definition:
1. an occupation or profession, esp. one requiring special training, followed as one's lifework:
2. a person's progress or general course of action through life or through a phase of life, as in some profession or undertaking.
3. success in a profession, occupation, etc.
Job definition:
1. A specific task done as part of one's occupation or for an agreed price
2. post of employment; full-time or part-time position: She was seeking a job as an editor.
3. anything a person is expected or obliged to do; duty; responsibility.
Hence, medical transcription requires special training. This is a CAREER.
The report we transcribe is a job with a job number.
I love this CAREER and am proud to be in my 12th year as a medical transcriptionist. I'm not rich, but my consistent $18 to $20 per hour equivalent is pretty darn good in this small town where the cost of living is pretty low.
LOVING MY CAREER!!!! :)
Career? this thing is not a career anymore...sm
this is a sweat shop job right up there with all the illegal sweat shops out there.
Right now, i have no other choice but to do this "job" because with my disabilities, no other place will hire me and I especially cannot work out of the home anymore. Until I can get disability, I guess I will continue to do this job, until we are all phased out by Indian MTs and VR.
Maybe you need to reconsider this relationship.
What you have described has many elements of an abusive relationship. He blames you for everything. He becomes angry at you for no reason. He withdraws from you. He accuses you of lying. You're walking around on eggshells trying to cater to his "moods". He never takes any responsibility for problems. This cannot be a rewarding relationship for you. You are obviously a very loyal and caring person. You deserve to be treated better. You deserve a relationship with someone who will return your affection and will treat you with respect. You might at least want to consider getting out of this relationship for awhile, until your current boyfriend takes some initiative himself to get help. I don't think anything you say or do will have an effect; he will need to determine for himself that he needs to change. Otherwise, he'll just keep blaming you. Please take care of yourself.
this is my kind of relationship too
 Just being comfortable and enjoying each other. Its so hard to find that, people want you to be a certain way and it creates so much stress. Just allow each other to "be", no criticizing allowed! I see married couples just picking at one another, its sad. I'm definitely a hard person to match up because of how laid back I am. You mentioned being lazy, well I probably have you beat, i'm like a lion, i'm thrilled to take a nap. I'm really very easy to please, if my guy found a blade of grass outside my door and attempted to tie it in the shape of a rose to hand to me, I would break out in tears of happiness. Its just so easy, wish people would understand that. Just cuddle and do the little things and be joyful. Happy Valentines day.
Yes, if you have a good relationship, obviously - sm
if you have been estranged for years, or they abused you, etc. then NO. I am not looking forward to possibly taking in one of my in-laws in the future (my dad has a younger wife, so he has her to take care of him). I get along with them but I don't want to live with them though, they each drive me nuts in different ways. My goal would be to get them a small house or apt. in the area and do it that way though. Condo's are coming near us soon, hard to believe in the rural area we are in but the sprawl is coming, so that would be my wish (5 miles away). However lots of down sides to doing this, and perceived as being selfish I am sure, it will totally disrupt your life, you may become a taxi driver if they cannot or are unwilling to drive (my MIL won't drive more than 5 miles to get somewhere)(they are strict catholics, nearest catholic church is 45+ minutes away), become nurse/cook, etc. So if we ever do do it, we will have to think long and hard, and not erroneously open up our mouths before we think of what it really means. Responsibility is the word, though had it been my mom I wouldn't have felt that way. Obviously you don't want to do it if you are going to be resentful, that is the problem I will probably have to overcome at some point.
Definite relationship here...
Note that as transcription has moved further and further from the hospital (to outside hospital employee, then to US transcription vendor, then to offshore, and finally to the ultimate form of distance - machine-generated transcription) the hourly compensation and benefits have deteriorated steadily.
As the MT is pushed further and further from the source, she becomes more and more of an faceless and, consequently, powerless entity. Welcome to Never-Never Land!
yes, have a very good relationship
with my supervisor. Like I said, neither the MTSO or our MAJOR client have converted to it yet, so maybe we won't.
Absolutely. Our relationship is first priority. sm
Otherwise our marriage would have failed years ago as so many do. Sure we both have different interests and different ways of thinking, but we respect each others space in that regard and we teach this to our children as well.
We were both married before to the types that needed to make themselves and their controlling families top priority and neither of us could ever figure out why they did that.
We were lucky though as our parents never interfered and they always made their relationship their number one priority. What happened in their private lives was none of our business. My parents would have been married for 60 years in May, but both are gone now. His parents have been married for 51 years.
Our older two are grown and gone and thankfully live locally (by their own choice). They call to say hello, but not every day. We watch the grandkids when we can. We do say no when we can't. We'd never dream of interfering in their private lives unless there was an obvious issue that put any of them in danger.
We still have 2 younger teens at home and both are doing fine . . . .for teens that is!
I've no turkey left already with the teenager appetite! 
Love/hate relationship
There are so many things I love about this job, working on my own, being at home, no office politics, better money than I can make anywhere locally, (I live in a rural community) can work in my jammies, flexibility, intellectually challenging...but then again so many things I dislike too.. no appreciation, being squeezed out by technology, not being paid what you're worth, forcing yourself to be self-disciplined, sitting for hours, hands aching, no respect from doctors or the public (Hey, I can type so can I get a job doing what you do??? UGH!), ESLs and poor dictators... it's hard to say which side of me wins out on most days.. It's a job, like any other job, good days/bad days... suits my lifestyle for now so I'll keep at it.. but always keep my eyes open for the future.
I agree with having a good relationship.
Patti, you have probably earned respect because of your excellent turnaround, attention to detail, and responding in a timely fashion when things can get "hairy" so to speak and the office is in need of a report. I also have that kind of relationship with the offices I transcribe for and it is very nice. When I lost my mother, one of my docs, called me personally and told me that he was not at all worried about late dictation because "family comes first". I know these docs are hard to come by, but I have also responded to his STAT requests in a timely manner. I have managed to please his staff and do not come off (just because I'm an IC) that I am not a part of their team and feel the same stresses that come along with being part of the staff. I have been offered lunch if I'm there and a rep has brought in some sandwiches. I have sat and eaten that lunch, too (not everytime) but I want to be part of the team. I think this very much increases your productivity and then like you said when it comes time that you may not have gotten that report back, it is not taken as such a bad thing. We are all human. I feel the OP should have a contract with this office and specify her charges as such. I'm sure glad someone understands though that there are some great offices out there that really do care about their staff, including their IC transcriptionist. 
I agree here. He may have developed a new relationship on the side. Sorry. nm
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Isn't it an "at will" relationship, meaning that no cause is needed at all?
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..usually reading that either party can end the relationship at any time, but yours may be dif
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This sounds like my kind of relationship! No great expectations and you can relax
I always have a fear of disappointing people. It has caused me to isolate myself...
New career
I found myself wanting to leave transcribing after many years, but was at a loss as to how to make such a drastic change in my forties. I saw an ad in the paper for a medical malpractice defense firm. They were looking for a transcriber to train as a legal secretary. I made the move and have been much happier. They needed my medical background and I needed a chance. It can happen! Good luck!
mt career
You are not a loser! I had all your same experiences and am being treated like a dog as well. I just pray each day for a new direction in life. I haven't really "given up" but life used to be good; now I feel like I am "begging." I am also being kicked to the curb for being "too old" and that hurts. No one is "old" unless they want to be. There are a lot of smart mouths out there who will make you "feel old" but hang in there. There is a place for us, you shall see. The day "technology" gets someone in deep doo doo, they will realize that outsourcing is a major mistake, perhaps not in our time, but it should not be a cottage industry nor a piecework production industry. We should be treated just as professionally as those behind the real mahogany furniture. They'll learn and the sooner the better for all of us! Hang in there, you're not alone. This is not something just anyone off the street can do. The lawsuits will start pouring in and it will be their own fault for being so "cheap" with good people who deserve to be treated professionally.
If it keeps your career going, do it.
I think Bo Jackson did the same thing to keep playing baseball and who knows how many others have had hip replacements.
Besides, Prince would have looked a little odd pulling up to the mic in a scooter. Would have been awkward dancing in one too.:)
we need a new career
i think we should realize by now, our jobs are being phased out. face it, technology is getting the best of us. right now, there are no transcription jobs in medical offices in this part of massachusetts. they are gone. we need to move forward, not look back and do something we always wanted to do. how bout dipping chocolates or body parts, lol. take up cake decorating; extreme cakes like on the food channel. this is a lighthearted look at things to come. please don't be negative. what did u want to be when you grew up? i think i wanted to be an astronomer...yah right. i flunked science.
This IS my new career!
Years ago I graduated from a major univerity and went into business, ending up in mangement positions at a high tech company, a hospital, and several other medical companies. I had a private office overlooking the water,a good salary and benefits, staff do do my "crap work", and a whole lot of headaches. Now I'm a medical transcriptionist. I love what I'm doing. I'm making less money, but not doing too shabby. Plus, no expenses for commuting, a work wardrobe, lunches out - it's amazing how those things add up. Compared to what I used to do, this job is a breeze - it's so relaxing sitting at a keyboard and not having to deal with all the crap that goes on in companies. Wouldn't go back for the world. Whether this is a good field is all about what you're looking for. For those who are disillusioned, I'd advise finding another field or position that fits you better.
I also thank God for my career!
After 10 years of doing this, I love getting up in the morning and starting my day. I love my doctors and PAs. I hated working in an office and driving, as well. I love the quietness of my setting and finishing up at a decent time. My company appreciates me and takes care of me. I wish I found this company years ago. My money combined with my husband's is very good. I pray I will retire with this place. Please find a company and work type you love to transcribe! It's truly the way to go to be happy. I get a rush with every new word I have to look up and find it a challenge. I jump for joy when I find that word and learn something new. I guess that's what our job is all about!
So what new career did you go into?
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I have a career
I don't understand why an MT can't consider her job her career? I make 40,000 a year. I work in my home. I can take a day off whenever I want. I am left alone. My husband was a carpenter for 25 years. Now that the housing market has fell out from under us, he has no job. He is trying to find a job and looking at making 8.00 to 10.00 an hour, if he is LUCKY, after making 30.00 an hour for years. We are lucky to have a job. There are a lot of people out there who consider 30,000 to 40,000 a year as good money. I think we have been shut in our houses for too long and don't realize what we have. All I see on this board is complaining and crying about how horrible it is. At least you have a job.
This has been a great career -- SM
I graduate this December with my Bachelor's in Science; major in biology/premed studies with a double minor in chemistry and history. I have a seat in the freshman class of 2006 at UAMSC to obtain my M.D.
This has been a great career for me all these years.
The posters who make such statements that those with higher educations still deciding to do MT work are pitiful -- that's their pitiful attitude. Don't listen to it.
Yes, same one...very happy with this career ..just going on to
do more with my life. :)
Now your attitude is REALLY showing! LOL
Career Step
Hi - have any of you received your training from Career Step? If so, would you recommend the program? Thanks for you feedback.
Well I'm starting my career YEA
So I put my two weeks notice in at my mortgage job and I'm about to embark on my MT career, I have been doing this part time for a year and asked my employer for more accounts and they were kind enough to give me more work !!!!!! So I'm not anticipating making much at first but gas prices will be $5.00 a gallon anyway soon and it will not pay to drive anywhere. So if anyone wants to give this sort of newbie any good advice it will appreciated... I'm so excited !!!!
Hello I'm about to embarke on my career
I have worked for the mortgage industry and I cannot deal with the rude loan officers anymore. So I have been doing this part time for 6 months and I just received a new account and I'm embarking on my MT career. Any advice, I'm leaving a 30000.00 a year job for this full time and I know I will not make much as I can only get 130 lines an hour right now....but I'm excited
career step
I am considering going to Career Step. I have been working as an MT for a few months now, but I do not feel that the course I took prepared me for the "real" world of transcription. My only question is that I also noticed the price diff in these online courses. That is primarily the reason why I am choosing to go with Career Step. MTec seems like a good school, but they are 3x as much. Will I get just as good an education?
Career Step
It's true, you get what you pay for. Andrews is #1, M-Tec is #2, and Career Step is a distant 3rd.
Career Step
I am attending Career Step. I have also been hired as a MT while still attending. I think the course is good. Good luck!!
M-Tec and Career Step
xx
Career Step
is the largest online school of medical transcription. You can join their forum even if you are not a student so that you can see for yourself what the grads in the forum say about their training. They are in there talking about their jobs all the time. Big companies like Spheris and Medquist and Transolutions hire CS graduates.
a bad career choice
Career Step
Have you been to Career Step's website. It is a very friendly community there and you would get lots of support on their forums. www.careerstep.com.
Is Career Step it?!
Any graduates of Career Step? Any information about how you felt about your experience would be greatly appreciated. I was so impressed by the website and information that I have received in the mail. I make $10/hr now in an office job. What are the chances that I can meet this as a grad?
Career Step is IT!
Hi,
I'm a CS graduate and would HIGHLY recommend them. I was so well prepared, I received a job offer in less than 24 hours from one of the top employers, AND I was able to start out in acute care as a grad.
Email me if you have additional questions. CS ROCKS!!!!
"We" don't need a new career
but it sounds like you sure do. You are so full of a negative attitude. Time for YOU to move on, for sure.
career insult
Thank you! I have an aunt with the same name . . . Louise. She is my favorite aunt and always in my corner. I just had to say that. I hope your daughter is able to cope better these days. Cerebral palsy is not an easy thing to deal with. And you! To do this type of work and care for another with CP --You deserve a huge pat on the back, hug and so much more. Thank you for your support. I have gotten so much from this board. Bless you!
Career change to E-Bay?
I have read on these boards many of the MTs leaving for different career choices. Many for nursing or such, but are there any of us out there that has consider or is doing E-Bay sales? I have dabbled in this. I am wondering if anyone would like to e-mail me what they are doing and if they find it a nice change.
Thanks.
-Losing faith- 
Look at Career Step
If you know the content you can take the tests.
Sounds like you need a new career
you don't need a career change...IF ALL MTs sm
would stop taking those low-paying jobs then eventually the MTSOs would HAVE to begin paying a decent line rate. I have 25 years experience and have been offered 8 cents!!! ridiculous. can't pay the bills on that.
medtech career
Hi Everybody,
I'm thinking of changing careers and becoming an m.t, but I have some ?'s...I've been reading and researching MT careers and I'm a little concerned about Voice Recognition Technology. Do you think it will have a serious impact on this industry? Also, what about work going off-shore? Those are my two main concerns. I don't want to invest a lot of time and $$ and not be able to get a job
Salary.com listed the average salary somewhere in the high 30K a year range...does that sound about right?
Last but not least, what program is best? I've been checking into several. I've been corresponding with a very nice lady from medtranscription.com. Does anyone out there know anything about this program? They're not an ahdi approved school, but they do provide actual transcription for you to do, so when you graduate, you actually have bonafide transcription experience. And they've been in business for quite some time. It sounds good to me, but I need some advice from "veterans"
Your help is greatly appreciated! Thanks! Laura
Don't care what others think of my career (sm)
Depending on who asks, I just tell them I'm in healthcare. And then from there, if they ask specifically and I sense they really are interested, I'll say MT and go into details. If they make an ignorant comment about how nice it is to work at home - it's easy - I ask if they think they could do it. That gets them thinking and shuts them up. Ah-ha, so it's not so easy with the kids around
I will say that doctors, nurses, MAs, x-ray techs, etc. - at least the many I've met over the years - all have said we have the toughest job in healthcare. When I laugh, they say, no seriously. For example, my OB/Gyn has to call into a dictation line to get obstetrical ultrasound results, and she said most of the time she has to make a STAT transcription request because she can't understand not even three words of what her colleagues are dictating. So, IMO among healthcare professionals, it's a respected field 
I just told my best girlfriend, who is in sales for a major bank and complains that her sales are hurting, how much money I make (about $30/hr) and wanted to make ($80,000/year), and she had a newfound respect.
Questions about career as MT
Am thinking about becoming an MT. Curious about best school to attend and expenses other than schooling that I will incur. Besides computer, what other equipment is needed? Does pay reflect speed and accuracy? Does location affect pay? Appreciate any advice you can give. Thanks.
Career Step
Career Step is one of the top 3 AHDI-approved schools. If you work well independently at your own pace, it may be a good program for you. It is an online course. I know from experience that employers will hire for at-home transcription work immediately after graduation from CS.
Re: Career Step
Hello,
I just began the Career Step Online Training Course a couple of weeks ago. You answered a question to a concern that I had from the very start. I wondered if they really help the student transition into an at-home MT position upon completion of the course. You stated that "from experience" you can say that they get you to work right after graduation.
If you don't mind me asking, can you give me some feedback on your experience with Career Step, please? How long did it take you to complete the course? How long after completion did you obtain employment at home? Is it fairly easy to understand what the physician is saying as you transcribe? How do they prefer to pay their at home employees? Those are examples of questions I have.
Looking forward to hearing from you! :)
Dianne
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