Your tone makes it very difficult to be supportive. nm
Posted By: celestialmls on 2006-11-24
In Reply to: Things you don't know - Yeah, I'm stressed
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The tone was not supportive
I am sorry, but the message was completely overbearing and rude. There would have been many more ways to go about giving the message with being so mean about it. Why be rude to someone who is already upset. That just isn't right.
how very supportive of you
I guess you are trying to be funny, but this is not a very helpful post. I also don't get the Bob or Joseph part. Huh?
Do you have any suggestions or advise just giving up, so I don't become as cynical as you are?
How very supportive of you
Maybe this is why you can't find a job. Don't jump all over me, I haven't worked since Sept. so don't come on here blasting me for not feeling sorry for you.
Where has all the work gone, or the majority of it? Answer that question and you may be able to get over feeling sorry for yourself long enough to figure it out.
I guess you have not had the pleasure of calling one of the infamous call centers that have all ouotsourced to India. It is always Bob or Joseph that answers the phone, get it now?
The best way to help is to be supportive by putting
You didn't get pregnant. You sound very self rightous and with I told you so attitude. A decision to carry the pregnancy, terminate it or give up for adoption is not one to be made lightly or out of guilt because someone forced their own opinions down the throat of someone who obviously needs help. Being condescending doesn't bolster her self image to find the courage to live with whatever decision she makes. She needs support, not degradation, not put downs, not made to feel worse than she already does. This is a decision she will live with every day...not one you will have on your mind every day of your life.
Knowledge knows when to speak. Wisdowm knows when to listen.
Thanks for the supportive words - sm
What really is getting to me lately is that I am an IC. Technically I can work whenever I want to work. My plan for the summer was to work early mornings. My kiddos like to sleep in. But, as it turns out, there usually is next to nothing to work on in the early morning. The work builds up throughout the morning and usually is full-blown by late afternoon, so that plan is not working. Looks like my only option is late night transcription, but that won't always work either, as far as availability of work. My "sweet" little guys are sleeping soundly right now and I am starting to breathe normally again!
Thank ya'll for the supportive words...sm
it naturally hasn't been easy today - especially getting up this morning and feeding the other cat and dog and knowing that I didn't have to put food in her bowl. My niece came over today and brought a flower for her grave. I have sent in a post for Rainbow Bridge but it hasn't shown up yet. I'm presuming that the owner probably screens post requests?
I'd love to see how supportive you'd be of this person
Because people like this don't make "a mistake," they make a lifetime of messing around in other people's lives and then looking for support and pity before going on to do it again and again.
Yes, and his team members were supportive, which will help. sm
I've been trying to think of where I saw Kelly LeBrock before -- wasn't she the one who did those commercials for the shampoo, saying "Don't hate me because I'm beautiful?" I might be thinking of someone else. I guess I'm showing my age, just by mentioning that commercial ... oops. 
Excellent, supportive comment, Fly. :) nm
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Just wanted to say "Thanks" for all the supportive posts...
I will let you know how the mammogram turns out. All prayers appreciated!
Ya'll have been so supportive and wonderful. Can I be honest? sm
This is absolutely a dream job for me. I was also told yesterday (although I was hesitant to share this info) that they also would like me to write for the company! They gave me a list of topics for the next year (24 of them - 2 per issue) and I can choose whatever topics I feel comfortable with and just write! I'm an avid journaler with a dream all of my life to write a book. So, this whole thing is just blowing me away. I can't believe it.
There are so many writing/freelance writers websites out there with thousands of potential writers and aspiring writers who are dying for a chance like this. I am just humbled.
Talked to hubby last night. He doesn't think I can afford to quit QAing/MTing right now. So, I am going to ask to be very part time and see what they say! I also have to change my schedule around to accommodate this new position.
Thank you, each and every one of you, for your very positive response. You know, I didn't receive one negative response and I am just so surprised! Thanks again.
K
You have a schedule, what you don't have is a supportive husband..not adivce from me..just sympat
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People are supportive in different ways. My style offends, I can see that. SM
All I am trying to say to CS (the original poster) is that her career self-esteem shouldn't be based on passing or failing the CMT exam and definitely career advancement has nothing to do with passing or failing the CMT examination. And nothing the AAMT has to offer is worth the price of admission to their association.
CS needs to have confidence in her skill level without looking for validation from an organization that has invalidated us all by endorsing the outsourcing of American jobs overseas.
She needs to realize her mistake now and not give any more of her money or time to the AAMT.
Her tone was not reasonable.
Believe me, she couldn't afford me anyway if all she's getting is newbies applying.
I read through everything and your tone
did change when you stopped hearing what you wanted to hear.
My first impression of wrong thinking was your statement of being "employed for a year as an IC." That is a contradictory statement. An IC is not employed. An IC is contracted with. The IC decides the schedule and the company, if the work is there, agrees to provide said work to the IC on the schedule offered. The MTSO does have the right to set a turn around deadline because of its contract with its client. If that IC does not (on several occasions, albeit out of your control) meet those schedules, the MTSO still has a business to run.
I honestly feel sorry for both of you. It isn't surprising on the MTSO's part to train someone else while planning your exit. That is common in most industries. It sounds like there is a lot more to this story than has been shared here. I'm sorry that you are in a pinch but at the same time, maybe you have learned something about the business of business. I hope things get better for you soon.
I agree about the tone..sm
Everyone has things in their lives that are not expected and a challenge to our daily lives. Everyone, not just you. Yes, we all can become resentful about those things when they impinge on our happiness, but not all of us bring it to a message board looking for sympathy. You volunteered for work and then vented about the kind of work you got. We all have forms of stress in our lives. It is how we deal with those stresses that makes us grow as a person and spiritually. Sometimes we need to step away from our own self-pity and place those feelings in a direction of thankfulness for what we do have. I wish you many rich blessings in the near future.
Not the words so much as the tone
And I am really tired of this same old refrain - MT doesn't pay enough, boo hoo.
Owners set the tone
Owners can indeed be nice, but they also need to set the tone, or the corporate culture, for *nice*. Polite and respectful has to be the clearly stated expectation for behavior by everyone. *It goes without saying* does, indeed, need to be said and reiterated every so often. The idea that everyone in the firm is a client of every other employee needs to be stressed. Some of these things are fairly easy for the owners to check. Ever call your own business as a potential new hire and see how you're treated? Ever call Technical with a problem and describe yourself as a worker instead of a boss? It can be a real eye opener, and it's something owners need to know.
setting the tone...
This is meant for e-mail but it is also helpful on message boards too...enjoy:
http://www.ewriteonline.com/index.php?display=ArticleDetails&id=358
Yes, but the tone of your posts...
is the problem... not what is being said, but how it is being said.
Same tone of denial that was used when the MT world went from
"Oh, it'll never happen," "It'll never work"
Yep, keep kidding yourself, girl! 
I hate the tone of these responses.
They sound so vindictive. Liz is trying to remedy a lot of problems here, so the least we can do is be civil. I think we have all had problems at one time or another with something, but the sign of maturity is to try to iron out the problems and then get on with your life. Harboring strong feelings of animosity is not good for you.
the tone of your post is so familiar
If you somehow follow my other posts, which are mostly just vents, and why you are following them so closely? Who are you???
I would rather not respond to your questions, as your tone seems a little angry
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Your tone sounds 100% whining and bitter.
That's why I call your posts whining and bitter! The other poster stated her case in a mature way, using stats as her back up. No whining, no bitterness. I have not formed an opinion on the AAMT either way to date, but am leaning more pro-AAMT by just the style of postings - those supporting it come off as calm, professional, and mature, while those not supporting it sound emotional, bitter, and whining. Just my opine and reaction to the posts!! Debate much? Its a great skill, and long lost in America...
Basically, if you get a dial tone, it's hooked up right. NM
You didn't like the tone of her voice or her leaving a message?
You're a real piece of work.
Have many friends?
C-phone help! Dial tone ok, but keys will not work.
There is a dial-tone when handset is lifted. Keys do not work to program, dial, ect. This is the same for 2 different units. Any suggestions?
Drug called Spineral lack tone, I looked everywhere?????
HELP
I love it too! I have my emails from work make a ringing tone
and pop up on my desktop,much like Yahoo messenger or IM. It's great. Never miss an email and can respond right away.
No dial tone? No foot control? What's wrong? Are all parts plugged in? Is your phone
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For me, it 's more difficult after 2 p.m.
doesn't matter what it is. But that's only because I've been doing it since 4:30.
It can be difficult...
to know the right thing to do. So many companies are unfair to their MT's, but is it right to dish it right back to them?
I would say it depends on how they treat you. If they are great to work for then be fair to them. If they are awful to work for then, well, use your best judgment.
If you do lower your rate just be sure that they understand this is your rate for THIS account of mostly macros. If they want you to do an account with straight typing they need to readjust.
Good for you for having high values in an industry that is getting more and more amoral every day :-)
Not difficult for you maybe
But obviously she wouldn't have posted if she didn't have feelings of uncertainty about it. I know when I have had to make a decision about something being right or wrong I find it difficult. You have a clear opinion on this, she didn't. I was just trying to be supportive. I WAS NOT making a blanket statement that it is difficult to treat a bad company badly, or playing the SAME GAME that your company is playing. Geez!!!!
Not only is it the most difficult sm
it is also extremely depressing, or at least it was for me. I used to work for M. D. Anderson years ago and did a lot of Peds. Also, the protocols change faster than you can keep up with them so expect to spend a lot of time searching but internet would probably make it easier. Good luck and I hope you like it...somebody has to do it but not this body anymore.
How difficult is it to set up?sm
Also, what equipment do I need? I have a Linksys wireless broadband router.
Yes but difficult! nm
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I was LPN 30 yrs ago. It is more difficult now. SM
I would encourage you taking the course, but then try working in a doctor's office, clinic or private duty. Most definitely, not in a hospital.
I remember loving the course, but hating it when I got out into the real world.
So difficult
It is very difficult for me too sometimes. So many tragedies.
It seems life is often so tough. My views and understanding of where and why we came from have been changing over the last few years, and I am having a very rough time trying to make some sense of it.
I don't know if any particular field is more difficult
than the next, if all you do is type one speciality. I think ER and Psych are mentally hard because with ER a lot of the patients die and it is depressing and then psych is depressing because of the severe dysfunction of the patients and/or their families. Oncology can be depressing too cause outcomes are not always great and like the previous poster said frequent new meds.
I used to transcribe for a teaching hospital connected to a medical school and that dictation was very hard, much more technical than your normal hospital, lots more dictators too and a new crop every July.
It's difficult but necessary to be in control
Otherwise you are simply allowing little Hitlers to grow up and become *adults* - your job is not to be their friend, your job is to be their parent.
Why would you allow your kids to have friends that you wouldn't allow in your house if they were your friends?
Why would you allow filthy language, out-of-control behavior, and downright liars even on your property?
Are you afraid of your kids? if so, why?
Good luck
It is so difficult for MTs these days
With voice recognition, hospital cut backs, and companies overseas. I have been doing this 30+ years and have enjoyed it up until now. I can so relate with you. I have been looking at a company SilentType? Any input on them or any others who do not consider you an IC, I don't mind paying my own cable or DSL as I have that for home anyway.
It is difficult, I won't deny that.
I stretch quite often.
I take breaks, too, or I couldn't do it at all.
I won't be doing this more than about 2 years so I can hold out.
I'm not kidding though, I have to work hard and I'm not bouncing around like Tigger at the end of the day. I'm tired and sometimes sore. I can't make this kind of money from the comfort of my home anywhere else though!
Was very difficult to learn and there are
still some things I cannot get the hang of. But, it is the only Expander I am permitted to use so had to bite the bullet after resisting for a few months. Takes about three months go use it effectively. Try using it for a few hours every day. When you get frustrated, close it and type everything out. On short-fuse days, skip it altogether. Over a few months, with this method, you will begin to develop speed and each new problem will be solved one by one so your line count will not get suffer greatly. Using IT requires doing a massive amount of reading initially. But, I have to say, I love it now (and am still learning how to use it six months into using it).
Difficult to remember
I also have struggled with that. I have been trying to think of a creative way to remember, but I keep coming up empty. If you think of someway to keep it straight in your mind let me know.
Why would you find this so difficult to believe?
Especially considering that Brad PItt - famous movie star - had the world by the family jewels with a beautiful wife, Jennifer - multimillion dollar mansions and $$$$ coming out the ying yang, yet he up and left it all to be with a woman who's a lesbian, Angelina Jolie, PLUS he adopted her two orphan children to boot, as well as knocked her up.
Now .... who do you think has more power over Brad - his mother or Angelina? Think about it, not that it needs a lot of contemplation...Angelina can do things for Brad his mother never can, if ya' know what I mean, which is why I told the original poster to LET IT GO because she's FIGHTING A LOSING BATTLE SHE CANNOT EVER WIN.
Radiology is not that difficult ...
it does take some extra study of anatomy, and a good radiology word book, and there are websites where you can learn a lot about radiology. I do both acute care and radiology, and I like both.
Almost always the first except if a difficult dictator. (sm)
Then I am constantly listening again to make sure I have it correct.
Difficult decision
Hi,
It sounds like, despite all the problems, that you love him and want to remain a family, particularly for the sake of your son.
Without disrespecting that, what I would suggest is that you tell your husband to either grow up already (and pull his weight around the house while he is at it) or please go ahead and divorce you and marry his mama.
In the meantime, make sure that your name is not on his credit card bills, etc. and that you DO expect him to provide child support while he is absent from the family, the home, the marriage. If he fails or refuses, take him to court--that should make him wake up and smell the coffee and grow up fast. Otherwise, let mama figure out how to manage his payee check with that new expense.
HTH.
It isn't that difficult to create your own...
Yes, it will take a bit of time, but you will then have a test that belongs to you. Any that you might find on the internet are most likely not meant for the use of others.
You have a very difficult situation
and I wish you the best. For many who work outside the home, they can stop and forget for a little while the problems they have at home. They are able to socialize, confide, and have outside relationships. You have made a hard and a valid choice for your priorities. Stick to it. Be proud of the choices you made. As for the family, pretend they are just background noise and turn down the volume.
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