Your time at home with your child is so
Posted By: short...! on 2005-07-19
In Reply to: I agree - Kira
Your child is better with you..being near the sounds, the smells, the love of mom. I recognize that some moms have to put their children in daycare, but to rationalize it that they are "better off" there because if you stay at home with them and work, they aren't getting enough attention just isn't right. You find a way to give them the love and attention they need. Is daycare going to sit there and give your child one-on-one attention all day? Are you prepared to have your child be sick all the time? My daughter has barely had a cold in her first five years of life. It's just a cop out to think that daycare is actually better.
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If it were my child, I wouldn't come home either
but just because they arrested those three guys, doesn't mean they're guilty. They have no clues, no facts, no body.
Someday someone may stumble on her bones, but mom is going to go through hell till then. Dead is easier than missing.
It is sad but true that if she had not been a pretty, young blonde from America, she would have been forgotten right about day three.
I had a child living at home when....sm
When I first opened up the small MTSO in '97, I still had a child at home. Once she left, I turned her room into the room for the national I work for and is a formal office but also serves as a guest bedroom. The private MDs I do in my master bedroom (it's huge!!!!! not bragging but it's really a huge room) and is just the way I had it set up when my daughter was still living at home right thru 2000, her bedroom was the 2nd bedroom and was NOT an office until she left, nor did I work for this national until she left home (she lives around the corner from me, like 2 miles *L*). It would be a huge undertaking for me to put them both into one room now. And if I do not stay with the national, down the road, well there will be absolutely no problem there. Anyone else I take on, I would put in the master bedroom to do their work today.
hope that all made sense......*lol*
If I lost a child, I wouldn't go home either.
I'd search and search until I found out what happened. Aruba's law enforcement obviously isn't getting the job done. And the chaperones are in NO WAY responsible for an 18-year-old ADULT high school graduate. The girl was responsible for her own actions, no matter how irresponsible she was. Just because she got drunk doesn't give anyone the right to harm her either.
If he were my child I'd home school in a nannosecond and here's why...sm
I don't believe in putting kids on antidepressants if there's a problem that can be addressed without medication. With his medical problems that you mentioned he's probably having some kids at school harrass him.... and when he gets older he'll be able to select situations to get into that will limit this type of social trauma.
With home schooling growing in popularity you can easily plug him in with others who are around his age and home schooling. Here in Georgia they've even gotten some home schooling football teams and bands up because so many kids are home schooled now to help them feel more like the "regular" kids.
I have a child now that unless the public middle school is significantly cleaned up by the time she gets that age that I'll be home schooling her as there's no way in heck I'm sending her to that pit. A lot of parents in my area home school their middle school kids because the middle school here is horrendous between the crappy teachers who don't give a toot, the bullying and overall poor attitude by a lot of people at that school. Fortunately the demographics in our area are changing so hopefully as more expensive homes are built our county will put more emphasis on cleaning up this particularly bad school. We'll see.
We're at about $2,200 with only 1 child left at home.
My DIL gets about only $2,000 in SS benefits for herself and 3 children. We helped her set her basic living expenses (car, heating, electric and water) at just about $1,000 a month but by the time you add in groceries, gas, car insurance, cable and telephone she really feels the pinch.
Like Tinks said, she needed to be home with her child
who was sick. People have different reasons for doing everything in life. It seems to me that she does pretty well for herself. To say that we are just trying to be housewives though and are not professionals is just ridiculous.
I also sure do not like being told that I cannot make it in a job outside of the home when in fact I have and will again. We are not trying to be super moms, but just trying to work and be happy like the rest of the world.
And I find this all very amusing coming from a person who keeps stating that she has a housekeeper and a gourmet chef for a husband.
Some of the ladies here are single moms trying to make it and have a career. Somebody needs to get off their high horse.
You should take this as far as you can. The next time it may be a child on the other end of the
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Spending too much time with your child?
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Agree. Next time may be YOUR child with
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i have 4 in school and only allow one activity per child per time. sm
oldest is just basically not involved as she wants to "hang out with friends" at games, etc. 10 and 9yo both are in cheerleading, practice 2 days a week for 2 hours, games on saturdays. 7yo in cub scouts, maybe one gathering a week at most. it is hectic enough just getting each child to where they gotta go, keep up with house, homework, chores, and work for me. no way, can we do more than 1 activity per child at any given time. nowadays they have homework 1-2 hours per night and highschooler with honors has sometimes 2-3 hours a night after being at school for what 8 hours....
In time past my child was diagnosed
with a disease that is catastrophic. He was in college and quit that day. I was employed in hospital setting and immediately sat up Cobra, and carried it for about 4 months I think until which time he got a job and got his own medical insurance. My insurance covered as long as the child was in college. I knew with the disease if no insurance bridge would never be able to be covered again and with the cost of the medications needed just an overwhelming thought and even though I have money, would never be able to cover the costs of thousands every month to be paid out.
My child worked part-time at 14 after school
She started at minimum wage and now is an office coordinator and medical assistant for 2 surgeons making much better money (and goes to school at night). She didn't work at 14 to pay for her stuff. She stashed all the money away as she had always done with birthday and holiday money and so at 17 she bought her own car! This child amazes me - she GOT the work ethic!!!! *lucky mom here* Actually it was more than luck....it was hard work on my part but it ALL paid off. A lot of it was based on my own insanity. I had to know if, G_d forbid something happened to me, that she could support herself, take care of herself, earn a good living, and keep on keepin' on in a forward-moving pattern. She is doing just that!!
Proud mother here....
Working full time at home with small children is hard but part time works great
is almost impossible. You will either have to work when your spouse is home or for only a few hours during the day and then more when they are asleep. I work part time at home and my kids (2&5 now) have done very, very well. They are great kids, very well behaved, don't get into much. I stop working to check on them/give them some attention every hour or so while I work (5 hours each afternoon or so) and they get all my attention in the morning and at night. It has worked out beautifully for us.
full-time in office/ part-time at home
I currently work full-time in a physician's office and have started part-time online. My hope is to eventually go full-time online; however that will be done the road for a single mom with a son in college. My suggestion would be try to type part-time for a MTSO and see how that goes i.e work and money with a decision down the road for ultimately being home all the time. A guaranteed paycheck is always a necessity for me. Hope this helps.
Go to NBC10.com - Our local news has "Wednesday's Child" which is a child for adoption.
Every Wednesday they introduce a child who needs a home and a family. There should be some information there as these kids are up for adoption.
www.NBC10.com -
Hope that helps!
WRONG! A child that has a fear of discipline = a well behaved child.
I have a beautiful, intelligent 11 year old daughter that hasn't had a spanking in 6 or 7 years and probably only 3 her entire life. She is very well behaved and I get compliments on her behavior constantly. When she does get out of line all I have to say is, "Shall I call your father?" Call it what you want, it works. She respects and obeys me and her father. Why??? For fear of the facing the consequences of misbehaving. Having a total lack of fear or respect for authority is exactly what's wrong with Generation X/kids today. I turned out just fine as did my siblings. Why?? Because my parents took "time out" to bust our a$$es whenever we got out of line.
Is that clear enough for you???
Then now is especially the time to be home with them.
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I only have dial-up when working from home (most of the time).
I get my work as dss files as email attachments. Originally I did not think dial-up would work at all, so I set up an office at my mom's house where I have DSL. It does only take seconds to download with DSL, and takes several minutes for a huge file with dial-up. I can download a file while I am transcribing another one. It takes less than a minute for me to send the completed file back. This is certainly acceptable, although I hope they get DSL here soon. It takes longer to Google something.
I'm getting a regular full-time job outside my home.
For 3 or 4 years now, I've been fighting to be able to stay home and work a regular schedule (yeah, right) to take care of family. I was given a sort of intervention recently that I've become a very unhappy person who is always working or waiting for work or worrying about work. I don't laugh or have fun and I've isolated myself. I'm certainly not better off than when I worked in an office and I'm less free if most ways. It's not a good or profitable trade-off anymore. I'm looking forward to separating my home and work life, and to be able to sleep at night again.
Sorry, I meant didn't have to do it at home full time
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anyone feel weird working at home all the time?
Who smiles at everyone way too much and tries too hard to make conversation?
Time saved working at home is about 2 hours
The time it takes to get up, shower, do make-up and hair, dress, get in the car and drive to work, then back home equals about two hours for me. I work a PT job along with a FT job at home. Plus money saved not needing to use a dry cleaners, keeping up the ward robe.
Do you work full time and home school? (nm)
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Mumbai - time to bring our records home
Does anyone wonder not if but when our medical records will be compromised by sending them to India now that the terrorists have taken up residence there? And you folks from India, please don't try to defend as there is no defense. Our medical records are at risk and they need to come back home.
When I took a business trip one time, I came home to an immaculate house.
Then during the next few weeks, I couldn't find certain things like clothes, dishes, and items I kept on the counters. DH had decided to put all the dirty stuff out in the garage where the babysitter couldn't see it because he was embarrased by the mess he and the kids had made. There was mold and mildew on everything because he taped it inside boxes or stuffed it inside coolers, and he forgot to tell me about it.
$15,000.... Hospital employee, telecommuting from home, working less than full-time.
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I've been doing it at home strictly full time for a couple of monts, but
I have 6 years of inhouse exp where my duties was divied up with other admin work and 1 1/2 years on and off exp doing it as an IC at home....so again, I'm no rookie....which is what is frustrating. My oldest is on sprnig break, so if I haven't been fired by next week, hopefully I will get better by then.
Do you have time to waitress? Would be fast cash if you're willing. And home health aides get pai
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Has anyone breast fed while trying to work at home, can you do this and still work full time?
It seems like the more literature I read on the subject, the longer it seems to take, especially in the beginning when you are breast feeding every two hours, or does it really just depend on the baby?
My kids have suffered greatly from me working at home with them home. SM
I have been working at home as an MT since my two kids were born. They are now 4 and 5. In the first few years, I had no help whatsoever. Their father was a bum who didnt work or take care of them while I worked. Your children get neglected while you work basically. And babies and young children desperately need your attention while they are home with you.
My kids have so many behavioral problems right now because of their neglect. I would try to set them up with things to occupy themselves, like coloring or a movie, etc.
I finally put them in day care and things have improved, but there are still a lot of issues because of the damage that was done. They still try to seek attention by doing bad things and they dont listen to me because they are so used to me letting them get away with a lot of stuff because I was too busy typing to discipline them in their early years.
If I could do it all over again, I would definitely have put them into day care from the very beginning.
My advice would be to seek PT care for your baby. Maybe you can do some work around her schedule a little when she is home, like when she takes a nap, and then bang out a bunch of work while she is in day care.
I enjoy being alone at home, but I've got one home sick from school already.
One on one with a kid is nice, too.
This summer has been absolutely crazy. I haven't had a moment to myself for three months because all of my kids were home traipsing their friends through the house and yard. My husband switched his work schedule, too, so he's around more than usual. However, I like not having to do two loads of dishes and four loads of laundry a day. There are no toys or clutter dragged out everywhere. I can clean the house first thing in the morning, and it stays clean until everyone gets home at night.
I even got to relax with a cup of coffee and watch TV for half an hour this morning, something I liked for a change instead of cartoons or kids' movies. I signed up for an online class that I've been wanting to take. I can exercise without being interrupted. Yesterday, I went to the mall and spent all my saved up gift cards. I got some clothes, books, bath stuff, and a new coffee mug. My work gets done a lot faster, too. Call me nuts, but I've never had the luxury of being alone in the house for 14 years. It's kinda nice. I love my family with all my heart, but I love having a few hours to myself each week, too.
Except now the cat and dogs have been acting weird since the kids went back to school. They must think that I need someone or something to clean up after and correct behavior on. They're getting into everything and racing around the house behind me.
my take is that she worked inhouse, not at home, and now wants to find out how to work at home. nm
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Forget "per line." Your take-home pay should be taking home SM
roughly what it was before. If it is not, is it because your current pay rate for editing (which in many companies keeps changing as the VR system is developed) is too low or is it because your talents and skills are more for speed typing than speed editing?
If the first, discuss it with higherups, and go get a new job if you don't get the response you need. My last MTSO was secretly refiguring how production was counted to pay us less. I can accept hard reality, it was the secrecy that burned. Sometimes, though, it's just that the learning curves of individual editors and that of the system aren't in sync, and you end up temporarily making less.
If the second, though, recognize it as soon as possible and change to straight transcription work, in your company or a new one, for as long as you can find it.
As for why we aren't paid more for a higher skill, that's just the way the labor supply ball bounces. Best wishes.
Are you the one with the ill child ???
If so, please realize that the stress of an ill child can be devastating to a marriage. Unfortunately many men deal with this kind of thing by drinking. My best friend in the world went through 4 yrs of fighting leukemia with her little boy who became ill at 12 months. Her husband turned into a total and complete jerk, drinking, and eventually becoming abusive to her. A major medical illness can pull people apart. On the other hand, it sometimes draws people together, but less often. I had our third child extremely premature and she was critically ill for 2 months and then spent another 2 months in the NICU, 4 months total. It was a big stress, but fortunately we weathered it okay. Some people are not so lucky. My first thought is that all this nonsense with your father, and his mother, and wills and money, and all the rest is just something to fixate on. It may very well NOT be the source of the current friction in your home and your marriage. Maybe some counseling if you can get him to go, would be in order. My best to you and your family.
It's no wonder--with a child like you...
your mother probably ripped her own uterus out, and that will be the one and only post to this person. It was just too easy!!
Why would you do that to your child?
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New car for my child
My 17-year-old did get a new car for his birthday for several reasons: He has never given us a bad time about anything, he has a 4.2 GPA, and did a 2,210 on his SAT (the new SAT),is headed to the college he had his eye on for several years now (asked for and got early acceptance letter) and he has been working part-time since he was 14 years old.
We decided to get him a new car because he will need it for school (it's a few states away and we want him to have something dependable) and because he has really gone the distance and worked very hard to get to this point.
I'm really not bragging here, these are just our reasons. He didn't get a fancy racing car, just something that is nice and dependable and made us comfortable.
Anyone whose child has gotten the flu?
Symptoms of coughing, fever, chills and sweats, no appetite, hurts all over, sleepy. Grandson has been this way for 5 days, 2 visits to the doc, lost 2 lbs in 5 days (which for a little guy is a lot). X-rays show no pneumonia. What can we do? Any ideas gratefully appreciated.
Think about the child
and the fact that it is not wanted. Funny I did not hear one mention about adoption in this post. Sometimes abortion is the best choice (IMO).
Let's do think about the child
Adoption has been mentioned in some of the posts, but you may have missed it. A person who kills somebody else may be thinking of many things, but the actual well-being of the person he or she is killing is certainly not one of them. Everyone is "not wanted" by somebody else at some point in their lives.
I think she means she has wireless TO her home, not IN her home..nm
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hospital at-home -vs- national at home
I have an interview today with a hospital...work in-house for 3 months, then go home, paid on production. I don't know as of yet what they pay production, so my question is to anyone who works for a hospital at home AND has also worked for a national at home...
Which would be the best to choose? The hospital offers great benefits, but the national I work for now also has benefits, not as good as the hospital, though. Any input would be most appreciated!
The best defense for a child...
As heart tugging as they are, accurate transcription is sooooo important for any person, there is a lot at stake and your best effort at triple checking what you have typed is our little helping hand at helping those seeking help. Flag ANYTHING you doubt, if you get lost in the "he said, she said," someone else will too and calling attention to those items WILL HELP to ensure the reports are easily read and understood. Keep up the good work, the job we do IS IMPORTANT! Any complaint or abuse is paperwork, paperwork, paperwork, just be sure those you do are the cream to help those who in need.
different child, different methods
I am the mother of two 20-year-olds, 1 boy and 1 girl. I can tell you from first hand experience the type of discipline depends on the child. My daughter, she might have had 2 spankings in her whole life. She could be talked to and punished in other ways that worked. My son, on the other hand, about every 6 months he would be due for a spanking and then he was fine again. I have learned from experience, never say that you will never do something or that you will not do something. If one thing does not work, believe you will go to spanking if it means saving your child.
Any child is more adult than you are.
I grow weary of your tiresome chatter.....
does anyone have a child that models? sm
or in commercials, print ads, etc? My 6 YOS is just adorable (of course!) and he has a very bright, outgoing personality. I am told all the time that he should be in "pictures", but don't know how to go about getting started. I don't have money to invest in all the pictures and things. I know this is probably a long shot, but any info would be greatly appreciated.
Don't think I'd put my child in that business (sm)
It's something they can pursue when they are old enough.
Also, don't spend a lot on pictures, if you have to pay for just reprinting of pictures and they pay for the photographer that is probably reasonable.
CHILD SUPPORT??
 Can ANYONE give me some legitimate service who goes after "deadbeat dads"???? I'm at the end of my emotional rope, and my state (Oklahoma) has not helped much in nailing down this butthead ('cuse my French)....I've talked to a few "services" which IF they get anything from him, they will probably take 60-70% of it!!! Has anyone had any luck anywhere?? Why do these guys (and I'm sure there are gals out there too!) get away with not supporting their kids???
Sorry to vent  ...I type for a living (like you) and beating this keyboard sometimes helps me feel better! Thanks for listening (reading ??)....
child support
Believe me, deadbeat moms are very prevalent, moreso than people think. I know from personal experience that these moms rather spend their money on themselves than send even the tiny amount they are required by law to send to their child, all the time professing how much they love their children.
Child Support
We have a newer prosecuter in one of our local county's who started a new program to go after deadbeat parents. 3 times a year, she post the pictures of the worst offenders on the front pages of the newpapers, along with how much they owe...usually has a pretty good rate of call in's to report seeing them. She's also working extremely hard to get the state to NOT renew drivers lisc. on any of those who are over 2,000 in arrears.
My sister finally got the attention of our prosecuter when her ex got close to 30 grand , the folks at CS just did not seem to have a working phone or at least one they answered, so they went after him, showed up in court, the magistrate took all of 10 minutes to look over the files...asked the idiot and the prosecuter if he had a working wage deduction in place (which he did on paper), and then said...Well he has the wage order in place, so case over
Now how the heck do you think he got to the 30 grand mark if the wage order was working........duh Good luck, been there before and glad mine has paid on time.
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