Your kids come first, not your husband's lifestyle.

I would never work myself to death for any man, no matter what he did for me.  Men are SUPPOSED to be the primary breadwinners in the family.  Paying for your school and your computer.  Pshaw!  I think you've more than made that up already.  Who takes care of your kids while you're working all these jobs?  You're going to regret it so bad when your kids are grown up and all they remember is being in daycare while you work.  Wow, he's got it pretty good with his little indentured servant, doesn't he?  What about what YOU want out of life?  I suppose you do all the housework, too?  You're going to burn out and fry yourself.  How much life insurance does he have on you?  Since obviously money means more to him than his wife and kids' happiness.    Geez, I'd rather be poor, broke, bankrupt, single, and on welfare than working myself to death for any man.

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than our jobs?!?!?!  Geez!  You are probably single with no kids or no kids at home anymore and no hubbie either!  Or you're Burned Out's boss and you are not so subtly letting her know how you feel about vacations.  This isn't a third-world sweat shop, ya know.  We all deserve time off!

How dare you try to make the original poster feel guilty for wanting to take a vacation!  Don't you think women have enough pressure guilt from society what with the guilt we feel for having to work and send our kids to daycare or the feelings of inadequacy career women give stay-at-home, full-time moms because they've chosen to raise kids instead of chase dollar signs and career?!?!?

We should be supporting each other, not tearing each other down! 

I think that you thinking you "put yourself through college" when your parents were paying your tuition and rent kind of says this is the pot calling the kettle black. 

I'm unbelievably rural right now and I'd like to keep it that way.  It is at least a 40 minute commute to any sort of "town" where there are jobs...and for my skills, albeit as a medical secretary or whatever I can do for work along those lines or below them, would max out at MAYBE $10/hour where I am.  I'd have to go back to college for some sort of degree and still wind up leaving this state because there is just no work where I am unless I want to be a truck driver or a nurse...and then I'm still looking at a 40+ hour work week, plus commute, plus another car payment, plus all the hassles that come with working with people.  Ugh.   It just doesn't make smart economic sense to me to dump this job in favor of something that still pays less...again, where I am in this country.

I don't have kids...don't want any either, so that's not my reason for doing this job.  My husband is disabled and we only have 1 vehicl because that's all we need.  If I got a job away from home...that would mean another car and then I'd be working for the car!

I really don't miss office politics and if this job stops for some reason, I think I'm going to shovel manure at a stable on the other side of town before going back to an office setting...but that's just me.  I have the mouth of a sailor and have frankly learned to despise panty hose and high heels and can't ever see myself in that kind of atmosphere ever again...I think it would cause me to implode or something.

It is sad to see the pay being offered though...especially for places who want people to be able to "hit the ground running" and yet offer only 6 cents a line.  Those "employers" need a good smackin'.  However, you can sure as shoot bet they have a ton of applications to wade through and that's totally sad.

How many jobs does your husband work? You're crazy to keep up the hectic schedule you are on right now.  Is money really worth you working yourself to death? If that's the only reason you are looking for more work, tell your husband to get another job.  Sounds to me like you do more than your share!

call her by her first name.  The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away. 

I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated.   Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie.  :-)

But, as someone pointed out, to each his own.  If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that.  I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks."    

My children are lucky to have their mother taking care of them, not a stranger.  I work my butt of taking care of my kids and have made many sacrifices to be able to live this life of working PT and being a full time mother.  I know that I am my kids mom. 

I know that it must be hard for you to look at your kids and tell them that you don't want them to be with you everyday.  The sacrifices could be made. 

I used to have Mount Everest on the basement floor every single day and then I just got fed up and stopped doing laundry except for my own and household items, i.e., towels, etc. Half of the pile was clean stuff that I had folded and put in the kids' rooms that they just put back in the pile when they "cleaned" their rooms.

It took them a while to adjust, but the youngest was 8 and the older ones were 12 and 17 and I left their stuff in the mountain until they realized that they couild actually work the washing machine AND the dryer. They also know if they put the washer on the extra small cycle for only one pair of pants, one shirt, one pair of socks and one pair of underwear for themselves, and I actually find it, it gets hauled out of the washer and thrown back on the pile wet.

And don't even think about not scraping AND rinsing your plate. You won't get fed.

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sound like an experienced MT and I'm sure if something happens to the job you have, you can find another one with no problem.  And there are ALWAYS hospital jobs open.  When the time comes that you need it, a job will be there.  Don't stress out over it and enjoy the time you have with your family.  That time goes by so fast.  We really are lucky or blessed or whatever you want to call it to be able to do what so many people would love to do - bring in some income and still stay home with our families.  MT has served me well over the years.  I never tried to work with little babies or toddlers, but have ever since they got a little older.   AND - so many kids are own their own between the time that school is out when a parent gets home.  I saw my kids' friends through middle school and high school just run wild after school, cause there was no one to know they weren't home or to even care.  I realize my kids would have been running with them if I had been at work - and I'm glad I was at home!