Your keywords are "physically abusive to us all." Get out!!!

Posted By: BTDT on 2006-01-29
In Reply to: Bawling my eyes out. - Starting over.

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Bawling my eyes out. - Starting over.
- RESCUE YOURSELF - nowarrants
- Bawling.... - typnqueen
- Please, please leave him - TwinLessTwin
- don't be hard on yourself for the - dcc
- There are transitional living houses available to help. - Dianna Lazan
- Should I leave? - Jann
  - See message. - OP - Starting over.
    - This is really none of my business, and I know that, - holy cow
      - Oops..came out wrong...I meant it ain't always possible to stay in a marriage - holy cow
      - I made my business your business by posting and... - OP - Starting over.
        My dear, we ALL have things which - holy cow
    - Believe me, you are neither weak or small. - wannie
- Please forgive me if this has already been said... - Little Ace
- Starting over you have a lot of good advice below on..sm - 2teens
- I just wanted to be sure you all saw my... - Starting over
  - Please keep in mind (sm) - me
    - That is an excellent point. I also have another question for all of you. - Starting over
      - What I don't understand is your statement about (sm) - me
        I totally know you're right... - OP - Starting over.
        Start calling some of those help numbers and pose these - MT
      - And how many more concessions are you going to make for him? - MT
      - Um, if he were all that religious, he wouldn't be abusing you sm - MT
      - Religion isn't going to save your marriage. He's an abuser. You need to leave before he harms - & children permanently. nm
      - IMO - no. If he hits you once, he will hit you again. It will not matter what religion you believe - Just Me
        I disagree with both of these and hope the OP reads this too. - JMO
        To JMO - typnqueen
        He has hit her again after saying he won't. sm - MT
- adding my 2 cents - sm
- The easy part is making the decision to leave, the hard part is - MI-MT
- Thank you everyone. (sm) - Starting over.
  - You're starting out well... - TiredMT
    - Big Thank You to "JMO" & "Tired MT" - Starting over
  - You'd be doing him a favor as well. - Seen this a million times
    - I posted before and it was removed. (no message) - I still think this is rude
- I was in a similar situation a few years ago, I got divorced. nm - INMT
- Get marital counseling for the sake of your children. - No mystery here
- Distance is a big plus - Josette
- You already know what to do! Just do it. sm - MT-MOMMY
- Starting over - BTDT
- Your keywords are "physically abusive to us all." Get out!!! - BTDT
- Don't cry anymore...get out as soon as possible. - flutterby
- You have a lot going for you... - wc
- Don't be afraid. Use the law to your advantage. SM - Blu
- just my opinion - jwhitman
- I think you know already know what you need to do. - MT3
- I fear what the future holds too... - MT2
- Verbally and physically abusive to all of you -- sm - MT
  - Please consider leaving - anon

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Let me be clear, keywords are NOT just services, there are many keywords on a variety of topics.

Also, because this is a new feature, we are adding keywords daily. For example, we started out with about a dozen, that has grown to about 30 now. It's an ongoing process and it was designed for you, the MTStars visitor.

Re: 9 cents/line, the keywords here are * to START* - (sm)
as even that is not nearly enough. I'm currently at roughly 9-9.5 cpl, and nowadays that just doesn't cut it. How anyone can get by on less than that is beyond me! The average pay for a good MT should be closer to 12-15 cpl (what most hospitals are getting charged.) The MT co's should charge the docs & hospitals more than that so that they can pay their MTs a living wage. Look at what hospsital charge for a single x-ray. Or a tampon. Or an aspirin. Look at what the docs get paid just to sit on their butts and dictate. Charge 'em more, they can afford it.

Verbally and physically abusive to all of you -- sm
That's the line that jumps out at me in your post. I know you're scared, but you've got a responsibility to your children and yourself to leave if this is true.

Start planning. Contact your YWCA. They have free counseling. If there's no YWCA near you, look in the phone book for other numbers. Women like you leave their abusive spouses all the time, and they have children just like you do. There are resources. Courage, lady. Bolster yourself up and find them. You have to do this for your children and yourself regardless of fear.

Hugs and prayers...

abusive relationship ruining mt career

I had an extramarital affair. I deeply regret it and am trying to get my life straightened out. I ended the affair and I believe this man wants to see me lose everything out of spite and revenge. I had to quit my last MT job because my computer was hacked and had alerted the company there was a security problem and then a bunch of personal correspondence with this man got uploaded to the company server via "technical assistance" on the phone. I have had harassing phone calls as well and calls that were programmed in my autodial end up at the wrong number or playing Mexican music, etc. I went to the sheriff's department and they did believe my situation, but said there is little I can do about it without filing a report. I do not want to appear spiteful or vengeful, but may have to file a report against this man, but he lives in another state. I just want to put my life back together. I fear with my computer tapped and my phone calls screened I will be unable to secure another job or get the harassment to stop. I have three firewalls on my computer am rural and had to work via satellite. I live in a small town with little opportunity. I am going to lose everything if I cannot work as an MT.

Any MTs victims of domestic abuse and had to deal with anything similar?

If someone is sabotaging my career what am I to do?

That's still no excuse to be rude and critical, or abusive
to others.

Don't mind extra work as long as it is not abusive
I used to always work my shift and then try to do 2-3 early Sunday mornings. I was stopped from doing that because we could not work more than 40 hours. If there is help needed after my 40 hours I certainly do not mind helping out when needed - as long as this does not become abusive and you are expected to be available 10, 12 or more hours a day, night, and weekends. I have been there and it just got out of hand. I am comfortable with less than 50 hours a week.