Young man, listen up.
Posted By: MTmom on 2008-03-10
In Reply to: Depression Is Real - NeedSomeone2Listen
Your a very intelligent person and you seem really mature to the world. Inside you feel like you are crumbling, I completely understand that. Remember ther is always a tomorrow and always something better out there. If you are not happy doing the work that you are doing, its not the work, there is something holding you back. You definitely need to see either a therapist or a TRAINED medical profession to talk about this with. And don't wait, do it NOW. So many times people wait and it becomes too late. You are going to be fine and God will help you through any challenges you come across. If the physicians give you medications, take it. If it has side effects, don't stop taking it, call your physician and he can put you on another medication that does not have those side effects.
This is going to be a very long and very rewarding process and you will start feeling better about yourself. Don't give up and don't listen to people who just tell you to suck it up and get a job. Obviously they have been so lucky to never have experienced depression before. I pray that you will only have the best of luck in all you do.
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never too young
I don't think you are ever too young to be worried about retirement! I wish I had worried about it sooner... you cannot expect a retirement check from any company, but you can do something about it yourself. Go to your local financial institutions and start your own retirement fund - just contribute a certain percentage of your check each time you are paid and no matter how many times you change jobs, keep doing it. It is there for you - you don't lose it just because you change jobs. But you are right to be worrying about your future - more of us should be doing that!
ah, to be so young...
...as to have never used tapes -- what a lovely feeling that must be!
I'm sorry but i think you are too young to be on this board!
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Smart Young Man
Your son sounds like a very smart young man. Not many kids these days truly care about their education. They look at high school as a party/social time, and dont look into the future what so ever, and said thing is a lot of our children are not getting the guidance from home either.
My son loves to learn and loves to be challenged and with him being home schooled we are able to do so.
And one other positive note on home schooling college intrance exams have shown that home schooled kids are just as smart if not smarter than those who go to public or private schools. The one on one they get is a big big factor in that.
Best of Luck!!!!!!!
I don't see a problem if someone does it once because of (1) young age, - sm
(2) circumstances...this girl has no clue who the father is, that is clear, (3) where they are at in life...in school is no time to have a baby. She would possible drop out, not have anything but a high school diploma for the rest of her life. How do you support yourself and a baby on $15K a year? Does she have understanding parents? Will the father pay support?(she'd have to have all the guys she slept with in the time period of conception tested). Someone that that young is not cut out to have a child....I can remember very clearly how I was then, and many are just not ready for the responsibility. Yes, many see abortion as shirking your responsibility because "you play you pay"; but you have to decide what is good and right for you and your circumstances, and the only one who can make that decision is the person who has to bear and raise the child or deal with their conscious if they decide to get an abortion. It's nobody's business but theirs. I think people who purposely don't use any form of BC then just get abortion after abortion because they are too lazy to get BCPs or condoms are WRONG for doing that. But people who are (1) stupid one time (2) get raped (as my roommate was); (3) just too young, i.e. in their teens, very early 20s--- have 1 pass. If my daughter came home and was in HS or college and said she was pregnant and wanted an abortion I would support her decision. I plan on drilling it into my kids heads never to have sex w/o a condom though and hopefully they will never have an unwanted pregnangy. I suppose you think my thinking is screwy and that is fine, everyone is entitled to their opinion, that is what makes the world go around.
Wow, mine was young...
I got my daughter's ears pierced when she was 7 months old. I think I was 5 when my mom got mine pierced, and then I was 12 when I got my second holes.
Very young on both daughters - sm
Two weeks old on first daughter. One week old on second daughter.
Your young age is showing!
I remember the dictabelt, we had to mark it with chalk to know where to start it up. Talk about archaic! The times they are a'changin! (and for this part - the better!)
I don't know if you mean too young or too old. Companies
cannot legally ask you how old you are. I quess they can get an idea of age based on work history though or if you put educational history on resume. I'm nearly 50, but when I answer the phone I frequently have people ask to speak to my mother. I've been offered a position with every company I've ever applied to.
You don’t sound too old with a young kid
but in my town we have a consumer person (who is a millionaire but well known to be really tight with his money), anyway he was talking about a place where he buys his glasses and only pays about $8.00 for them and these are prescription glasses. I used to wear glasses, had Lasik and now 20/30 in both eyes- in about 2001, I think. For close up work such as newspapers or books, I go to the dollar store and buy the $1.00- This is for me, not saying everyone can do this. I see no sense in paying $200.00 for a pair of glasses when you can get them much cheaper.
I used to be young and dumb but
when I came into some money, quite a bit of it, paid all my bills off. I only have my monthly bills now, utilities and such. It is a wonderful feeling but to the original post, it is here money and really if she wants to burn it, she can.
you are young and dumb. The nerve of you to say
why have children if you are going to put them in daycare. When I was going to graduate school and working I became pregnant. I didn't expect my husband to quit his job and I sure enough was going to stop graduate school my six months. My triplets went to daycare and was fine.
working with young kids
I have been working at home since my first child was a day old and all I can say is you get used to it and so do they since they don't know any different. I think it would be harder having them a bit older and then starting to work at home. I took short breaks for feeding but worked during the regular work day other than that, just had the baby lying on a blanket next to my chair or in a bouncer seat or sometimes on my lap, and as he got older he started playing next to my desk. The second time around I had twins, and well, that was a bit harder, but I fed them both at the same time and put them on the same feeding and nap schedules to maximize both work time and my sanity.
Ya do what ya gotta do.
I was 18--so very, very young! Still married though after 31 years!
Oh, to be young again -Mondays all I want to do is crash.
However, I saw a stupid young woman on
television last night talking about outsourcing and she is so stupid. She had that only being 1% of the jobs. She needs a real lesson in this. No way is it only 1% of jobs. I just felt like coming through the TV and smacking her around a few times. LOL. These young do not understand. Maybe they will outsource her job and she will look at things differently.
What was wrong with trying to teach them when they were young?
I learned to dust, wash dishes, clean my room, etc., when I was about 5 years old, and it was part of our routine. Every week our chores would rotate and as we got old, we learned more. Same thing with cooking. You obviously let this go too long but now is the time to change it, not when you have a nervous breakdown.
SADDLE OXFORDS! I was young when I
Lady Bug and Villager were to clothesmakers of my adolesence. I remember the first 'instant poloroid'. You had to swipe the picture with this special chemical and let it dry.
Kikis just young/immature and does not...SM
Patti - give it up...not worth your time or your expertise, nor any of us well-seasoned (decades) professionals, and be sure to take some time for yourself. 
Nope! No longer consider too young. sm
Early spay or neuter (also known as "pediatric" spay/neuter) is pretty common now for shelters. It's been studied and found to be safe, and it helps keep shelters from inadvertantly contributing to the pet overpopulation proplem that they're trying to help solve. Not all vets offer it though.
Lots of websites and info. about it if you go to Google and type in "early spay neuter" but here's one:
http://www.tracylanddvm.com/html/why.html
You don't have to wait until 6 months old any more. For dogs, my vet (who is very cautious and took a long time to change his stance that they needed to be 6 months old first) likes to spay or neuter at 4 months of age, because it's after they've had all their shots, yet it's before (with females) they've gone into heat/estrus for the first time (health benefit to that - see above website - don't wait with your female dogs! ;O) For cats, I don't know if they get this same benefit from being spayed before their first heat cycle. One reason my vet changed it to 4 months is because he said he's seeing more dogs go into heat earlier than they used to. (Good diet = maturing earlier, like people? His theory, anyway.)
BTW, and I mean this is the nicest way (not trying to be the spelling police! LOL) it's spelled "spayed" rather than "spade" in this instance. :o)
I work around my kids. Mine are not as young as yours
but even when I had babies I worked before they got up, worked during nap time, worked a little after dinner when DH could watch them. With my last one I put him in a Mother's Morning Out program for 15 hours/week at a church 2 miles from our house for 2 years during the school year. I'm fortunate I have flexible hours that I can do that.
I was at the store one day when a family with young kids came out.
The kids were fooling around in the parking lot and chasing each other around. One of the boys, who was approximately 10 years old, jumped up and ran across the hood of a parked car in his cowboy boots. He totally scratched up and dinged the hood of the car. The owner, a pastor at a local church, told the parents about it. The father denied it, then he tried to hit the pastor. The police were called. I took the car license number and testified as a witness. These people are just a prime example of the poor excuses for parents that our country is full of. The parents should have been publicly caned.
My parents would have beat my butt with a leather belt if I had dared touch someone else's property. They never had to, though, because they told us how to behave and enforced it. I'm not saying I never got spanked with a hand when I was young, but I knew it was a potential consequence. My own kids know if they dare to damage someone else's property, they will pay for the repairs and be punished. They are too old to spank, however, especially since they're bigger than me! LOL My kids also know what it's like to have their property stolen or damaged by other people.
My basset is not a couch potato like most, but he is young. nm
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Unfortuntely, if you are young, a lot of times you DO have to be approved or (sm)
at least fight with them to pay it because of family history. This whole insurance business is such a racket.
I would be interested in knowing if they have young children too?
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I wouldn't, and didn't when the kids were young, but sm
these days I would find a responsible college student and pay them $10-12 per hour, with a minimum of the hourly rate for each separate trip.
I started noticing Raynaud's sx when I was young.
I lived in Wisconsin. I thought I caused a problem my grandmother called "frost-nip" by letting my hands and feet get too cold while paying outside. Then when I worked in the OR down here (very cold environment), one of the anesthetists was complaining about her Raynaud's, and her hands looked like mine, so I realized I had it. I brought it up with my doctor, who assured me I didn't cause it. Since you seem to have developed it or just noticed it as an adult, do mention it to your MD. Raynaud's can be a condition in itself, or it can go along with something like lupus or scleroderma, so it might be important to discuss.
This young person deserves a treat.
Great story. Thanks for sharing. 
Anything traumatic dealing with young children gets to me (nm)
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You are too young to be worried about long term, but
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to those of you who have young kids at home for summer
As I understand, daycare is a touchy subject here but I am looking for some opinions. I have been MTing for 10 years now part time. During that time I had my 3 kids. With the PT hours it worked out great. Now not too long ago I started FT (8 hrs/day). This has been since the school yr started. My older two are in school all day. My youngest is 2 and goes to the neighbors house. With summer coming all three will be home. Its tough because they are 10, 8, 2, the older two argue constantly it seems. I feel bad to have them have to take care of their 2 yr old sibling on summer break. They all go in different directions. I am weighing my options on what to do. Anyone else in this situation or have any suggestions? If I were putting less hours in I would have no prob. I understand a lot of you are able to do this with no prob, but it just doesn't work in my house unfortunately.
I agree wholeheartedly. Your kids are only young once. nm
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Agree, but there will always be young moms who want to be home
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Why only young mothers who want to earn extra?
Why this statement? What about us older ones? I just do not get that statement because I would think experience counts a lot in this job.
56-years-young, married, one 29-year-old beautiful son...
... and going to school to get into law someday - age is not a concern, it's a blessing!
I didn't care 4 that crack, young lady!
I am not young either, but I got accepted to an accredited ultrasound program
Yesterday I took the plunge and got accepted to a degree offering program for ultrasound tech. However, I am starting to wonder about my decision. It is 18 months, at first part time then going full time hands on in the clinic. It will be a BS degree and will give me the education and ability to sit for the exam. But, and I say a big but... The cost of tuition is 33K and there is limited financing and no financial aid for this. Then, I went surfing to see if there was a site for ultrasound techs out there like this board to see what the techs were saying and I find it is "like a cattle call out there." They were talking about spending time and money in school and then it is a very competitive job market, hard to get answers on resumes, etc.
I spoke to a girl who was an RN yesterday who works in the hospital during the day and at Walmart at night. I told her about ultrasound school, after MT was dying, and she said, "Oh, you are going through doing that to..." I got the feeling the course work is as difficult as nursing, which I know is tough. I am not talking myself out of this mind you and I am glad to be accepted to a good school... but the what ifs: in 18 months after 33K, hard studying while I work as an MT and support my child alone.. what if it is a cattle call and end up working several jobs or at Walmart? Thoughts on this would be appreciated.
It is difficult to work at home and watch young children.
Don't take that as a slam because I had to do it, too. I got up before they did and worked for an hour or two, worked during their afternoon naps, worked after they went to bed at night, and worked a little bit in the morning while they were playing or watching Blues Clues. It wasn't fulltime, but it felt like I was chained to my computer desk from the moment I got up to the moment I went to bed.
I actually blockaded my kids in the living room with me using big plastic toyboxes or baby gates while I worked so they wouldn't escape. Lock the doors to the house and put cowbells on them so you can hear if they try to escape. If not cowbells, use those little battery operated buzzers that go off when the connection is broken. Don't wear headphones but listen through the speakers. Pay a neighborhood 'tween or older sibling $1 or more an hour to entertain the young kids after school while you're there. No job is worth the risk of your child getting into something tragic.
I was fortunate in that my kids were good about entertaining themselves for short periods of time, but certainly not for an 8-hour shift all at once. My niece and nephew are nothing like that. If they don't have your full attention, they fight and get into things. One time while I was babysitting them, I was making dinner in the kitchen. My 3 y.o. niece managed to untape the knob and turn off our water heater, drop the cordless phone into the toilet, and climb out the dog door into subzero weather in less than 5 minutes. She's still a holy terror 3 years later, but I refuse to babysit her any more.
I read that book as a young girl, loved it. Just bought
it for my 12 year old. Fantastic book for younger girls that age!!!!!
I remember my Dad using VITALIS! For you young ones, that was not an impotence drug, it was for thei
so greasy and shiny. I also remember my dad leaving his shotguns out - loaded and all - and we didn't DARE touch them - we knew better.
Schindler's List, Young Frankenstein, Erin Brockovich nm
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Funny! Thanks for the chuckle! I was like, "Whoa, poor thing, started young"!!
You scared me!!!
You're absolutely right - I wouldn't recommend this profession to a young person either.
and no respect for it
Unless you can rely on family to help, or maybe hire a young tween aged girl to occupy them
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Belly button rings just look plain nasty on older woman, trying to act young.
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Young female pop singer, popular a few years ago singing about a sk8terboy and a ballet girl
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they pay you to listen to what they are saying and fix it.
I actually feel kind of sorry for the residents who have such a hard schedule, overworked, underpaid and not enough sleep. I would hate to dictate and don't think I would be very good at it. Well maybe if it was the only thing I did but not under the circumstances most of them work under. Think about it. What if on top of transcribing you had to do all the other things the doctors have to do while being sleep deprived.
Willing to listen.
If you have information, please share it. I just stumbled across this website a week or so ago. I have been totally in the dark about everything. So, please, feel free to fill me in. Don't have time to do a search since I am trying to get my line quota so I don't lose my benefits :-(
Listen to your gut sm
Listen to your instincts. You have gotten a lot of advice from this board and everyone means well, however, no one but you knows you situation completely.
As far as your boyfriend, I have been in that situation. I was "in love" with the person he "could become" but not at all happy with the person he currenlty was. I was fooling myself into thinking he would become a better person. One thing to remember is that it is impossible to change another person. If he is not what you want or need, you will have to make the decision that is right for you and your children.
Debt is a life drainer. It comes to a point that you are miserable because of debt. I've been there too. Again, do what you think is right but try not to strap yourself financially.
Best of luck to you and your family.
listen again, he is probably saying sm
pole of the right kidney. Also, are you sure 2.1 isodense lesion is not hypodense lesion also? Don't know about your "kamachium" will have to think about that one!
who do I like to listen to?
Do I get to make a last wish before the firing squad? 
Sammy Davis, Jr. (greatest entertainer of all time) - Barry Manilow (I like his newer stuff) - Maureen McGovern - Bobby Darin - Cher - some Janet Jackson - Mariah Carey - Backstreet Boys (some of their stuff) - Peabo Bryson - Luther Vandross - Anita Baker - almost anything Disco - CCR - Petula Clark - 3 Dog Night - Blood Sweat & Tears - a lot of George Michael, Jim Croce - Guess Who - Fifth Dimension - Four Seasons - David Clayton Thomas (from BS&T) - a little bit of Eric Clapton, Steve Lawrence & Edie Gorme (and the list goes on). I also have individual songs I like such as Elusive Butterfly, Green-Eyed Lady ... some stuff from the 60s (my age is showing). Not really into the 50s (but the movie Grease was fun). It all depends upon my mood from day to day.
Who I would never listen to: Janet Joplin, Rod Stewart, Jimi Hendrix, Rolling Stones (the worst!!!), most of Elvis Presley, a whole ton of 60s, rock singers, and most of today's singers.
Despise rap and don't like country ... but I do enjoy the song "The Devil Came Down To Georgia." I'll pass on opera as well.
As the line goes from the movie: I "had two 50s and moved right on into the 70s."
Okay folks ... load up the guns. 
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