You have described perfectly my life with my husband -sm
Posted By: same boat here on 2006-03-07
In Reply to: Anyone in your life who enjoys seeing you upset -- gets a kick out of it? - annoyed..sm
I feel completely trapped. I'm the one supporting the family. I'm the one who takes the blame for everything that has ever gone wrong in his life, even when it comes to those things that happened to him long before I ever met him.
The only good thing he has ever done is give me two beautiful children. That's all.
Wish I could get the heck out too.
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Do you come first in your husband's life?
or are the feelings of others such as parents and/or children top priority?
At least I live my OWN life and not my husband's
I have 2 Heroes in my life - My daddy and my husband. sm
I truly am blessed! My daddy (step-dad) married my mom with 6 of us kids and took care of us all. He is my hero! Don't know much of my real dad as he left when I was 2. Been told he was abusive and an alcoholic. Better that I have no experience with him, I guess.
Now, my daddy (step-dad) is not just a father but a DAD! He is my hero. He taught me how to be a good person, provide for myself, be confident, strong and gentle! He is an awesome pop-pop too!
Secondly, my husband is my other Hero! I am a very strong, confident person, and a little on the hyper side. He is just the most laid-back, gentle, understanding and kind man I have ever met. Been married 18 years and still going strong. To be honest, his father is the same as him.
So, if you are looking for a good man - I guess meet their fathers and judge for yourself. Most men are like their fathers just like most daughters are like their mothers. Hope that makes sense!
I am sorry for your situation and hope you find the strength and courage to move on and, if and when ready, find a good man!
You haaven't knocked off the husband for the life insurance yet?? You have options, she may not!
 
My husband just signed up for group life insurance with work which will give him 10x his salary if
he dies which will leave the kids and I with almost a million bucks if he dies. Of course I would much rather have him here more than anything. He had just 150,000 in insurance but for some reason just opted for this group thingie. When talking last night I asked him if he died if I could marry again and this man got so upset with me I thought he was going to cry! He told me absolutely, positively NOT that I could not remarry ( am 31!). He is 35. LOL
Poor guy. Leaving me all this money and I supose the thought of me sharing his wealth with someone else makes him sick!!
I told him he could go ahead and marry if I should happen to die. I want my kiddies to have a great mom and person who loves them very much. Wouldn't you agree?
How do you feel about your spouse or partner remarrying if you or he dies??
DH is dear husband or any number of colorful adjectives preceding husband. (no message)
;)
Life is life....the haven't bonded the same as if it were a 2-year-old!
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You said it perfectly........
It is very important. My son also worked part-time like so many other of his friends; he never felt different. He hung out with his friends, taught a local Bible study group through his church, played on the basketball team, and just enjoyed himself.
Actually, I am perfectly calm as well, but
people on this board seem rude and ready to jump on anyone for anything.... no wonder I rarely come here.
That fits perfectly
you go girl!!
Thanks much,
D
Perfectly suited to me
I love the medical field but am too squeamish to be there in person seeing the blood and guts. I am introverted and do not like interacting with most people. I work best alone with no distractions. I am a perfectionist and very detail oriented. I have excellent hand-eye coordination and can transcribe amazingly fast. I am very organized and enjoy using that skill to run my MTSO.
Being perfectly honest, I had my CMT and let it go because it
just did not make a difference in my pay. AAMT did nothing for me when I was a member and because they warmly encourge offshore transcription, I just can't have anything to do with them anymore. CMT and the new RMT are, in my opinion, a big waste of time. They do not really represent the US MT at all and I believe they're even changing their name to something that is as representative of America as what it once was.
Perfectly relaxed
Just spreading the truth. Have a good day!!
I know perfectly well that some of them are embarrassed about this sm
I can't tell you how many times I will get an ESL and they practically whisper into the phone when they speak to me, but seem normal volume if they break to talk to those around them.
I have to think that some of them are told...okay so you pick up the phone and some gal is listening on the other end...she'll help clean up your English for you, don't worry about it.
They are talking to a STRANGER who will help them out with their English...okay so a stranger is listening and will judge their English skills. I would be really embarrassed to be in another foreign country and think that someone I didn't know was listening and fixing me up to be acceptable. I think I'd mumble too.
I have had a couple of ESLs in a situation where I could ask my office manager to call over to the practice and ask that the ESL speak louder, not more clearly, just up the volume. If I can hear them, I can understand them better. The last time, I told the office manager to make it clear that I could not HEAR this fellow and NOT that I could not understand him. That would have been an insult to say that. Well, he started to speak up and was very pleased (he called in) to say that his reports suddenly started being so perfect. Yup, I could not hear you, but I could understand you.
This is not the only mumbler.
The only other thing that think we as MTs need to understand, and our employers with us, is that not all of us can do every ESL type. I can do an East Indian of most dialects, Arabs, English, German, Spanish, Mexican, but I don't do Asians well. Not all ESLs are created equal and not all of us ears for the same things. I think in the future there will have to more ways to route jobs with ESLs to MTs with the right ear for each of them.
So the aka name fits perfectly!
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I am perfectly fine thank you very much!
Sorry I ever posted. And for the last time --- yes it is required here!
Her instructions are perfectly reasonable
If she doesn't want resumes submitted as attachments, that's her business and the applicants should just follow the instructions. Whether you think she should ask for pasted resumes instead of attachments is irrelevant. If you don't want to apply, then don't. But if you're going to apply, just follow the instructions. If you cannot or will not follow the instructions, that tells her pretty much everything she needs to know about you.
True, you understood me perfectly. (sm)
And some education in communication. Apparently, they are not looking at the whole picture and if they stepped out of the business they would be able to look at things from outside of the golden cuffs.
my original post was perfectly
non-attacking to anyone! But Albert, and a few others, spoke to me in an insulting, demeaning, condescending manner. So ya wanna call ME the big ol' "b" now? who cares? go right ahead! But all ya gotta do is scroll back and you'll see who started the b.s. Now guys I'm off to read the other nasty posts you guys made today. Have a good evening! xoxo
Cat, to be perfectly honest, which I think you requested, is..
I, as a MT, get the connotation. Unfortunately, I think there will be more misses than hits. Brilliant idea, but I would dig deep for another. Very best of luck to you in your new endeavor.
Perfectly rotten organization...sm
...that has prostituted themselves to the MTSOs, presiding over and encouraging the loss of jobs overseas using our dues to fund their trips and perks.
It's particularly ironic, in this setting, that the name of this pathetic organization mentions "document integrity", when their position regarding offshore transcription is the very antithesis of promoting integrity in American health documentation.
...and as for the Book of Style, words fail me.
What is your point? These folks have a perfectly good right to use
VR if they want to. People have been telling us for years the technology was improving. I don't see anything new here.
Great post! Perfectly worded! Thanks! nm
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Millions may have learned it, but rarely perfectly.
And learning it and speaking it are two different things. Lyndia makes a great point.
A pet peeve of mine is American arrogance in the sense that most of us don't really know a second language. Maybe we had some in high school, but most of the people I know speak one language, American English, and that's it. So we don't know how it is but we bash others for not learning it perfectly.
I don't mind the ESLs who try hard to communicate. I get ticked at the ones who don't care, and I think most would agree that it's obvious who those are by their dictation and their patient rapport.
Works perfectly. Just keep it minimized while you're working. nm
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Dont expect them to speak language perfectly.
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I totally understand but if your husband is like my husband... sm
When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"
Him: (shrug)
etc., etc., etc.
Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)
In a perfect world, the mobile devices will work perfectly..
It will only take a few big money malpractive suits and lawsuits against hospitals for this standardized text and free text to be proven to be inadequate documentation. Do you honestly believe Joint Commission and insurance companies will relax their standards for health care documentation? I could be very wrong, but I'm not throwing in the towel yet.
Don't give dates. Just summarize your experience. I'm perfectly comfortable with this.
Heading out of town, you guys all have fun while I'm gone!
The speller works perfectly fine so if you are having problems contact me and I will
My email addy is admin@mtstars.com. Free or not, it's a great software, so perhaps you just need some assistance.
Yes, the Dynex is working perfectly and trust me I have tried many adapters and finally success.
I can now work on my laptop when I travel.
I make sure the job is not my life and that it does not take over my life. sm
I have been at this 25 years, even once had my own accounts and worked 24/7 with cat naps to keep going but no real sleep. I really burned myself out. Now I work a regular 40-hour week, but it is not my life. It is a means of making money so I can go live my life. I work for a company that is not all about production. They want us to take our time and do it right. I am doing that, and it feels so good to be able to work at my craft and be allowed to do a good job while I am at work.
But after I get off, I have my family and I take time to have fun and enjoy life. I think that is the key to not staying burned out. You need down time, time to have fun, exercise, relax, etc.
Exercise is very important, too. It rejuvenates the hormone system so you have more positive hormones flowing through your body and helps get rid of stress.
That's what I do.
I'm the one who needs to get a life?
You people are the ones laughing at people behind their backs. Typical female, backstabbing, egotistical snobs. Exactly why most of you can't handle working in an office. Thanks anyway, but my life doesn't include ridiculing people for me own ego. You go right ahead. Feel good about yourself.
Never in my life
 I guess I have led a sheltered life. I never in my entire life heard about so many companies bouncing checks in this business! I would be out the door so fast, there'd be no dust behind me. Have I just been lucky?
I have a life.
It's not a money issue. I have hobbies but the winters are long and cold and I'm not a winter outddoors person, only summer and I have no child. Kinda of a workaholic.
Yes, I live a simplier life.
Get a life b.
I didn't realize it was intentionally setting a flame by telling people you like where you work instead of the freaks who come on here constantly complaining about their jobs. Most of you only want to hear negative things and not positives, so when someone posts something positive, you jump all over them. I think you need to grow up b.
Get a life.
Whatever fugly trash. If you want more, keep it coming.
Don't even try to top my life
you old decrepit piece of trailer trash. I will win hands down every time. Now go to bed and dream about the love of your life,your horse, Mr. Ed.
No, I sure don't come first in his life.
he does of me. Seems like his loyalty lies there. I don't think he ever learned the "leave and cleave" thing. And our kids are very important to him. He makes it abundantly clear that I am not top priority. Sometimes I daydream that I meet someone who really loves me and run away with him.
in whose life? *lol*......nm
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in whose life? *LOL*......nm
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nothing in life is ever as it seems...sm
you all might be able to *read* all this supposed goodness but some might see it differently.....as some are better readers of others in life, perhaps more intuitive..
in the life..............................nm
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LOL everyone in my life has always said....sm
Everyone in my life has always said I should be a *comedienne*...... they ALL cannot be wrong as they all do not know each other. I do see myself as *entertaining* others. *winks*
However, I don't like lazy people. I'm the first one to help on these boards, unless they really don't help themselves.....just the way I am.....
Be well.......loved your reaction!! Oh and the one under it, who also LOL. 
It is her life, but you can still try to help her
I agree, abortion is wrong, she would be making a bad decision that she might later regret very deeply. It is her life (but not just her body involved anymore--there's another living being whose body is growing inside hers), but you can still try to help her. She may not want to listen, and if not, then you've done what you can and she has to live with the consequences of her own decisions. There are many good resources available, such as National Right to Life at nrlc.com (http://www.nrlc.org/abortion/index.html) and various Catholic organizations, with a lot of information available about the negative effects of abortion. She won't get that type of info from Planned Profithood--they just want to put as many women through the mill as they can. Learn about it yourself and then share the information with her. You may at least be able to persuade her not to kill the baby but to put it up for adoption instead. She may also be interested in the negative health effects of a promiscuous lifestyle (such as increased risk for cervical cancer in women). Good luck to you.
WHY? Get a life.
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Well, it's his life, isn't it? (sm)
Sounds like you're more upset about the lack of respect than your son's happiness.
your life
It sounds to me that you are one of those people who takes care of everyone but themselves and as Dr. Phil says, you must be getting a payback from it. I don't know how old you are, but you sound young. One thing I know for sure is that you will never change your brothers so don't even bother trying. It's not your job. Let them live their lives and you live yours. If you are choosing to do what you are doing, i.e.working working working and giving giving giving then so be it. Not everybody is like that. You have to ask yourself why your mom keeps allowing you to do as much as you are doing for her without helping herself. I'm no expert but if you continue on this way, something's gonna snap.
Life
You have probably reached your limit. The most I have worked for is 3 companies at once and I did not have a life to speak of outside of work. I am working for a national now - and you have to break your neck to transcribe a line - they may pay higher than a small local company - but their line lengths or the ESLs prevent you from transcribing per hour your real potential. I wouldn't take on the neurology group unless I was just desperate for the $$. You could take it, though, and subcontract it to your friend - with her as an IC. Check the IRS website to get the specifics on subcontracting or "hiring" an IC and what it means to your bottom line. Hope this helps.
Get a life!
MTs come on here to vent and our fingers get to flying and we don't sit there and edit our posts. We do enough of that when working.
Life after MT at age 58
For those of you who are happy MT'g, I am glad for you. This is for those who are not. Just to let you know, at the age of 58, I am going into a customer service career for an auto company's financial division, and will be making more than thirty thousand a year - so yes, it can be done. My only qualification was that at one time for about five months I gave real estate a try - not my forte, didn't like the driving, people not showing up, etc. So yes, you can still do something else, don't give up if you really can't tolerate it any more. There is hope!
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