Yes, a daughter, all grown.
Posted By: Me too! on 2005-12-04
In Reply to: I'm not a gambler either - OP
I married & divorced very young. Have 2 roommates (friend and her boyfriend). Couldn't afford this house otherwise. LOL. I live in an area called Lone Mountain Vistas, not far from Summerlin.
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51, female, married, 1 grown daughter
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Why would a grown
woman think that what you are doing is fun? What is wrong with you?
Yep, even though she's grown and married
, he still gets it anytime he wants it. The molestation has never stopped.
Yes and grown-ups and do not cry like a baby
over some lost time on a newbie! Business is business. Why cry baby about it on this board! This kind of thing happens every day. People do get better offers and this OP wants to cry baby about some lost time! She should have picked someone who was experienced instead of trying to CLAIM she was helping a newbie! I bet if this all came out in the wash, she was only paying a small cpl and wanted a whole lot! I'd bet she's more upset about the fact that she has to do her own work instead of making more than half on someone else. I just don't think a "grown-up" should make accusations of "people stealing information" or try to slander someone's name simply because they cannot support the account. That kind of thing happens every day. If you feel sorry for this OP, you need help more than me. Misery loves company! I'm bitter, but the OP isn't? Who really needs to get over it? Me or the OP or maybe even you!!! tsk tsk on the OP and you! People quit, people make changes, get better offers, cannot put up with being micromanaged, and that is no reason to slander someone! Making false accusations regarding stealing information can also result in a lawsuit. Poor taste in this OP and I hope I never take a job with her and want to quit for any reason! JMO. 
My children are grown and now
I am still working at home. Get to be grandma now. Don't forget $3 for a gallon of gas also.
Grown-up daughters - say nothing unless asked. And then don't say too much. nm
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I agree - my kids are grown and gone.
The house looks great, but I do miss the days when they were kids and lived here.
How could a grown man be in love with a child....
but they way she was dressed with the hair and make-up, etc., she looked about 25. Too many perverts out there and he definitely fits the image. I don't know how or who would hire him especially around some kids. He has pervert stamped all over him.
His hair has grown out? Not extensions - NM
NM -
So since YOU don't have to worry about it because your kids are grown
Have you ever ONCE tried to put yourself in someone else's shoes or see something from someone else's point of view? Have you ever, in your entire life, had an open mind about anything?
Apparently not, from what I've seen here.
As a parent of 3 grown men, I'd be real clear with him
on the reason for quitting. This is not the norm for most of these players, especially after playing for so many years. After this time it's usually "in their blood" as some would say. You really need to keep an eye on him and see where he really focuses his time now that he's not playing. Since his GPA is 4.0, it just throws up a flag to me as I read your post, and I'd be sure to keep a close eye on this young man. BUT, for your P.S., his team may nudge him back into playing and I don't necessarily think that would be a bad thing. Hopefully it's not a people problem that's caused him to want to quit, i.e. people picking on the little guy (wink, offensive linemen usually aren't too little, are they?). Just make sure you stay objective and keep an eye on the bigger picture if that's possible.
I remember when my now 25-yo was the tight end in pee wee footbal, lots of practice and lots of fun. He totally loved it but quit after midgets because he couldn't get along wth an upcoming coach. Ahhh, those were the days. Thanks for making me remember some good times.
I understand when the kids are grown, so I started over!
My youngest was turning 17 when I got pregnant with another. I guess it is called empty nest syndrome. I'm now 48 and raising a 7 year old beautiful little girl and I remember when my oldest children were growing up I'd think it was never going to end. Now I wake up every day thinking she is growing up too fast! I sure appreciate her more, now that I've seen how fast they will be gone!
I agree. Have grown child, but can work during their SM
school hours and in the evening. A split shift is highly productive.
Guess you're not ready for grown up humor then.
Absolutely, any parent who does less is negligent! Glad my kids are grown, my baby will be 18 in Ju
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BLTs on toasted whole wheat with garden grown tomatoes and lettuce.
home grown lettuce etc salad, topped with chicken breast cooked in
fajita sauce, fried eggplant and fried zucchini along with zucchini/parmesan muffins. I'm stuffed!!
44-year-old WF, M, Texas, 3 grown kids, just had 26 year wedding anv.
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49 years old/self taught/daughter 20 years old/self taught. I'm a CMT, and daughter is studying t
take the test soon.
My daughter is 25 and going to
go to auto mechanic school, and likes guys.
35 yof with 2 yo daughter. nm
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I will not allow my daughter to go. nm
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My daughter...
She was just over 2 when it was pretty obvious mom just wasn't enough! She was bored with the trips to the playground, the toys, the trips to the store, etc.
Her pediatrician told me she needed more socialization. A SIGN OF THINGS TO COME!! So I found a great nursery/day care at the local church and she just loved it. When I picked her up the first day, she told me I came too soon. Talk about hurt feelings!! I was in agony all day and she was having the time of her life without me.
Well, now she's beginning her second year of college next week and is totally bouncing off the walls... pretty much like she did when she was 2.
It's good your daughter can't wait. It may just be a sign of independence and self-confidence. Don't take it personally. They don't appreciate us until they have their own kids!!
Good luck to you and your little girl and you son LOL ;-)
If she were my daughter I'd tell her...sm
that I'd rather her be mad at me for making her ride the bus when she's sleep deprived than having to pick out her body at a morgue from an accident.
Frankly at 10 p.m. every night I'd take the cell phone away and make it clear to anyone that called that it is not acceptable to call after that time. Her friends will get the message quickly and will learn to respect your rules.
Too many parents this day and time are afraid to set rules for their kids to follow, but that's the parents fault. They need to remember who's the adult and who's the child and set/abide by ground rules. Studies show that the more parents intervene in their kids life the less likely they are to drink, do drugs, have sex or get into trouble with friends.
My 13 y/o daughter (more)
and I have gotten into the habit of taking the dog out and having a little walk around the neighborhood when I get off work at midnight. I'm going to miss that. I'm not having the "ready for her to go back" feeling at all this summer, but I have had the feeling in the past sometimes.
My daughter was 5.
She decided she was ready so she did it, and she loves them. She is almost 8 now and she nor I have regretted it. Personally, my sister was 3 and I was 4 when we had our's done. I think it depends on the child.
My Daughter
I let her get her ears pierced for her 6th birthday.
My daughter was 11
She was allowed at 10 but was afraid. LOL. A lot of people asked me why I didn't get her ears pierced as a baby, but I just felt that was something for her to decide. She turns 13 in September and wants to get her second holes. I told her that I will get mine done too.
I just felt 10 was an age where she could decide and also take care of her ears and earrings. Everyone has their own opinion on this, I don't think anyone is really wrong. Good luck.
My daughter was 8. nm
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My daughter and I took it - we both
had no benefit from it, and also my daughter had a very severe allergic reaction. We tried them all Concerta, Focalin, Strattera, all with no help at all. Our neurologist just tried us about 2 months ago on Metadate CD, one of the original ADD meds, and its a MIRACLE. I was only diagnosed this year, after my daughter, and after first I sobbed after taking Metadate, as I never knew brain calm, so to speak. I then read on a doctors' website on ADHD/ADD that you know you have the right med when you get that reaction - sobbing with relief, and also sadness at what you have been thru without realizing it!! Its been about 1.5 months, and she and I are both doing great. The interesting thing is that the meds are speed, basically, but if you have ADD, they don't have that effect on you - they plug in your brain. The ones who speed on ADD meds and also abuse them are ones who don't really have ADD - thus its like cocaine to them! Feel free to write if you want to talk about anything - its been quite a shock to me to accept that I have ADHD, but its getting easier! Provigil is basically an experimental one for ADD - it seems the old ones have the best results! 
Thanks! My daughter-in-law is due soon and I will have....
on hand should she need help. Maybe it will work for her!!!
They probably know both of you. My daughter
picks up my medicine all the time.
Daughter did this...
She finished the school, but basically same thing, poor pay and pill counter at Walmart all that was available. Not a living wage...
where would you be if your daughter was missing (sm)
in another country? The posts on down the board are appalling, some of them anyways! I would hope that any parent in their right mind would be right there, no matter where "there" is, if their child were missing. I know I'd be whereever I had to be. I could not rest until I was there, waiting and helping to find my child. I'd go to the ends of the earth to get my daughter back, no questions asked. And maybe people are donating money to them so they can stay in Aruba and help find their daughter, as well as keep their lives going back here at home. Where has compassion gone? It's truly sad that we ridicule people for simply wanting desperately to find their lost child. Just Sad.
Hey, one of my friend's daughter
is a duck queen!
I have a 15 year old daughter....
and it is also a 16 mild trip to pick her up...but yet every day I am there and I will be no matter what the cost of gas. I would not trust an inexperienced teen driving my daughter. The price of gas is becoming outrageous yes...but your daughter's life is priceless.
My 17yo daughter.....
was similarly distressed at age 15. A lot of it is just part of growing up. They are anxious, moody, and sometimes emotional. I took her to counseling and she decided that she wanted to work through this tough time without being medicated. I'm not sure that pulling your son out of school and what he knows is going to help. That's just MORE change in his life. I would seek counseling and find out what's going on with him, but in your case I think isolating him further would simply contribute to his anxiety. But since I'm not a professional, again, I'd take him to see somebody. As a footnote, my daughter will be 18 in March, is a senior, is getting good grades again, and is, as she says..."Happy as a Clam"
It's going around. I have it, too. So does hubby and daughter.
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I'm cooking. Daughter and son-in-law,
son, husband and myself will be spending Thanksgiving together (after my son and I get off work).
Have a daughter with bipolar.
She has racing thoughts and says things not connected to the conversation like your friend. She also has extreme mood swings. Usually bipolars go one way or the other, dysphoric or euphoric. No middle. When manicky, she will stay up for days without sleep, but when dysphoric will sleep for 16 straight hours a day. It can be a very debilitating illness.
My daughter was born at 1:28 a.m. and if she is
doesn't even get in the shower till oh, about 9:00 p.m. And she sleeps till 1 or 2 p.m. if she doesn't have to work. Drives me nuts! But then, I was born at 7:00 a.m. and I like to get up early and then am falling asleep by 10, 11 p.m. at the latest.
I don't, but my daughter wanted one . . .sm
She wanted a vine (like a bracelet) around her upper arm. She was 20 at the time so I really had no say in the matter except, "Why don't you wait until we go see your grandmother in short sleeves." We did and she scrapped the vine idea in a hurry. 
Listen to your daughter on this one
You may be distracted with worrying about her and not "be there" for your hubby 100%. As other posters have said, she can visit & pay her respects at the graveside, on her own time.
My son was only 5 when my Gramps died and though I took him to the visitation (I had not sitter) with every intention of keeping him away from the open casket, he managed to get up there anyway.
He's 22 now and when my mother passed away 2 years ago, the one he was very very close to, she was cremated and we had such a casual memorial for her. He was able to speak about their good times and how he would always know she was with him when he heard Nat King Cole, etc.
He told me later that this was so much "cooler" than when great gramps died. "Never let me lay in a casket for people to just stare at Mom". So, even though he was just 5 at the time, he remembers it clearly.
My sympathies to your hubby and all.
My daughter is 10 also and just had her first boyfriend...
I was very upset about it at first. At my friend's suggestion, I sat down with my little girl and asked her exactly what she thought it meant to have a boyfriend. I asked her if they would be holding hands, if they would be kissing. She was shocked and a little embarrassed, but I'm glad we had that talk because I don't think it occurred to her that he might expect those things.
I also made it very clear that young relationships last days, not years. So, when he broke up with her after 27 days (she counted) she wasn't all that shocked and probably took it better than she would have if we hadn't talked about it.
My daughter was 20 and upset too. sm
She was young and immature and very unsure of what to do. Although I may have objected (to myself) if she had chosen termination, I supported her decision whether or not I agreed, after all she was an adult.
She needed an ultrasound and saw that there were actually babies (yes babies - with an "s") and that helped her decide right then and there. She is now the grown up mother of twin girls who are about to be 2 and are a joy to us all.
She was lucky though as her boyfriend was there and he still is. They aren't married still after 4 years, but I guess I shouldn't push it. I get to see my grandtwins all the time.
I'm grateful that she decided to bring double joy into all of our lives, however, as I said before, I would have supported her decision and you need to be there to support your niece, whether you agree or not, as she is your family and she needs you.
Good luck to you and to her.
We do have a hospitl...My daughter
was one of the last babies to be born there. A GP delivered her. I don't think it is the student loan payments either because I believe the hospital offers to pay for all or most of them if they locate here. I was told last night that it was due to poor hospital management. All our doctors got old and retired and nothing or very little was done to try to get new ones in. If we did get new ones in they did not stay for very long. For specialist I do go to the nearest city but for common illnesses it would be nice to have someone closer that knows what their doing, CARES what their doing and REMEMBERS you when you come in. That's what is missing. The personal touch. The doctor who knows you won a singing competition or score so many points in a football game, etc. Would you buy a car from a rude salesman?
I told my 16 yo daughter about this and she...
can't wait to try it on her back as well as her face. Thanks for posting.
I too took my daughter in 1987....sm
The Strasbourg train takes you through 14 Amish dairy farms and is a wonderful trip, eastern PA....Lancaster, and the food is great in that area! People are wonderful there (as they are in Western PA too).
Hope you enjoy your trip wherever you decide to go. I'm thinking of relocating from FL to PA in about 2 years.
I don't have a daughter, but I got mine
pierced when I was 7. I don't know about doing it when a child is a baby, but I don't think 7 or 8 is too young. Children are old enough at that age to take some responsibility in caring for themselves. It wasn't a problem for me. I do have a son though. Just waiting for the day he wants to get is ear pierced...lol.
I had my daughter's done when she was 9 months old....sm
Doctor said fine anytime but would be best to wait until after 6 mns when they get their 2nd tetanus just incase someone's equipment wasn't completely sterile so that's what I did. Don't see why that's too young; I think it is definitely a personal opinion and I wanted my daughter's done. If she ever grows up and doesn't like them she can let them grow up. No big deal.
My daughter had hers done when she was about 6 months...sm
I would do it over again at that age in a heartbeat. She cried no worse getting that done than getting shots and I know she would never do it now (she's 10), so I feel my husband and I made the best choice for her.
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