Why did you marry this guy?
Posted By: sm on 2008-03-24
In Reply to: Husband interferes with my work - Maria
He did not get to be 500 pounds overnight. Maybe if he got up to make his own breakfast and actually went to work, he wouldn't be 500 pounds. I hate to sound judgmental, but my first thought about someone that morbidly obese is that they have some severe mental issues. It is absolutely ridiculous that he is draining the system and you being on disability. I would get out and get out fast if I were you. I would not keep a bite of food in the house and I would refuse to drive him anywhere. YOU need to go on a "diet" and lose 500 pounds! I think you could probably do it overnight.
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But why marry?
Why not just live with the guy???
Would you NOT marry someone because of his last name?
I heard this on a local radio station...something like 30-something% of women polled said they would not or had not married someone that they truly loved because of his last name, so my question is...would any of you NOT marry someone just because you didn't like his last name?
I, for one, don't think I would let that stop me from marrying someone I loved and really wanted to marry. However, I am already married and don't mind my honey's last name at all! 
Why does she want to marry him?
Okay, maybe he is blinded by love, blah blah blah, but why would she want to marry him if she loves another girl too? This is insane. You have got a real problem on your hands. Yes, it is his life, but when she is accusing you and your husband of these sort of cazy things - that is when it becomes your life and you need to get involved, not butt out! I know you love your son but you need to have a major heart to heart (alone). I would not subject myself to her in any way, shape or form. He can love her and marry her or whatever and you can still love your son and have a one on one relationship without being subject to this lunatic. She may need to be admitted somewhere!
Would you rather he marry a man? There is a
time where we just have to let our children be who they want to be and live their own lives. I am sure he has thought about this so if it is a mistake, let him make it. It might not be and they might be very happy together. It could be worse and even had he chosen a man...my initial comment...it is still his choice. He is the one that has to live with them so just love your son and do not worry. Be there for him should he ever need you
Marry a doctor...
I absolute would not not marry someone because of their last name!
I would keep my own last name as I plan to do whether I like his or not.
I wouldn't marry someone with the last
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So why did she marry him, cause she's dumb, or it
was a coverup.
Same as saying"who should I marry?" Who
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My husband said he knew he would marry me sm
even before I met him. We have been together since high school - 20 years!
I doubt that. She was dumb enough to marry him.
wish I knew where to go to meet, date and marry a man with a lot of money!!!
nm
Drew Lachey is my future brother in law, that is, after Nick and I marry!
Is he drop-dead gorgeous or what? OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Yes, a gay love story about men who also marry women and have children and betray them. HOW sm
is that a GOOD THING???????????????? Good grief! Oh, bad bad prejudiced society MADE them get married and have families to hide their true love for each other. BALONEY. If you want to be gay, then be gay. Just don't give me all this angst. Not when children are involved. I saw the movie. Phooey.
Good job! Chose the right man to marry, common goals. KUDOS!
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when you marry a man with children, they are part of the package. You learn to deal with it.
nm
Quit before I got married. Fiance told me "no way would I marry a smoker," and I was smitten.
Marlboro Reds. I smoked all throughout high school and college before that. Was highly addicted. Had to go for a smoke break between classes.
It's been 10+ years since quitting. Cold turkey. Don't want it, don't want to smell it, won't eat at a restaurant that allows smoking. Fortunately (sorry smokers) in GA, all restaurants are smoke-free now. I like it that way. Can enjoy food better.
BUT, I have a completely different problem that is probably killing me - I'm addicted to sugar and carbs. Highly. Wake up craving it. 40+ pounds overweight. Hate every minute of it. No matter how hard I try, I absolutely cannot stop eating the "white, starchy" stuff. So, the cigarettes may not kill me now, but food might. Sad.
Marry me?! :) Seriously...hear, hear. Good post. - nm
xx
I've become the man I've always wanted to marry.
I live alone, am 46, never married, no kids, just dogs horses and chickens and just got done building a new house out in the boonies away from the rat race. (Used to live in Manhattan) Couldn't be happier. Selfish maybe, but never out of time, never stressed, and I don't take anything out on others. There's something to be said for being alone but not lonely. I'm not looking for a man to "make me complete." They only sap me of my time, energy and money (how little of it there is with MQ). I consider myself lucky getting to choose my time with friends, and not just stuck with a deadbeat partner. Ladies especially: Be strong and allow yourself to be independent. Any old man will not make you stronger!
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