Why are you bashing her for making a sacrifice for her family first?
Posted By: She is doing a noble thing. Back off. on 2008-02-23
In Reply to: You really don’t get it, do you? - Lori
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I would never sacrifice my family. If you can make
ends meet on what you are doing now, I would stay put. Your kids are only going to be kids for a short time! Good luck to you.
It's difficult but can be done with a lot of sacrifice...SM
I did this for a couple of years and it was exhausting but do-able. I had a primary on-site transcription job from 6 a.m.-2:30 p.m. When I got off of that job, I would go to one of the IC docs to pick up any work he had ready. His work was due back on Tuesday and Thursday. I would then stop by my other IC account (three ESL geriatric docs) and pick up their work for the week. Their work was due by Friday afternoon as most patients were seen weekly.
When getting back home on Monday, I would sort thru and organize the transcription that needed to be done. I'd then make the STRONGEST pot of coffee possible, and dive into the sports medicine dictation. This would literally take me until 4 a.m. Having to be at my primary position by 6 a.m., this meant no sleeping on Monday nights. I'd take a shower, have yet more coffee, and go off to the hospital for my shift.
After my shift there, I would then drive over with the completed work to the sports medicine clinic and drop off the completed jobs and pick up everything else they had for me that needed to be turned in on Thursday.
Tuesday was a good day. I actually got to sleep on Tuesday nights.
The next day (Wednesday), I would work my shift at the hospital, then go home and brew one of those wicked strong pots of coffee. I'd start working on the sports medicine tapes at about 4 p.m., and again work until 4 a.m. No sleeping on Wednesday nights allowed, so drill was the same as for a Monday night.
Thursday, I would do my shift at the hospital, then drive over to the Sports Medicine facility and drop off the completed work from the night before and pick up the next batch which wouldn't be due until the following Tuesday.
Once I got home, I would spend all night typing my other IC reports, which were the 3 ESL geriatric physicians.
Sleeping not allowed on Thursday night...See Monday night's drill.
On Friday, I would work my shift at the hospital, then head over to the geriatrics clinic and drop my work off and pick up what he had completed that he would need for the following Friday.
Friday night was my time to spend an afternoon and evening with my daughter, and also trying to catch up on my lost sleep during the week by sleeping as late as I could on Saturday.
Saturday afternoon I again spent with my daughter and also had "date night" on Saturday night with my boyfriend (who was very patient during all of this workaholic activity).
Sunday I would again sleep late, preparing for the drill to begin on Monday.
I lost a lot of sleep. I also lost a lot of weight. I ran on pure adrenaline at least two days a week. People would just shake their heads when they heard the schedule I was keeping.
The upside was that I was living in a terribly expensive part of the country and these three jobs afforded me the opportunity to afford a few things about life's necessities, such as a really nice dinner out once a week for my daughter and I, school clothes for her on a more regular basis, and, sadly, the one treat for me was a housekeeper to come in once a week to take care of the deep cleaning I no longer had time for.
Sorry this was so long, but I really did want you to understand that it CAN be done, but there are a lot of sacrifices and schedule-juggling that go along with it. I never complained about doing it because I actually found on some perverse level I enjoyed it.
Good luck to you whichever direction you decide to take.
To add...never sacrifice your health for work!
And working a week after delivering a baby, no matter how you feel and how your baby is doing, is an example of sacrificing health for work.
It's possible to maintain quality if you are willing to sacrifice speed. Can't have both thoug
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I am not and was not bashing her and all that. sm
I was just trying to vent with colleagues over some of my frustrations. I didn't call her names, nor did I suggest that she is a bad person in any way. My only complaint with her is that she never admits she is wrong and never says I am sorry. But that was yesterday and this is today. I have vented and I'm fine. I really didn't mean to stir up such a hornet's nest. I have no ill will or whatever. I just sometimes feel that there is a lot of talk about professionalism, but sometimes it is just talk.
I never worked for Signal, but I love MDI, and I do not think, as some have suggested, that she goes around deliberately overhiring, nor do I think she is nuts. She may be a bit eccentric, but we all are, I suppose, in our own way. If nothing else, she is a good businesswoman, and that just wouldn't make sense to deliberately cause so many MTs to be miserable with no work. I have to assume there is some kind of plan in the works. I do believe she cares about the MTs and making sure there is enough work.
I wish this thread would be deleted -- it was just a frustrated plea for a sympathetic "ear," but now has turned into some meanspirited bashing, which I never wanted.
My apologies to all for being a part of it in any way
You most certainly WERE bashing.
Otherwise you would not have come on a public message board and posted what you did. It was rude and unprofessional and as I said in another post, I hope she finds out who you are and FIRES you. How ungrateful you are.
I don't know why all the bashing sm
on this board when against people who have done this for years and years. If a company calls you to ASK you to do a stat or whatever, you can always say no. I have done MT almost 40 years and I am not yet 60....will be soon. It is the way the business is.
The only way to get out of this is to work in-house and there are not many of those jobs left. Personally for the money that most in-house jobs pay, I would rather work for the MTSO at home.
Not everybody who does MT has that spouse with the second income and they have to work and do what they have to do. My hubby and I have made it work for 36 years. Kids are now grown and gone and have homes and careers of their own and never suffered. My husband and I worked it so that, most of the time, if one was working the other wasn't so the kids didn't have to have a babysitter. There were times when we did use babysitters, etc but we tried our best not to.
There shouldn't be "bashing" on either end BUT, I believe there are many MTs that don't have years of experience that dont' understand this is the business. You have to work when the work is there.
Keep doing what you are doing and you wont' have to worry about work. I never have had to in all the years I have done MT except for the usual holiday type slow downs. Even with all the Mt going to India, etc, I think there is always still going to be a place for MTs with lots of experience. Just my opinion.
Bush bashing
Administrator-- could we please have all the Bush bashing placed on the political board where it belongs????
Here's my take (I'm not in the mood for bashing, either!)
I enjoy belonging to AAMT because they keep me informed about what is going on in the industry. I live in a rather rural area and we do have a small component chapter in our area which I also like, as it helps me stay connected with people in this profession in my particular area (networking). Our meetings are not held on Saturdays, so the other poster who said that may have experienced that, but not in my area.
I do enjoy going to the symposiums--they are not that expensive and I learn a great deal as well as network with other people in my state. That is priceless, in my opinion.
I also like being involved with a professional association, as I take my profession seriously and want to associate myself with the professional association, and AAMT is it in that regard. If there were other choices, I might feel differently.
Are they perfect? Heck, no! But, the members do elect the people who make the decisions and therefore I feel my voice does get heard. Do they always do what I want? No, but no organization would, as everyone has different opinions.
I think it is a personal choice. I've been in MT for 25+ years and a member of AAMT for the past 12. I make a very good wage, and yes, I do get compensated for my CMT, though I understand many do not. I am proud to be a member and plan to keep up my membership as long as I feel my needs are being met which is networking, continuing education, etc.
MT Bashing by nurses
I found this on a nurse's blog - they were talking about MT mistakes they found in charts...
Nurse #1:
I tried to get a job as a medical Transcriptionist for extra money, and no one would hire me because my 15 years experience of direct patient care does not qualify me to be a transcriptionist. Oh really? Or, I guess I mean, Owe Reilly?
Nurse #2:
I have no idea why they wouldn't let you work as a transcriptionist - what sort of special training would you need that you wouldn't already have?! It might be a good way to make ends meet if there came a point where a nurse couldn't stand up for so long anymore. It doesn't seem like it would take much in the way of critical thinking skills...
We don't use critical thinking skills? Darn, then maybe I should look into the career opportunities at Burger King...
Don't turn this into a Bush bashing
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That's not bashing? Coulda fooled me.
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Wasn't bashing you Nana!
I just thought my post might come off like that LOL. Guess I was sort of agreeing with you! Didn't want it to sound wrong since I attached it to yours!
what's wrong with my typing? Are the bashing
and insults starting for lack of logic?
LOL..i wasn't bashing you..just found it interesting.
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bush bashing? Do you like paying 5 bucks a gallon for gas? NM
get a life.
sure i was. i'm making fun of the people who are making a case for background checks, etc
to do medical transcription at home as if they may do something AWFUL with the info they receive. So if you want an invasion of privacy let's REALLY invade it and make sure fat chicks don't transcribe because they are so busy eating they can't get the work done, they mess up the keyboard with food and if they are provided health insurance they will raise the rates for the company sky high because their health risks are higher than others. Then there are the psychological issues overweight people bring to the table. After we eliminate fat people, we can go on to eliminate diabetic people who may have low blood sugar while typing and go into a spell and type the wrong thing. I could go on and on through the process of elimination. How about prescribed medications that may cloud your thinking? So you take Ambien to sleep but you have an Ambien groggy hangover when you are transcribing? Should they transcribe. How about your teens are on your last nerves and you take a Xanax? Should you be allowed to transcribe?
No, I need to work with some coworkers with "class", not low rental boss-bashing cats!
And what I love the most - if Frank himself called one of them, or actually walked up to them in an office, they'd fall all over him, gushing about how great he is to work for! Guaranteed! Its just so "catty" to claw his eyes out on an anonymous message board and giggle, giggle, giggle. I'd be saying the same thing to their faces as well, except I'd probably be their supervisor and would be canning their catty behinds.
family is family wheter 3 or 8 sm
i live in MA and $1200-$1400 a month is what good health insurance costs, ie $20-$40 copays. it was just passed into law that if you live in MA you have to have medical insurance so without being self-employed, you can go right to BCBS etc and get a plan directly from the major health insurace companies, but for a family plan and a decent income bracket, forget it. the prices are outragous. right now my husband pays $120 a week for family plan and this is after his employer pays 30% of the total cost. we have $20 copays, but we have a $2000 individual deductable per year with a $4000 family deductible cap. so when my daughther needed her tonsils out, $2000 and when my son broke his arm, $2000. someone on this board has to be able to tell you what they pay for insurance through their company as an employee. good luck.
You realize by doing that they're making more money & you're making less? You should reconsid
your family
What kind of shelters were you in that they did not help you? If your husband is mentally ill, cannot hold down a job and provide for his family, go to Social Security office and start filling out for SSI or Disability. It is a long drawn out process, but worth it, if you want to keep your family intact and safe.
Well, every family is different, but for us (sm)
When we initially signed with them three years ago, we were a family of four with a husband with hypertension and hypercholesterolemia. The first year our rate was $340/mo with a $750 deductible. Every year since then we are given the option of either jacking our payment or increasing our deductible. We are now a family of five, and we are paying $750 a month with a $1750 deductible (per person). We have no maternity coverage, baby #3 was paid for out of pocket. Prescriptions are $10/30 after a $500 deductible (because of my husband's medications, otherwise I don't think they usually require a deductible for prescriptions). Each of us is allowed four office visits per year at $25/each. Well baby care is sporadic, depending on the mood of the adjuster that day, I think. We have gotten stuck paying for a $700 ER bill (applied to our deductible, apparently) and several well baby visits (at about $200 a pop). Overall, I was thrilled when we were paying $340 a month, but now I'm ready to start looking elsewhere. I would go for it, you're going to get jacked every year wherever you are. I think what put us over the edge was baby #3 (unplanned), but I wouldn't trade her for anything of course!
Family
I have often said that if I met some of my family on the street and were not related often wonder if I would "like them" let alone "love them" but because they are family we are obligated to instantly "love them." Sorry to me blood is not thicker than water and my friends and part of my family are very dear to me and I would do anything for them as it has been a two way street with friendship and love. Lover your parents though and do anything you can for them.
Patti
not me, my family gets along
doesn't fight Hmmmmm- I'm not invited anywhere this year- Do you suppose its me??? HA
The other family
Kym and I remain friends. She hates to watch the reruns as much as I do. We both agree that they did a lot of manipulation as far as the show goes and the editing process. She and Hallmark divorced following the show and I have not had any contact with him at all.
Family of 5
1. Me, although, my husband always pulls out the towels and washclothes and folds them and my 5-year-old loves to fold washclothes and can fold them better than me.
2. Me.
3. My husband does them most of the time because I always have to sit down after supper and work some more.
4. My husband does most of the mowing.
Since you know the family,
perhaps you can tell us what happened to him?
About my family
grown and out of the home but I worked at home when they were younger and made it very clear no work, no money, simple as that. I did not get into this job to work from home, in fact worked years away from home doing same because it was not a "home job." If you want to work from home, don't complain about what you are unable to do in your "profession" when you don't come across as being professional doing all the household duties. I started in this because I knew I loved the medical field, fast typist and knew possibility of making more money, nothing to do with just a job to stay home so I could watch after kids, cook or clean. Married but hubby is gourmet chef so he cooks and I have housekeeper. I work because I happen to love the type work I do.
Your family
Well, I would tell you to get a new family, but that's too flip because I know you are hurting.
Why do you care so much about such a thoughtless remark by your father? Obviously, he has no real understanding of your situation. You are working several jobs, wife, mother, caregiver, etc., plus your MT work.
Just try to let go of he hurt and anger from your parents' lack of understanding (or deliberate undermining of you, whichever it is), and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Give yourself a huge pat on the back because you more than deserve it!! Stay positive about yourself and your situation and things will work out to your advantage. Let go of the need for approval from your parents, because you probably won't get it and you don't need it anyway, really.
You should like a great person to me!
what does your family think?
are you going to want to work at home while attending school, and if so would you want to keep the account you have now, and how do your kids feel about it?
Not in Canda but family is. sm
Happy Canada Day to you!
My Grandmother moved to Maine from Cape Breton, Nova Scotia to go college here, where she met and married my grandfather. I have a huge family there that we visit every few years. Beautiful place, beautiful people.
friends and family to appreciate me at my job?
I doubt you're getting raises and I doubt you use your money for "others" and you as well are a poor judge of character. This initial post was about supervisors interacting more with their MTs so we can put a face with the name and feel like we have someone in our corner, being that we are so remote from coworkers. Obviously, we disagree, lets agree to do that much. You just sit and type away and collect your paycheck.
I like this one. We have some family pictures, but
those are for everyone, not just for her birthday. I do have some restaurant gift certificates, so I think I'll take her out to lunch. Thank you for all of the suggestions.
I have family in San Antonio, TX and
they have evacuees housed in shopping malls and old A&P grocery stores.
My family's clothing donations were turned down. Evacuees told them they only want money and ready for this....HAIR PRODUCTS!!!
Go figure!
Family broken up
Does anyone else live with this experience? After my mom and dad split up (after us kids were grown), all the siblings went their separate ways and really do not have much to do with each other. Most of them (three brothers) have taken sides, (either mom's or dad's) but we have nothing to do with each other. Is this odd or usually the norm?
Not due to divorce, but our family went their
separate ways after both of our parents died. Strange, because I always thought we were close before that, but it could have been wishful thinking.
Family dysfunction
I feel for you too. Same here. I have 6 sisters, and only 2 are talking to me. I'm the oldest and I was very close to the middle sister who is a family therapist (go figure). We never fought before but 4 years ago she pounded on me for revealing to another sister where she spent Thanksgiving and then all hell broke loose! Since then it caused a chain reaction with the other sisters and now I'm not spoken to ever again. Considering they were always fighting with each other and I was the only one who never got involved in their petty fights, it amazes me. Sure it hurts too. What hurts more than anything is that I have a 28-year-old wonderful son who had nothing to do with this and they won't speak to him either! At this point, I feel like they are gremlins and I've tried in the only way I know, by communicating and asking to sit and talk and get it all out like adults - not even a response. So, oh well. At this point their silent speaks volumes. I too am feeling that if anything happens to me, I would not want them at my funeral services. I just can't figure them out.
I'm not NRA either, but most of the males in my family
are outdoorsmen. We've always got fresh fish and game meat. Being raised on game, I think it tastes better than beef or other meats from the grocery store. Plus, you never know what the grocery stores do to the meat. There was a hidden camera news report of a grocery store that soaked expired meats in a bleach water solution and repackaged it for sale. You never know if some lazy person is going to drop the meat on the floor and package it up anyways. At least in processing our own meat, we know where it came from and how it was processed.
Our state needs hunters because the deer and elk overpopulate. They damage crops and run loose on the highway causing human deaths. I would never hunt personally, but I do need to feed my family. Our freezer will be full again soon with a side of beef and a deer.
My family likes my
No, you are the one with issues - Why does your face look like vomit? Are and the administrator of this board twins?
My family happens to like when I give them diarrhea covered bottles for Xmas!
Hey SnowBunny - is that JW's family?
Prayers are being said!
The Addams Family nm
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I'm not going to visit my family either.
They wanted me to take five days off of work and the other huge project I'm working on now to fly to visit with everyone at a luxury condo where they're all staying. That was fine. I was willing to work extra so I could have enough money for the condo rental and restaurant meals. (Everyone else is somewhat well-off with fewer kids than I have. They take frequent trips on holidays.)
Daddy dearest had to get involved and basically told me it would be too much trouble for me to go. I'd have to find a ride to and from the airport because he wasn't going to pick me up in in his rental car. Husband, aunt or taxi cab could have done it. I'd have to share a bathroom and sleep on the hideabed because my cousin was bringing her boyfriend so there wasn't enough room for me. This boyfriend isn't even related, and this event is a birthday celebration for my brothers. If anyone should be there, it should be me, not my cousin's latest bedfellow! Then Dad told me that I shouldn't be wasting money on trips when I've got a family, bills to pay, and that huge project. That's really none of his business. It's not like I'd go bankrupt over a few hundred dollars. He also said I shouldn't leave my kids because who would watch them. That's what my husband, AKA the kids' father, does. It's called parenting. Dad has also chewed me out no less than four times over the arrangements for this trip because obviously I'm too stupid to handle making my own reservations, never mind the fact that I've traveled all over the country by myself since I was 15 years old.
The last time I vacationed with my parents and brothers, my father made it completely miserable. He was bossing me around, treating me like a child, asking me about my finances, and criticizing everyone around him. Then he had the audacity to tell me in front of everyone that I was eating like a pig and was going to end up weighing 300 pounds. All I had eaten that day by 5:00 p.m. was one piece of wheat toast, one hardboiled egg, a cup of coffee, water, and a small handful of raw almonds. Then he lectured me for 20 minutes on the fat content of nuts and the virtues of diet and exercise. Like he should talk. Yeah, well, we've obviously got issues, too. I don't care, I'm not ruining my holiday worrying about it. I'm not going. I don't want to be separated from my own family when my husband and kids weren't even invited. I don't want to put up with Dad's attitude. He's made it clear that I'm not welcome. He tells me I'm stupid for doing things all the time, but I'm the first one he calls when he needs help with something.
$85 on each kid, $15 on other family members, nothing for DH and I.
10 members of DH's family (by drawing), 6 members of my family, 3 kids. About $500 total on gifts, then Christmas dinner, postage, and other stuff. I wish we didn't participate in the big family gifts because it's always just an exchange of things nobody wants or needs. I can only use so much bubble bath and scented candles in a year.
A very very small family.
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Does she have family you can contact?
I had a former coworker say something completely bizarre to me one day. It turned out she had an undiagnosed brain tumor and she passed away soon after. Saying things completely out of context can be signs of other neurological problems, early dementia, stroke. I have no first-hand experience with bipolar, though.
I agree to this one! And I thank them that they are there so I can be here w/my family!! nm
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Personally, when my family gets together sm
since my folks passed away, nobody is allowed to get drunk during get togethers. Call me antisocial, but there's a time and place for that and Christmas get togethers, in my books, are not the place for that. I tell them to save it for New Year's and do it by themselves. Now, my oldest boy is supposed to be here on Christmas Eve and he stated he is going "out with the guys" on Christmas Eve and will probably be "tanked up" when he comes over around 9. Guess what. I told him to stay home and come over the next day when he's sober. My dad could be a teetotaller, but he was always a Coke and Sprite guy on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day (nothing mixed in, either). He always said alcohol took away the fun.
Can you get a refund on your family??? LOL
Come to Texas!! Just the two of us (me and my roomie) and the pups, turkey, football, no rugrats this year (we're doing family Christmas tomorrow).
Seriously, sharing the Word is one thing, condemning others is God's place not a humans. Tell him you're engaged! Then, break the "engagement" the day AFTER Christmas LOLOL.
your family accepts this?
I've been an MT over 10 years, have to work the holidays that fall on my scheduled day of week to work, usually Thanksgiving, and they know this. Yet, they take it personally, get upset with me and do the behind the back talk she's "antisocial" thing. Why can't they accept it as fact? I do NOT get PTO, NOR holidays. I believe a comment made this past Thanksgiving when everyone went up north was "sorry you feel you have to work." Its like, who are you people? Calling them family would be a stretch.
God bless you and your family.
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That's been a hit with my family this Christmas, too.
Everybody bought Sudoku books for everyone else. Oh, well. The kids are actually doing puzzles, reading and Sudoku instead of playing video games.
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