When you get older, more anxiety?

• Anyone have social anxiety disorder? - Ann
  • Social anxiety, yes!! - opie
    • anxiety - I'm the same way
  • Oh, yes. I have it. Up until I was in my thirties... sm - Kind of Long
  • May I suggest a book I just bought and it works. Joyce Meyer's A Confident Woman. nm - Just Me
    • Love Joyce Meyer's outlook on life. nm - PS
  • I do and have tried every med, but none - TM
    • I thought Neurontin was a pain medication - confused
      • It has a lot of uses, another being for seizures... - TM
        • Oh I see, I'm glad you found a combination that works for you! nm - confused
          • Thanks...me too! nm - Tm
      • I think Neurontin's used for a bit of everything!! - nm
  • Yes sm - passing through
    • I agree... working from home is almost a crutch - Ann
      • I don't see it as a crutch...sm - kps
        • I agree.. I would be working from home even if I didn't have anxiety attacks! - Ann
        • Mine got worse after staying home and working... - TM
  • anxiety - anon
  • me too, as well as my son who is only 28..--sm - kps
  • Me, too! Sometimes I think - Linda
  • Yes! - You're not alone!
  • anxiety disorder - anon
  • Many of us do in this kind of at-home, isolated job. Gets worse as you get older, too. nm - Yup
    • When you get older, more anxiety? - Linda
    • I am just feeling blah... - Ann
      • social anxiety - Karen

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Hubby wants the furnace on 67--too cold for me but we settled on 68.  Last year we had it at 70.  Our windows this year have all new caulking and loose windows are sealed shut, but that didn't seem to be enough. I bought a bunch of those 4.00 fleece blanket throws 50 x 60 " from Big Lots and some cafe rod clips from Walmart, enough to adequately cover all 20 windows. I cut the blankets in half and put 7 clips on each half, hung them on a standard rod and they cover the windows adequately for me.  If you want more fluffiness, use 1 blanket and 14 rod clips for each panel. It really helps in keeping the sun out of my office which is way too hot during the day being on the south side but then gets cold at nights when I work, so the blankets keep out the drafts. So far, so good.  We'll see if it helps on our gas charges. So far, they have us on budget billing and our bills are 72.00 a month.  Hopefully, they will go down a little more. I'm going to try leaving them up in the summer to see if they keep out the heat and keep in the air conditioning. I priced the thermal rubber backed drapes and they were about 25.00 to 50.00 a window-a little bit more than I can spend right now.

We are having record thunderstorms here in NM this  Aug.  My dog is outside in her fenced yard while I am at work in the daytime.  She has a dog house and  a covered area. She goes literally nuts when it thunders.  Sometimes I can get home to let her in, but not always.  The vet gave me Clomiprizine today (50 mg capsules) to give her in the morning.  I don't know, should I try something more natural, or try giving her half. Not sure what to do, don't like the idea of tranquelizing her but she will try to chew through anything to get out and is in danger of hurting herself, or getting run over if she does get out.  Any suggestions?   

Sounds like you need to find a good one, #1, and #2, one who really specializes in the cervical spine (mine does - he does it all, but he really specialiizes in the head and neck). 

Hope you feel better very soon!!! 

How old is John Travolta anyway.  He was so cute in Grease too.  Loved his dancing and now I just wonder if he has the same moves since he gained weight.  He didn't look all that bloated in Pulp Fiction either.  It's just lately he has looked too heavy for his frame.   

I can assure you that I'm not an older woman.  Thirty is not old.  I still get carded buying alcohol.  I've never bleached my naturally blonde hair either.  The clothes aren't skimpy.  I have full coverage with nothing hanging out.  I certainly don't shop in the plus or women sized departments either.  It's just a change from slob mode, which is the point I was trying to make.  Women will feel and look younger by taking a few moments to care about their appearance.  Try some trendier clothes, a new hairstyle, a touch of makeup.  Besides, if I was a fat, ugly, old lady as you're implying, troll, hubby would tell me.  He's the one who didn't like my "comfortable" work clothes to begin with.

than your older children.....25 and 23....didn't want you to think I'm a real old biddie....*lol*

Hope you resolve things....sounds like a family therapy would help solve because if you don't resolve....these buildups you get....will continue until you die.  Best get into some therapy - it works WONDERS if one applies it!  *S*

Best of luck!! 

Sorry if I offended you, I was joking because I'm older and I do read many blogger sites of much older, more journalistic type writers, and famous people who are also bloggers.

Again, sorry for any offense taken, none was meant! 

I got less than a decade on you but it starts happening around 40+ (*winks at the 39 y/o poster) and it happens.  At 40, I started writing down lists, whereas prior I never needed a list (to go shopping, let's say).  About halfway through my 40s, it was "where are my keys and/or my eyeglasses" things.  I talked to a bunch of women who confirmed this (older than me).  Now, I do the room - "why did I just walk in here?" - thing. 

I try not to worry about it.  I had a dad (who died nearly 2 years ago at a very old age and more than twice my age *S*) whose short-term memory was not great from his 60s on into his 90s, but his long-term memory was so EXCELLENT that he could tell you a story about a horse, his neighborhood, and a situation that he experienced at 5 years old (an emotional trauma) with such clarity and lucency, you could picture the entire situation yourself.  That, in and of itself, amazed many!

So, don't beat yourselves up about this stuff.  There are lots of books out about this very subject.  When you think about these things, well....what's the alternative?  (I'm thinking some extra serotonin *LOL*) - but really, these things will occur and I'm not choosing the alternative, that's a given (i.e., death).  *LOL*  So, I'll live with these challenging things happening and try not to kick myself every time I mess up. 

I will tell you I am much better about my keys and eyeglasses today because I made places for them to sit (if I remember to not toss them wherever *LOL*)

You are all not alone, that's a given too

where you pretty much have to point the remote directly at the box.  The newer one where you can be anywhere in the room is DRD435RH.  This is about 4 years old, so I would think the DVR should be able to do the same thing.

We have favorites, but at least 2 other options, maybe 3, where you can block certain channels so it is like having favorites.  I like the DIY type channels and DH does not.  It has my channels blocked as he is a surfer and blocking mine eliminates having to go through all mine.  When I want to watch I switch to all channels.

If you go to Direct's website they might have the info more detailed. 

but the seller sent me a plain, flat, dirty keyboard!  I was sooo mad.  Fortunately I complained enough and sent him copies of receipts from Amazon showing it was supposed to be the Belkin ergo (he insisted he clearly stated what he was sending) that he has finally agreed to send my money back.

So, as soon as he refunds my money (I got an e-mail from Amazon saying I should be getting it soon), I will look for the older one that you are talking about.

Thanks for sharing your experiences! :)

Chickadee

I also feel bad when I see an older person eating alone at a restaurant.  When I say older, I mean 75+.  I feel like inviting them to sit with us, but that would be too weird. 

I also feel bad for people with no insurance or people that will not fill scripts because of the cost. 

I knew a lady who had lived with a man for 30 years.  He got Alzheimer's and his daughter had him declared incompetent.  She threw this lady out of the house she had lived in for those 30 years (common law marriage not recognized here).  No one could find a will, so this lady was on the streets for all intents and purposes.  She called me one afternoon to ask how much I would charge her a month for rent (she had only social security,  minimal) to live on, had Parkinson disease, heart problems,  diabetes, etc.  Knowing she was a proud lady and I was working in a hospital at the time, I told her I would charge $50.00 a month for food, but if she helped clean the house and cooked in exchange for rent, that would be great.

She lived with me until her death 7 years later.  My mother had passed away about a year earlier, but this dear lady became my best friend and my substitute mother.  I was compensated in ways you never will never know, but monitarily it was wonderful.  She was a wonderful seamstress and could knit, so after that I rarely if ever had to buy any clothes, just some yarn or fabric.  My mother had spoiled me completely, my late husband had spoiled me, and then I had the wonderful fortune of having this lady as my friend who took over where they left off. 

Before she called me, she had rented a room in a cheap motel and it took all her money.  She went to the local food bank to try to get food, but they told her she was not eligible because she had no children.  It would take several months for her to become eligible on medicaid.  Her medications cost so much that she would have to pay 100% by September because she had exhaused her medical benefits, so I bought those for her - unless I could convince a few doctors on staff to help by getting drug reps to contribute a few for her.  Is this what we do to our senior citizens? 

I am not asking for praise.  I just think it is time that we all look around and see what is happening.  There are a lot of people in this world who need compassion and help, and we really should do what we can to ease their discomfort.