What spouse???? sm
Posted By: TXMT on 2006-03-03
In Reply to: Spouse's job??? - curious george
I am IT and I am raising 2 kids alone on what I make. It would be nice to have a spouse to help with the expenses and to be able to afford some of the luxuries of life, but that's not in the cards for me, at least not for the foreseeable future. :-(
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Spouse's job???
What does everyone's husband/wife do for a living? Who makes more money? I know I am being nosy, just curious though.
I work fulltime
Husband is starting an online travel company (which I will definitely let you all know when it is ready so you can book some vacations!!!!) He has been working probably 12 total hours a day with that (day and night). He quit a very high profile job so he could do something from home to be with the kiddies more.
I obviously am making more money as of right now, but hopefully will be able to retire once his business soars!!!!
Spouse's job
My hubby definitely makes more than me. He is also self-employed tri-axle truck on road construction. works anywhere from 5 to 6 days a week, 8-10 hours a day.
I work a full time, part time plus 3 accounts of my own, 10-12 hours a day, 7 days a week and I earn in 2 weeks equals a little more than days pay for him. I'm thinking about joining him iin that business. 
Is there truly a way to get your spouse to....sm
really help out around the house? I am young, lower 30s, and my husband is too. He is on disability due to a mental health issue that is totally controlled with medication. The problem is he does not help out around the house without me begging or getting mad and then it is just the basics. We are supposed to go to counseling tomorrow, but I feel it is not going to help. Another issue is he is not clean like he used to be. He does not make an effort in his appearance, does not get cleaned up hardly ever, etc. This has impacted my feelings for him a lot and I hate that it has. Sometimes I feel like I am trapped in a place where I don't want to be. When we had first gotten together I could not imagine my life without him. I thought about him all day, couldn't wait to be around him, etc. Now, it is the same 'ole, same 'ole. We have only been married 5 years. We do have a small child and that is the main reason I think I am staying. I have told him time and time again that this is pushing me away, but still nothing changes. I bust my butt every day trying to work and even pick up. I do all of the laundry, do all of the bills, do all of the cooking and most of the cleaning. After all of this, our house is still a disaster area. I am tired. But I want that love back - just unsure if I can ever get it back again. Any advice?
Spouse's job???
My spouse is a QA tech at a meat packing plant. He hates it, too. Has to work in a freezer. We think we got it bad.
maybe have your spouse or
someone else read you the questions to make sure you understand them. another MT would be great since he/she would know if you're getting the gist of the question.
The written part's always been the easy part for me. It's the transcription I fret about, often making things wrong that I had right. It's hard, but I'm learning not to second guess myself so much and am doing much better. What's funny is I always make 98% or better with my current company - been there 10 years. Just nerves I guess.
You've never been upset with your spouse
and didn't have anyone around to vent to in real life? Besides, it's said that marriage without conflict likely involves a lack of deep or meaningful communication. Research has also proven that couples without conflict are more likely to divorce because there's no passion or growth.
spouse abuse
Yes, I have talked to the police, but he was married before and living in NC and I believe he may have a record there. He is a real slick one. He put scratches all over himself to try and make it look like I hit him. I have never had anyone do this before and he is a sick individual. I am sure he has had prior incidences.
We were only married for 6 months. I refuse to let anyone hit me, no matter how much I love them.
Thanks for your concern.
Spouse abuse
I was wondering if anyone could tell me if there is a way to find out if someone has a previous record of spousal abuse.
My husband hit me and I cant afford a lawyer but make too much money for Legal Aid. I want to do this on my own. I just need to know if there is a way to find out this information from a different state. Are these files open to the public? Or does a lawyer have to request these things?
Thanks so much for your help!.
If it's something you wouldn't do with your spouse
x
Yes, but being with a spouse who does those things
doesn't justify the other spouse's emotional infidelity.
If you have a spouse who is an employee have
extra $$ taken out of his/her check for your taxes. I am not an IC, but my company is in a state that has no state taxes and so they do not pay my state taxes. The first year I paid a penalty (about $60) for not having enough taxes taken out, so I just figured out what they would be, divided them per the number of paychecks and had that much extra taken out. We've always gotten a heft federal return, but usually paid at least half of that in state taxes. This is the first full year that we've had extra taken from DH check and I'm anxious to see how it all works out.
If I expect perfection from my spouse, that must mean
I am perfect myself. I don't know of anyone who is perfect. I am not so judgmental of people that I expect them to never have bad days and never express frustration, or else the relationship is over. I'm sure there have been plenty of days in the past 20 years that we've known each other when I've annoyed him to no end. Sometimes intentionally.... LOL
One gift per wedding per spouse.
You do not have to buy a gift for this and that and the other. ONE GIFT. No more. Oh, and you have a full year from the official date of the wedding to get them something.
Shoot, I cut my brother off after his third wedding (to three different women). I'm not buying him any more wedding presents ever. LOL Especially, now that he's on his third divorce.
Refer to the Spouse Equity Act
You are entitled to coverage for 18 months...some of these responses just floor me!
Health insurance for me and spouse..how much? sm
I would like to get a general idea of how much I will have to fork out for health insurance for me and my spouse. I've always been an IC and am looking to switch to employee status for benefits. How much in general do you pay?
If you wouldn't do/say it in front of your spouse, it's wrong.
Just my opinion.
Every time I transcribe someone who has lost their spouse...(Sm)
or other family member and is having a hard time getting through it, my heart just sinks and I feel so bad for them. It is amazing the empathy we can feel for people we don't know. This pt is having a hard time today because it is the one-year anniversary of her father's and sister's death. How very sad.
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