Wedding announcement etiquette question...
Posted By: June bride on 2006-04-07
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Hello,
My fiance and I are thinking about including a separate note in our wedding announcements/invitations telling people where we're registered at or a charity they could make donations to in our honor so that we don't have to field a cazillion phone calls asking this. We're thinking about wording it something like "your kind thoughts and presence if possible is your gift to us. For those who'd like to send an additional gift we request that a donation be made to *** charity. We are also registered at ***.
Would you do this to make it easy for people or would you consider it tacky? Personally I'd like it if people sent that when they sent me invitations to help make it easy to know what they want for a gift.
Votes please!
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I just went thru this last year with my daughter...I think it would be appropriate to add where the bride is registered...
way off topic wedding present question - is there proper etiquette on the amount a guest must (sm)
spend on the wedding present? I have known people who hardly know the bride and groom yet spend $75 to $100 on a present. Is this now the expected/correct amount to spend? I was inclined to spend $25. Am I being cheap?
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Format change, no announcement?
Here it is after 1:00 p.m., and there has been a big change to the templates for the account I type for a service, which suggests there may or may not be a change in the instruction we have about strickly adhering to this format, no matter what order the dictator dictates, and still there has been no e-mail to clarify what's going on.
We are graded on how closely we adhere to format. Why wouldn't the company send out an e-mail to tell us what's going on? This co is usually good with the e-mails, and since they are very busy and get way too many e-mails, wouldn't it make sense that they'd send one out as soon as they knew something? I know they won't grade us down for not knowing, but if formatting is important enough to grade us on, doesn't a change warrant a simple e-mail? They rather do 20 individual e-mails?
Weird.
Did someone make an announcement there in the 'village' or something?
How do they all know that the site is owned by new non-American owners?
There was no announcement of this policy change? Sounds like it's time to go. nm
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Okay, then what do I say? I'm just kidding, sort of - Just thank them for taking the time to meet with me and that I look forward to serving them???
Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated! Obviously this is my first direct contract with a clinic rather than through another transcriptionist..
Etiquette
I recently had a job interview for an MT position, and the perspective employer told me that she was going to keep the job open for another 2 weeks and had more interviews. I'm thinking it might be a good idea to send a followup letter, but I have no idea how to word it other than to thank her for her time. Would any of you be so kind as to make any suggestions on this? Thanks so much!
Etiquette, schmetiquette.
I don't see the point of spending more than you can afford for gifts for people just to "keep up with the Joneses". That's not called etiquette, it's peer pressure. Really, what are the recipients going to do? Blacklist you from their next wedding? Demand a bigger gift out of you? When my husband and I got married 15 years ago, the $5 bill stuffed in a card had as much sentimental value as the $350 hotel gift card we got. It's the thought that counts, not the amount. If people are so petty that they're going to sit around condemning others for not spending more on gifts, they're not very nice people to begin with. If $25 seems like a reasonable amount to you, then it is a reasonable amount. Etiquette is just a fancy way of saying some people have nothing better to do than make up rules for other people.
funeral etiquette
She is not too young but it would not be good to force her to go. My children went to family funerals with us but we live in the south and are not catholic, do not have a lot of set rituals, just a few songs, some words from a minister, about the person who died and what they meant to the family, closing with prayer and the "last look" at the body. Family and close friends usually go for a short interment ceremony at cemetery . Funerals here are almost always open casket. usually the preacher tells the family they need to prepare for the day when they will be "in the box" forgive the way I put it but that is what they do. The first time we took kids with us, I talked to them and told them what to expect re appearance of the deceased etc. Maybe you could talk to her and explain that this is the last time she will "see" grandmother in this life. If other children are going, she would not want to be the only one that doesn't. However I don't know that much about catholic funerals and if you and your husband agree, that is the main thing. If anyone is rude enough to try to tell you how to run your life in this area, tell them that your husband and you agreed on this. Hope this helps.
Another question, as far as etiquette when applying for a job... SM
I was thinking about applying with the service that the hospital is outsourcing to and I was wondering say I take the test and get a job offer, is acceptable for me to request that I be placed on my former employer's account and will they honor my request?
They have been handling our over flow for several years and so I'm sure that there are MTs who have been on the account a while. So I guess I was just wondering if they would let me work on an already well established account.
Funeral etiquette question for you. sm
Hubby's mom has passed away. Our daughter is 11. She went to my mother's funeral last year and did okay. She insisted on going as she was close to my mom and she was given the decision because of her age. It was also a graveside, closed casket service.
She was never that close to hubby's mom and it's going to be an open casket Catholic funeral with visiting hours at the funeral home, etc. She does NOT want to go. I have some people saying that she has to go as she is the granddaughter and others saying that she is too young for this type of service.
In one way I think that children need to deal with things so that they can mature. Hubby is neutral on this issue as well.
What do you all think?
I'd lean more towards traditional etiquette as well. sm
I think it's tacky. I recently received an invitation that had a printed card for a Penney's registry inside and thought it was inappropriate. Taking calls and answering questions are all just part of being the bride - just enjoy it! Congratulations!
A question of gift etiquette.... (see mssg.)
Okay --- tell me what you think about this odd little experience!
A friend of mine, a woman who is very well-off -- far more so than I will ever be -- over the years has routinely given me bags of her college-student daughter's clothing that she no longer wants. Her daughter gets tired of stuff LONG before it even looks old, and I really like her particular taste in clothes. We're pretty much the same size, too! So I would always get this cool hand-me-down stuff to sort through, most of which I would keep.
Those I didn't keep were usually items that were a bit too small for me, usually skirts or pants. Usually I would just take those to the Goodwill, but I have another friend that is slightly smaller than I, and also a lot poorer. She's been unemployed much of the time I've known her, and really needed the clothes! Since she usually shopped at the Goodwill anyway, I knew that giving her the stuff I couldn't wear would save her even more money. That way all of my friend's daughter's clothing went to good use, and was enjoyed. A win-win situation. Or so I THOUGHT....
Unbeknownst to me, it turned out that the friend who gave me all these clothes could not STAND the friend that I was giving the too-small stuff to. I didn't know this until one time when I told her how great it was that the other friend was so grateful to have the clothing that I didn't want, because then none of it had to go to the Goodwill, all went to good use, etc. etc. WELL! Instead she emails me and tells me that she cannot STAND my other friend, and absolutely does NOT want me to give any of the clothing I don't want to her, because she "doesn't want to see her wearing it." (?????)
I emailed back and said that although I respect whatever reasons she has not to like my other friend, that I DID have a problem with being told what I could or could not do with cast-off clothing that was given to me, and therefore MINE to do with as I saw fit. I certainly didn't want to have to tell my other friend that I couldn't give her any more clothing because the person I received it from didn't like her and didn't want her to have it! So, since we all have the same large group of friends and see each other often, I decided that I would just no longer accept used clothing from my friend's daughter anymore. In order to try to keep the peace, I simply told her I "had no more room in my closets for any more stuff", though I'm sure she knows why I no longer want the clothes. But, because of her control-freakishness about who wears these clothes, now both my other friend and I have lost out on a good thing.
 What's your take on that? Don't you think that once you GIVE something to someone as a gift, that it is THEIRS to do with as they please, regardless of how you may happen to feel about it? Does that sound odd to you?
wedding, to go or not go - sm
I have been invited to my 2nd cousins wedding. I really don't want to go because I do not know him or the bride. However, that side of the family is apparently having a get-together of the first cousins around the same time and I had planned on going to that. Now I feel I "should" go to both or neither one. What would you do? Thanks for the help.
Yea, he does. Met him at the wedding
walked in I thought I would fall over  There were other stars there but all I saw was him. Did meet him and he was nice and funny.
we had fountains at our wedding
We just had 2 chocolate fountains at our wedding- they were amazing! The fountains came with lots of goodies to dip them in. They used to cost about $5 a person but now they have significantly gone up in price- i think they are at $12 pp now.
In a way, as far as amount of food, it seems you get your money's worth but on the other hand, since everyone has already had their meal & there is the wedding cake for dessert, you end up having a lot of food left over in the end so in some ways, it can be a waste of food.
I think it also depends on who you rent it from as far as pricing and what comes with it. At our wedding, the company that provided the fountains took care of setting them up & running the fountains.
Has anyone seen The Wedding Crashers. If so what do you think?
Need to go to the movies and looking for something good.
Black at wedding
Black is stylish and I love it. I would suggest not wearing black stockings, etc. Do you have any bright colors you could add such as a cloth rose (very stylish)or some bright jewelry to offset the black. Try a thrift store for a bright bag or shoes. I just did that and found a pretty pink bag with black trim for a couple of dollars. That should offset the black. Just try not to go "totally black" but if you have to, so be it. Just wear a "smile" and have a great time! Life is temporary, enjoy it.
the last wedding I went to was in the evening and...sm
most of the guests were wearing black. Of course, it was elegant dresses, with sequins and sparkles. It actually made the pictures turn out wonderful, very classy looking. Black can be fun, if you dress it up. If you are wearing say a black skirt, pair it with a flashy top, sequins, etc, if the wedding is at night. As for daytime, I think I'd steer clear of black and opt for something bright or neutral. Of course, this is JMHO, of course. Anyhow, the most important thing is to be there to support the new couple and, most of all, have fun! Best wishes to the bride and groom! 
According to the wedding channel..
(from the site):
It is now acceptable for female guests to wear black to weddings, especially in the late afternoon and evening. Black choices, however, should be more ornate than reserved, to give off an air of celebration rather than mourning. Sometimes, adding a little color (vibrant flower pins and scarves work wonderfully for weddings) rounds off the somber look well.
I attended a wedding where even
It was absolutely beautiful! White bride's dress, black tuxedos with red roses, black bridesmaid's dressing with them carrying a red rose, and the bride's huge bouquet of red roses. It was very classy!
hey, sounds just like the wedding I went to...sm
Hummm, was it in November? In Georgia? Wow, that would be weird, wouldn't it?
Wedding attire
You could pick up one of the Bride magazines and see dozens of options for wedding attire. According to tradition, the veil symbolizes virginity, while a white dress symbolizes a first wedding. Neither is required for a bride on her wedding day. Someone where I work wore a pink wedding dress despite it being her first marriage. There really are no rules these days, and most wedding directors are just hoping to convince brides to cover all tattoos for their big day!
Wedding Cake
Could anyone direct to me some good web sites with wedding cake pictures? I have found a few, but it seems they are all "cookie cutter" and I am looking for something original, but not crazy. Am having a smaller wedding (under 100), outdoor. Any links anyone could provide, I would be majorly appreciative! (I have cake appointments next week and need to provide some ideas for them.)
wedding announcements
Really, no, girls, this is very tacky, either in an announcement or in an invitation. Please, let's stick to traditional etiquette.
Wedding gift
If you already have two households of "stuff" you obviously don't "need" the money either, especially since you are going to have a yard sale. Two terms come to my mind - trailer trash and greed - if the shoe fits - put one of them on and leave me off your guest list. Personally, I would make a donation to the children's home, as I no longer send flowers to a funeral when a charity is listed. I send money to the charity and the family receives a card saying that a donation has been made in the memory of the deceased person. Since you don't seem to mind asking your guests for money - may I ask your age and the age of your fiance? Just trying to put this in perspective
What to wear to a wedding-sm
I just can't decide. It's an evening wedding, outside in a park. Apparently the bride is going to be barefoot and the groomsmen are in khaki pants. That's about all I know.
Could I wear slacks and a casual top? Or go with my original plan to wear a dress and sandals? Or does it matter at all? Lol.
wedding attire sm
Dress any way you please, I hate it when people say I'm "overdressed". I love to dress up, just be sure your shoes are comfortable and like the others said, outside can get very cold, so bring a nice sweater, shawl or whatever. Just have fun!!! However, sounds like these people could care less what you wear, they sound like they have their own minds, good for them!
Wedding Reception
I was married last month. I had the reception right next to where the wedding took place. I know this isn't always possible, but I wanted it to be as easy as possible for my guests. They just walked right on over to the reception. I also booked rooms at a hotel right next to that, so they could just walk over to the wedding and then walk back to the hotel after the reception.
I alloted about 30 to 45 minutes for the pictures after the ceremony. It only took about 30 minutes....but I arranged for the caterer to have a punch fountain and servers to pass around a few little nibbles, while the guests waited for us to arrive. I cannot imagine leaving them there for a long period of time, especially with nothing to eat. The bar was also open for them (host paid for beer and wine - they had to pay for any hard liquor or mixed drinks - I thought that was fair). Anyway....it all worked out very well. I think it is very rude to keep guests waiting. It sounds like just poor planning and no thought given to the guests.
wedding gift
I need some ideas please. I have a very close friend who is getting married for the third time, and this will be the second marriage for her fiance. Of course, they have everything they need, and probably more. But I don't want to go to her wedding empty-handed. I'd like to get her something nice, even if just a little something, so does anyone have any ideas? Thanks very much.
wedding gift
These are all such outstanding gift ideas, and I appreciate each and every suggestion! Thank you so much!
My dad had one at his wedding, but the caterer's did all that, so I have no idea - sm
It did not look complicated though and the kids absolutely loved in. I think my one daughter alone ate about 30 strawberries (dipped in chocolate of course).
19 on wedding day, still married 16 years later.
One gift per wedding per spouse.
You do not have to buy a gift for this and that and the other. ONE GIFT. No more. Oh, and you have a full year from the official date of the wedding to get them something.
Shoot, I cut my brother off after his third wedding (to three different women). I'm not buying him any more wedding presents ever. LOL Especially, now that he's on his third divorce.
If they are like wedding announcements, you do it AFTER the event - sm
if you are inviting people to attend then I would think 3-4 weeks prior to the event.
Flamingo and wedding in Vegas
My daughter got married at the Flamingo last summer. It was very nice...no complaints.
Our wedding was small, just family, and we got
married just 5 months after we met, but the last couple of days were nerve wracking. I took Valium.
Off the subject - wedding reception -sm
So the wedding season is upon us. I went to a wedding this weekend. It was an afternoon wedding with reception "immediately following" but it turned out the reception did not start for 1-1/2 hours after the ceremony ended. I thought it was a bit rude to keep the guests waiting without even as much as a glass of water on the table and no announcement about where the bride/groom, bridal party was. The reception hall was only a few miles away. Was it just me, or was this a long time in between the wedding and the reception?
It depends on the wedding, venue, time of day
http://fashion.about.com/cs/tipsadvice/a/weddingguest.htm
But I've worn black to weddings in the past and have seen others do it as well. Black has an elegant appeal that looks great for any special occasion.
Wow. My wedding day was such a blur that I couldn't even remember who
was there, let alone what anybody wore. A week after the wedding, someone made a comment to me about something that happened. I didn't even know they had come to the wedding.
Quick wedding poll time...
Did anyone out there wear a wedding dress without a veil? I'm not wild about any of the veils I've seen and think one might annoy me rubbing against my shoulders, therefore I am considering not buying one to go with the dress. The dress is a full length puffy styled one. Will I be creating a new fashion statement if I don't wear one? (smile).
Question about wedding gift requests...sm
My fiance will be merging 2 homes into 1 and the last thing we need are material things as wedding gifts as we'll be yard selling and giving away the equivalent of a household of goods as it is, with many items being donated to a local women's shelter to help these ladies set up a home now that they're away from their abusers. I'm not interested in collecting china or silver and there's really nothing we need. We've decided on asking people to give donations to a local children's home in our honor instead of wedding gifts, but other than that how do you recommend that we politely tell people that we don't want material things and if they don't want to donate to the children's home that we'd be happy to accept a gift card or money? I looked on websites such as "the knot" and while in one place they say it's tacky to ask for money, in their registry they have an option for people to sign up to buy American Express gift cheques which is basically the same thing (love the double standard) with the exception of course being that these have to be bought through them with a $50 minimum (ouch!) and $5 service fee. Thanks for your input!
Prior wedding inquiry update...sm
Previously I had posted on this board as my fiance and I were trying to figure out how to handle letting people know that we don't want any wedding gifts (we each have a house and don't need material things as we're giving away tons of stuff with merging the home) but had chosen a charity for anyone who would like to make a donation in our honor.
My maid of honor and a couple of friends decided to host a party for us and on the invitations put on there that in lieu of gifts that we were requesting donations to a children's charity that we chose because of the reputation of spending the money wisely and being well known for its work.
This has gone over very well with the invitees. I've had many of them call and e-mail me or my fiance saying that they thought this was a wonderful way for us to help others less fortunate and yet celebrate our upcoming marriage. The charity agreed prior to our announcement to not pester these people afterwards with mailings and is simply sending those that send a donation a thank you card, and then they're sending me a weekly list showing who made a donation and their address, but not the dollar amount as I don't care to know what they gave.
So... for future brides that don't want gifts I suggest doing what we did - it's a win for the charity and lets the family/friends that wanted to do something special do this in a way that we chose (and we aren't stuck with household items we don't want or need!)
Today would have been my 19th wedding anniversary....
But I divorced him 17 years ago! LOL!
Tony and Tina's Wedding. It was really funny. sm
You are part of their wedding and it was fun.
MSN.com has article today on worst wedding presents ever!
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oh yeah, at that wedding, the bridesmaids wore black, too sm
with dark red rose boquets. It really was beautiful, at night, with candle light...ooh, I wanna get married again...
We went to a wedding and received our "thank you" a year later! so there is hope.
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went to a wedding once where we waited for 4 hours! we finally went to McDonald's. nm
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Okay, but if I remember correctly, wasn't Jesus at a wedding when he turned
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