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call her by her first name.  The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away. 

I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated.   Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie.  :-)

But, as someone pointed out, to each his own.  If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that.  I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks."    

I don't think there's any cause to get upset or defensive here.  Look it up on line...even colleges are offering courses in Ebonics!  ...well of course they are more sociology-type courses, but still, people are PAYING to learn about the why's and how's of this "other" language.

A quote from one of the sites I found:

"UT-Austin's "Introduction to the Study of African American English," teaches students that the sentence, "Nobody didn't leave" is not "mainstream English with mistakes," but rather a legitimate English dialect. "Ebonics: Myth and Facts" and "African-American English" are both offered at Harvard. Penn and UCLA also promote Ebonics as a legitimate dialect in, "Introduction to African American and Latino English" and "Afro-American Sociolinguistics: Black English," respectively."

Here's the link: http://www.academia.org/campus_reports/2002/september_2002_2.html

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My children are lucky to have their mother taking care of them, not a stranger.  I work my butt of taking care of my kids and have made many sacrifices to be able to live this life of working PT and being a full time mother.  I know that I am my kids mom. 

I know that it must be hard for you to look at your kids and tell them that you don't want them to be with you everyday.  The sacrifices could be made. 

I used to have Mount Everest on the basement floor every single day and then I just got fed up and stopped doing laundry except for my own and household items, i.e., towels, etc. Half of the pile was clean stuff that I had folded and put in the kids' rooms that they just put back in the pile when they "cleaned" their rooms.

It took them a while to adjust, but the youngest was 8 and the older ones were 12 and 17 and I left their stuff in the mountain until they realized that they couild actually work the washing machine AND the dryer. They also know if they put the washer on the extra small cycle for only one pair of pants, one shirt, one pair of socks and one pair of underwear for themselves, and I actually find it, it gets hauled out of the washer and thrown back on the pile wet.

And don't even think about not scraping AND rinsing your plate. You won't get fed.

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sound like an experienced MT and I'm sure if something happens to the job you have, you can find another one with no problem.  And there are ALWAYS hospital jobs open.  When the time comes that you need it, a job will be there.  Don't stress out over it and enjoy the time you have with your family.  That time goes by so fast.  We really are lucky or blessed or whatever you want to call it to be able to do what so many people would love to do - bring in some income and still stay home with our families.  MT has served me well over the years.  I never tried to work with little babies or toddlers, but have ever since they got a little older.   AND - so many kids are own their own between the time that school is out when a parent gets home.  I saw my kids' friends through middle school and high school just run wild after school, cause there was no one to know they weren't home or to even care.  I realize my kids would have been running with them if I had been at work - and I'm glad I was at home!

not focused solely on them.  That's why mommies never get to go potty by themselves, talk on the phone, go shopping, read a book, or any of those other fun things that we used to do before children.  You're going to need to concentrate on medical billing as much as medical transcription.  Plus, I don't know that there's really as much of a market for it.  I tried to get into it before I got into MT, but those ads are often bigger scams than the other work at home ads.  A lot of the hospitals and clinics don't use medical billing services because it's all been automated through their computer system.

The transcription will get better when your kids get older.  If your kids are interrupting you that much, what about hiring a neighborhood teen to "babysit" or entertain them for a few hours?  You can pay a younger teen less since you'll be there anyway.  Work while the kids are asleep.

I haven't read all the responses yet (I'm trying to get some work done tonight, too!), but I thought I'd just add this, in case one of the reasons you are thinking about doing this is to stay home with kids.  If not, just ignore this.  That's why I am doing it - I quit an office job when I had my second son, stayed home for a few years with both kids, but living on 1 income became increasingly difficult.  Now my kids are preschool/school-aged, and I have been doing this for about a year, working 25 hours a week now.  The biggest pro is the biggest con - you're home with your kids.  Yes, I'm here if they need me, I can drop everything and pick a sick kid up from school, I don't have to pay for child care or feel guilty over child care. 

That said, being here and working with head phones on is NOT the same as being here and paying attention to my kids, and boy do they know it!  Very often, I find myself feeling so frustrated because no one is ever happy - the kids aren't happy because I'm not with them, my husband's not happy because he has to deal with the kids as soon as he gets home (of course he's also not happy that we don't have more money!), and I'm not happy because it takes me twice as long to get my lines in as it would if everyone would just leave me alone.

Can you tell I'm having a bad day?  (I am so ready for school to start back up!)  LOL!  Some days are much better, and overall this is the best option for me.  I can work in whatever clothes I like, take a break, answer the phone, etc.  I can work with my cat curled up on my printer and my dog panting at my feet!  I definitely don't miss office politics, panty-hose, and commuting.  Sometimes I miss the company and the occasional office gossip, though.  ;-) 

Anyway, just be aware that if you are planning to work at home with kids, it really will take you much longer.  I honestly don't know how people with very young children do this - unless they work through naps and early morning or late nights.  I do mostly evening and weekend work, with a couple of hours during the day 3 days a week.

Good luck to you!  Hope this helps!

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I am sorry but this really bugs me.  Anyone working at home is doing a JOB -- this is not something added to watching your kids, doing your laundry, grocery shopping or whatever.  You made a committment to do this job.  Would they let you bring in your kids to the office -- NO because they expect to have the work done.  So you need to set aside the time to do your job and if you need daycare get it.  But you cannot add on a 6-8 hour job with three kids at home. Plain and simple -- it is a job.  It is your choice to watch your kids during the day and you cannot expect young children to occupy themselves when Mom is home.  So either work at night, get a babysitter or be quiet as you made this choice.  If you hired a babysitter would you want them to be doing a job while watching your children?  

I would agree that it is a lot easier to do when you have a baby because you can work around the baby's schedule, at least I was lucky to have a very flexible employer at the time I had my three little ones.  As they get older, it is more difficult because you will be running around with them to do their activities/school stuff, and they want to spend one on one time with you, etc... but I also agree that if you have something to keep them busy like the leap pad or computer, or play things you can do it.  I've managed to do this at home for 8 years with three kids starting when my 10 year old was 2 so it is possible to get it done. You need to be very organized and disciplined to get the work done but it definitely can be done with babies and kids around. Good luck!! 

Three of my grandkids were here to spend a week with us.  They are ages 9, 6, and 4.  I had forgotten how earnest they are at that age, how sweet & sincere.  They argued over who got to help me open the gate to our driveway when we went out (we live in the boonies).  We ended up taking turns.

A conversation with the 6 y/o:  "Grandma? This is funny, right? You know James? In my class? He brought Cheetos and I brought Fritos.  Get it? Cheetos & Fritos? That's funny, right?"

I am trying to enjoy them as much as I can before they get to that teenage, who-wants-to-go-to-grandma's phase. 

your life will level off.

Right now, from my reading of what you are saying is, YOU ARE SCATTERED.

You run from place to place to place and in between you are doing clothes, wiping noses, and trying to be all things to all people.  It will catch up with you.

You need to circle the wagons and get your living expenses down to a manageable roar.   Aren't you getting any child support?  Maybe that will help.  I never got it - I had such a deadbeat for the kid's father.  And we made it but we didn't have extras.  But we had each other.  My son now has just finished his PhD.  You have to save some of "you" for the kids, you really do.