We had a weird happening after my father died...
Posted By: SM on 2005-07-19
In Reply to: Ok, I give up. My dad passed away - Just me
He died in August and when we went to visit his grave just before Christmas, the grass was still growing back over the plot. The grass had grown in the shape of a Christmas tree inside the rectangular plot of dirt over the grave. We got some bulbs and decorations and laid them in the grass and took pictures. Guess what, the pictures didn't turn out. "dodo do do" (twilight zone tune)
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Don't get weird stuff happening when using ShortHand. Easy to use; not like Instant Text. nm
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ER died when Mark Green died. The 'new'
the same oomph as the originals. Not as exciting as it used to be. I had watched since the very first episode and loved every episode until then. Now it's BORING!
I think I do now, but it used to his father - sm
If I would try to make plans, he would always say he had to see what his father was doing first because he might need help doing something on the family farm. And this was BEFORE his mother passed away and I never understood it. I know WHY he did it - loyalty and I think a sense of obligation - but I could never understand. My feelings were in shreds on more than one occassion. But things are much better now. He's still there to help is father, but I don't feel like I'm running a distant second to him anymore.
my father tried it
My father signed up there but they wanted him to pay $2000 for food. I think it was for some kind of power bar or granola bar and they wanted him to buy $2000 worth. He said he did not want to buy them but they charged his card the $2000 anyway. Needless to say, he immediately withdrew his membership.
He went to Weight Watchers and so far, so good.
My father....
was in many ways a man before his time... My parents' marriage started out very traditional with my dad earning all the money and my mother at home having and caring for the babies. However, my dad was the type who LOVED babies and little ones and would come home and feed or sit up all night with a sick child. Slowly, the tables began to turn. He encouraged my mom to get an education and she eventually began working (as an MT I might add) when I was about 12 (I was the baby). By the time I was 19 of 20 my father was laid off at age 58 and my mother had become a department supervisor and made all the money. My mother had private accounts and actually taught my father to transcribe, which he did until he died about 12 years later. He did the paperwork and billing and delivering too. That made him feel useful. He would shop and cook and do the laundry and have dinner ready for my mom when she got home from work. Talk about a complete 180 degree in a marriage. My father was not perfect, but he was steady and dependable and you always knew that he loved you. My husband is very much the same.
my father uses WW
He has diabetes and a heart condition so it is critical that he maintains his diet & a healthy body weight. So far, he has been really happy with WW and it really has been helping him reach his dietary goals. Good luck to you.
it sounds like Father, May I.....*tsk tsk*..nm
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Loss of father
To wimt: I lost both parents within 7 days of each other. I cried off and on for a couple of years. It takes time to heal and everyone is different. It always helps to surround yourself with people you feel comfortable with and you feel give you support. Plus, grief counseling never hurts--only helps. Good luck to you.
Katharine's Father
I was thinking the same thing about Katharine's father. They'll probably have to hold him up. All he does is cry whenever she sings. Imagine if she wins?
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to all you men
out there!
I took care of my father
for last two years of his life. I barely had time to work because it became so time consuming taking care of him and two little kids. It was very difficult to get any help, and social services can only do so much.
I would think long and hard before making the move. How will you care for your mother if you are working full time, perhaps have to travel across town to see her, take her to doctor visits, and still take care of two kids? My Dad lived on the other side of my duplex so I was right there and it was still incredibly difficult.
If anything, I would advise moving in with her or maybe she could move to Georgia. Good luck whatever you decide.
I'm sorry that' s happening to you. My doc
was sports medicine/rehab, and they are set up in their own office to do EMGs. Yes, I had them done, and it took 5 minutes, so in the same visit I got my injections. Maybe it depends on your area in the country and how up they are on sports meds and the like. Good luck to you. It nearly ruined my life. I couldn't even sleep at night due to the aching and pain and numbness. Sorry you have this.
It is happening right now
In the transcription field. We use to be a very well paid profession. Now it is getting hard to make ends meet. Everything else is going up and we are expected to work for less
OMG, I can so see that happening!
the doc mentioning it in his dictation. You poor thing!
If that is actually happening, then
I would suggest that is a company to run from.
I am sorry this is happening to you. I can
relate 100%, though not the schooling part. Go with the good company, forget the bad and get rid of that stress. Its a negative drain for you. Give a 2-week notice if you can, or a 1-week at best, as you, yourself, feel it is honorable for you. I did same at MQ, after decades, but I had absolutely had it as well. The end of the line - breaking point. It was the longest 2 weeks of my life, and many times I felt like tossing it in early and using my PTO time, but I hung in there, and now I do feel good about that. As unprofessional as they were, I was professional. But, if my new job had needed me to start earlier, or I was having anginal pain, I would have told them to stick it ASAP. Don't jeopardize your health at all. Maybe you'll feel a million times better once you hand in your notice and know you will be leaving. But if you still feel angina, etc., don't put your life at jeopardy. No company or bridge is worth that, please. Blessings to you!
This is happening to me
Does anyone know why this happens?
Sometimes I can't bear the thought of having to go out ... even if I had been somewhere the day before and had a good time, suddenly this dread comes over me, and I can barely even answer my phone!
Since it is happening
to more than just me and we have two or three different ISPs between us (employees, I mean), it must be on their end.
I don't think I would get a very good reception from IT. That's why I asked on here.
Unfortunately, I feel it's better not to make waves at work. It seems things (that should not be a problem) are a problem for them.
happening???
 Anything can happen if all MTs stick together on a united front. You DON'T have to strike or walk out. You do have to STOP allowing the companies to pay you less and less to do offshore corrections and VR. I do not know all legal aspects here, but I do know that they can only get away with what MTs allow them to. Again, if they fire you or you lose your jobs, possibly unemployment.... I do not have all the answers. I am only trying to put some thought into possibly resolving a few issues, not make more. If they were to fire all the qualified MTs, where would they be. AND maybe, just maybe it would bring the rate of pay up a bit and benefits back into your arena.
The father was brought in for report of him saying this and now he is
released. I guess the "report" of the "report" did not pan out enough to keep him in jail. The prosecutor is not at liberty to disclose anything and has said so repeatedly. No professional has ever quoted one of the suspects directly and you know that. A report of a report of this man having said this is all I heard from a reporter.
I have both and even had a father; I love them all dearly!!!!
*** I just knew someone would have to be negative. Everyone, everywhere has something negative to say about most anything. I, quite frankly, enjoy life. Guess what? I even laugh at "women" jokes!!!! I know my father, who died 35 years ago, would have found this very funny. My brother is laughing with me now. My son, who is a Marine, will have to wait until his return home to see it but, unlike some people, he does have a sense of humor and will enjoy it as it was meant to be.
Do you ever watch any comedies on television or anything like that?? It is quite common to see "man versus woman" schtick" (spelling?) all the time. Seems it has not been banned due to "political incorrectness". Anyway, I certainly did not mean to offend you; that I stated before I actually wrote the 15 pieces of advice. Thank you.
Reminds me of my late father-in-law....
He totally controlled the money (he figured he earned it all, so why not) and doled out "household money" to my MIL like Ricky and Lucy Ricardo did. This continued until he died 18 MO ago, so I'm not talking about a by-gone time. Meanwhile, up until he quit smoking, he was buying 3 to 4 packs a day plus stopping at the bar every day on the way home from work. He never did stop drinking and I can only imagine the money he spent on that over their 40 yr marriage, while she's trying to run the house on her "allowance" and she could never take a dime out without his permission beyond the money he gave her. Sheeesh (eyes rolling). Thank God it didn't rub off on their son or I'd be a single woman by now.
My 4 year old also behaves better than his father.
what are you going to do
please give your Father an ATTABOY....nm
Happy Father's Day to ALL including...nm
yes, Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there! (nm)
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The father just bought her a cell
and sent her a text message. She was able to send a message back saying, "I love you guys." I cannot even imagine the pain that family is going through or the other girl's family who was victimized.
The sheriff was even emotional and crying after it happened. It's really sad. I don't know if I could deal with that.
I spoke to the girl's father -
He then contacted the school but I haven't talked to him since then to find out what they told him.
Yes, that me.....have way to much crap happening....
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Well...heartening that I'm not the only one with this, but WHY is it happening to me?? I'm no
with MQ, with another mid-sized national and just starting using this via SpeechMachines. We've tried everything! The 9-pin pedal, the USB pedal, a new USB pedal, deleted some of the virus checkers, keep others closed, deleted programs I don't use anymore, switched the ports, switched the keyboards, redownloaded DQS...I'm the only one in the company having the voice and pedal freeze up and having the mouse and my typing freeze up. Speed and memory are great using XP; have plenty. Tested the CPU and that's fine. Things only freeze up while IN the DQS screen. I can still use my mouse on the periphery. Defragged, spychecked, kicked out the cookies, etc. I have the same software and spyware that the big kahunas have, too, nothing odd or unusual on my machine. If this last reboot doesn't help, they gave me DQS's own tech support to call. I'll keep ya posted! This really bites.... .Passing Thru
Just read about what's happening in...
placed like The Netherlands where some drugs are legal. I don't think it will EVER be legalized, and I certainly hope not. Before you call me an old fuddy duddy at the rip old age of 45, please know that as a teen in the 70s, I smoked more than my fair share of it. Know why I stopped? Because I realized at about age 18 that I was lazy, paranoid, and forgetful. In other words, it made me stupid. Should responsible parents be sitting around smoking dope with young children in their care? Or driving a car? I don't think so. We have enough trouble with people addicted to alcohol who have turned their lives into a train wreck. Don't ask me why one is legal and the other is not. I have no idea, but the last thing we need is another legal mind scrambler to deal with.
that's been happening for over 4 years now.
Yo-Man, Dude, What's happening?
I agree, Simon is more realistic. Chris did do great last night even though I am not into rock. It was tolerable though! He at least got into it and...was good. Paula LOVES those rockers. She loved Bo Bice also. I think a few girls are the best. Can't wait til tonight and then next Tuesday. It is my favorite show.
SAME THING HAPPENING TO ME
Hi Paulette, I am so sorry this is happening to you. I am going through the exact same thing, except none of my sibling has won any money. I am the youngest girl, I have 3 older sisters and one younger brother. He is the only one who is well off. He makes several hundreds of thousands of dollars a year. And he says that it is my mother's fault she didn't plan for her future. Never mind the fact that she paid for his college tuition and he has a master's degree, nevermind the fact that he, his wife and kid lived with my mom years ago rent and bill free. And she paid for his wedding, the birth of his kids, and other things. Then now that he has capitalized on his education, he will not help her. I send my mother $500 every month. She too has COPD and is 75 years old. The bad thing is I live in a different state than she does but I do more for her than my siblings who live in her neighborhood. I pay for someone to do her grocery shopping, clean her house, etc. My sisters could go over there and do those things but they don't. One of my sisters has finally kicked and started to help her but then she took over her checkbook and misuses the 500 a month I send her.
But like you said, I would work 5 jobs if I had to. In answer to your question, I think they might get it, but as long as I keep helping why should they? Then again, maybe they don't. I have tried to stop trying to figure them out. You know that you are doing the best you can to help your mom. In the end, that's what's important.
Believe me, I understand fully your frustration. I want my mother to finish out her life with some sort of dignity, and the same pride she has lived her life with. I love her deeply and we are very close also. My husband doesn't understand their self centeredness and selfishness. I can only do what I feel is right!
Good luck to you and all of God's blessings to you.
Dee
Dee
The same thing is happening to me
I thought I was the only one.
I think the father of the killer should be shamed publically
instead of Natalee's mother. The father of the boy is a lawyer. He is arrested because why???????? That isn't normal if there is no evidence, nothing going on. He says no body/no crime. What kind of father would say that? He is obviously not right in the head nor is his son. They don't keep people in jail without some kind of evidence either. And if my daughter was missing and the father of the suspect was saying things like no body no crime, I might get a little crazy too. I would probably be over there kicking some ***, not just talking about it on TV. Believe me, she is handling great compared to some.
My step-father got a kidney transplant
He was extremely happy to be off the dialysis and looked quite a bit healthier for a span of time (kidneys do things the plastic tubing just can't), but he only lived an extra 3 years and had to take lots of antirejection meds in the meantime, was in and out of the hospital a lot.
I agree with the person who posted below about talking to a physician about the downsides. Find out exactly what quality of life most transplant recipients have and how many extra years most of them receive. This is a big decision. It will change your life and probably in ways you can't fathom yet.
Wish I could give you better answers. It's so hard to watch people we love suffer.
My father is no longer living, but he was never a part
of my life. He worked and worked and worked, and worked some more. When he came home he sat, read the paper, watched TV and fell asleep in his recliner. He NEVER told me he loved me until he was in advanced stages of Alzheimer's disease. We did not get along at all and my mother always said we were so much alike that we clashed, but I don't agree with that at all. My father was not a bad father, just wasn't a good one. I am #4 out of 5 and I always felt I was the only one he didn't love, though I don't know he really knew how to love and probably did the best he knew how - wasn't good enough though.
My DH on the other hand is everything my father wasn't.
What about mudder and fodder for mother and father?
UGH!
That is already happening in my office no doubt about that. You are 100% right.
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First, NY office said no such deal happening; secondly,
the fact that I work for both companies is not why I'm not worried. In fact, that could be the end of my employment stent with either.
I'm not worried because I'll easily get another job or 2 and I can afford to not work for a while if I couldn't find another job immediately.
MT isn't the only thing I can do so I'm not worried.
Yep, very very quiet town. Not much happening there
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Yes, happening right where I live. I am in South
Jersey, and a local hospital here, along with ortho surgeons, has been using these nasty parts - supposedly unaware of their origin. Lots of local folk have been called in and given the news...Met a lady in a doctor's office the other day who has been sick for a long time - high fevers, shaking chills - goes to ID specialist, but still don't know what she has, but now they know the source - rotten cadaveric spine implants. In NJ, the source of all this mess is a funeral home up in North Jersey. I believe we are not to post identifying info - especially in NJ - I watch too much Sopranos, but the hospital is in South Jersey - the recipient - and the source was a funeral home in North Jersey. A Google search should give all details! Ya just never know...
OMIGOSH! This has been happening to us for MONTHS.
and IS keeps saying, must be your ISP, must be this, must be that. Problem is keystroke lag doesn't hurt anyone but transcriptionists...everyone else can wait for the Keystrokes to catch up but not when you are trying to type at the speed of light. Anyway, we have screamed about it for months, but now our account told us they are trialing a voice recognition system. So see? It could be worse.
This was happening to me yesterday. PleaseSM
I work with the DocQScribe platform. I was using my DocQScribe Expander as my license ran out with my SH. So, when I renewed my SH license and started using it again, the same exact thing was happening to me. I fixed it by hitting F4 to toggle my DocQScribe expander off. It was messing up because it was trying to use 2 Expanders at the same time. I have no idea if you are on DocQScribe, but I thought I'd share my experience just in case! Good luck!
Oh! Also, in SH I went into preferences and on the keystroke options I have (put) Pause 0 msec after every 999 keystrokes. That helped my expansions expand more quickly in the past.
Chickadee
OMH - This is unbelievable!!! What is happening to our country! nm
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Yes......same thing happening to me, after 25 years. sm
I am tired all the time.....I think I need a change or 2nd job doing something else, other than MT.
My butt hurts from sitting too long, day in and day out, even after exercising and walking daily.
I am burned out also.....I feel your pain.
It appears to be happening to all of us. How do you spell -
well, that sums it up as to what's happening in this profession! NM lol
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The boy's father was released after a short period of time.
So were the others who were thought to be involved. You have very little knowledge of this case as does Mrs. Twitty. Maybe you should just calm down and educate yourself on Aruban law and justice.
My father left us when I was 3. Busy, I always wanted a family like yours. nm
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