We're trying to get my father home due to health issues
Posted By: Another issue regarding federal prison... on 2006-08-29
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My father has been at a federal prison camp for a little over a year now. He's been sent to a local hospital six times due to heart troubles. Before going in he had two heart attacks, stents placed, treatment for prostate cancer. He's now also having trouble with his kidneys. We are at our wit's end trying to get him home on house arrest. It was a money/bribery charge (federal). No prior record. Can any one PLEASE help?
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Do you have time to waitress? Would be fast cash if you're willing. And home health aides get pai
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I went to VLC, also because of cost issues and had an at home job before graduating. sm
I have worked at home since before graduating and have never had a problem. Was only on QA for 3 weeks and have never had any issues. I think there is way to much hype about the big three schools. You can go do a different school and come out successful! Good luck!
working at home doens't cut it when the health goes,
Could your hubs become a patient of a home health care agency and then you could work for them
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Even WITH health insurance, I think we're out of luck. (sm)
I have insurance with the same ins. company I had with my old employer. All we had to do was change a few addresses, right? Wrong. That in itself was a big ordeal. So now, I go to the dentist to get an extraction, and the chintzy dental insurance just BARELY paid for ANY of it. I paid out about $500, they paid only about $150.
So then I go back to the oral surgeon a week later for checkup & suture removal. Insurance didn't pay ANY of it.
So then I go to buy medication the other day. It's migraine medication I only use once in a great while, and it's NOT available in generic form. In the past (with the same ins. company), I paid a $20 deductible and they paid the rest. So imagine my surprise the other day when I finally ran out of the medication, went to refill it, and I was told the "co-pay" was $210! "Whaaaat????" I said. And it turns out the ins. co. only paid $17.21.
What is wrong with this picture!?!?!? What happened to co-payments being smaller than what the ins. co. pays?
So I call their phone number, and first I get some chick in... you guessed it.... INDIA. Told her I wanted to speak to an American. She was NOT helpful. So I took their company survey, and gave them all zeros. So THEN I get a call from an American. Not much more helpful, though she said that I had a yearly "deductible" of $250 for medications. ??????? Aren't "deductibles" supposed to be for the BIG stuff? Like setting fractures in the ER, or hospital stays?
So I said that the meds would most likely last another year, maybe year & a half. So EVERY time I get these pills, it's gonna cost me over $200????? And the Rx is for only NINE pills. I added it up, and that comes to about $25+ per pill.
I came home absolutely FURIOUS, and of course, I got another migraine! ("Your Health Maintenance Organization at work!")
Meanwhile, I'm overdue for a bunch of stuff like a physical, mammogram, and an MRI 4 years out from a tumor removal, to make sure it hasn't come back. NO WAY can I afford to have those things done (not on an MT's pay!), and have the insurance company stiff me like that. I'm about ready to report them to the Better Business Bureau. HMO's are a rip-off to the max, and are most definitely DANGEROUS to your health!
I dont care if you stay home because ofyour kids, a health issue - sm
or because you just like to work in tne nude. The fact of the matter is, settling for a lower rate jsut for the convenience of working from home is BS. I've been doing this for 25 years and have been home since 1996 and while I know I am not making the same money I did in the haydays, I sure as he11 will not work for less. Many of these companies are bluffing if they tell you they have to lower your rate. In fact, if you hold your ground and have a decent reputation, you can even make more.
It's too bad that so many people don't believe in their abilities and worth to hold out. You should never base your decision on fear. Use logic and common sense.
Good for you. You're a wise woman. Take care of your health first. nm
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How about a home health aide or an aide for Hospice? Get paid weekly, too. nm
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You're RIGHT, & many of us *need* to work at home
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We're at about $2,200 with only 1 child left at home.
My DIL gets about only $2,000 in SS benefits for herself and 3 children. We helped her set her basic living expenses (car, heating, electric and water) at just about $1,000 a month but by the time you add in groceries, gas, car insurance, cable and telephone she really feels the pinch.
If I'm reading correctly, you're not at home when this happens...sm
Which must be so stressful for you. I found this website that you might want to take a look at:
http://www.ygrr.org/doginfo/behavior-phobia.html#Hug
It has info. about homeopathic treatments, drugs, music, behavior mod., hug therapy, etc. It looks like the Clomicalm your vet gave you might not just be a tranquilizer but helps in another way? Not sure.
One of my dogs has a very mild problem in this area. Fireworks and thunderstorms upset him. He finds a place to hide, curls up and stays there, and he won't go outside (where it's louder, of course) until the noise is gone. Luckily, it's mild, and he's even been getting better. We just act like it's no big deal, pat him on the side once or twice and tell him in a cheery voice "You're okay, buddy!" and go about our business. (But I confess, hubby and I let him curl up on the bed in between us during thunderstorms - we're probably rewarding/reinforcing his phobia behavior! LOL)
I did once foster a dog who had a much worse problem. It was getting close to the 4th of July, and the sound of firecrackers terrified him. Long story, but I used Rescue Remedy (homeopathic flower essences) on him with success for the short time I had him. Long term, I think I would have needed something stronger.
Please let us know what happens.
No you don't, BTDT. They're home for a MONTH after 3 months on.
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You're so right - I gave my notice - 5 more days & Im back home!!
I worked at home 9 years - back in an office for a year -cannot WAIT to be back home again. Office politics and BS, silly little rules that make no sense, traffic, hours less in each day because you spend that time commuting, people who care if you have a $200 purse or not...when you work at home you can still have friends, but you get to choose who you spend your time with!
If the home you're visiting has a wireless network, you can connect to that.
When you're there, let the computer search for the network and when it is recognized, connect to it. You will need to enter a passcode if it is a secured network (which it should be). You can save that confirguration to your laptop for future visits. It's really the same process as with a wireless router at home.
Now, if neither router is wireless, you can get a cable from places like Staples that will connect directly into your laptop and the back of the router. You will still need to set up the laptop as described above but, again, that configuration can be saved.
I live in a small town and we don't have Starbucks, Panera, etc., close by but the public library has a wireless network that I can connect to for free; you might want to check into that option as well.
The biggest thing you should be concerned with is that you are operating on a secure network and that information going across the network is at the very least encrypted according to HIPAA standards.
Led Zeppelin is so old they're ready for a nursing home. And the grocery stores
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I think I do now, but it used to his father - sm
If I would try to make plans, he would always say he had to see what his father was doing first because he might need help doing something on the family farm. And this was BEFORE his mother passed away and I never understood it. I know WHY he did it - loyalty and I think a sense of obligation - but I could never understand. My feelings were in shreds on more than one occassion. But things are much better now. He's still there to help is father, but I don't feel like I'm running a distant second to him anymore.
my father tried it
My father signed up there but they wanted him to pay $2000 for food. I think it was for some kind of power bar or granola bar and they wanted him to buy $2000 worth. He said he did not want to buy them but they charged his card the $2000 anyway. Needless to say, he immediately withdrew his membership.
He went to Weight Watchers and so far, so good.
My father....
was in many ways a man before his time... My parents' marriage started out very traditional with my dad earning all the money and my mother at home having and caring for the babies. However, my dad was the type who LOVED babies and little ones and would come home and feed or sit up all night with a sick child. Slowly, the tables began to turn. He encouraged my mom to get an education and she eventually began working (as an MT I might add) when I was about 12 (I was the baby). By the time I was 19 of 20 my father was laid off at age 58 and my mother had become a department supervisor and made all the money. My mother had private accounts and actually taught my father to transcribe, which he did until he died about 12 years later. He did the paperwork and billing and delivering too. That made him feel useful. He would shop and cook and do the laundry and have dinner ready for my mom when she got home from work. Talk about a complete 180 degree in a marriage. My father was not perfect, but he was steady and dependable and you always knew that he loved you. My husband is very much the same.
my father uses WW
He has diabetes and a heart condition so it is critical that he maintains his diet & a healthy body weight. So far, he has been really happy with WW and it really has been helping him reach his dietary goals. Good luck to you.
it sounds like Father, May I.....*tsk tsk*..nm
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Loss of father
To wimt: I lost both parents within 7 days of each other. I cried off and on for a couple of years. It takes time to heal and everyone is different. It always helps to surround yourself with people you feel comfortable with and you feel give you support. Plus, grief counseling never hurts--only helps. Good luck to you.
Katharine's Father
I was thinking the same thing about Katharine's father. They'll probably have to hold him up. All he does is cry whenever she sings. Imagine if she wins?
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to all you men
out there!
I took care of my father
for last two years of his life. I barely had time to work because it became so time consuming taking care of him and two little kids. It was very difficult to get any help, and social services can only do so much.
I would think long and hard before making the move. How will you care for your mother if you are working full time, perhaps have to travel across town to see her, take her to doctor visits, and still take care of two kids? My Dad lived on the other side of my duplex so I was right there and it was still incredibly difficult.
If anything, I would advise moving in with her or maybe she could move to Georgia. Good luck whatever you decide.
The father was brought in for report of him saying this and now he is
released. I guess the "report" of the "report" did not pan out enough to keep him in jail. The prosecutor is not at liberty to disclose anything and has said so repeatedly. No professional has ever quoted one of the suspects directly and you know that. A report of a report of this man having said this is all I heard from a reporter.
I have both and even had a father; I love them all dearly!!!!
*** I just knew someone would have to be negative. Everyone, everywhere has something negative to say about most anything. I, quite frankly, enjoy life. Guess what? I even laugh at "women" jokes!!!! I know my father, who died 35 years ago, would have found this very funny. My brother is laughing with me now. My son, who is a Marine, will have to wait until his return home to see it but, unlike some people, he does have a sense of humor and will enjoy it as it was meant to be.
Do you ever watch any comedies on television or anything like that?? It is quite common to see "man versus woman" schtick" (spelling?) all the time. Seems it has not been banned due to "political incorrectness". Anyway, I certainly did not mean to offend you; that I stated before I actually wrote the 15 pieces of advice. Thank you.
Reminds me of my late father-in-law....
He totally controlled the money (he figured he earned it all, so why not) and doled out "household money" to my MIL like Ricky and Lucy Ricardo did. This continued until he died 18 MO ago, so I'm not talking about a by-gone time. Meanwhile, up until he quit smoking, he was buying 3 to 4 packs a day plus stopping at the bar every day on the way home from work. He never did stop drinking and I can only imagine the money he spent on that over their 40 yr marriage, while she's trying to run the house on her "allowance" and she could never take a dime out without his permission beyond the money he gave her. Sheeesh (eyes rolling). Thank God it didn't rub off on their son or I'd be a single woman by now.
My 4 year old also behaves better than his father.
what are you going to do
please give your Father an ATTABOY....nm
Happy Father's Day to ALL including...nm
yes, Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there! (nm)
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The father just bought her a cell
and sent her a text message. She was able to send a message back saying, "I love you guys." I cannot even imagine the pain that family is going through or the other girl's family who was victimized.
The sheriff was even emotional and crying after it happened. It's really sad. I don't know if I could deal with that.
I spoke to the girl's father -
He then contacted the school but I haven't talked to him since then to find out what they told him.
I think the father of the killer should be shamed publically
instead of Natalee's mother. The father of the boy is a lawyer. He is arrested because why???????? That isn't normal if there is no evidence, nothing going on. He says no body/no crime. What kind of father would say that? He is obviously not right in the head nor is his son. They don't keep people in jail without some kind of evidence either. And if my daughter was missing and the father of the suspect was saying things like no body no crime, I might get a little crazy too. I would probably be over there kicking some ***, not just talking about it on TV. Believe me, she is handling great compared to some.
We had a weird happening after my father died...
He died in August and when we went to visit his grave just before Christmas, the grass was still growing back over the plot. The grass had grown in the shape of a Christmas tree inside the rectangular plot of dirt over the grave. We got some bulbs and decorations and laid them in the grass and took pictures. Guess what, the pictures didn't turn out. "dodo do do" (twilight zone tune)
My step-father got a kidney transplant
He was extremely happy to be off the dialysis and looked quite a bit healthier for a span of time (kidneys do things the plastic tubing just can't), but he only lived an extra 3 years and had to take lots of antirejection meds in the meantime, was in and out of the hospital a lot.
I agree with the person who posted below about talking to a physician about the downsides. Find out exactly what quality of life most transplant recipients have and how many extra years most of them receive. This is a big decision. It will change your life and probably in ways you can't fathom yet.
Wish I could give you better answers. It's so hard to watch people we love suffer.
My father is no longer living, but he was never a part
of my life. He worked and worked and worked, and worked some more. When he came home he sat, read the paper, watched TV and fell asleep in his recliner. He NEVER told me he loved me until he was in advanced stages of Alzheimer's disease. We did not get along at all and my mother always said we were so much alike that we clashed, but I don't agree with that at all. My father was not a bad father, just wasn't a good one. I am #4 out of 5 and I always felt I was the only one he didn't love, though I don't know he really knew how to love and probably did the best he knew how - wasn't good enough though.
My DH on the other hand is everything my father wasn't.
What about mudder and fodder for mother and father?
UGH!
The boy's father was released after a short period of time.
So were the others who were thought to be involved. You have very little knowledge of this case as does Mrs. Twitty. Maybe you should just calm down and educate yourself on Aruban law and justice.
My father left us when I was 3. Busy, I always wanted a family like yours. nm
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Yes, our father's were both truckers and knew each other. I know Terri & her sisters
quite well. We also went to nearby schools. I've been to the zoo once and Australia is just gorgeous. If I ever lived anywhere else it would be Australia. Terri took us around to places that I would have never seen otherwise. She is a lady in the fullest sense of the word. Sadly, I never got the chance to meet Terri's hubby as he was away when we visited. It blows my mind that they were married 14 years. Time really flies and it doesn't seem like it was that long ago that they got married.
I can't imagine any father not wanting to make sure his flesh and blood
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My uneducated but street-wise father had a term for people like that--"Smart Dummy"
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And you think I have the issues!
You have a pretty vivid imagination. The only way you could think up all of that is if you went through it. I am sorry all of that happened to YOU! I really, truly am!
See? There you go with your issues.
If you weren't calling names or belittling people, why are you arguing with me? No, I don't have to put up with verbal abuse from you or anyone. I have no problems with differing opinions, so say whatever you want. For someone who never did any of those things, you're sure coming back to this post to continue arguing about it.
She had issues
Yeah, I belive that's what it was. By no means do I feel repsonsible for what was going on with her. She had marital problems, 2 children at home that she couldn't bear to be without and was just confused about what she wanted to do with her marriage, not to mention the stress of working b/c she was used to the MT world. But nevertheless, I'm kind of glad she's gone b/c she always came in with some sort of sob story.
I had issues with that one.
I have yet to be able to get my foot pedal to work with escribe. I finally downloaded transcription-buddy and it worked for me.
I have issues with this also .....sm
Some times I am so focused, no interruptions, stick to my schedule.....other times it is interruption after another, inability to focus, house to take care of....
It is pretty much Life and I just roll with it...
MS having issues
http://ap.google.com/article/ALeqM5jeUZjaoJFQeFLR1T-E76M3IsHm8gD8V294AO0
Yes, I have the same issues
I have the same issues at my company, and the bad thing is, once they make their changes, whether they be right or wrong...our initials are still on that report. I had an issue with a QA person saying I had the wrong word...well the first time I let it go because I thought, maybe I heard it wrong...the next time I got a report from that doc, he clearly said the word that I had typed previously, so I emailed the QA person and told her NOT to change my word..this is what he is saying, and besides, I confirmed it through Google and other transcriptionists that I trust...she said, that is not the write use of that word, and I told her, that's not my problem, call the doctor and tell him it's not the right use of the word...I'm typing what HE says, he's the doctor....who are we to change what he wants...but I was really frustrated, and she told me she would look into it and let me know...I asked her all day about it, but she never did tell me what she ended up doing, probably changed it....It really makes me mad! So, I'm right there with ya, and like you said there are some fair QA people out there, but the company I work for have a few that just drive me crazy!
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