Upstairs

Posted By: kerri on 2006-03-14
In Reply to: Apartment questions - Jodi

Had the exact same problem. You are right about the What Ifs regarding if you tell on her, etc. Will only make things worse. What I did was try to become friendly with the upstairs neighbor, as best I could. Here's what you do then: Invite her into your place (for some cookies you just made, or to show her something you bought for the wall or the window,etc.). Then, when she is comfortable and is YOUR GUEST, IN YOUR HOUSE, you can every so politely let her know that even though you know she cannot help but make noise (blame it on the thin walls and ceilings), you would appreciate if she could try to keep things at little quieter at say, between 11 p.m. and 6:00 a.m. (or whatever). That way, she will be more inclined to really accept what you are telling her, since she is a guest in your home and will be less inclined to argue. And secondly, should she turn into a nasty neighbor with no regard to the rights of the other tenants, you can say with a clear conscience that you tried POLITELY and PERSON TO PERSON to take care of the situation by discussing it with her privately before having to go to the landlord (who, believe me, takes care of the squeaky wheels in the building as long as you pay your rent on time). Good luck to you!!!!!

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Apartment questions - Jodi
- and it's mostly owners now but....sm - I live in a high rise which went condo
- P.S. - kerri
  - I'm going to.. - Jodi
  - Kerri - great idea but in Florida....sm - I live in a high rise which went condo
    - Oops! - kerri
      - Hey Kerri, glad I could help...*grin*...nm - I live in a high rise which went condo
- Here is an even nicer way to handle it! - TNMT
  - noisy neighbor - nooutstandingwarrants
  - Tactful tip, I like it. - Jodi
    - Let us know if she "gets it" or if you have to take it further! - TNMT
- Kerri had a good idea - When my kids were little, (sm) - a different perspective
- I call the nonemergency police number and let - them handle it.
- welcome to communal living..think hard about how much trouble you want to cause. - rude people indeed
  - I said I didn't want to cause trouble. I'm a nice person. - Jodi
    - Ask if another apt is available for you. - JMO
      - That's a good idea. - Jodi
- Upstairs - kerri
  - Invite the manager instead - NM - CARDIACMT
  - This is good. - Jodi
    - Not a good idea - - CARDIACMT
      - I would say this is not the first time someone has - had a prob with her, and prob not the last!

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do you have ANYthing going on upstairs?
You are blaming a woman in labor for not taking her 2-year-old to the hospital w/her? The driver just felt a bump? Maybe it was raining? Are you out of your mind? Do you live in the real world? What you *believe* in is totally irrelevant to this situation. You are a fool.

You should probably get some psychiatric help - for the benefit of the world, if not yourself.