Totally not MT related but lots of smart people here for advice, I hope.
Posted By: just me on 2005-08-23
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My son had a girlfriend some 8 years ago, she ran off with another guy to another state and it really didn't hurt my feelings at all. They had gone through a lot in the less than a year that they were together including my son helping her cope with a rape trauma that she had been through. I wish truly I could remember the number of months between the rape and her leaving, but I felt it was a short time. That really doesn't matter, but 5 years ago this girl sent an e-mail telling us our son was the possible father of her child "you do the math" but she "really thinks the other guy is the father." My son called her and she was going to send paperwork but never did. Now jump forward to yesterday, my son gets notified via phone that she's looking for him, that she has his daughter, and we're really not sure what to do. The girl does not know where we or my son lives but knows the general area. I'm afraid she'll just show up on my doorstep one day but my son doesn't live here anymore, he's a man with a life of his own. What would you do? Does anyone know the legality of all this?
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Totally not MT-related, but need advice
My old crockpot (have had it for 20+ years) needs to be replaced. It seems to work fine but the plastic lid is totally cracked. It's probably losing heat because of this, so I would like to get a new one. I know there are some folks on here who use their crockpots a lot and was hoping for a little advice. I was thinking about getting a programmable one. I don't really NEED it, since I'm at home working anyway, but wonder if it offers any advantages over the regular kind. I would probably get the 5-quart model. Any feedback would be appreciated. TIA.
I've got a totally non-MT related issue that I need advice on. SM
Several years ago the husband of a friend of mine made a pass at me. When I was married we would get together with my friend and her husband to play cards and stuff like that. Her husband made a blatant pass at me, basically called me one night and asked me if I wanted to.... well you get the idea. After that I basically avoided going over to their house to play cards and we stopped getting together so often. I never told my friend because she is one of those who thinks the sun rises and sets on her husband's behind. Women have called her in the past and claimed to have slept with him and she has basically said they were liars and believed everything her husband said. I figured she wouldn't believe me and it would basically ruin our friendship.
Long story short, I ended up moving to another state and so the issue became a nonissue. Recently, I have separated from my husband and have moved back to the area where I'm from and where my friend and her husband live. She has basically started calling me and wanting me to come over again and stuff. Now, because I'm basically single, I am REALLY uncomfortable going over to her house. I've accepted her invitation a couple of times, but I just can't stand to be in the same room as her husband. It just makes me angry to look at him, so smug and just full of himself, like he's gotten away with something.
Anyway, my friend invited me to dinner this weekend and I decided to say no. She just called me and I told her that I have to plan my daughter's birthday party (which is true) and maybe some other time. Well, she was very short with me on the phone and basically hung up on me. Telling me that if I don't want to be friends, I should at least tell her to her face.
So now I don't know what to do or say. I want to be her friend, but I loathe her husband. What should I do? Asking her to do stuff without her husband doesn't work because she does EVERYTHING with him. She can't go to the grocery store without taking him with her. I feel very guilty right now, like I've hurt her feelings and I don't know what to do.
RE: totally not MT related
What a childish attitude. The woman is not seeing your husband, nor is she interested as per your post, so why would it upset you? Your best option would be to put it out of your mind and consider placing your anger at something more important.
Not MT related, but need advice.
Is it inappropriate to wear black to a wedding?
If so, what is appropriate?
Totally not MT related, but where is the new season of Fear Factor on NBC? nm
If I was a dog over there, I would bite way more than 360 people. Dogs are smart and they know they
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No wonder smart people try to hide it from all the not-so-smarts, if all these posts are any indicat
I so totally disagree. I have worked with lots of men who are transcriptionists... They are awesome
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Hope you are okay! Lots of well wishes and positive thoughts for you guys!
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Hi! You got lots of great advice! As for $3 a page
for me, it works! Most docs pay $1 a page where I live - which is horrible to me! And the particular docs I transcribe for have "normals" set up where I might transcribe 2 or 3 paragraphs at best per report - everything is just pretyped as a normal, so I am more than happy with the $3. That's why I have the account and other's don't! Even if its 2 lines on the final page, that is a page. I tried to explain paying per line, and the doctors got glazed eyes.... I made a note myself of the brands of equipment others have recommended in lieu of Sony and Panasonic, but I must say that mine have lasted for over 2 years without a problem, and I got them used. I still wouldn't buy lots of equipment unless I had lots of $$ floating around! I have C-phones and foot pedals galore that I have bought and never used once....Well, again, good luck to you!
Word expander... hope for advice
can anyone tell me if it is worth purchasing word expanding software, or does the auto correct option in word do the same thing?
Word expander... hope for advice
thanks, i'll do that. hope it's not as difficult as it seems.
Wow, there are lots of people on
132 people on right now. I suppose maybe because so many people don't have any work to do.
I had lots of people wanting her, just most
not good homes based on what I required. Tried the lab rescure, but everyone had all they could take and they would help me find her a home, I just had to keep her until then and I just didn't want to get too attached. All the other various rescue groups had reached their limits too and taking her to the pound wasn't an option. Even though I felt she would be adopted quickly because she was so sweet, there is absolutely zero screening and anyone that fills out the paperwork and pays the $$ can get a pet. When we adopted the cats we were fostering there was a grandmother in there dragging her grandson by his upper arm and she balled her fist and threatened to punch him in the face. This was not a home I would want my lab to go to.
I'm not 100% comfortable with the family she went to, but I told them if it didn't work out we wanted her back.
We are going to build a dog lot and dog house in the event we have another stray.
I'm not much help (I can't remember how) except to say lots of people know how SM
to do this. I've long since lost my cheat sheet. Sorry.
Lots of people worked up to it.
They got it going and then used it for maybe 1/2 hour one day. Then used it a bit longer the next and so on, until they were using it exclusively.
Another way is to create a glossary with the stuff in your current Expander so that you get used to using it with familiar phrases. Then you can add to it as you get better. That's what I did. DO use the marker keys though, rather than the spacebar to expand. That takes a bit of getting used to, but it is so worth it later on to be able to get full use of all of IT's features later. :-)
Lots of people are mobile.
Be sure that you're using a secured wireless network/hot spot. Your laptop should have the wireless card already installed, unless you're using an old model. Try Google search for VPN to learn more.
Most importantly--make sure it is allowed by your company!!
Yes, I went and it was great. Very informative. Lots of people. sm
I love being able to talk to fellow transcriptionists to share war stories. The place was beautiful and not expensive as most of our meals were provided at the conference.
I think that transcriptionists should stop complaining about everything and start taking action. One of the best ways to do it is to get involved with the 7000 other transcriptionists with the AAMT.
It means lots of people are checking it out....
in other words, a HOT topic!
Lots of people are. Supposedly there is a patch that will
fix issues. Got to MS website for info.
Smart gloves vs. Softflex gloves - Advice
Anyone use these for typing? Do you still have enough range of motion? I am struggling and have tried to type with my braces on but of course I can't. Any advice would be great!! Thanks.
Lots of people think that degrees open many doors.
Degrees close many doors, too. People won't hire you at all because you're overqualified or they think you'll jump ship the moment you find something better. A large percentage of this country is underemployed, and that number gets greater every day. Wages have plummeted because the young 20-somethings will work for peanuts. Why should businesses pay more for older workers when they can get a fresh college grad for next to nothing?
Lots of people wear Rx glasses just for using the computer, nothing else. Ask doc
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I see lots of reason people are staying in the field,
about the low wages. If everyone is so happy with the satisfaction MT gives, the flexibility, etc., are these the same people complaining of low pay? It almost sounds like it's okay to make a lousy wage in exchange for what it gives. I still don't think Pattie's question has been addressed: Why complain?
I think lots of people not paying for the years anymore
If that were the case with 30+ years, my per line pay would be more than what I make now. No more pay for experience.
You know, people are totally spoiled now
When I started out we worked on typewriters (do you know what those are?)- some had correcting tapes - you hit the backspace and typed the same mistake, took that off and then you backed spaced again and continued typing. On the first several computers we had no spellchecking at all. Where I learned we had to have less than 3 errors (either medical or English) on a page before we could get production pay. Our work was much, much better than what I see just being posted on here with the misspellings, etc. I use spellcheck now but only because, first of all required and secondly just makes me feel better but not a crutch for me in any way.
Okay, quit bragging and hire someone then. Lots of people need work. nm
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No, out east ... lots of rude people running the show, it seems ... sigh. nm
I totally agree...how old are we to call other people stupid???
Give me a break...we do not go to school for countless number of years and just because we have to correct a doctor's spelling on certain things, doesn't mean we are smarter than they are...give me a break...if you were expecting to making 75,000 in this field you made the wrong career decision...how about a little bit of respect for a fellow MT...
Hope your "employer" now pays you $8 an hour. It is people like you...
So did it ever occur to you, while you were working a "set schedule" that you also shouldn't be paid by the line? Seems awfully surprising to me that you disagreed that you were an IC yet acted the part. Why didn't you just quit?
Funny how people are different. I find islands/beaches to be totally boring.
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I really wish people would not ask for medical advice on this website. Do we have to go through thi
Please have common sense and see a doctor!
Good advice but some people refuse to
split "amicably." I know for a fact in my case it would be a blame game and a huge mess. Been there many times and resorted to other ways of handling it. I wonder if what you suggested would still work for me?
Not the OP but helped by your advice.
Thanks,
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Good advice. I wish more service IT people (sm)
that I have met were more helpful. They should realize that faster PCs = happier and more productive MTs = more $$$ for company and maybe an increase in his own pay! KWIM?
so people who are frustrated doctors can give medical advice.
so
Would it kill you people to give constructive advice instead of insults and insensitivity?!?
I understand your frustration. I think you just need to sit down and have a talk with your employer. Find out exactly what they want your status to be. As an employee, yes they do have the right to dictate your hours, where you work, etc., but they do not have the right to jerk you around. If they want you to work at home, then they need to provide for that, not you! Anyone who says otherwise is wrong! In any industry, if a company wants you to commute, they pay for gas/mileage. If they want you to have a cell phone/pager, they either pay for it, or they provide an allowance for it. If they want you to work at home, they provide equipment. It sounds to me like they want way too much and are giving very little. Just because a person/company is the employer, it does not give them the right to treat people like dirt, sending them on wild goose chases, interfering with their life, schedule, expenses, etc. I am sorry you have received such critical and insensitive comments. I hope this works out for you. Blessings!
Not MT related, but pet dog related. See message.
I have a 5 year old Maltese dog who has always been a great sleeper at night. He has always slept on my bed next to me and never budged all night. Last week he started to wake up shivering and panting in the early morning and could not settle back down and would just jump off the bed and go off somewhere else to sleep. Now he starts this shivering and panting as soon as the light goes off in the bedroom but instead of jumping off and going off on his own, he just stays there next to me and keeps sivering and panting and is unable to fall asleep. He's perfectly normal otherwise during the day and sleeps fine during the day, behaves normally and is eating and drinking normally. I called the vet and she thought he was having nightmares. But I'm not so sure. Last night when I went to bed and the light was on for about 15 minutes he was quiet and comfortable lying next to me. As soon as the light went off he started the shivering and the panting and could not go to sleep. Anywone gone throught this before? Should I be worried about his health?
BBQ, slaw, cornbread, ham, casseroles, lots of veggies, chicken pastry, lots of desserts!! BIG fami
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Lots of inexpensive decorations at Big Lots. Had a party last year.
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LOTS and LOTS of video tapes and DVDs.
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I hope this applies to companies like Medquist. I hope there
isn't a way they can get around it. I REALLY hope.
if you live among trashy people, low income people, people w/o goals or direction,
content to just get by, you by default become a part of a group. "people" have decided to group trailer people as trash. that is because there are enough people in that group to earn the title and even if you aren't trash, you are categorized by others. did i think i was trash in lower class neighborhood surrounded by people who drank and fought all weekend? no but i knew i wasn't staying and did not try to pretend that all the fools in the neighborhood were just nice folks who ended up where they were because high horse snobs deemed their neighborhood low class. people for the most part live exactly where they belong because they don't want to educate themselves, they don't mind "trash" around them and they don't want to be bothered trying just a bit hard to extract themselves from that world. they justify everything to themselves i guess saying everyone who doesn't like their lifestyle is a snob and the comedians (Jeff Foxworthy/Chris Rock, etc) who make fun of them are just ill-informed.
As for me, I fought hard to get out and don't even want to look back. It amazes me people stay for generations.
Advice to YOU..1st learn to spell before insulting poster and trying to give advice...sm
Sound advice from a fellow MT if you want advice or support (sm)
I have been an MT for over 10 years. I also am getting burnt out, tired of my job, day in day. However, I do love transcription and make excellent money at it, have grossed over $50,000 per year the last 5 years. I decided to go back to nursing school and am very happy with my choice. However, over these 10 years of transcription I have had my ups and downs. My biggest issue with being at home working is lack of socialization, being home day in and day out with just the kids and the animals really gets to a person, sure hubby is home at night and thinks working from home is the easy life, thus the return to school and boy has my overall enjoyment of life changed once I realized I was the problem, not everyone else and I needed to find myself again.
Anyway, my biggest advice to you three-fold:
1. Get into counseling for yourself, find out who you are and what your needs are, whether or not you think you need to, I sense you are feeling overwhelmed and need someone other than your family to talk to that can be nonjudgmental to your feelings and needs.
2. If you're only making $100 after you pay preschool you can either keep doing it and be miserable, or quit because you are lucky enough to have a husband who can support the family without your income. (See how fast his mind changes just by losing the income you do have as to whether your job means anything.) Or look for a different company or office that you like more and are more productive if you really want to do transcription (lots of fish in the sea as far as companies).
3. Find a local "mom's" group where you can get out and socialize. MOPS (mother's of preschoolers) is an excellent one that is nationwide, they have a website. Also Mom2Mom is in a lot of areas. They provide a once a week time for moms with kids the same age to get together, socialize, (some offer spirtual guidance some don't) and each week a different mom takes a turn watching everyone else's children at the facility that hosts it so the other moms can talk about things they have in common. Every stay-at-home and work-from-home mom needs to socialize with adults, without their kids, or they will have a nervous breakdown eventually no matter how much they love their kids.
Sorry so long but it does get better but you have to take the first step at making yourself happy.
Not MT-related (sorry).
Anyone know the official name for crime scene tape that is used by just ordinary people to rope areas off? It says something else besides crime scene. Need to buy some and trying to do a search at different stores, but you can imagine what I'm finding when I search for tape.
Thanks
Not MT related but --
What would you do? I have a home I am selling thru a realtor. This realtor listed the house and has personally shown in to no one (4+ weeks). I have had people see the house thru the MLS, but I had to be here to show them because she was always busy or could not make it. She had an open house last week, I live on a street that is about 3 blocks long, dead end at both ends, about 2 blocks off a main street - there were no signs posted at the main intersection, none at the next corner, directing them to the house - she put 1 sign up, in my front yard - needless to say no one showed up (she was also 20 minutes late for the open house). She has also forgotten to call me when she makes an appt and I was taken totally by surprise when the possible buyer showed up at my door. Maybe I am wrong but I don't think she is doing her job - any ideas or suggestions, am thinking about cancelling her contract already (will cost me $250) because I feel I am doing everything myself and also because houses in this area usually sell within 2-3 weeks of going on the market. Any suggestions or ideas? Thanks.
are we related?! lol
i have a SIL exactly like that!!
non-MT related but
do cats go off to die alone? I had a cat which has disappeared. It's been about 2 weeks now since I've seen him. He did used to drink out of the toilet (gross, I know) and I'm wondering if this made him sick. Otherwise he seemed okay. Just wondering if this has happened to any of you.
Just MT-related?
My divorce is final!!!!! :)
What is up with you? Are you related to Frank?
Frank knows that. What a sourpus.
Can't be related to MQ lawsuit
My ipay statement said is was for a DEP adjustment, but the majority of the lines in question were done on the various old platforms, Medwrite, Enterprise, etc...remember it goes back to 1998.
I got the ipay notice but no check or letter yet. I have direct deposit but nothing in there either
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