To Paulette
Posted By: SM on 2006-04-01
In Reply to: Just sad and needing to vent. - paulette
Been reading some of these posts and it seems some posters do not know what unconditional love is. I would do the same for my mother or any other person I love in a heartbeat. Your brothers and sister are different, maybe they don't have the *compassion* gene and you are the good one. Doesn't mean you are a martyr. I could not turn my back on a loved one either no matter what the other family members choose to do. Ask these posters what they'd be willing to do for one of their kids in a similar situation. I've seen many bend over backwards for kids who are no prizes and live their lives for them and not themselves. I would try to get outside help or aid as one of the other posters said to releive some of the stress or even think about counseling for guidance. But I appluad you for being the wonderful person you are and I hope you find some peace.
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Did you read Paulette's post below?
Sorry, I don't think you're going to get sympathy here today. Brace up and good luck honey.
Paulette, I'm sorry but this sounds like an awful
situation all around. That is definitely not enough money for a management type position, benefits or not. I have had management positions paying over 40000 both at home and in offices with benefits. I think you are being taken advantage of, big time! I would take the MT job if you are experienced and can do around 200 lines an hour. Even if you make 30000 a year and have to pay say 100 a month for benefits, it would be worth it, I think. JMO.
You're a good person Paulette
and your mother is lucky to have at least one child who is willing to take responsibility and help her. Not that many years ago, extended families were the rule and not the exception. The truth of the matter is that unless a parent dies early, someone (be it a child, grandchild, or an institution) will probably have to take care of that parent (or parents) emotionally, physically, psychologically, and financially. For most of us, our parents cared for us when we were children and when they age the tables turn. I have 2 sisters who are willing to help with my mother but they live in other states and have no plans to move back to our hometown or homestate. Thus, I will be the one who becomes the caretaker.
I think you will have to sit down with your one brother (and his wife if he is married) and ask them for help that is on a more regular basis. Or, alternatively, just call him when you need him to help. Maybe he will get that hint (though he is male and hints go by undetected!).
I hope you find the relief and assistance you need. Take heart in the knowledge that you are doing the right thing.
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