Think this through. 5 hours in a car with two boys aged 2 and 4? I think your husband might be
Posted By: Totally different opinion on 2006-01-15
In Reply to: Can I cry on your shoulders this morning? - Kar
on the right wavelength here. By the time you get there, you would all be tired and crabby, he has been working 13 days straight so he is probably tired and crabby and then you have to do the reverse trip in just a day? Maybe if the boys were 12 and 14 but at 2 and 4, the 5-hour drive could turn into 7 hours with stops.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. My husband goes fishing with the guys for a week each summer and I think it does us both good. It is like a vacation at home too and we do goofy things like eating cake for dinner just to make it "fun" and not a whine fest for the kids.
Be grateful that you have a husband who obviously has a great job and who is thinking about you (although it might not seem like it).
Take the 5 hours each way and do something fun with the boys instead :)
Signed,
Happily Married but not joined at the hip
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I forgot the bathroom - me and I have 3 boys (10, 5, 2) and a husband - YUK!!
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No kids, husband gone 12 hours, you work at home? SM
Priceless! That sounds like the perfect arrangement to me. I'm not kidding, either.
I think he has aged well
and I still watch Saturday Night Fever whenever I happen to catch it. He has put on a little weight, but haven't we all? 
middle-aged MT
What do you consider middle-aged?
Any middle-aged MTs out there struggling like me?
I can only wonder why there are not more support groups for the Baby Boomer mid life females who surely are suffering with the fun of the "change." This is very interesting to say the least!
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My Grandmother started walking 5 miles a day when she was 60, she is 97 today and we don't know where the hell she is. ellen
I heard *the pt is a middle-aged 36-yr-old woman*...
I'm 43 so I was thinking if 36 is middle aged what am I? This obviously came from a new doc, who was probably pushing 30 himself.
The first time I saw "middle-aged" female I about died. I was 39!!! nm
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full-figured, middle-aged female (early 40s)
It could have been worse...he could have said I was obese (2 dress sizes over my typical athletic clothing)
Unless you can rely on family to help, or maybe hire a young tween aged girl to occupy them
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DH is dear husband or any number of colorful adjectives preceding husband. (no message)
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For us slow pkes---my best would be 3 hours, worst 6 hours - just depends on the dictator ,
I have to look up (i.e. Dr. names, addresses)...I have to do a lot of that and it majorly slows me down, without all that and good not too horrible dicators, in 1 hour I can do anywhere from 15-20 minutes of dictation.
They look like boys. That's why the OP
liked Jude Law. Boyish charm. That's why I think they are a bit effeminate. They never got past boyhood.
THREE boys.
I also tried eliminating sugar, reducing caffeine, exercise, and even going braless because I heard the underwire could be causing it. Nothing has helped so far. There's also a website out there where women are pulling together because doctors aren't informing us of the side effects of tubal ligation.
I have boys, too.
They've had girls chasing after them since kindergarten. The notes from girls that I find in the laundry were just too much. I love you, I want to marry you. Goodness! Last year, my 11 y.o.b. had a girl threaten to kill herself if he didn't "go out" with her. He took it really hard because we had just lost a family member to suicide, and he felt like he had to do what this girl told him to do or she would die. She even told him her parents had lost custody of her and she had to go live in another state to be adopted. Compulsive liar. I had to go in to the school and nip it in the bud with the teachers, school counselor and principal.
I told my boys they would not be dating or "going out" until they were in high school. Even with that, my oldest boy had a girl who wanted to sneak around behind her mother's back and lie to see him because she wasn't allowed to date. I told my son no way, you're either straight up with the girl's parents and introduce yourself to them, or you don't date. He told her that, and she dropped him like a hot potato because she didn't want to date an honest boy.
BUT, not ALL little boys do this.....
mom of 3, soccer mom, basebal mom, footbal mom, teacher's helper, preschool daycare provider, 2 brothers, 20+ male cousins and NEVER saw anything like this.
Then why are they after little BOYS???
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Being there for my boys
You nailed it! When I first started, it was purely by accident, trained on the job (1987), and way long before being married/kids. People would say to me "you can do that at home cant you"? Oh no way I said! I never expected to even stay in this profession, I was going to college. But then when I found myself having my kids at 36/37, I realized I did not want to got back to work, so the same hospital I worked for hired me to help at night from home. Who would have thought that my transitional job would be my savior so that I could afford to stay home with my boys. It was truly a blessing, and sometimes when it seems unfair, it's beats having to wake my little guys (4&5) and take them to daycare for 9 hours. Would not trade it for nothing!
when my boys were little they use sm
to come to my office and they said they also said mom sounded like a machine gun typing. The old wheelwriter typewriters, I really did like the sound. It relaxes me for some reason!
ALL little boys do that. They think it's funny.
Boys' language and social skills are also slower to develop than girls. Wait until they have a name writing contest outside in the snow on the school playground. Speaking from experience, sometimes teachers have personality clashes with students and do pick on them.
No, ALL little boys don't do that. Watch your
Yes, I have a son.
What about moms doing the same with little boys?
Ya know that's done more than the former!
My experience with my own boys
was to teach them the fine art of respect and acknowledgement in such events.
For a family member that was not distant in relation, I had them attend. They did not have to approach/view the casket, but they attended. They learned to sign the guestbook. They learned how to order flowers, sign cards, and I spent time showing them the funeral/visitation process.
I had a class in high school on death and dying and it taught me quite a bit I was unaware of.
Most of all, I wanted them to be prepared and as comfortable as possible with their roles and expectations placed on them when these painful situations happen.
My boys were 3 1/2 and my girls were 2.
Cheerios in the toilet worked for me. SINK THOSE BATTLESHIPS!! :)
But both boys were 3 1/2 at least and when I was just about ready to give up, they just started using the bathroom as if nobody had ever told them a thing.
Pressuring and scolding are the 2 worst things you can do. Just be laid back and all of a sudden one day, they are diaper free. None of my 4 have ever had an accident or wet the bed since the day it kind of dawned on them. Sort of like the day they learn to ride a bike without training wheels. :)
This too shall pass like water under the bridge. No pun intended. Now I'm buying diapers for my grandkids.
But in transcription, if you are good at what you do, you can do 8 hours of work in 4 hours. So eit
you slice it, both companies will still get 8 hours worth of work out of you.
That is the problem I've been having lately being an MT. Companies want to pay us on production and they set minimum productivity standards, but want us timed in for 8 hours a day. My thinking is, if they want 8 hours of work out of me, pay me hourly with production incentive. If they want to pay me on production and tell how much I have to produce in an 8 hour period, then when I hit that mark, I should be able to call it a day even if I've only worked 4 hours.
Seems these companies want it both ways and it is simply not fair to us MTs. JMO, tho.
Those boys need to be exposed to camping LOL!!
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20 and still married with 3 boys, 25 years later nm
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plus 2 (monsters)boys, 4 and 2 at home
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I agree that boys are not any easier.
I have raised 2 girls and am now raising a 13-yo boy and 2 11-yo girls. I think boys are worse, although the girls are no picnic.
I totally understand but if your husband is like my husband... sm
When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"
Him: (shrug)
etc., etc., etc.
Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)
Well, I have 3 rambuncious (sp), bull headed boys. sm
Of course, they knew everything then and know everything now. I couldn't pick their friends but boy I sure pounded into their heads that as long as their friends were at my house, they abided by my rules and my boys were responsible for their friends' behaviors. If their friends acted out of line, my boys were responsible for telling them to get the hell out--didn't have much trouble when I gave the kids that responsibility. Sometimes their friends weren't the cream of the crop or came from not very well to do families, but they always acted appropriately at our house, then and now. Have earned a lot of respect from my kids' friends that way. Sometimes, they spent more time at our house than they did their own. My kids weren't angels but they didn't turn out to be felons or junkies or drunks, either.
Now, now,. No gold stars for little girls and boys
who have an ugly attitude. You might have to sit in the corner.
Hahahahahahahaha
And I thank the mothers of boys who have raised them to respect women.
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Blind boys are being taught MT now in Indonesia or someplace like that. Was
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I think the boys did a much better job than the girls -- I really like Taylor's style of singing
let's face it, I just enjoy everything about Ace! For the girls, I like Paris, and what's not to like about Kelly?
I had a family doctor who was a D.O. - delivered my boys 38+ years ago
If it's my fav doc with lots of shortcuts, 1-1/2 hours to 2 hours max
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I see, we sit at the keyboard for 40 hours and then throw on 20 more hours
Is this how you do it? Me? I got a PT job so that if my FT job didn't have enough work to meet my needs financially, the two jobs together would.
They hired me to work a specific shift and that is what I am working. If they want me to type after I clock out, then I will happily do so.
I must say, I work long hours, sometimes 12-14 hours a day.
I thought it was important to mention that. However many hours it takes to get the work done is what I do. Some days 12 hours, other days 6 hours and sometimes 14 hours. So, I guess there really is no easy answer.
I do 2000 lines in 6 hours - so maybe 3 hours - nm
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typing 8 hours a day or 40 hours a week
is TOUGH.
on my wrists I mean.
and not getting any benefits... and for a salary of less than 30K? not really worth it...
Following the bible is a form of repression. Why do you think priests sleep with little boys?
Your taste runs to slender effeminate boys. That's the way it is and how Jude Law
makes a "living" as well as Justin Timberlake. There are those who aren't attracted to manly men and enjoy seeing a pretty boy. BTW, Toby Keith has some excellent tight jeans and long legs and I don't see doughboy but it is relative if you prefer the looks of Jude Law/Justin Timberlake/Leonardo DeCaprio. And he appeared w/o his hat on many times. Not bald by any stretch like Garth Brooks. But having said that, Garth Brooks, dough-boy and balding was hot in his day.
I think I used Maalox when my kids were small. Poor things, both youngest boys had them everywhere
It was 100 degrees out that year. They spent a week in the house in the tub with Aveeno and more Benadryl than I think they had in their entire lives.
didn't mention boys or girls - but what about Dorothy, scarecrow, tin man and the lion from SM
Wizard of Oz. I
Other. June and Ward Cleaver with 2 well-behaved boys! I love my life... nm
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Pasha (Appassionata), Thor and Jazz, all 3 Rotties--1 girl, 2 boys. nm
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LOL...you lucky duck! My boys go back to school on the 29th and I can't wait! I luv 'me to p
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LOL husband
But you have your husband all the time, think out of the box (smile)..who else would you want? Sure hubby or boyfriend is the best but.....
Not me...husband. nm
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At least I have a husband...
The word on the street is that your husband left with the better-looking, better-smelling, thinner girl next door. POOR MOLESTED YUCK!!
Yes, my husband and I had our
we chose our wedding date (go ahead and laugh if you want) so that we would have an auspicious start to our marriage...has worked so far, as we've been married for 23 years. People tease us 'cause we act like a couple of giddy teenagers around each other and (try not to throw up) it's really true.
Historically, centuries ago, physicians also were trained in astrology and wouldn't perform surgeries until the stars were aligned properly for the patient. No void of course moons and certainly no retrograde mercury.
Remember all the confusion with the 2001 presidential election? Election day was held with mercury retrograde.
And, yes, I believe what you've said. And, yes, listen to your intuition; it's never wrong. As Einstein said, "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."
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