Things are on the upswing, but have been depressed.
Posted By: DUH on 2005-12-09
In Reply to: News flash..Don't know where you get your news, but the economy is doing very well. - nm
Gas prices soaring again, tens of thousands of people being laid off, plus the war and the hurricanes have certainly taken a bite of out a lot of budgets, not to mention increasing interest rates. While the economy seems to be doing better, we are still walking a very fine line. All you have to do is watch the news now to hear about how spending is down from last holiday season, that people are very cautious about buying big ticket items, the car manufactures are laying off 30,000+ people. Doesn't hardly sound like a booming economy to me.
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Great post and i agree 100%. As a former depressed person myself, ,I learned that the most depressed
people are self-centered whether they want to admit or not. I stayed in my cave and only talked about me and my problems and I was severely depressed (runs in family)
After I found God and started attending church regularly, I have completely changed and am off medications. I also give lovingly now to my husband, children, family, and friends and have recently taken over teaching a large woman's Bible study class locally and have never experienced such joy, peace, and happiness in my life.
It wasn't until I began taking my eyes off of me and started looking around at others in more desparate situations that I began to learn the true meaning of life.
Great post. I, too, think fasting is a life-changing exp. When I fasted from food for the first time (I am very overweight :) it was one of the most powerful experiences of my life. There's just something about withholding something that you truly desire or want - it's like putting out flames to a destructive fire within you and it feels GREAT!!!!
Depressed? sm
Write it all down. Then, when he calls, you can start rattling off the numbers to him. More than likely, he is feeling a bit guilty for not being there. Yes, we all know that he is doing what is probably the most important job in this world, but to him, he may not feel that he is fulfilling his duties to his family.
Ride with it, hon. Give him the numbers and he'll feel better.........and so will you.
depressed sometimes too
Just focus on good points in your life now, and things that made you feel good, like having that unconditional love, even though it was awhile ago, you still had it. Even little things you come across every day like someone making small talk with you in line, or a compliment, or seeing your dog wag his tail or seeing an interesting shaped cloud, making someone laugh. Not trying to sound hokey, but its true. Theres ugly people who will use you and walk all over you in this world, crime, evilness, but if you make it a point to focus on the good and innocent, the bad won't go as deep, and you can bounce back. Its like retraining the brain. Life is pretty much neutral, but its our perspective that makes it evil or awesome.
Depressed sm
I'll keep you and your husband in my prayers. I can definitely relate to your situation.
In 1999, after having a very difficult pregnancy, being on bed rest and not being able to work, we ended up losing our house, filing bankruptcy and having my car repossessed. My husband was self-employed also at the time. I was deeply depressed.
With time and prayer, things do get better. There is hope for you. I know it's hard to see that now, but there is hope. Don't give up.
Have you tried talking to your mortgage company or other creditors? Maybe they can work something out with you. I wish I would have tried a little harder to work things out with our creditors. I just practically gave up which is the wrong thing to do.
Things are a lot better for us now. We're purchasing a new home (better than the one we lost) and have a new vehicle. Things will get better for you, too.
He is depressed. He does need help.
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Boyfriend who is depressed.
A great therapist I used to work for would tell folks in your situation, that you ARE not trained in counseling, therefore, you can not help him in the way he needs. It's just not your job so to speak. Go easy on yourself, it sounds like you have been very supportive, you now just need to decide how long your willing to do so.
I am just sooo depressed
Hello!! I am a newbie, stay-at-home military wife and my husband is the only one working for now. He is deployed right now and I am managing all the finances, since we have separate accounts, I transferred$1000 in my account which made him mad. It felt like I overspent and use the money for nothing. Money that I didn't even spent shopping!!! He knows where the money goes but he still questions me about every single penny I spent and I really felt so bad.
Thank you guys for reading my post. I just felt like sharing this with you. I just need someone to talk to. 
Hi, I am here. I was just too depressed today
I also was dumped a whole lot of work today. I just didnt want to cry in your ear. I will call tomorrow around lunch time if that is okay.
:) Thanks for thinking of me.
I almost didnt see this post. Too depressed to read. It caught my eye.
depressed as hell
Lost my in-house job...outsourcing...trying to find something at home. It's really rough....
depressed as hell
thanks...will do...
You sure you're not depressed? (nm)
How lucky, you only got depressed; (sm)
my girlfriend lived through the well-known FDA "black box" reaction -- the one where the antidepressant makes the patient agitated and exceptionally suicidal? Her shrink doubled her dose, then went on vacation with no back-up coverage available. Fortunately she knew what was going on and called her friends for help after she kept feeling the urge to hang herself or run out in traffic; we sat with her in 4-hour shifts, distracted her, and kept getting her to drink and pee in hopes of flushing the junk out. Finally, after 8 days, she could sleep again and felt better. Next time she gets depressed, she says she's going to do mushrooms as they're much safer.
one question for depressed
How do you pay for your internet connection?
Oh Lord, I'd be depressed again too! :D nm
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Sounds like you are depressed....Nothing to be ashamed about.
I recommend you talk to your physician and maybe get in some therapy sessions, not necessarily medication, but get to the root of how you can assess where you are overwhelmed and what steps you can take to take control. This site is actually a great site, on occasion you will find some nastiness, but overall there are some wonderful women who are very supportive in situations like these.
I was diagnosed last year with depression and anxiety and although I was on meds, I think the therapy was major reason for my successful outcome. I learned why my life is so unorganized and stressful and I learned some very helpful tools to use on a dialy basis when confronted with these issues.
One thing I found to be helpful for myself is I started to take my shower before I started work, even put on makeup. It really does change how you feel about yourself. I recommend you start there.
Good Luck!
Not everyone wants to live in your depressed little world.
There are more fun things to think about. Unfortunately, all the things you mentioned will NEVER go away. Does not do much good to worry about them.
Yep, had a distant relative going through some depressed times and did just that
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Unfortunately, NO. Didn't help me. It made me depressed. Reverse effect. nm
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Bad things? what bad things? people's being petty and small?
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You can't make things worse and could make things better.
The skinny woman may be ill. The guy might not know the dog is a nuisance. Who knows? Maybe it is not as forbidding as it seems and maybe they just need to be asked in a nice way.
I do a lot of the same things you do...
I also go water the plants - sometimes just being out in the sunshine for 20 minutes or so wakes me up and gets me going again.
I also do the online thing for my kids: Gap, Old Navy and Abercrombie Kids. I occasionally look at Sephora for me. 
And yes, exercise does help. I either take a run first thing in the a.m. or around 1:00. The morning gives me a totally different spin on the day - I feel better in general the whole day and much more positive. If I wake up too late for that, I end up going around 1:00, as I find that around that time I start wandering mentally anyway. I used to feel guilty for taking the hour or so away but realized if I added up all the minutes I spend staring at the screen (waiting for the words to type themselves) it would be more than an hour. So I try to use my time wisely and for myself by exercising and feel more focused and positive afterwards. This is a habit I'm still creating. I've been doing this a while now and I still some days have to convince myself it's okay and the hour is going to help me, not hurt me. After I'm done I'm always glad I went.
Thanks for posting this question - you gave me some good ideas.
There are a few things you can do. Don't
answer phones, let machine pick up. Turn ringer off on cell phone. Stay off boards, turn tv down or off. I don't know about others but I need a little background noise so I keep tv on a volume where I can hear it but not truly understand what is going on. I keep it on the music channel just so I hear something in the background. Don't think about the dirty dishes, laundry or 100 other things needed to be done in the house.
If you need a drink, get one before you start, same goes for a snack. I get a bowl of something to snack on before I start working such as pretzels, carrot sticks, m&m, etc. I bought an oven timer to keep on my desk. I set it for 3 to 4 hours and then take a little break when it goes off. When I first sign on I can work for 4+ hours w/o getting up.
Make macros of phrases. The phrases are the key. If you're forever typing something over and over and saying "I should make a macro for it," don't say it, do it. Closed head injury precautions are set as "chip-" in shorthand. I also do a lot of consults and at the end they have their own little "thank you for allowing me to participate" statement. I use the docs last name with a T at the end of it for the word thank you such as "SmithT" because not all the thank you statements are the same. WDI is written discharge instructions, wci wound care instructions. Macro your labs and headings so you don't have to keep typing them. If the word or abbr. needs to capitalized make a macro. igg comes out as IgG. The less you hit your shift key, it's saving a key stroke. 05m comes out as 0.5% Marcaine, etc. Make something you can remember. I'm at the point now where I've done the same accounts for years and hardly make macros, maybe 1 or 2 a day. If I make a macro today I write it in a notebook sitting right in front of me. It's a quick reminder for me.
Hope some of this helps.
Many things are said here...sometimes...
people get a bit testy. But, guess what? We are all adults, aren't we? Long ago I learned to not take offense to things, remarks, opinions, whatever - as most often taking offense only drags you down personally. Why let things get to you?
MQLover has every right to express her opinion. Is she the only one who ever slams back when she gets slammed? Hardly. That is a natural reaction. It's a defense mechanism. We don't all feel kissy/huggie all the time, and we especially don't when we express our thoughts and get smacked for them.
If someone's post irritate or bother you, why not just skip them? There's a heck of a lot more to life than getting upset of bb posts.
The things I do.
% of utilities, -phone, water, electric-mileage, internet, interest on auto payment, repair to car, cleaning equipment for office, repairs to office, cell phone, equipment-foot pedals, soft ware, supplies, paper, pens, etc. I have often wondered if I could claim my PJs as uniform expense.
But apart from those things R they OK?
two things
Gas heater in the living room and an additional small heater for my hands, if they get cold.
I found it was less costly to install a gas heater than use the fireplace.
Thanks! I'm always trying to think of new things and though....
I thought this might be different to brake up the monotony! Thanks again!
Well there have been quite a few things
here and there, but I have always put off calling them cause they spend 10 minutes getting the spelling of my name right. I am like, "you can call me whatever you want to call me, just answer my question!"
The problem I am having now is that my internet will not allow me to access my bank site, but my cable company helped me with this problem. Since we went back and did a system restore and it still didn't fix the problem, they suggested that I am probably going to have to reinstal internet explorer. I left my CD at my Dad's though, so I will have to wait to try it and see if it works.
I am just wondering if I run into a problem again and I called if they would switch me to a US representative if I insisted. I remember awhile back someone posted that they did that with a credit card company or something. I think I am going to try it though.
That's if you want to be any of those things.
Really, why choose a career field solely based on potential income? Does money buy happiness? Doctors and nurses work very long hours. LPNs make $12 an hour, RNs $18 and up. Attorneys, well, who would want to be an attorney? Accountants here make $12 an hour to start out with a 5-year degree and CPA.
Have you tried these things? (sm)
Writing for the paper and making extra bucks by doing MT?
Maybe go back for your Master's and teach journalism in smaller colleges?
Possibly freelance for web sites? Check out elance.com and other freelancer sites. Lots need writing. Work that experience! Do you have a portfolio to show off?
Good luck :)
two things you can do
1. Run Disk Cleanup - click Start | All Programs | Accessories | System Tools | Disk Cleanup.
2. If you use Internet Explorer, click on Tools | Internet Options. Click on the buttons that say Delete Cooks and Delete Files.
Close your browser, restart it, and that should resolve your problem.
Well, with the way things are going,
I think I would be happy to get anything. Many companies are doing away with gifts completely due to the economy.
I'm not willing to pay for something that will only tell me things I already know.
I know to use an Expander and templates/normals. I know to expand phrases, words, reports, etc. I know to stay away from the boards, let the machine get the phone, and treat this like a REAL job, but it's really hard to concentrate when there's nothing but garbage dictation on the system. I can see somebody else already took all the work from my primary, so I'm stuck with the lousy ESL secondary that I hate and won't make any money on. I can never make any money working for any national. They bounce you around so much that you never have the same dictators from day to day and can't keep account specs straight.
are doing these things....NM
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Some of us can do 2 things at once, and well! nm
nm
They are okay though there were some things I did not like - sm
though it may not bother others. Need to have AIM on while you work so they can IM you....they can monitor you this way too, unless you know how to turn off that feature. Alway felt to me like Big Brother was watching. Did not like primary account, lots of short reports (I like them long with good line counts, not these dinky 10 lines things that take you 10 minutes to crank out); loved my 2nd and 3rd though, but rarely got to see them. Were considered an employee, nice, don't have to worry about taxes. Had to give a schedule and stick to it (granted you are an employee so you must do that), but flexible. Have to work 1 weekend day too. Get lots of faxes, sometimes too much. People are nice enough though, never had trouble with QA. Like I said just a few things rubbed me the wrong way, good enough place though. Good luck.
What are the things that keep MTs
I'm putting together a list of things that make it hard for MT to get decent line count. Can anyone give me their opinion? TIA!
Could mean a lot of things......sm
Could mean that the QA department is backed up and your report just hasn't come up for review yet. Does your QA department have a higher level to which more difficult reports are sent for yet another listen? It could be that it has been held up in this way. I know how frustrating it must be for you not to have your feedback yet. I hope you get it soon. :-)
Here are some things.....
If you own your home, you can deduct taxes, mortgage interest, DSL or internet service, electricity, heating bills, anything you bought for your job, i.e, pencils, pens, a new chair, a new desk, highlighters, etc., and anything else that is related solely to your business at home.
Don't forget you can also deduct anything you donated. Every few weeks I "clean house" and donate all my goodies to Salvation Army. But make sure you get a receipt.
Several things...
For me personally, I was drwan to transcription for several reasons. I love the field of medicine and I love to learn something new every day. Those were the main things at first. Now, I love to be home for my children and am happy this job that I already love helps me do that!
getting things done
I have found David Allen's GTD approach very useful in organizing life, time, and goals. You can do a search for "getting things done" on google.
As if 1 of those things isn't bad enough.
Yikes.
I never go to any of these things...sm
that way I'm not stuck with buying stuff I don't want/need/pay too much for.
Thank you both - these are exactly the things (sm)
I was talking about! This will be VERY helpful. Have a good day :)
These are some things I do
Boy, I hear you on how time consuming and tiring it can be to get ready to go! We don't have any kids but we have three small dogs (which are like kids to us).
We camp almost every other week-end, May through September, and I try to do as much as I can during the week to get things ready, a little each day that I can.
Also, I have bought as many things as possible to leave in the camper so I don't have to take things from the house to the RV/back and forth. I try to stock the cupboards with foods that can be left there for the season. This year I also bought us underwear that stays in the RV all summer. When we come home from camping, I wash it and back it goes to the RV. (Then in the fall, it will come in the house and we can throw out old underwear and buy new again the next year for the RV.) We also leave warm clothes in the camper all season as they are usually part of our "winter clothes" anyway.
We also keep our RV electrical plugged in all season so I can leave many things in the refridge and freezer, without using up our propane to run the fridge. We have an outside outlet on our house so we can do this.
While we are camping, I make a list of things I note we will need to buy for the next camping trip; otherwise, I would never remember what I needed. I also have made a "Camping Checklist" of things I need to remember to take each time and things I need to do before we leave. That really helps me a lot.
HTH some. Have fun camping! We will be going on "vacation" (five days) in our RV next week and we can hardly wait. Even each week-end away is like a mini-vacation for us.
Several things:
1. Separate accounts. Get a credit card in your business name to run all business purchases through. That will simplify things immensely. Get a business checking account (you can choose Jane Smith DBA - doing business as -Transcription Services Limited if you are not incorporated).
2. The first year that you are an IC, do not worry about quarterly payments. You do need to withhold enough from your paychecks to be ready to pay your regular taxes as well as an additional 7.5% self employment tax come April next year. Put all of this in your business account. The second year, 2007, - as long as you pay 100% of what your taxes were in the previous year, you will not incur any fines. So if you paid $8500 between your husband and you in your taxes this year, next year divide the $8500 by 4, to get $2125. Watch your husband's withholding and every quarter, take what has been withheld from him and add whatever it takes to make $2125 from yours. I.e. he has $2000 withheld, your quarterly payment should be $150 - allowing a little extra.
I agree it is worth it to find a good CPA that will help you get organized and give you deadlines for filing, as well as help you find deductions that you are entitled to take. But after that, easy enough to do on your own if you do your own taxes anyway.
I have two things (sm)
Watching my two-year-old son sing and dance, and my five-year-old daughter getting 100% on her sight words (reading) at school four weeks in a row. And she's only been in school for four weeks. My kids make me happy and proud!
Here's other things I do to them....sm
1. Ask them if they need you to spell everything you want to say for them.
2. Ask them if they'll be voting Republican, Democrat or Independent in the next election and to explain the pros/cons of each candidate. I love to hear them stammar on that one!
3. If it's a male, ask him if he makes his wife walk behind them and treat them like a second class citizen or if she is allowed freedom like we have in America.
4. Tell them you'll listen to their sales pitch if they'll agree to listen to yours - then start reading the Sunday ads to them.
Several things
Semester is half over!
Just 27 hours left to graduate!
Life's going good. Anything wrong is something I can get a handle on.
Feel blessed. My family is safe and well. It's beautiful weather. I have all I need and most of what I want.
I'm silly that way, I guess. :)
Things you don't know
Unlike you, I volunteered for yesterday and today, but did not volunteer to stay up all night Wednesday with a preschooler begging me to take away her tummy pain, and also deal with her illness as I tried to work yesterday.
I did not "plan" a "big" family gathering...they invited themselves over (all 3 of them), which I was grateful to do YESTERDAY when my load was to have been lighter. It was in my mind a show of appreciation for the 2 nights I have had without having to work or be the sole responsible person for this child in a year (they kept her while I was in the hospital from a stress-related GI illness).
I am grateful this child is in my life as she was literally dropped off on my door step unanounced one day because her parents wanted to be teenagers. But the stress of court dates, proving paternity so the parents can "get a fresh start" by walking away from the child they produced, the therapy sessions to help her cope with why they abandoned her, the state agencies that provided minimal assistance to kinship care providers but mandated appointments that cut into my pay to attend....
Right now vanity is a luxury I cannot afford and perhaps, yes, I kind of resent it for other people TODAY. I did not resent it yesterday and shall not resent it tomorrow (even though I am on mandatory stat coverage for the entire weekend with no pay for it).
I am stressed and I vented about vanity. Now, I will take the child I did not give birth to and essentially take my toys and go home. Thanks for the support! Merry Christmas, too!
Some things to consider...sm
For me, IC versus employee boiled down to benefits (PTO, sick days, insurance, etc.) versus the greater flexibility in my schedule. As an IC, I generally made more on the paycheck, but that was before taxes, which can become a nightmare if you're not careful. When I got to thinking about, really the only thing I was actually giving up was the greater flexibility in my schedule. I discovered that when I factored in the benefits package, which included holidays and other things in addition to those mentioned above, I felt like I was actually making at least as much if not more in terms of monetary compensation. Also, where I am at now allows a 1-hour window on either side of my shift start time, so I can start an hour earlier or an hour later than I am scheduled to without having to notify anyone about it. That actually helps quite a bit, but if you can stomach converting to a more structured shift schedule, I think the addition of benefits to your regular pay can make it very much worth your while, especially if you don't already have health insurance benefits through your spouse's employment. Another aspect that can generate considerable peach of mind is if your benefit package includes disability. If anything ever happens to prevent me from being able to continue working, my salary is covered. For me, all of these things were significant enough to move me to change. I spent the better part of 15 years as an IC, so I thought about it long and hard. Now I have the "V" word back in my vocabulary for the first time in a long time, and it's nice to be getting paid while I'm on "v"acation. Those are the main considerations that went into my decision process.
I hope those thoughts help, and I wish you the best.
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