They don't acknowledge that either

Posted By: chopped liver on 2006-05-15
In Reply to: I don't celebrate Hallmark holidays. If they forget...(nt) - ...your birthday then you should complain.

I know Mother's Day and Father's Day are "manufactured" holidays, but nonetheless they do hold a bit of importance. What's wrong with having one day that you take the time to let your mom know she's important to you? I'm not the type that expects jewelry from my husband and breakfast in bed. You know they say it's the thought that counts, and my kids don't think about it at all. They are old enough now. They'll be turning 22 and 19 in a couple of months. I babysit my grandson full time so my daughter can work. My son lives at home and I think we have a good relationship. But days like yesterday, I realize that neither one of them really gives me much thought. I know it's a fake holiday, but since they both work (my son just got paid on Friday), it wouldn't have taken much for them each to pitch in less than $10 and have gotten me a plant or something...anything. How about just a phone call to say Happy Mother's Day...and not followed by "I didn't get you anything, but I can get you a card"....and not pulling a carnation out of your girlfriend's mother's bouquet to bring home. Do you see what I mean? It's like leaving a penny for a tip. I'm really feeling today like I have left so little impression on them, that I really must have been a bad mom because neither one of them really feels much of anything for me.

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My mother's day - chopped liver
- Mothers day - sme
- I think it is enough if you kids at least acknowledge the day - sm - Laura E.
- To chopped liver, read all of the thread, - mthanded
- I think you have to define Mother's Day for yourself... - Jillian
- I didn't have a great one either. - I am sorry!!
- Both of my children told me Happy Mother's - Wannie
- Mother's Day - MTqueenB
  - Kind of ashamed to admit I threw daughter's card away - chopped liver
    - I think that grandparents who babysit for free are just making their kids dependent on them - and they seldom appreciate it, they grow to expect
- i know that hurts but here are a few thoughts.... - kat
- Mother's Day is not a Hallmark holiday (sm) - chopped liver
  - Yep, but MT week IS. and i bet people complain if they arent recognized. :( - nm
- Lucky Ones - IC
  - I had a fabulous weekend starting with dinner on Friday night..sm - Very lucky also
  - I also know how you feel! sm - Deb
- I'd give the kids the same treatment on their birthday....sm - Just me
  - That's unfair. Everyone has a B-Day, but Mother's Day is made up. Ditto for Valentine's Day - R
- I would be hurt too (sm) - anony
- Great M's Day -- no kids, no husband (sm) - adh
- i know how you feel - tc
- Yep - I agree - your kids should know better... - Maybe you didn't push enough guilt over time..
  - I think you sound self absorbed to feel you deserve gifts. Being a mother is selfless. nm - R
    - don't attack her re self absorbed....sm - kids understand DEALS AND CONTRACTS
    - I'm not self-absorbed at all - chopped liver
      - You say you're at the bottom of the totem pole - QA
        Dr. Phil??? Grolier book publishers....sm - put those books out 25+ years ago.....
        You are right. Thank you. - chopped liver
        BTW, just FYI, my kids are a tad older...sm - put those books out 25+ years ago.....
        Might I add that I speak from the heart, - QA
  - oops should've have read "older children"...n/m - Maybe you didn't push enough guilt over time..
- I don't celebrate Hallmark holidays. If they forget...(nt) - ...your birthday then you should complain.
  - Glad I'm not the only anti-Hallmark holiday (sm) - adh
  - They don't acknowledge that either - chopped liver
    - Again, if you make yourself a slave to them they will never respect you. - Tell her to pay for a babysitter
    - No, YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOM.....sm - Maybe you didn't push enough guilt over time..
- What I'm doing is making sure that come Fathers Day, I forget to get him something! sm - Anudder mudder
  - You show people how to treat you. We don't - me
    - I make a big deal out of them too and still dont get squat. sm - nm
- Me too.... - Disgruntled mother...
  - They're ignorant - some hubbies...sm - Maybe you didn't push enough guilt over time..
- I feel for you, your kids should know better. sm - ml
  - EXACTLY !!!!! GMTA.......sm - Maybe you didn't push enough guilt over time..

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I think it is enough if you kids at least acknowledge the day - sm
In our family we really only do cards and when I was younger I did make things for my mom. I was teary all weekend too, but not because my family didn't honor me enough (both girls gave me cards they made, and a book mark the one made at school), my husband got me a very nice card and flowers my older daughter picked out. BUT I was PMSing myself, got it on Sunday, and normally I do not get all emotional, etc. but every now and then I do....I think my problem was it was my 2nd mother's day w/o my mom. Last year I did not have any trouble with it but I think that was because it was still new (only 8 months since her death) and with my younger daughter getting diagnosed with cancer and having surgery and chemo, Mother's day just did not register and I did not miss my mom that much since I had so much to deal with at that time. This year though things are better and I had time to dwell which was not good. You need to dwell less believe me, I made everyone miserable this weekend and am just starting to come out of it now. Be thankful your kids are healthy and can at least call you up and give you good wishes. As for the older kids birthdays, etc. just give them cards and nothing else, it might teach them something.

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