There are transitional living houses available to help.
Posted By: Dianna Lazan on 2006-01-30
In Reply to: Bawling my eyes out. - Starting over.
I too was in your position. My husband would beat me all the time and was verbally abusive. I got started in this business so I could leave him. Luckily, one day while at the ER getting patched up yet again, a doctor took the time to explain to my husband the consequences of wife beating. He looked at my husband like he was pond scum and threatened to have him arrested. He has not hit me since. I wish you luck. There are transitional houses that let you live there with your children while you save up enough money to get a place of your own. They even help with that (usually pay deposit and help furnish). If counseling or talking it out with him does not help, you could try this. Good luck!
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I used to clean houses when I sm
needed extra money. We got behind in bills a couple of times due to illnesses, surgeries, etc. I put an ad in the paper and picked up several jobs that way.
Perhaps, but it's my opinion that someone with 5 houses & an SUV could
SELL something to put food on the table rather that hit up Angel Ministries. I wish the lady well, I really do, but she needs to use her own resources (and seems to have plenty) to feed her family.
houses/tenants
I would suggest what your husband is doing, sell that new house you bought quickly. Also, don't know what state you live in, but in our state of MA if you owe that much rent after landlord has evicted you via certified mail, etc, have 30 days to vacate and then sheriff's constable comes over takes your furniture out and padlocks the apartment. Small claims court will work also. I just saw a program on t.v. recently about Carlton Sheets and how many people have gotten into financial trouble listening and following his advise. You know the saying if it sounds too good to be true, it usually is. Hope you sell your new house quickly and maybe you will have to sell a couple of your houses to get out of this mess. There are different agencies out there that will help, but also I think it depends on your income. I have been in financial chaos most of my life, living pay check to pay check. My husband was looking into the Carlton Sheets literature and when I read it a bell went off and I told him, don't think this will work or something is just not right.
I've done cleaning houses and do my dog and sm
my mother-in-laws, prefer doing the dogs as to dealing with ignorant people. Actually, we'll have a spare room that could be converted to bathing facilities, etc. as it is right above the water supply line. More or less just looking to see if anyone knows of good training schools, etc.
I LOVE houses, too. When I go out for a walk,
I like to look at the different houses and pretend I could afford to buy one of them, and decide which one that would be. Also like to look at the yards and see what I would change or leave the same.
My love of 'house-hunting' was born pretty early. When I was 7 my family moved, and I remember the house-hunting process went on for quite a long time. I loved seeing all the different houses! One even had a basement, something you don't see that often on the West Coast.
Even after my parents found a house and we moved, my mom (who LOVED house-hunting) still liked to go and look at them. (She was a total 'lookie-loo!') On hot summer days when we kids were bored, or on rainy days when we couldn't play outside, she'd pack us in the car and contact a friend of hers who was a realtor, and we'd go off looking at some of the more unique homes for sale, including a stone castle 'way up in the mountains. (That was pretty spooky - we did it on a rainy, thunder-and-lightning day).
So, if I were in real-estate, one thing I would definitely be is totally enthusiastic about EVERY house I was selling! But I don't think I could deal with all the phone calls, appointments, no-shows, etc. ESPECIALLY the weekend work. So, I guess I'll just have to keep on looking.
Like you, I like MT and am good at it. I job-hopped relentlessly in my early 20's. Finally got tired of the hiring-and-quitting merry-go-round, and became a Kelly Girl. Pay wasn't the best, but I got lots of interesting jobs, including an architect's firm high up in the hills above Malibu, a race-car builder, a toilet factory, and even Walt Disney Studios. It was a good way to job-hunt, too, because frequently if an employer liked my work, they'd offer me a permanent job.
I finally 'fell into' MT when I was between jobs, as usual, and a relative who did MT at a hospital invited me to lunch one day. We ate in the hospital cafeteria, and afterward she showed me her office (some MTs had their own offices back in those days!), and let me listen to and try to transcribe a report. Of course, my first attempt must've been pretty hilarious to read, but I liked it. She told me to take a transcription course at night school, and the rest is history. I just wish MT could go back to the kind of work it was back in the 70's, when you were considered to be an actual EMPLOYEE, and not just a 'cog in the wheel'.
supplement income by cleaning houses.
Get a few rather neat, clean people who want their homes cleaned (vacuumed, dusted, change linens, etc.,) once a week or every other week. Where I live it is very lucrative, pays about $20/hour.
If single, check out ads to be a "live-in" housekeeper. I do this for a business man who is gone most of the time. I clean the house once a week, cook lunch and/or dinner if he is home, and in turn he gives me run of the house, my own rooms (2 bedrooms, 1 bath for me), pays all utilities including my cable bill, and pays for all food. I am not required to help with any entertaining he may do - he calls a caterer to do that. I can have all the company visit that wants - he enjoys my friends, too - but cannot have late night parties or overnight male company. Not a bad exchange
Sure, there will always be houses to sell. Buyers on the other hand? sm
The whole economy is on paper with nothing backing it anymore. If banks stop lending, who will buy?
Maybe it's this one. It's nonpoisonous and the site says it is often found in houses when you
http://www.ces.ncsu.edu/gaston/Pests/reptiles/pages/grayrat.htm
I own several rental properties, buy houses and flip them and
own several nationally-known chain restaurants.
Much more productive than pointing fingers at the government and blaming them for any poor choices on my part, most of which are fixable if you stop complaining and get off your butt!
Drug dealers live in nice houses, too.
I know of an "educated" person who bragged to me about buying a house wirth three times as much as my home. Then we found out her husband had a meth lab in the garage and was dealing in stolen art. He's in jail and won't see his kids for the next 10 years. The house was seized, along with their cars, trucks, and hot tub. We may not have much, but we work hard for what we have. We don't do drugs, and we'd never do anything to jeopardize our children.
For that matter, go to the law enforcement auctions. The property they sell, sports cars, houses, everything, was taken from convicted drug dealers. So, no, meth labs and drug dealers are not only an low income, low education problem. They're all over, and they make more money than we do until they get busted. THEM'S the proven statistics.
I clean houses for disabled at low cost and run errands.
I have several clients and make an adequate amount extra each month for bills, gas, going out, and those other things that POP UP.
Don't worry. Modern houses don't have big holes in the floors and walls. NM
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Taxes post made in reference to cleaning houses
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Anybody know what living in Ky is like?
You want to make a living don't you?
Then you listen to idiot dictators. You want to be in the spotlight and be on TV, stay in Aruba. You want to grieve the loss of your daughter privately, stay at home and appoint a spokesperson. You ultimately make choices about what you do based on facts and necessities. It is NOT NECESSARY for Mrs. Twitty to be in Aruba or if she decides she rests more easily in Aruba it is NOT NECESSARY for her to give press conferences acusing people of being criminals or incompetency.
the living conditions
The only life they know is confinement and pain. From the little I let myself watch, they have absolutely no room to move, they are crammed and shoved in together. They don't get to roam and do whats natural to them outdoors. They are being born and raised primarily to be brutalized for crop. Like a canned food factory. They get their body parts cut off, injuries from other animals, and have to live in physical pain until they are ready to be put out of their misery for whatever purpose they serve.
In all honesty, I absolutely love meat and enjoy it on rare occasions, and it is meant for us to consume. There is another way to do it! They cannot be treated as if they do not have feelings, they 'feel' pain, the mother's are distressed when their calves are taken away, the calves are scared, you see it in their eyes, as another living thing, you have got to connect with this. Its an awful way for any living thing to go through, even in a short time.
I can see being raised on a farm, room to roam, be outside, run, eat normally, socialize with their breed, have a life. They do not know the better that they are being raised for our consumption, there are living in peace without pain and living freely. Being crammed, thrown around, beaks cut off, having throats slit, hung upside down while still alive thriving in pain is not a peaceful life.
Sounds like you are living beyond
your means or you've got absolutely the lowest paying 3 positions in the world, which still means you are living beyond your means if you can't afford to simply live.
The house pymt, car pymt and utilities and food -- those things are supposed to be put on "the paper" when you budget.
I feel for you but something truly isn't adding up here. I don't believe you're in as hot water as you say. SOunds like either super poor money mgmt or a strange sense of priorities.
Either way, good luck.
wouldn't that be the living end?
Talk about production!!!
However, that only works if the person who has dictated the voice file is also the one who trained Dragon on the system. IOW, Dr Smith has DNS 8 Med Suite in his office, and he's trained it enough to provide a good level of accuracy. He can dictate into the mobile unit, say, after seeing a patient, but things still have to be in the same manner that he dictates into DNS on his home system. He can give the voice file to his office manager to upload and do the editing.
But you can't do that with Dr Smith's dictation, unless Dr Smith has sat at your computer and trained it. As soon as you input the voice file, your system will give you a great big "do what?"
I hope this explains things better.
living it for the past 2.5 yrs---
my ex quite working a legal job so he doesn't have to pay support. my 3 yo son was able to get insurance through the state but it was very hard to get (and didn't keep it) they don't cover that much. the state keeps rewriting the laws and cut benefits each time. I'm an ic and have my own health ins for my son and myself. I'm robbing peter to pay paul right now and probably will be for a long time. we're doing without a lot of things so that I don't have to take a job outside of the house not to mention that I couldn't afford full time child care. I would try getting extra side jobs so that you could stay home. I worked 3 jobs for 2 years and went down to one job that promised full time work a couple of months ago and needless to say they haven't kept up their end of the deal-as usual-so I'm looking to pick up at least 1 other job. the peace of mind knowing that I'm here and flexible, especially if my son gets sick, isn't worth trading right now.
Look at working for a living like this: (SM)
YOU don't work for SOMEONE/COMPANY. You work for yourself (even if you're an employee). I say that because you are working to provide your own needs, not those of whomever benefits from your work. You arre responsible for providing for yourself and it is your personal responsibility to make sure your own needs are met. If the beneficiary of your need to work (i.e., pay bills, earn money, whatever) is not providing what you need, you owe it to yourself to take care of yourself and find enough work to achieve that goal.
Now, I'm not saying don't have a team attitude or be selfish, demanding, negative, self centered, but when you think about it, NO one is going to take better care of you than YOU! If you are sitting around waiting for someone else to take care of you, then you are not taking care of yourself. Get proactive! Find a supplement source of income. The first company doesn't need to know what you are doing...besides, if you are an IC, by IRS guidelines, YOU are in control, not them. They only need you IF they need you and have no obligation to be reliable in meeting your financial needs.
Really meaning to help.
off my 
4 cpl goes further when cost of living is less. nm
living/working there and not being able to
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Cost of living
Could someone live comfortably in the Phillipines on $2000 per month net with adult and 1 teenager?
Living in the Philipines
I'm sure that is a lot of money to them...however, I'm quite happy here in the US...I'm not sure many people could live the life they live there or would want to. It's a beautiful place, but lots of poverty...A friend of mine married a girl from there years ago, and she told me stories...so, I'm thankful to be in the US 
8 cpl. is too low for ANYONE living and working
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what does Mr. Jug Twitty do for a living? And what about Jar, his brother.
They are all staying in Aruba. How can they take off of work indefinitely even if they aren't wealthy and took a second mortgage on their house.
PS: I doubt very much a resort town is giving away free services to these people and their entourage. This is how a resort makes money you know. Especially when you are there criticizing their government and call citizens criminal who have been released from jail for lack of evidence.
Considering the high cost of living in.....
Florida, you are giving away your services. Out in California they're getting 12-14 cents a line, and that was 5 yrs ago.
More on high cost of living...
That is right about California; in fact, over 15 cents is common, particularly for docs and administrators who are interested in keeping the work local.
not kill any living thing?
oH, what about the plants? are they not living? some worship them too...and NO. I will not leave my God out of anything. My God is in me and I in Him. I will not try to separate one from the other. Sorry if my faith bothers you.
with cost of living going up and MT wages
How much do you think you would need to make a good living. Meaning enough to cover all bills, enough to put some away for a rainy day, and enough to play, like dinners, hobbies, maybe a weekend getaway twice a year. Be realistic. I'm thinking for me, since i'm single, 50k a year.
Second question. If you hadnt gotten trapped in MT, what profession do you see yourself in maybe even earning way more than you can imagine, doing what you love? For me, it would be psychotherapist.
anyone??? ANYONE ???
true...but they are living proof that
at least 6 times he was heterosexual lol.
What is the cost of your living expenses? sm
I would really like to know this as mine seem high. My cost for the bare minimum, not including insurance, medical costs or entertainment, is about $1,800.00 per month.
Is that high to most people? TIA.
you have a bargin cost of living!
Wow!!!! What I wouldn't give to have that as an expense!Here's mine - I live in Ventura County, California, and in one of the most expensive towns of Ventura.
House payment - $2,200.00,
insurances, all - $400.00 a month, utilities - $700.00 a month - electricity, cable is out of sight here and gas is almost double now, let's see, food, gas and personals - about $1,000.00 a month - wow!! It hurts to see it let alone pay it! (of course my home is now worth almost a million with the artifical inflate prices of real estate here).
Of course, that's basic living *grin* ...... nm
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It depends what you consider a good living (sm)
Some only need $150 a month for rent so the low pay would be fine.
But if you are pulling your hair out for less than what unemployment pays, I'd take the unemployment. 
no brainer, take it unless your cost of living....
in New York prohibits you from being able to live in a reasonable fashion on that. did you say UNION!!! Your pay will increase way more than the rest of us will ever see!
to make it official, not living in sin, tax
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Not living in sin? Isn't homosexuality a sin according to the Bible?
Married or not.
I bet there are a lot of MT's on this board living with significant others (sm)
Is one sin worse than another? Maybe we better take this to the religion board. You've got my dander up now.
I'm with you ... I get enough reality just with my daily living. sm
Kinda nice to get lost and just veg with my Law & Order and CSI addictions :)
Obviously, I'm in the minority since they seem to come up with more and more reality shows .... I admit to watching the Biggest Loser a couple of times, but I can't imagine being "hooked" and watching it all of the time, sitting on the edge of my seat.
Can't say I make a great living, but...
I support myself, my disabled husband, and also have 2 grown children at home, which the one pays his bills, but the other is having problems. We are buying our home, paying for our car, and still have enough to eat out a couple of times a week. I make more at home than if I go back out into the work place.
for poster who wanted to know about living in KY
I lived there as a transplant for about 10 years -- My answers might be more helpful if you had specific questions and/or what part of the state you are talking about -- e/m me.
I had a child living at home when....sm
When I first opened up the small MTSO in '97, I still had a child at home. Once she left, I turned her room into the room for the national I work for and is a formal office but also serves as a guest bedroom. The private MDs I do in my master bedroom (it's huge!!!!! not bragging but it's really a huge room) and is just the way I had it set up when my daughter was still living at home right thru 2000, her bedroom was the 2nd bedroom and was NOT an office until she left, nor did I work for this national until she left home (she lives around the corner from me, like 2 miles *L*). It would be a huge undertaking for me to put them both into one room now. And if I do not stay with the national, down the road, well there will be absolutely no problem there. Anyone else I take on, I would put in the master bedroom to do their work today.
hope that all made sense......*lol*
Try living in france if you think you have problems (sm)
being young and needing a job.
I know I'm living in the dark ages, but
what is orchiette? (If you don't mind my asking.)
Scary world we are living in.
I just get upset that after an incident at my son's middle school a couple of weeks ago, they didn't think it was a big deal to take a student's threats seriously. I don't feel safe sending my kids to school and we live in a village (that underpopulated). I have been checking into home schooling this week to see what is out there for that.
I get $23.50/hr. in N. Calif, which is still low for cost of living. nm
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Try living in the southeast and listen
to the local news. It is just horrible to listen to city leaders, school teachers etc.. bothch up the English language. They all use ain't and add "ed" to many different words. I was flipping through the TV one day and heard the word "nexted", what is that?
If you make a living with your PC, it pays to
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Yes. You're a US citizen, living in the US and using the
services that taxes pay for.
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