The best way to help is to be supportive by putting
Posted By: aside your personal beliefs and listen to hers on 2006-03-14
In Reply to: My neice has found out that she's pregnant. - me
You didn't get pregnant. You sound very self rightous and with I told you so attitude. A decision to carry the pregnancy, terminate it or give up for adoption is not one to be made lightly or out of guilt because someone forced their own opinions down the throat of someone who obviously needs help. Being condescending doesn't bolster her self image to find the courage to live with whatever decision she makes. She needs support, not degradation, not put downs, not made to feel worse than she already does. This is a decision she will live with every day...not one you will have on your mind every day of your life.
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how very supportive of you
I guess you are trying to be funny, but this is not a very helpful post. I also don't get the Bob or Joseph part. Huh?
Do you have any suggestions or advise just giving up, so I don't become as cynical as you are?
How very supportive of you
Maybe this is why you can't find a job. Don't jump all over me, I haven't worked since Sept. so don't come on here blasting me for not feeling sorry for you.
Where has all the work gone, or the majority of it? Answer that question and you may be able to get over feeling sorry for yourself long enough to figure it out.
I guess you have not had the pleasure of calling one of the infamous call centers that have all ouotsourced to India. It is always Bob or Joseph that answers the phone, get it now?
Thanks for the supportive words - sm
What really is getting to me lately is that I am an IC. Technically I can work whenever I want to work. My plan for the summer was to work early mornings. My kiddos like to sleep in. But, as it turns out, there usually is next to nothing to work on in the early morning. The work builds up throughout the morning and usually is full-blown by late afternoon, so that plan is not working. Looks like my only option is late night transcription, but that won't always work either, as far as availability of work. My "sweet" little guys are sleeping soundly right now and I am starting to breathe normally again!
The tone was not supportive
I am sorry, but the message was completely overbearing and rude. There would have been many more ways to go about giving the message with being so mean about it. Why be rude to someone who is already upset. That just isn't right.
Thank ya'll for the supportive words...sm
it naturally hasn't been easy today - especially getting up this morning and feeding the other cat and dog and knowing that I didn't have to put food in her bowl. My niece came over today and brought a flower for her grave. I have sent in a post for Rainbow Bridge but it hasn't shown up yet. I'm presuming that the owner probably screens post requests?
I'd love to see how supportive you'd be of this person
Because people like this don't make "a mistake," they make a lifetime of messing around in other people's lives and then looking for support and pity before going on to do it again and again.
Yes, and his team members were supportive, which will help. sm
I've been trying to think of where I saw Kelly LeBrock before -- wasn't she the one who did those commercials for the shampoo, saying "Don't hate me because I'm beautiful?" I might be thinking of someone else. I guess I'm showing my age, just by mentioning that commercial ... oops. 
Excellent, supportive comment, Fly. :) nm
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Just wanted to say "Thanks" for all the supportive posts...
I will let you know how the mammogram turns out. All prayers appreciated!
Your tone makes it very difficult to be supportive. nm
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Ya'll have been so supportive and wonderful. Can I be honest? sm
This is absolutely a dream job for me. I was also told yesterday (although I was hesitant to share this info) that they also would like me to write for the company! They gave me a list of topics for the next year (24 of them - 2 per issue) and I can choose whatever topics I feel comfortable with and just write! I'm an avid journaler with a dream all of my life to write a book. So, this whole thing is just blowing me away. I can't believe it.
There are so many writing/freelance writers websites out there with thousands of potential writers and aspiring writers who are dying for a chance like this. I am just humbled.
Talked to hubby last night. He doesn't think I can afford to quit QAing/MTing right now. So, I am going to ask to be very part time and see what they say! I also have to change my schedule around to accommodate this new position.
Thank you, each and every one of you, for your very positive response. You know, I didn't receive one negative response and I am just so surprised! Thanks again.
K
You have a schedule, what you don't have is a supportive husband..not adivce from me..just sympat
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People are supportive in different ways. My style offends, I can see that. SM
All I am trying to say to CS (the original poster) is that her career self-esteem shouldn't be based on passing or failing the CMT exam and definitely career advancement has nothing to do with passing or failing the CMT examination. And nothing the AAMT has to offer is worth the price of admission to their association.
CS needs to have confidence in her skill level without looking for validation from an organization that has invalidated us all by endorsing the outsourcing of American jobs overseas.
She needs to realize her mistake now and not give any more of her money or time to the AAMT.
If you were putting
your pie hole to good use, you wouldn't have time to be on this board participating in such foolishness. How old are you?
Well why do you not like putting it where it goes?!?!
rude!
Ah, so this is putting them down!!??!! LOL!
My Post: I don't know..... I know many MTs making that in a month...but in their jammies, don't have to fuss with the makeup and only have to leave the house to go shopping! Oh, and they still get the write offs.
And sorry about the sobering up comment, I just coulnd't for the life of me figure out what you were looking at. And still can't! Many posters use initials sm/nm for see message or no message - maybe that's why you're getting confused : )
Just as I am putting away $ for my SM
later years (I have no children to depend on) I expected that my mother was. Wrong. I have currently chosen to essentially give up where I want to live, to be with who I want to be, to take care of things for now, but it won't be that way forever.
I am doing it out of obligation right now, but I don't intend to sacrifice the next 10 or so years of my life to keep doing this.
Putting myself out there
Has anyone ever done this...?
I am thinking about making a bunch of copies of my resume and writing a cover letter describing my abilities........then distributing it to different clinics around the area.
I work from home but want a second job as an in-house Transcriptionist to gain some experience and also because I am not making that much money here at home!
Has anyone ever done this? If so, have you had success doing it? How about putting an ad on Craigslist for transcriptionist services?
PS-I don't like putting it over there, but was told had too!nm
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My DH was putting together my new desk and he had
gotten to the deep drawer where files go. He put the frame of the drawer together without putting the bottom of the drawer on. Fortunately I happened to walking through the room at this point and told him he has to put the bottom in the grooves on one side before he can finishing putting the drawer together. He tells me that the directions don't say anything about that. I told him common sense dictates that you have to put the bottom before you put the second side on. Poor man. He is very bright, but has zilch common sense. I'm not very book smart, but have been blessed with my share of common sense and then some, so I guess we made a good couple - LOL.
By putting up with him and his ways
you are just enabling him. Sounds like not only are you doing most of the housework, you're providing most of the financial support. I think he has got it pretty good and as long as you don't give him an ultimatum why should he change. You're young yet and there sure is better out there. I'd cut my loses. I'd rather be alone than with someone like your SO.
Thank you putting another twist on what I am
trying to relay in my post above. Happiness is not bought or paid for. You must have self worth and some people like the fact that they can be an employee and have someone else do the worrying in regards to maintaining the account on the administrative level so to speak. I am not going to go on and on again but I just wanted to thank you for your opinion and taking the time to post... 
nothing more then putting your name and email in as we do here
those that joined me, thanks. it was fun to talk in real time.
Agree, but WE are putting up with it...
...remember long ago when PROTEST was effective and alive and well?
There is no need for the powers that be to change anything if WE THE PEOPLE tolerate the abuse.
Peaceful protest is and always WILL BE patriotic.
I would strongly consider putting that
comment into the report. They certainly can't think any less of you and maybe seeing it in print will make them realize the harshness of their words as well as their own stupidity for assuming you are the only MT who types for them. Some dictators have no clue or class.
Keep putting your head in the s/m
sand about the credential. Don't get one, it's your choice. In the meantime, everyone else will get theirs and most of the ads (except for the rinky dinky jobs that pay nothing) will require the CMT and you won't be able to apply.
People will listen to you now because the majority of the people in MT don't have credentials. What will you say when the time comes that most do and you don't?
Thanks for putting the word out...
I knew it was Toth. They seem to prey on new grads and I was within 2 seconds of signing their contract....until I read it! Their contract is completely ridiculous and totally out of line, especially for IC. I really don't know how they stay in business. Maybe you at least got a little experience and can try applying at reputable companies. Good Luck!
Putting things in perspective...
I was talking (actually complaining) about the usual MQ stuff with someone in the office when I noticed they weren't laughing and/or sympathizing with me like they normally do. I asked her if something was wrong and she said she lost a friend. I stupidly thought she meant work-related fighting and said "Another cat fight?" to which she replied "No, my best friend was killed yesterday in Iraq by the roadside bomb." Talk about feeling VERY VERY small....but it put everything back into perspective for me. I am so fortunate in so many ways...
That is just it, I am not putting pressure on him at all and support him,
but deep inside I am heartbroken and won't let him know it.
yep - sure do - I love putting the voice with..sm
GREAT MINDS THINK ALIKE!!! *lol* - I'm rarely disappointed in how they do look though......
If you accept that, you ARE putting yourself *on sale*. (nm)
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we aren't even putting periods after...
Dr. or M.D. they have just given up on that here. i think the use of a period after dr is justified. we get paid hourly so it doesn't matter for us.
Not only that, but the poster is putting this man in a pool sm
with every single person who does MT transcription in India. That's kind of like being mad at every single driver on the road when you've lost a loved one to a drunk driver.
I am just sick and tired of the intolerance in this country and the I-am-better-than-you attitude because these people are of a different origin. No wonder there is no world peace. It starts small. If you continue to think small then big problems in our society will never be solved.
to who posted about putting keyboard in your lap,
thanks for taking the time to share that. I've been MTing over 30 yr and just in the las few have had trouble with the carpal t. syndrome stuff. I thought i always had good ergo posture, etc, but when i have had a persistent pain in the one arm, i tried your idea and it seems to be helping. I use a board under the keyboard tho as it feels better to me that way. I've learned so much from people sharing on this board, and thank you for your input!
You're putting your SS# on your resume?
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I absolutely HATE putting laundry away.
Sorting, washing and folding are not a problem. 
Outstanding post! Thanks for putting on here what I was trying to keep inside myself (sm)
This brought back a lot of memories from 3 years ago...everything you said is absolutely right on the money! Anyone who's been abused will know that.
Bless your heart and ((((HUGS)))) for posting what I couldn't at the moment!!!
Putting a positive spin on MT resume
Updating my resume and wondering if there is suggested format when one is an MT? Not a lot of job hopping per se but multiple jobs at once (for enough lines). When I list them all its hard not to make it look bad with so many company names.
Thanks for your advice.
I wasn't putting down Network Marketing...sm
Simply stating where the money in Quixtar comes from. Sure, you get a bonus check every month if you sell products, but the majority of the money comes from the tools. Tapes that are made from Quixtar seminars are sold and pushed on people. If you don't get on the tool program, they don't want to help you - because they won't make money if you don't buy the tools.
It's silly and pompous to be putting FAAMT behind one's name.
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It's putting criminal data into the computer and
no ESLs to listen to!
putting that precious little guy on my prayer chains right now! nm
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Excuse me, but I don't see any other MT site putting on a giveaway
for MT Week. I have gone to a lot of trouble to ask sponsors to graciously donate items for our annual giveaway. I have gone to a lot of trouble to make this a nice event, including banners, posts with full details on how to enter and by the amount of emails we are receiving people are managing to enter just fine. Sorry if you don't like my response, but it's just not that difficult to enter.
I wasn't putting words in your mouth
It seemed to me that you were the one who put them in the post. Perhaps that isn't what you meant. ???
No, I actually don't have issues with my parent's divorce. It happens. They have both moved on and are happy and I am happy for them. Are you trying to put words in MY MOUTH? LOL.
I know A LOT of kids whose parents are not divorced who overly indulge their children. In fact, it was because my parents were divorced that I was not given more help (such as paying or helping to pay for my education). Both sets of parents were *starting over* so I don't think that line holds true that the divorced parents have more money. At least not in every case.
Listen, I am probably the same kind of Mom as you are. I would feel the same way if my daughter's best friend was being spoiled like that (minus the feelings toward the parents being divorced). My 12 yo daughter is always wanting to know why she can't have a cell phone, iPod, portable DVD player, phone in her room, etc. MOST of her friends have all these things and will probably have cars when they turn 16. So don't blast me, I am on the same page as you as far as that goes.
I just felt like you were commenting negatively that the child comes from divorced parents. If I was wrong then I apologize.
Try putting in the normals by blocking and control Y....
then name it the name you want and then use control R to retrieve it. Works for me.
I am not putting out anymore money to take another course...$1000 is enough n/m
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GREAT advice-not putting eggs...sm
all in one basket. Just leads to disaster later.
You might try putting some of your longer entries in AutoText
I agree, I love AutoCorrect. I use ShortKeys for clients that have a word processing platform that does not include AutoCorrect. ShortKeys is good, but it has a few glitches.
Everyone seems to love ShortHand. If someone can tell me how to use ShortHand the same way you do AutoCorrect (without having to use Alt or Ctrl or other keys which take your hand off the main part of the keyboard), I would really appreciate it. I tried ShortHand but I couldn't get it to work that way.
I believe I heard putting out high-nitrogen
fertilizers on your grass will drive away snakes and lizards, so it might work on skinks too. I love them and lizards. One of the skinks has been stuck in the creeping jenny before, with just his tail sticking out, and I petted his tail. I have to watch when we go out because Sasha does try to hunt them.
How do yoy 'flag' it? Do you mean putting a blank, like that____?..
Is flag, marker and blank all the same?
Fire patrol means putting out FIRES, you dum-dum. LOL
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