The best defense for a child...
Posted By: Document perfectly, that is how we help! on 2005-07-24
In Reply to: I did child abuse reports for 2+ years then quit. - omt
As heart tugging as they are, accurate transcription is sooooo important for any person, there is a lot at stake and your best effort at triple checking what you have typed is our little helping hand at helping those seeking help. Flag ANYTHING you doubt, if you get lost in the "he said, she said," someone else will too and calling attention to those items WILL HELP to ensure the reports are easily read and understood. Keep up the good work, the job we do IS IMPORTANT! Any complaint or abuse is paperwork, paperwork, paperwork, just be sure those you do are the cream to help those who in need.
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Go to NBC10.com - Our local news has "Wednesday's Child" which is a child for adoption.
Every Wednesday they introduce a child who needs a home and a family. There should be some information there as these kids are up for adoption.
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Hope that helps!
WRONG! A child that has a fear of discipline = a well behaved child.
I have a beautiful, intelligent 11 year old daughter that hasn't had a spanking in 6 or 7 years and probably only 3 her entire life. She is very well behaved and I get compliments on her behavior constantly. When she does get out of line all I have to say is, "Shall I call your father?" Call it what you want, it works. She respects and obeys me and her father. Why??? For fear of the facing the consequences of misbehaving. Having a total lack of fear or respect for authority is exactly what's wrong with Generation X/kids today. I turned out just fine as did my siblings. Why?? Because my parents took "time out" to bust our a$$es whenever we got out of line.
Is that clear enough for you???
thank you for coming to my defense (sm)
Of course I know my financial situation, but we have missed a few payments, have tried to contact the lein holder, but to no avail.
In defense of Dano....
Further down on this board, someone posted a very rude post that implied that people who didn't think a college degree was important were inferior. Dano requested that the poster not put people down that way. So it's very understandable why she would ask this question.
But you already know that, don't you? You responded to that post by telling her she has issues.
Since you obviously have you own issues concerning your abilities to understand how this board works, the most current posts are at the top, which means the less current posts are at the bottom, which means she posted her request to stop putting down posters BEFORE she asked the above question.
You're even more rude than the *superior feeling* poster who started all this.
In defense of kids
I only have a niece and a nephew, but they tell me the same thing. I was stressed out at the time and probably bit their heads off. On further reflection, they were doing their best to be caring and supportive. They can see what the upheaval at the Q is doing to me, and they're smart enough to know it's not good. As my niece said, You work all the time, you have no money and you're no fun! She's got that right! They both think their aunt could do better and deserves better, as I suspect your children do for you. They still believe in us - that we're smart enough to learn and/or do something else. They're trying to give us the kick in the butt to look beyond the obvious - there are other in-hospital jobs we could learn and do and there are other jobs besides K-Mart (at least where I live) - and to get out there and try for them, as scary a thought as that is. They still have the optimism of the young, and maybe us old folks could use a bit of that right now. At least we know they love us, and that's not a bad thing either.
Not in defense of errors or anything, but - sm
one reason the QA field has exploded is the low wages. Taking the time to proofread is costly for an MT racing through the day's work in order to make a line count that will even pay her electric bill for that day. We shouldn't have to work that way. It would be easier to take pride in one's work as an MT if we were afforded the luxury of a living wage, so we would slow down a little and produce an even higher-quality document.
Ok, in my husband's defense, he apologized.
Then he made breakfast, lunch, and dinner yesterday for all of us, did the grocery shopping, mowed the lawn, put up a swingset for our little one, fixed our broken outdoor faucet, set up the pool for the kids, gave me a foot massage, cleaned the house, and washed my car. I think I'll keep him....
In her defense, there are far too many men out there that really should come with warning labels. nm
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Conversely.... in defense of the MTSOs..
.....where would the MTs be if the MTSOs just quit?
I realize this commentary may raise the ire of some MTs out there, but I believe the long-time MTs and MTSOs will understand what I am saying.
It really isn't as easy at might seem to some managing multiple accounts, turnarounds, IC flexible schedules, covering for the ICs when they want to take off for the afternoon and go shopping or to the park with the kids, doing the QA on the blanks to find that medication or doctor's name that the IC did't feel like spending the time looking up in the resources available, and still meet our contracted turnaround with the client.
The sending of work offshore has drastically reduced the amount clients pay and I can tell you from personal experience that most MTSOs are rolling in the dough, living in fancy houses and driving fancy cars. We are making pennies, just the same as the ICs are. We are not the national corporations and we are not sending work off shore. We are the moderate to small MTSOs that respect the fact that experienced transcriptionists with good work ethics are hard to come by. Most of us pay our ICs based on the average national rate.
You can certainly do the math if you're interested. Average line rate (in our area) is 0.12 per line, 0.14 if we are REALLY lucky. Most want to pay 0.10 or 0.11. Telephone, internet and system costs (with maintenance) cost an average of 0.02 per line. Experienced MT average rate nationwide is 0.08 per line. So, we hire trainees right out of school rather than sending work offshore for 0.04 a line and may the trainees 0.06 a line to learn the accounts we are getting 0.10 for, paying 0.03 for QA on those if we can afford a QA person and giving them incremental increases as they improve, keeping the experienced MTs on the 0.11 accounts, and paying our non-QA-requring MTs 0.09 to 0.095 per line.
Even if a service bills out $2,000,000 (yep, two million dollars) per year, $40,000 isn't a whole bunch of money. Some of us could make that much managing an office for a national. But then who would hire the ICs that want a really flexible work schedule, do not want to do ESL work, will not be available for STATS and want their own primary account to work on when they want to, and have someone else cover when they're out for an afternoon with the kids.
Hmmmm.. seems like there's not much left for the cars and groceries of the MTSO either.
Transcription is a profession, not just a job. If you want 0.11 or 0.12 per line, feel free to go find and manage your own accounts. If you want a "job" with steady hours and steady pay.. I think they're hiring at our local fast food restaurant.
What works for me is I take a women's self defense class . .
twice a week. I get to beat up on a man for an hour. Great fun and stress reliever. Also a kick-boxing class. I just imagine I'm kicking the doctor in the you know what. LOL
Uh yeah, in a debate there's usually defense and an offense. Hence someone is always "on the
defensive." I simply posted my opinion about non-compete clauses and my experience with an untrustworthy service and how I handled it and then I'm called unethical and unprofessional. That kind of puts me on the defensive, dontcha think? Kind of begs me to defend my actions... 
Self Defense, pure and simple. I am leaving this board as of --sm
today because of you and your obnoxious attitude. I know you don't care, but you should, being a *fellow MT*, but everything revolves around you and you always being right. You remind me of KiKi. YOu like to take cheap shots at everybody who does not have the same opinion as you about anything, just as long as you can start an argument and keep it going. You are vicious, rude, crude, and a definite infant. I will pray for you. good bye.
Let the docs use their reports transcribed in India as a defense! LOL
The doc can sit there while the personal injury lawyer shows the jury a grieving family and the messed up report.
US MTs should not accept sweat shop wages or conditions. We are providing a service to them! We are their first defense!:) :) :)
If US MTs stoped working for low wages, the physicians who value patient safety and their livelihood would pay a descent wage. The other ones can try to explain the report being done in India to the personal injury lawyer tearing him apart.
Are you the one with the ill child ???
If so, please realize that the stress of an ill child can be devastating to a marriage. Unfortunately many men deal with this kind of thing by drinking. My best friend in the world went through 4 yrs of fighting leukemia with her little boy who became ill at 12 months. Her husband turned into a total and complete jerk, drinking, and eventually becoming abusive to her. A major medical illness can pull people apart. On the other hand, it sometimes draws people together, but less often. I had our third child extremely premature and she was critically ill for 2 months and then spent another 2 months in the NICU, 4 months total. It was a big stress, but fortunately we weathered it okay. Some people are not so lucky. My first thought is that all this nonsense with your father, and his mother, and wills and money, and all the rest is just something to fixate on. It may very well NOT be the source of the current friction in your home and your marriage. Maybe some counseling if you can get him to go, would be in order. My best to you and your family.
It's no wonder--with a child like you...
your mother probably ripped her own uterus out, and that will be the one and only post to this person. It was just too easy!!
Why would you do that to your child?
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New car for my child
My 17-year-old did get a new car for his birthday for several reasons: He has never given us a bad time about anything, he has a 4.2 GPA, and did a 2,210 on his SAT (the new SAT),is headed to the college he had his eye on for several years now (asked for and got early acceptance letter) and he has been working part-time since he was 14 years old.
We decided to get him a new car because he will need it for school (it's a few states away and we want him to have something dependable) and because he has really gone the distance and worked very hard to get to this point.
I'm really not bragging here, these are just our reasons. He didn't get a fancy racing car, just something that is nice and dependable and made us comfortable.
Anyone whose child has gotten the flu?
Symptoms of coughing, fever, chills and sweats, no appetite, hurts all over, sleepy. Grandson has been this way for 5 days, 2 visits to the doc, lost 2 lbs in 5 days (which for a little guy is a lot). X-rays show no pneumonia. What can we do? Any ideas gratefully appreciated.
Think about the child
and the fact that it is not wanted. Funny I did not hear one mention about adoption in this post. Sometimes abortion is the best choice (IMO).
Let's do think about the child
Adoption has been mentioned in some of the posts, but you may have missed it. A person who kills somebody else may be thinking of many things, but the actual well-being of the person he or she is killing is certainly not one of them. Everyone is "not wanted" by somebody else at some point in their lives.
different child, different methods
I am the mother of two 20-year-olds, 1 boy and 1 girl. I can tell you from first hand experience the type of discipline depends on the child. My daughter, she might have had 2 spankings in her whole life. She could be talked to and punished in other ways that worked. My son, on the other hand, about every 6 months he would be due for a spanking and then he was fine again. I have learned from experience, never say that you will never do something or that you will not do something. If one thing does not work, believe you will go to spanking if it means saving your child.
Any child is more adult than you are.
I grow weary of your tiresome chatter.....
does anyone have a child that models? sm
or in commercials, print ads, etc? My 6 YOS is just adorable (of course!) and he has a very bright, outgoing personality. I am told all the time that he should be in "pictures", but don't know how to go about getting started. I don't have money to invest in all the pictures and things. I know this is probably a long shot, but any info would be greatly appreciated. 
Don't think I'd put my child in that business (sm)
It's something they can pursue when they are old enough.
Also, don't spend a lot on pictures, if you have to pay for just reprinting of pictures and they pay for the photographer that is probably reasonable.
CHILD SUPPORT??
 Can ANYONE give me some legitimate service who goes after "deadbeat dads"???? I'm at the end of my emotional rope, and my state (Oklahoma) has not helped much in nailing down this butthead ('cuse my French)....I've talked to a few "services" which IF they get anything from him, they will probably take 60-70% of it!!! Has anyone had any luck anywhere?? Why do these guys (and I'm sure there are gals out there too!) get away with not supporting their kids???
Sorry to vent  ...I type for a living (like you) and beating this keyboard sometimes helps me feel better! Thanks for listening (reading ??)....
child support
Believe me, deadbeat moms are very prevalent, moreso than people think. I know from personal experience that these moms rather spend their money on themselves than send even the tiny amount they are required by law to send to their child, all the time professing how much they love their children.
Child Support
We have a newer prosecuter in one of our local county's who started a new program to go after deadbeat parents. 3 times a year, she post the pictures of the worst offenders on the front pages of the newpapers, along with how much they owe...usually has a pretty good rate of call in's to report seeing them. She's also working extremely hard to get the state to NOT renew drivers lisc. on any of those who are over 2,000 in arrears.
My sister finally got the attention of our prosecuter when her ex got close to 30 grand , the folks at CS just did not seem to have a working phone or at least one they answered, so they went after him, showed up in court, the magistrate took all of 10 minutes to look over the files...asked the idiot and the prosecuter if he had a working wage deduction in place (which he did on paper), and then said...Well he has the wage order in place, so case over
Now how the heck do you think he got to the 30 grand mark if the wage order was working........duh Good luck, been there before and glad mine has paid on time.
Child with GERD
Hi there!
My son started projectile vomiting when he was just 2 months old. It took us 10 months to find a doctor that would diagnosis him with anything. As of now he is almost 7 and he takes 20 mg of Priosec daily, 5 mg of singular, and OTC Pepcid AC when he has a flare-up.  Which is almost weekly. We had him on 40 mg for a long time, but the doc is wanting to try to get that down!
After such a long time of all this gasping for air, the same as you described, we took Josh to an allergiest and he has been diagnosed with asthma also. This is VERY common in children with GERD. I would MOST definiately check that out!!!
Good Luck and let us know how you are doing!
Chel
Keeping any child
I disagree. I would much rather home school a child than send them into what passes for education today. I support the mothers who home school!
be sure you get child support
It might not be much, but it will help. I didn't have the option of working fulltime from home when my son was small, so I had to put him in daycare. Found a reasonable sitter who was very reliable. But to supplement my day income, I did work part-time at night. I fed him, helped him with homework, bathed him and then put him down for bed and THEN went to work at home, many nights until 1 a.m.God gives us strength to get through things when we need it, cause I certainly don't think I could do it now! It will not be easy for you with 2 young children, but it can be done. It will require sacrifices, but don't sacrifice time with your children or time for yourself! Do a lot of praying. God Bless and I wish you the best. Keep a support group around you as much as possible.
say that the best doctor for the child(ren)......is...sm
THEIR MOTHER............
True................
believe it or not - Good Mommy's are the best diagnosticians of their children. 
32 next month one child age 6
I am 31, 32 next month and I am divorced with a precious son who is 6
raise up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he
I figure I taught him what I know and believe. He has to make the decisions from there, and if what I taught him was strong enough, and believable enough, he will do OK. May make mistakes, but he'll do OK.
Exactly that, it is a fetus and not yet a child.
Not yet a human being. Many people miscarry and although devastating you don't see them acting quite the same as if they lost a 2 year old child, do you? They do not hold a funeral service for a fetus along with burial and a headstone, do they? It is definitely not the same as a child.
You should take this as far as you can. The next time it may be a child on the other end of the
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Yes... Each child learns on a different day in a different way.
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This just has to be a child posting, no??
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if you have a child togehther.
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I believe it should be left up to each child and
what they are comfortable with (of course also what the parents can handle too). My son has to be limited to 1 sport at a time along with his guitar lessons. Anymore than this at a time stresses him out and I know this. He makes mostly A's with his occasional B. (He is 9 years old.)
In saying that though, I have an 8-year-old daughter who prefers to be very, very busy. She is also an A&B student She run CC track, does ballet, on a competition cheer team and gymnastics and is wanting to add a dance class. For an 8yo though she is very good at time management. She starts her homework on the bus and takes it with her to work on between classes some nights. She has been at the same dance studio for years and they know how she is, so she goes and sits behind the front desk to do whatever she feels she needs to do.
I guess what I am saying is this... Your child will let you know if it is too much or not enough. Just give them the chance to make the decision and not have you do it for them.
what an amazing child you have...
Your post brought tears to my eyes. She's really something special...you are so blessed. Please give her a BIG HUG for me...she's an inspiration!
P.S. You must be pretty amazing yourself!!! You deserve a big hug too! 
My child has been tested....sm
By 3 different psychiatrists and psychologists who are children specialists. She does well without medication when she has tasks broken down into small increments and with redirection when she gets off track. I'm not going to medicate her with anything when she is fine when given these helpful guidelines, and her doctors are conservative enough to agree with me and don't hand out pills quickly. If she displayed ADD/ADHD symptoms to the severity that she couldn't function in life without parameters that work it would be a different story.
She is physically active with playing sports (i.e. soccer and basketball depending on the season or doing dance when it's off season for both) and we take her to the playground often. As far as diet goes, we limit her sugar intake as she is more hyper when she is exposed to sugars and even she recognizes that if she has a lot of sugar she gets more hyper.
Is this a child dictating?
I once had a doc say "I asked the patient to pee in a cup". I forget what I changed it to but I cannot stand the word "pee" and refused to use that. It is so vulgar (of course got the approval from my supe first on the change).
Child dictating
Both my Ped doctors say poop and pee. Is this going to be the industry norm? Maybe we won't have rhinorrhea any more, just snotty noses, and a few owies, ouchies, and boo boo's. lol
In the years since then my child has
gone on to a very responsible job, married (divorced though now, you know with these throw-away marriages the kids have now)and self-sufficient, carries their own insurance and know very well the importance of never letting it drop. The kid in college (3rd year) and told while at school over the phone by the head of infectious disease specialist at the hospital where I worked that tested positive for human immunovirus. The child quit school that very day, never returned and was so gung-ho up until that time about their schooling. I knew I had to get Cobra and get it quick and thank God we were able to have that bridge until over that horrific shock and he was able to gain his own employment. The child basically has done well but anyone working in this field possibly knows about the what ifs with this disease- it has been 15 years since then and I just pray for a lot more years for them.
Me too here for my child. I'd be happy for just some
groceries at this point.
For a child, I might consider Debrox,
which is for the ears, but that may be a bit far off your s/l.
The patient must be a child of
Bambi and Rambo!
Not about child abuse, but...
...a pretty funny story. A friend was working with her horse when he tossed his head, smacked her in the face and broke her nose. By the time her hubby got her to the ER she had a huge shiner, a huge nose and was swollen and black & blue on one side of her face, plus had wrenched her shoulder.
Various hospital personnel began asking her how it had happened. About every 10 minutes somebody else came in to put her through the whole horse story again, and this went on for a couple of hours. Then a cop showed up and asked her the same stuff and also spoke with her husband, and then it dawned on her that this whole time they had been trying to shake her story. They thought her HUSBAND had belted her!
And about a week later she got a visit from a social worker just to make sure she was 'okay.' Far from being upset about this (although it was annoying to have people bothering her constantly in the ER) they both thought this was pretty hilarious. And they figured that their tax dollars were not being wasted and their county agencies were doing what they should be doing.
I don't believe in child abuse
or drug abuse, but I don't refuse to type reports involving child abuse victims and drug overdoses.
This seems a little out there to me. Don't get the logic.
I certainly will be praying for you and your furry child (your other one too)
I hope everything goes well with your trip. Your dog couldn't be anywhere better than at the vet's if you have to leave her. I'm sure she will be fine when you get back, but I will be thinking of you. Whatever is God's plan will be, though. Hope that helps you. 
If it were my child, I wouldn't come home either
but just because they arrested those three guys, doesn't mean they're guilty. They have no clues, no facts, no body.
Someday someone may stumble on her bones, but mom is going to go through hell till then. Dead is easier than missing.
It is sad but true that if she had not been a pretty, young blonde from America, she would have been forgotten right about day three.
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