Thank you everyone for the input. It helped with my decision.
Posted By: patsyB on 2006-07-23
In Reply to: what would you do in this situation? - patsyB
I have been feeling quite used for years by her, but have been putting up with it because she IS family. My mom did tell me years ago that she hates cooking holiday meals, so she has basically invited herself every year since 1999. We do always have a good time, but I do nearly all the cooking and cleaning up. Sometimes she and her husband show up in time to eat, gather the leftovers, and leave. I go all out for holiday dinners too. I have decided NO more. We cannot be used unless we allow ourselves to be a doormat. Thank you for telling me what I needed to hear, especially those of you who have also dealt with this.
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what helped me
I had to stay away from situations or places where I tended to smoke.
I know you cannot quit work just to quit smoking but maybe rearranging your home office/work area could help.
I also agree with finding a substitute. For me, it was the holding of the cigarette, not the oral contact, that was a tough one. I need to have something to do with my hands - try a stress ball if you find your hands feel empty during your breaks.
I quit in 1997 and still crave a cigarette from time to time but the feeling passes quickly. The first 4 years were really difficult, though. Good luck.
Thank you to everyone below who helped (sm)
me with the PTO question. I got an answer so am a happy camper again
YOU HELPED ME FIX IT!!!! sm
THANK YOU SO MUCH! You helped me figure it out...I knew I needed to change something with the field codes but could not find it!! THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!! Something good will happen to you for helping me!!! THANK YOU!!!!!
Thank you to all who helped me!
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HAVE YOU BEEN HELPED?
Yes, it helped!!! Thanks so much. nm
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Me too. She always helped me when
I was helping out on OPs! Now I do them quite a bit, but still need some help here and there!
helped me a lot
I thought the book was very helpful. I think it increased my speed at least by half. For me, it was a worthwhile investment.
I did try all that and it helped some sm
and it definitely made my computer speed up but the dragging is still there.
It's about time someone helped US out
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You believe the people being helped are the same ones...
shooting, raping, etc.??? Perhaps some are, but the majority are ordinary working people, and probably some who aren't working. So what? They are human beings and deserve to be treated decently. Who are you to judge that they aren't worthy of help???
As others have mentioned, I hope when you need help you are able to get it. What a despicable attitude. I feel sorry for you.
Thanks for your tips, they helped! NM
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Yes, thanks a lot - helped greatly!! NM
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I wanted to thank everyone who helped below
about DHs red blotches. He is feeling fine this morning. I did tell him the signs of anaphylaxis and to go to the ER if he has any of those symptoms. We may never know what caused those blotches. Thanks again!!! You all rock!
Thanks. A different speaker helped--
Thanks so much. But, it is the sound quality from my company, it is just bad. They have the good system and then a bad system, is how I interpret it. When it is coming from the bad part, it is bad. That's what I think. Don't know, though. Changing speakers helped, and I did not think of that, so thanks so much.
Yes - it helped w/abbreviations, etc.
I think it helps to broaden your knowledge of certain standards if you're job hunting, even if you've never used them. For example, you won't be surprised when you get a different job or client and someone chews you out about starting a sentence as "27-year-old patient comes in today" (versus "This 27-year-old..." or "Twenty-seven-year-old..."). JMHO and IME
I finally helped someone. Yea!! (nm)
decision
Why not just be honest and say, hey, I have a better offer. Either pay me what they pay me or I'm out of here.
decision
I would have to consider the headaches and extra responsibilities of "lead" and the UNPAID hours you will work if you are salaried and do you still have to type a minimum of time/lines.
right decision
Tinkerbell, I think you made the right decision.
Independent contractors will eventually be forced to move to Vista when their XP boxes die, and they need to get a new computer. But if you have an option of staying with XP, I think for most MTs that course will avoid lots of heartache and problems.
--vJoe
My decision is my own....
I'm not looking for anything from anyone other than just to see if this has happened to anyone else. The fact that she did not allow me to explain the position, account specifics, what I expected, etc. tells me she is a difficult person to get along with. It's too bad too, because this account pays up to 14 cpl, so it's her loss, not mine. There are many other good MT's out there and I have several other resumes I can choose from.
Obviously, your decision
You don't mention benefits...I don't know whether you need them, if you have them with the at-home position, or whether they're a non-issue. I would love to find a hospital where I could get in for 3 days a week typing radiology. It would be great to have at least that much guaranteed money (although, admittedly, if you're part-time they could call you and tell you not to bother coming in unless you're actually covering a shift). Plus, after 20+ years of doing this at home, it's kinda nice to get back out there among people again. I worked for a very brief time for a temp agency and it was actually pretty nice; I felt like a little kid playing dress-up for the 2 days a week I went into an office!!
If you really like the current large company you work for, I would probably hold on to that as well, leaving the door open so that if you found after a month you really couldn't bear it, you could go back.
natural products helped me - sm
I feel for you. Different story, (though same in that tubes tied, PMS-crazy 10 out of 30 day each month, teens) but maybe this might help you. I could not opt for hormone tx (diabetic)after hysterectomy (for other changes in cycle; light, then very heavy, then not there) and opted for surgery when fibroids were found.)Immediate surgical menopause resulted in symptoms even though before this my FSH and estradiol levels came back I was not peri.
Researched websites and found natural progesterone cream (bought at local health store)helped me a lot, but wound up on Lexapro (calming) too. Taken together, this was the optimum fix for me.
A mouth guard helped me
Good luck.
Split shift helped me a LOT! Was
getting very painful to type eight hours straight. It has helped to the point where I barely realize any pain anymore. Also, I can seem to go "great guns" the first hour or two of my shift, and then slow down some after that. This way, with split shift, I have two sets of "two hours" of gungho, at least as gungho as I can get...LOL.
I wanted to thank the person that helped me. sm
That Turtle Beach Audio Advantage is really the ticket. I can't believe I was living with such bad sound quality for so long. THANKS SO MUCH! This is really helping immensely.
I'm happy my post helped you....sm
and I NEVER lie!! It's the truth!! My only thing today is I don't want to go back out there and re-solicit (I still work for the BIG national part time for now but the day I leave there, I'm hitting the streets again...*LOL*)
Best of luck!!! You'll do fine!!! Meeting them all in person to me, where they can see your face, what you emanate in public, one's honesty and directness...I believe the doctors ALL like this!! And if the office is busy and they cannot see you or interview you, you come back another time - made an appointment. *S*
yes, and I found it really helped for awhile sm
then I hit some life situations where I just could not cope. My doctor put me on Lexapro, and it was a life saver. If your depression is mild, 5HTP is a really good start. St. John's Wort barely took the edge off for me, but the 5HTP was quite good.
I WANT TO THANK EVERYONE WHO HELPED ON INDENTING NUMBERS!
Thank you so much, I lost a days work not knowing how to do it as the account requires indented numbers.
Your very welcome Hayseed! glad it helped someone, LOL! sm
is your volume low now too?
I just did a system restore and that seems to have helped. nm
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I want to thank everyone that helped with the C-phone question, got another one for ya now.
Okay.. another strange question. I'm used to just specifying my typing speed on a wpm basis, how do I convert my wpm over to lph?
Thanks again, everyone's been so helpful.
I'm against outsourcing, too. It's helped to ruin a lot of
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Thanks, I agree......I am okay with his decision, but will
absolutely miss watching him play. He has so much talent and to see a young man walk away from a game he once loved so much is very upsetting. He will be fine and is so intelligent. I always tell both my kids, academics are more important than anything else while in school. He gets that drive and push from me.
I am very proud of him, always will be. He has so much character and courage to actually face the coaches and explain his feelings.
Inside, I am sad just because I am feeling sorry for myself cause I won't get to see him play anymore.
Thank you so much for your help with this! I just needed to hear some opinions and hope I am doing the right thing by supporting him in his decision.
I will get over it tomorrow - today I want to sulk!
Only you can make that decision.
Will you be looking for another job any time soon? Will you make more money as a CMT? Will it make you feel good about yourself to have the certification? Will you have time to study for the test? Make a list of pros/cons and decide from there.
Personally, it's not worth it for me. I don't want to support the AAMT because they're supposed to be for Americans, but they promote offshoring. I have enough certifications and education papers kicking around that I don't need another one. CMTs don't get paid any more at my employer. I also don't want to drive 300 miles each way to take the test. It's expensive, and you have to recertify every three years.
It's a personal decision.
I prefer IC as well. When you're an employee, they pay you less per line than as an IC. You still pay taxes, federal, state, Medicare, Social Security as an employee. However, the employer pays for Worker's Comp and matches the social security and Medicare only portion of your taxes, which I believe is only 7.65%. That social security percentage is quite small when you consider the fact that self-employment taxes are only 15.6%. I don't remember the exact percentages because it's been a while since I had to manually figure it all, but you can look it up on Google.
As an IC, I get to deduct every little thing I can think of. I can deduct my home office, a portion of my utilities, a portion of my Internet and phone, any mileage, office supplies (and I love office supplies!), furniture, software, computers and other equipment, paper, reference materials, everything.
The issue is that when you are an employee, those taxes get taken right off the top so you don't even miss that money. Most people don't set aside a percentage of their pay that should have gone to those taxes, so they grumble when they owe at tax time. You actually get to see how much you're paying out in taxes. However, they got to use their money all year instead of loaning it to the government interest free. That's a perk.
Yes, that is a wise decision. (nm)
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Trying to make a decision
I have just been hired with a super good company, who is offering the right amount per lines and have an abundance of work, but I work for a company that pays only pennies and I mean literally pennies and I've been working for them for years, trying to keep them on float. I feel loyal to them but with the new company's demands with the workload, I am not going to be able to keep up with the company that offers pennies. I just don't know how to tell them good-bye.... 
At the end of the interview, the decision
was up to Mr. Trump, not Randall. In the business world, you protect your own position and interest, and he showed Mr. Trump that he was indeed tough enough to do that. This is not "Survivor," taking someone to the final two.
As far as Rebecca goes, she is indeed a very impressive 23-year-old. Her exposure from the show will take her far, perhaps farther than the Trump organization. However, she is still quite young. The right candidate was selected for this position.
Decision on taking a job
I took 3 documents in Word and the program calculated the amount of characters with spaces and without spaces. I divided the character counts by 65 to get a line count. I then multiplied the line count with spaces by 8 cents per line and the one without spaces by 9 cents per line. In all 3 cases, you are better off taking the job at the lower rate counting spaces.
Example: 1 document 4339 characters without spaces, 5179 with spaces. Divide each by 65 comes out to be 67 lines without spaces, 80 lines with spaces.
65 lines x 9 cents = $6.03
80 lines x 8 cents = $6.40
The others came out with a discrepancy of 78 cents and $2.16.
I did other size documents and none of them came out where you were getting a better deal by being paid the higher line rate with no spaces.
I hope this helps.
They should post their decision
on one of the 'sticky' messages so it is always at the top of the boards...all of them!
You made the right decision nm
Crass.
Tough decision
I have been an MT for just over 20 years. I don't think I would ever consider QA. Knowing the poor quality of many (not all) of the MTs these days keeps me from even considering it. Knowing that the reports that I personaly end up sending to QA are the worst of the worst, I would think that is what other seasoned MTs are sending.....which means YES you are getting nothing but garbage coming your way. Inexperienced MT work *plus* don't-give-a-crap-except-for-my-line-count MT work *plus* really tough stuff from experienced MTs *equals* NOT FOR ME!!!
When I get ready to sit down and work I HOPE there are some good dictators in my future.....being QA I could almost bet I'm going to have a crappy day. I for one could not take that day in and day out. Plus the money is so much better in MT. I am going to try ASR soon, so a mixture of ME and MT. We'll see how I like that. Good luck with your decision.
Another thought would be that I might consider QAing for a hospital that has their employees at home, NOT a national company. Like the university hospital where I used to work. If I knew the quality of the MTs was up there, and that the MT supervisor tries his/her best to get onto the horrible dictators.
Best of luck with your decision.
Difficult decision
Hi,
It sounds like, despite all the problems, that you love him and want to remain a family, particularly for the sake of your son.
Without disrespecting that, what I would suggest is that you tell your husband to either grow up already (and pull his weight around the house while he is at it) or please go ahead and divorce you and marry his mama.
In the meantime, make sure that your name is not on his credit card bills, etc. and that you DO expect him to provide child support while he is absent from the family, the home, the marriage. If he fails or refuses, take him to court--that should make him wake up and smell the coffee and grow up fast. Otherwise, let mama figure out how to manage his payee check with that new expense.
HTH.
editorial decision
I think combining the measurement with the unit of measure is an editorial decision. I personally like it, for I think it is more clear, and you never have to worry about the measure and the unit being on different lines (with auto wrapping as in all word processors). I believe its origin stems from the scientific community.
You would never see 2 " for 2 inches, but it is 2". By the same token:
10mg, or 5cc or 1L seems more clear than:
10 mg, 5 cc or 1 L.
10mg qid. Seems very clear. It is just an editorial decision. No right, no wrong, just an attempt at greater/unmistable clarity.
Same editorial factors are working in writing 0.125mg and never .125mg without the 0. Leaving the 0 off can lead to misunderstanding: To the fast reader the . could be a fly speck, the the 0.125 is unmistakable. I think clarity ought to be the goal, and not strictly historical considerations.
vJoe
again editorial decision
Not an issue of right or wrong, just an editorial preference/decision.
You prefer:
1 tab 10 mg p.o. t.i.d.
Other prefer:
1Tab 10mg po tid
To me the second is easier to read and is clearer. To you the first is.
vJoe
questioning decision...
Can any of you that have been at this for a long period of time answer me this question? When you first started out...did you feel overwhelmed? How long does it take a person to really see if this is something they'll be good at? I find myself getting headaches really easy and only after a few hours of typing. I feel fatigued. Is it normal to feel this way in the beginning and what suggestions do you have to help? When do you feel that things are finally settling down and you start to move along at a normal pace? I'll give it a few months I guess...I'd think at that point I would have a pretty good idea if this is something I'm going to be productive at or not.
Sorry for all the questions.....I guess I am feeling uneasy and was hoping for some reassurance or words of wisdom from none other than another MT. 
need to make a decision....help pls
I have tested this week with Medware, Execuscribe, and JLG. Offers from all, not heard much current info on any of these. Any input would be appreciated TY!
Have made a decision that
when dictation is too fast to decipher and doc is an ESL, will leave blanks without hesitation. I am responsible for accurately transcribing what I hear. I will no longer take responsibility for dictation of that which cannot be dictated. If they ask why so many blanks, I will tell them.
I am trancribing for a new doctor. No sample notes. NO IDEA WHAT HE IS SAYING. But, will no longer make it my responsibility.
Guess I have snapped!
decision made
Well I got told today right before I left work that my transcription i do for my department is being sent away anyways. That pretty much made my decision for me. I am getting a lot of support and even from my boss right now. I am going to go ahead and take the at home job and use my left over vacation that i get once I quit and save that for my leave when i have the baby. I feel happy yet scared but i just can't work there anymore. My whole reason for having that job was to do the transcription and it has just dwindled for the past few years and now its going to be gone!!! Most of it is going to this company i am going to be working for. hey maybe I will get my own transcription back that i am losing!!! Thanks for listening and please keep giving me your take on things!
I would certainly base my decision around what
What are your hobbies or activities that you really enjoy? Look for a way to find training/employment in those areas.
It's not too late to go back to school at all. Though it will take some time and investment. You might discover your perfect interest along the way!
I'd open an Internet Cafe that serves gourmet baked goods, sandwiches, etc. :)
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