Thank you. I do feel the weight of the world on my shoulders...sm
Posted By: Worried out of love... on 2006-03-23
In Reply to: My opinion... - sm
And I am so afraid that I am going to "break" one day. He is a good person. Ever since he has been off of work and considered disabled everything has changed. He used to work 50+ hours a week, he took the effort for himself, etc. I know that I am not perfect either, but seeing a grown man like this breaks my heart day after day after day. He is wonderful with our son though. I would love to find a way to get that "fire" back again, but I know I won't be able to unless he makes a little more effort to just do SIMPLE things...and another problem is we NEVER have any help with our son - no time to get away, even just out for dinner, by ourselves. It is just hard and any advice I will take. Thank you for your advice...
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Lost the extra weight and have maintained a good weight and size just by walking him twice a day. n
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It depends. The side effects can go either way - weight gain, weight *loss*... sm
Or no weight change at all, but maybe some other unpleasant side effect. Or you might have only mild side effects, or none at all and it's like a miracle cure for you. ;o) Everyone is so different, you never know until you try a med. for yourself.
For me, shoulders and hips.
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Can I cry on your shoulders this morning?
My husband is gone until spring with his company about 5 hours away from home. Not too far but far enough where I can't see him often. In fact, he left Jan1 and haven't seen in since. No big deal - 14 days.
He is staying in a nice hotel with company car, perks, etc. He doesn't have a boss, but they have him working 13 days straight and then one day off and he is working his tail off. He calls me every night, and we trust each other 110%. We have 2 boys - 2 and 4. I am basically going nuts over here with them but that is a different subject.
So I got this grand idea last night that in the morning (today) I would drive and come see him, he has tomorrow off, and then I would leave early Tues to come back home. No big deal. The kids could watch DVD, etc. I am very, very independent and can do this with my eyes closed. I've always traveled by myself, etc., because of my background, and he's the type who is ultra-conservative, worried about traffic, safety, etc. Which is irritating because yes, there are risks involved when traveling. I have a new vehicle, great tires, great gas mileage, a cell phone, money, and street smarts. What the h*** is the big deal? He calls me this morning when the boys and I are ready to go to tell me, "don't come."
Do you know how upset I am? I am very upset. He won't be back until April or so and he doesn't want to see us????? He can't leave the area, so we have to come and see him. Yet, because he's so darn cautious and conservative (always has been that way), we have to suffer by staying here and basically I have done nothing but work extra and take care of 2 kids who really miss their dad.
I am upset. I am all packed up and ready to go with no where to go. He did say I could possibly come down later, as in a few weeks later, when the area is not as congested (he's near the gulf of Mexico where hurricane hit, but in a city that was not devastated so there are hotels and restaurants, etc). But to be honest, I'm not going to waste my time or energy on him if he doesn't want to see us. I am not going through this again in 2 weeks. He can just forget it.
I'm usually very mature, but I am so pissed right now and I don't really care. He doesn't want to see us today, then I guess he and his ultra safety self can wait until he comes home in April. 
Mine was in the shoulders
It took several doctors to find it, but my issues were caused by tension where the neck meets the shoulders. Tilt your head to the left and pull it down with your left hand, then repeat on the right. Tilt your head forward and pull down. Tilt your head forward at an angle and pull down, repeat with other side. I had pain, loss of sensation, and locking of my muscles because of tightness right there. Not sure if that's your situation, but just in case!
Sore neck and shoulders
This is the first year that I have had this type of pain. There is nothing that will relieve it and if there is the slightest movement of my computer screen or anything out of the ordinary, there it goes. I am afraid surgery is in my future. I do take breaks and your schedule sounds good. Thanks for the information....
Forgot one...NECK after shoulders(nm)
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Head, Shoulders, Knees & Toes...
http://www.mothergooserocks.com/headandshoulders.html
Joint Pain in Arms/Hands/Shoulders
I am just going to relate this story for what it is worth to someone else.
In 2001 I began having problems with my left hand, arm and shoulder. Orthopedist thought it may be the beginnings of carpal tunnel but EMG was neg. It was bad enuf that at times I couldn't pick stuff up and it hurt to type. It waned and waxed. A few years later I began having problems with my hands and the joints in my fingers hurting, along with left shoulder pain. My hands were so bad I could not open a jar at times. Eventually I went to a rheumatologist who told me that I had no visible signs of severe arthritis. All MDs, incl. orthopedist and rheumatologist recommended trying Celebrex, aspirin, etc. The regular stuff. I was resigned to early arthritis like my mother.
Well, one day in late 2004/early 2005 I decide to see a chiropractor for my shoulder because I'd had electro therapy for an injury years ago and thought maybe this would help. I had some adjustments and electro therapy on my shoulder.
I want to tell you -- ALL and EVERY pain in my fingers left and never came back. ALL and EVERY pain running from shoulder to hand stopped. It had to have been some sort of pinched nerve.
Not a single MD had even suggested seeing a chiropractor. And had it not been for my shoulder and my past experience, I never would have thought of it and would still be suffering, possibly with even further damage to the nerve by now.
1-wrist/fingers.2-shoulders. 3. Foot that uses the pedal. 4. Knees. 5. Hips. They're all coming
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weight
I am hating this cold weather. I am turning 36 soon and I feel like I am just packing on the pounds and I haven't changed my routine one bit? I know your metabolism slows as you age, but geez, I am beginning to think it is my profession! I exercise and watch what I eat, even more so now and still the scale won't budge, it will go up if anything. I guess I am asking for some advice or tips on what other Transcriptionist do to maintain thier girlish or boyish figure. 
I know about the weight training
but thanks for the ice water tip. That's one I haven't heard, but makes sense!
weight loss
I use TrimSpa (baby) it's working o.k. I am making a conscious effort to not fry, not add salt, eliminated cornbread (I'm a Southerner), etc., etc. I work a lot of night hours and this helps me with my snacking between 9 p and mid. I do drink green tea. I think it boosts my metabolism....
I don't need to lose weight, but I definitely need to
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weight loss
just a general word of encouragement to everyone trying to lose weight that YOU C-A-N DO IT!!!!! I am very small-boned, 5' 6', and weighed nearly DOUBLE my normal body weight. Looked like nothing but a big bowl of pudding. One day I decided to move. Maybe it was the Nike slogan, but I just did it. Could barely walk around ONE BLOCK. But I walked the block. One day, I could walk two blocks. One day I walked a mile. Took me two years to lose the weight, ladies, but I got skinny and toned by EXERCISE (95% walking, a bit at the gym, not much), and sensible eating. Every single reader here knows what sensible eating is: Eat healthy, not overprocessed food, and don't eat too much of it PERIOD. Deep down, we all know that. Admit it and change your eating habits -- and walk and/or exercise, and you can do it. By the way, I am not holier than thou, I did used to take ephedra at half the recommended dosage, every day in the early days, just to take the edge off at dinner time, when I would rip off the cabinet doors cuz i got so hungry for the deadly four: pasta, potatoes, rice and bread. Couldn't get enough of it. decreasing (NOT ELIMINATING) these and making myself full with veggies and water did the trick. I eventually eliminated the ephedra. GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU. Nike: Just Do It.
Weight Watchers
Is anyone on Weight Watchers? I have about 10 lbs. I need to lose and I was wondering if anyone has tried it.
Thanks!
losing weight sm
I lost 105.5 pounds total and have kept it off for a year (gained 10 pounds back with this pregnancy, but I am 32 weeks along). I had to follow a more structured plan to actually lose weight. I used the Weight Watchers calculator and books to lose weight, but I did not go to meetings. I went from 235.5 to 130 on a 5 foot 5 frame. I don't follow the program now, but I have learned how to eat. I used to eat because I was bored, tired, etc. Not anymore!
weight loss sm
I tried the following - a little more walking, no more white bread,(12 grain), flavored non-dairy creamer instead of cream, not water-friendly, so drank a lot of non-caffeine tea (raspberry) and Sweet & Low (don't think this is a good idea). Tried Benefiber chewable to add bulk and fiber; lean beef, 90% lean a few times a week only, sweet potatoes instead of white, only 1 at a time and generally cutting out the obvious (no alcohol, fried foods, rich pastry). Took off 15 lbs. and was able to get into an old Size 10 for my reunion, from a 14, and saved a bunch on new clothes and felt great! Hope I can keep it up. When my son was getting married years ago, I hated the "mother of the groom" puffy chiffons, so I stationery biked from Feb. to May and went from a 14 to a 10 (700 miles total) and wore a lovely silk suit. Unfortunately, I ate my way back because I felt the "empty nest" syndrome. Once you lose, don't snooze, keep it up! You'll like yourself better. This profession can ruin your body, take control by getting up and moving around as much as you can. I did not do that and suffer the consequences with my back, my right thumb is totally painful so that I can't open jars, unlock the babies' safety belts, etc., it comes upon you when the damage is done. Don't let it happen to you, exercise when you can, you're worth it!
Has anyone used LA Weight Loss?
If so, what were your results. Any info would be greatly appreciated. TIA
Weight Watchers is the way to go
Have lost almost 70 pds so far -- all with eating regular food WITH my family and making small changes here and there. Also, have continued to have my morning Mocha and always make room in my daily points allowance for some kind of treat daily.
LA WEIGHT LOSS
I tried it and lost 40 pounds in 3 months or so but it came back as quick as it went. They are VERY expensive. Currently not working on anything but GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!
Okay, hubby and myself on a weight
even tho this is a fattening occupation, sitting on my rear all day, so I take several breaks and take 15 minute walks with the hubby and puppies (one of them is getting quite portly) so we can get in an hour of walking that way and I can still type and don't get so stiff.
Dinner tonight is low-fat lasagne and steamed carrots. Yum.
Dieting can be an adventure. I get recipes and think of ways to cut the fat and calories, make them healthier.
weight loss
I needed to reduce my cholesterol, so I really cut down on fat in my diet. By doing this, I not only lowered my cholesterol, but I lost about 13 lbs. in 5 months! This is so much safer than those fad diets.
weight loss over 50
Thanks so much for responding and for your words of encouragement! At age 56, it's very encouraging to hear this. Small goals and one-day-at-a-time are very good advice Thanks again! (and congratulations on your weight loss too!)
Weight Watchers
I highly recommend WW. I lost 30 pounds and still have most of it off after almost a year and after you loose, you can still follow the points as a guideline to maintain. You end of memorizing them eventually. Good luck.
I can tell you, 75% GAIN weight. But you might need them for a while anyway.
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I think I actually keep my weight down with coffee..
I use the artificial sweeteners and fat free flavored creamers or half and half. And caffeine can suppress the appetite which works for me ;)
Yes, like a weight has lifted
Felt the same way when I made the change. At Spheris it got so bad I would approach my workstation with dread and cried in frustration at least once a shift. Then I decided to send out resumes instead of waiting for things to get better. Good luck to anybody who's had enough misery - better places do exist.
How much does your husband weight? Maybe
175 pounds? Well, THAT is the 175 pounds you need to lose. Seriously, HE sounds like your major problem. I bet everything else would fall into place w/o his emotional abuse of you!
It is called The Weight, originally by
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Did you lose the weight after coming off?
I'm gonna check into the things you mentioned and go by my local health food store. Before I went on the HRT, I did try the OTC stuff which seemed to work for a little while, but after a few months started having the hot flashes again. I did purchase some progesterone cream a few years ago while I was still having periods (after watching a segment of Oprah), but never used it right, then went on the HRT. I really do want to get off of it and get my weight down. Did you have trouble getting weight back down after coming off?
Thanks again for all your advise! You're great!
Did start to drop some weight but...(sm)
...it took a little while. It's like my system was totally discombobulated (surgical menopause for me was a real bear!) & it didn't know what to do. I was finally able to take most of the weight off, but I have to be very careful now, as it's so easy to put on (especially in my belly area) & harder to shed. Everybody's different, tho', & I know women who have come off HRT & dropped whatever weight they gained & totally leveled out.
Here's a link to a site I found very helpful & supportive - it's a hysterectomy support site, but they have all kinds of helpful info about hormones, fitness, etc. You may be able to find some useful stuff there:
http://www.hystersisters.com
Glad I could be of some help...if you need support or info or whatever, please don't hesitate to e-mail me, k?
The treatments are based on weight normally.
I have a Frontline spray and it can be used on either, 1 to 2 pumps per pound, but if you have the other kind it is premeasured based on weight. Can you call your vet and ask them? The people at the front desk should be able to answer your question.
I looked on-line and there is only 1 dosage sold for cats, but it didn't say what the dosage was so I couldn't compare it to a dog dosage.
If you buy your flea treatment from your vet check out www.entirelypets.com.
I actually gained weight with Estrin-D even though
My mood swings were awful and I started having night sweats which I never had before and have not had since even though I'm perimenopausal. It DOES make you not want to eat but my mood swings were assauged by binge eating to make me more emotionally stable.
It isn't worth it and I still have 3 unopened bottles.
All Weight Watchers employees (sm)
...are former Weight Watchers themselves, so none of that looking down on you garbage. And waaaaaaayyyyy cheaper.
Wow, LA Weight Loss sounds really horrible. Thanks for the info!
are not great, except Weight Watchers..sm
11 years ago, I power walked for 6 weeks and kept my calories to under 1000 per day....I lost 50 pounds in the 6 weeks and 11 years later have kept it off!!!!
However, the only TRUE formal company diet that does work is Weight Watcher's....where you can still eat REAL food and don't have to buy theirs.
I've been on it.. and I have gained weight...
also while I've been on it, I have started working 2 full time jobs, stopped my exercise routine and gotten into bad habit of eating whatever due to stress!! So, I can't say the weight gain is caused by the Lexapro. I thought, though, that it was one of the lesser evils on the weight gain issue, not like Zoloft.
I'm gaining weight just reading
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Oh, and one more thing: MTs who don't pull their weight and
I work and I want my team to work hard as well.
Weight Watchers - need advice
I've put on about 20 pounds this year (post menopausal now) and NEED to lose them. I'm not overdoing calories, am following a good diet (for the most part), and I walk a half hour a day briskly. Desperate measures are called for but don't want a crash diet type thing. I've heard good things about WW, and it doesn't sound "faddish". Can anyone give me some input? Also, I see that they have "in person" weight watchers - going to weekly meeting, etc and also offer on-line weight watchers where you do it thru t computer. Has anyone done the on-line one? Any information on the programs they offer would be so appreciated!! I also thought of Nutrisystem, but it is expensive and doesn't wound "permanent". 
weight loss over 50 years of age.
Your post is so inspiring--Would you mind telling your age (just roughly?) I so badly want to lose on my own--without going to expensive weight loss clubs. A so-called friend insists that once past age 50, metabolism is so slow, it is next to impossible--very discouraging to hear. Thanks for your uplifting post!
getting up and moving about or weight loss.NM
As we all know, the only effective way to lose weight
is diet and exercise. I have tried MediFast, SlimFast, phentermine, all of them. In the end, the only that really worked and help maintain my figure is eating right and exercise, exercise and more exercise.
I always wanted the fast road to a "skinny" body, but guess way, the weight crept back on faster than I lost it. So, I decided to just eat right, limit fatty foods and carbs, and exercise. I joined a gym and go 3x a week. It really does stimulate you.
Good luck to you, but really none of those plans work unless you change your lifestyle.
also be careful of the weight of the headphones and
if they require batteries and what size of batteries. The AAA or AA batteries can make the cord heavy if they go in the cord or make the headphones feel lopsided if they store on the side of the headphones. If I use them again I will spend the extra money and get something over $100.
But wouldn't you lose weight anyway if you
What does the Hoodia actually do? Does it suppress the appetite or does it actually increase metabolism or what? I am interested but so leary of all these diet supplements. Most of the ones that people seem to have success with contain ephedra, which is dangerous, and it would be nice if one worked without that stuff.
Such a tremendous weight loss!
Apple Scruff--Could you elaborate how you initially got started--did you follow a specific diet? With a sedentary MT job, did you force yourself to exercise much? A "scare" really is a tremendous motivator (it took a "scare" to get me to stop smoking, but I am not having success taking off approximately the same amount of weight that you succeeded at losing) Thanks for your tips.
weight loss and bypass
Hi! Several things here - 1)You are on COBRA now, is the insurance your husband has group or individual? If it group and you are on COBRA, then you are considered covered with no lapse in coverage and they HAVE to take you! I don't think they have to cover you if it is not a group policy.
2) Gastric bypass - my brother had one at 605 pounds. I need one, but my insurance wouldn't cover and I can't afford it, so I won't do that. But if you live in Arkansas, I have the name of a fantastic doctor - the one that did my brother's!
weight gain and depression!!! nm
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Has anyone tried the green tea thing for weight loss? nm
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Are you really dealing with a weight issue that significant?
excess skin after weight loss
Did you then have surgery to remove the sagging skin? I need to lose 140 lbs, which I have packed on over the past 20 years. I never weighed over 112 lbs. or wore larger than a size 3 (!!) until I turned 30. My lifestyle changed (not for the better) at that point, and I basically lose interest in how I looked. Now, at age 51, my health is seriously in trouble due to my obesity. What am I going to do with all the excess skin? I already have a big fat pouch under my waist, and above my waist I look like I'm 7 months pregnant! Are there any health insurance plans that will pay for surgery to remove the leftover skin? I see people on Dr. 90210 having the surgery, but I bet they have to pay out of pocket and I bet it's tens of thousands of dollars.
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