Teenage eating disorders question...sm
Posted By: Teen mom on 2006-07-17
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Hello,
I'm convinced that my stepdaughter is developing an eating disorder but am having a hard time convincing my husband of the same. The 15-year-old girl has lost I think at least 30 pounds in the past few weeks and refuses to eat more than a few bites and wants to just drink prune juice to help her poop. She won't listen to me that you have to eat in order to have something to poop and is obsessed that she's not pooping every day but also says she's not going to eat.
She was previously overweight but now is what I think is a weight that she looks good. I'm concerned that she's going to end up ill if she doesn't start eating consistently. My husband seems to think this is just a fad she's going through.
Any ideas, suggestions, etc?
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I would do research on eating disorders and get some facts.
and not in an accusing way. Also Tyra, Oprah, Dr. Phil, they all have had and will continue to have shows on this issue. If you catch one, tape it and watch it with your husband and then get her to watch it. She may have a low self-esteem from being overweight and needs some encouragement and love. Spend time with her and show interest in things she is interested. I am sure Dr. Phil's web site addresses this issue and gives advice. Is her mother in the picture, and can the two of you talk? If so, I would talk to her. You need everybody on the same page IMO.
Good Luck
NEVER EVER ... play doctor with those disorders
For starters, you don't take antianxiety medications whenever you "feel the need." If you want to do that, pop a tranquilizer. And you're playing Russian Roulette with your system by trying this medication and that.
Unless somebody here has MD after their name ... they're not qualified to tell you what medications should should be taking. You need to see somebody who is properly licensed to prescribe the right meds for YOUR body. Sometimes, it takes a while to find the right physician and/or be put on the correct medications.
Now, this is not said to offend anyone, but I do not believe that anyone besides a doctor should recommend medications.
teenage daughters
Excuse me for being clueless but what do DH and DD stand for?
I understand where you are coming from. My 2nd daughter from 1st marriage is almost 16 and lives with her dad. Her stepmom is very disrespectful of me. Always telling daughter what I should be doing, like getting a "real job". Now my daughter has taken to calling me names any chance she gets, cursing and disrespecting my fiance's family also. Since she lives with her dad we decided not to let her come down for a few weeks but that will not solve the problem.
Any ideas anyone. I think the names and lack of respect is coming from the stepmom but she of course denies doing anything wrong.
I'm not on it, but my teenage daughter is. She has it set
to where only her friends can see her page. I think MySpace is more for teenagers than adults. The adult people I've see on MySpace are sort of trashy. Some are creepy guys looking for girls, some post as baiters, some are sleazy women, and the list goes on. I don't see a problem with my daughter being on it with the protection in place, but no child should be allowed to have a MySpace page without their parent being able to review it from time to time and have it set so only the childs friends can see him/her.
Teenage dress problems...
Okay, I hate to ask this, but I need some unbiased opinions. My almost 18-year-old high school senior has of late been dressing in a lot of black. It's not weird stuff at all, other than a couple of camisoles that I'm not wild about, and she always wears a jacket with those. The thing is, she's happy, outgoing, going to school without trouble, doing her homework, happy around the family, planning her future, doing her own laundry, keeping her room clean, everything you could ask for. She calls us when she's out and keeps us posted where she's at, and works very part-time at a drug store. Her hair isn't dyed, she's not wearing weird make up, and isn't doing the weird jewely like dog collars or any of that.
But it bugs me! When I ask her she just says that she doesn't want to dress like the typical Abercrombie crowd. She does have some tan pants and a colorful sweater she wears here and there, but she really does love the black primarily. I'm a worry wart type and am just worried this will escalate into the look I spoke of above. She swears she's not interested in tattoos, piercings, or any of the rest of it. Should I just back off and leave her alone? Is this uncommon or just typical teenage "testing of the waters." She's never rebelled in any way before.
What I have done for my teenage daughter is iron it. But...you have to be careful.
This is assuming your poster has not been written or colored with ink and has not been made out of wax. Set the iron to medium heat, NO steam. Place a clean, white, cotton towel or cloth on the bottom and top of the poster onto the ironing board. Make absolutely sure there are no wrinkles in the material. Double check that the iron is not spitting any steam, then place the iron on top of the material and let it set for 10 to 15 seconds at a time allowing the poster to cool in between. You'll probably need to do this 5 or 6 times. Check the poster to see that the wrinkles are diminishing (they will not completely disappear, it's a poster afterall). That's it. Hope it helps.
I have tried WW but they had me eating more than i normally do
I ended up putting on weight instead of losing. I ate strictly their food which is totally expensive. I had another grocery bill aside from my family's. I could not stay with them.
They say if you eat 1300 calories that you will lose even without exercise. Bull. you have to work those calories off if you eat them to lose weight.
Horrible experience. I had lost 20 pounds on my own, but then gained 10 back from WW. I am disgusted with them.
I would be too after eating that! LOL
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You would have to do a lot of hat-eating ...
... I believe. What in the world makes you think you have the monopoly on written and spoken English? If it wasn't so sad that you actually really believe that, it would be laughable.
Yes, but, when they are eating something
I often wonder what it is!!! For many years I was disgusted at these lack of manners. Then, for some reason, my rich inner life and imagination kicked in. The other day, a doc may have been eating a sandwich, I wonder what kind? Chips, I want some too! Crunch, crackle, etc. It sounds good. Whatever it is I wanted to know right then what it was and I wondered why I was not asked by the nurse if I wanted take out too LOL. (Partially sarcastic post, but sometimes true, I do get hungry and wonder what tastes so good...)
Doc eating
Okay, I am instantly angry because, not only am I sitting here editing VR which is incompetent, but I have to listen to a know-it-all woman doc chomping salad in my ear. Poof Im gone. How rude and inconsiderate can they be?
I would rather have the eating
and even that gross snot sucking, throat clearing thingy...than to have to listen to 3000 seconds of hold music. They graduated medical school, why can they not figure out the dictation equipment?
healthy eating
 What are the healthiest fruits and veggies to eat? I know raw veggies are supposed to be better for you too and that frozen is better than canned. Any other advice? Thanks.
It's like my mom used to say about eating vegetables:
;)
Chinese, especially when eating something. nm
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Chewing gum/eating
One Russian psychiatrist actually ate an entire apple while dictating, and her accent could hardly be understand to begin with. We're talking right off the boat.
I particularly like someone eating an item wrapped in paper, because then you get both the chomping and the crackling.
And gum chewers (of which I've had several) who slurp, smack and actually crack the gum into the phone.
lots of water before eating
I haven't tried this myself, but I recently read an article about two very overweight men who lost tons of weight (not quickly, but gradually). Both exercised every day, starting off with very little and gradually working it up, and one of them said he also drank something like a liter of water before each meal, which filled up his stomach so he got full fast and it really helped him cut back on how much he was eating. I thought it sounded logical.
Also, eating like a poor person
is not always a bad thing. I do need to lose some weight. :0)
Never said she was big...maybe it is stress, not on an eating schedule, whatever.
Not that she needed to at all; she just did! Sorry!
I'd rather have the eating than the snot sucking
That just grosses me out so badly. Blow your nose for cryin' out loud!
So while Yuck's mother was eating diarrhea...
she was being molested??? My goodness. I would be just as sick as Yuck is. No wonder she is so messed up. POOR MOLESTED YUCK!
So none of you holy rollers are eating on Easter
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GUILTY!!! Im a holy roller but I will definitely be eating too!!!!!
and what he did for all of US
Eating their lunch/dinner while dictating
I have a doctor from Croatia who is hard enough to understand with his "ah" and 'um" but when he's crunching carrots in the middle of it? Forget it. 
I heard you get lung cancer by eating animals.
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My 3 sons are eating me outta house and home too! :) NM
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Yep if I needed a job, beats not eating/paying bills - nm
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The lady who sent out e-mail should have quit eating hot dogs all weekend
Instead of sending out offensive e-mails to all of us maybe she should have gotten up off of her lawn chair and quit eating hot dogs all labor day weekend and pitched in if things weren't up to her standards.
DSG was very nice to me, but I left because of the damned DQS software eating all the lines! nm
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they tried, but he kept eating peanut butter crackers after he swallowed them, so it was too hard to
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If not in suburban Denver, 4 words...granola eating tree huggers.
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Since I gave up eating sugar and refined carbs, I don't crave chocolate sm
I gave up sugar and refined carbs in March of 2004 and I don't crave anything "bad" anymore. I actually had withdrawal-type symptoms for a few days though.
I feel much, much better now :)
Not much different than eating French toast with a side of bacon and scrambled eggs w/cheese. nm
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Practice eating gross things w/o gagging, learn to do puzzles and amp up physical endurance.
Study and find out what type of profile you may fit under and act accordingly. Quiet low-key people have won and I think they had the ability to read other people (Sandra and the last winner). Then there are the born leaders who form an allegiance with groupies who trust them (Rob). Just see where you fit personality wise and physically and plan ahead.
Yep, when I drink green tea instead of eating junk foods, or if I drink it while I'm exercising,
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