Sweety, this is abuse. Get thee to a counselor, the dude is sucking you dry.
Posted By: Anon on 2006-03-07
In Reply to: Anyone in your life who enjoys seeing you upset -- gets a kick out of it? - annoyed..sm
The twit I just divorced got to the point that if HIS annoying me didn't work, he'd pick a fight, put the kid in the middle and then laugh as I tried to save the kid from that kind of abuse.
Ditch the B---d. And get into counseling.
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It's one thing if there's infidelity, substance abuse, physical abuse,
neglect of the family, verbal/emotional abuse, gambling, criminal activity, drug dealing, or other addictions. However, temporarily being a bonehead isn't a crime against the marriage.
aneurysm and get thee to the ER....nm
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If you do, get thee to Al-Anon. Hubby-alcoholic
got blasted for the last time at a 4th of July picnic 5 years ago - went to AA and has been clean ever since, bless his heart. But you better get into Al-Anon. You would be surprised how much you "help" the alcoholic be successful at failing...
Sounds serious enough to take to a counselor
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Please seek the advice of a counselor, not your mom.
It is not fair to involve family members in these things. Trust me when I say I have been there and done that. The counselor we saw also told us that. The best thing we ever did was seek the advice of a counselor. Yes, if he refuses to go then go alone. Start there. Do not make any decisions until you speak with a trained, impartial party. The Dr. Phil book "Family Matters" is an excellent source of information as well for the entire family. I truly hope you work this out. Our society is far too quick to just take the high road, especially where kids are involved. You need to truly TRY here.
Tami, a family counselor could help you with this, a lot. Sounds like
It also sounds like you and he have ZERO time to be just a couple, and like there is no agreement on ground rules. At least a fam counselor, even if he won't go, could help YOU. And that couldn't hurt. Call a local county/state mental health service and see if there is such a thing as a free consult, or reduced rate counseling. Or your husband's workplace might know of something (except, that could potentially adversely effect his employment, maybe). being a cop is hard. Being a working mom is hard.
sucking it up
If the money is good, as you say it is, I agree with "suck it up" and just do what you have to do -- with one big exception. No one deserves to be treated like a second-class citizen. In your shoes, I would only stay with that until I found a better environment in which to make the money. Good luck.
I'd rather have the eating than the snot sucking
That just grosses me out so badly. Blow your nose for cryin' out loud!
Geez, keep sucking on that lemon, sourpuss!
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sucking up? how is being polite in an email instead of being a jerk supervisor
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There is is a "giant sucking sound" at the borders per Ross Perot when NAFTA was passed.
dd
Dude! YW :)
 
Dude.....(sm)
a lot of us MTs have major malfunctions (LOVE your terminology, BTW), with a LOT of things. Don't take offense. I would be willing to bet no offense was meant by the poster. Some of us like initials after our names....some of us think it is worthless....to each his own.
Peace, man.
whatever dude
HC, you can believe or not believe whatever you want to. I fail to see what the point would be of lying about something like that. It certainly is not laughing matter to those affected, to be sure.
And hey, it may be that YOU are so valued as an MT, heck, probably even the BEST MT EVER, that they surely would NEVER cut YOUR pay without advanced notice, so if I were you, I wouldn't give it a second thought.
Really.
Dude or chick?
Yo-Man, Dude, What's happening?
I agree, Simon is more realistic. Chris did do great last night even though I am not into rock. It was tolerable though! He at least got into it and...was good. Paula LOVES those rockers. She loved Bo Bice also. I think a few girls are the best. Can't wait til tonight and then next Tuesday. It is my favorite show.
Dude (as Hurley would say)....
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dude, I'm agreeing with you
I found nothing wrong with your original post. I almost posted a response myself saying that you need to talk to your QA people because every company uses their own method of putting blanks in, but someone else had already said it.
I just think Ella was responding to the wrong message, but I'm certainly not here to defend another poster.
Speaking of dude or chick, does anyone ever
play that car game where you have to guess what gender someone is because you just can't tell? That's what we play on road trips instead of the license plate game. Quick, dude or chick?
Dude, what's your major malfunction? sm
Since I've been working for the last 1-1/2 years with a company and more recently with my own accounts, I daresay that I am doing just fine with or without the RMT. I wanted to take the RMT for my own fun. I am sure there are others that either want to take the test or that are waiting to hear their results after waiting several months.
Major bummer dude!
This is my 2nd Saitek...the first one had silver keys and oh ya, I got the paint on them babies worn off within 6 months. I'm totally bummed to hear this one will do the same thing, because I really looked at it hard before buying and saw the letters were "etched" in and not painted on. It's no biggie for me, being a touch typist, but when family or friends want to plink around, they got totally lost...plus it looked fargin' ugly too.
I use the angry red lights when typing that ESL crap (red alert!), and the happy purple the rest of the time. The old one was just blue, so I'm kinda sick of that for right now, but it is so much fun to mess with the mood lighting. Simple pleasures for simple minds 
I call what Eric has little dude blues!
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the dude has no integrity; i wouldn't watch his dog
far less his movie. I'll get my bits and pieces of accuracy somewhere else!
dude, i'm not being literal. toby keith looks like he is CAPABLE
of taking care of me. Jude Law on the other hand looks like he would be hard pressed to take care of himself. It is the presentation not if the guy really would step off the screen to take care of me. For example, it doesn't look as if Toby Keith has product in his hair or wears designer clothes. He is tall and has a great deep commanding voice. It's not about literal. It's all about PHYSICAL APPEARANCE and how a man carries himself.
Who is Drew Lachey? TV, singer, sports dude?
Some abuse QA
This is certainly not everyone's case (in fact, it is a very, very small percentage) but we have MTs who send stuff to QA rather than research. Some of the blanks I get are plain medical terminology 101. Some can be found by typing a single word in Google and finding the appropriate reference.
It is unfortunate that the lazy MTs have made it bad for all MTs. QA penalties have had to be instituted because of this abuse.
Another point I would like to make, you say you are sending work to QA for correct patient name spelling - we do not have a census and are working at home like you, so we do not have access to patient's names. If the physician does not spell the name and it does not come up on the report, do not send it to QA. I'm sure your company has a policy for dealing with names - when they are not given, not spelled properly, etc. Find out what that is and follow the procedure. That should eliminate unnecessary blanks to QA.
QA abuse
In ANY business you are going to find the rare but ever-annoying case of incompetence. It's easier in this line of work because of the remoteness and anonymity that comes along with it. This mind-set is eventually exposed for what it is. Then the rest of us go on and do our professional best. :)
dude, your educational level means nothing when you post irrelevant drivel and you don't follow
a logical train of thought. "ROCK ON"???? OMG!
BTW, YOU CALLED THE NAMES DEAR POSTER. READ YOUR OWN POST AND THEN READ MINE. See that's what I'm talking about. The masses aren't all that bright and knowing that does not "empower" me. And with you bragging about a "degree" and "education" is even more depressing. imagine an educated person bragging about it after screwing up on two posts and not understanding the concept of the original post STILL! Scary stuff.
I didn't have the same abuse, but have a lot
of the same feelings. I was sexually abused at 8 months - though didn't learn this until I was almost an adult. I was reading my chart at the doctor's office, because he was always an hour behind and I found it it there. I had been abused when I was 5 and 6 and I remembered that but has suppressed it for the most part. I started therapy and was seeing a therapist, but had to see a psychologist once so they could sign off on reports for insurance to pay. The psychologist said I was making it all up, that it didn't really happen and that I was just attention seeking.
I tried therapy again and I was getting to the point of finding out who abused me when I was so young - I knew who it was at 5 and 6, but not before, and I felt it was my father and I just couldn't deal with it, was having severe panic attacks so I quit therapy. I'm overweight, have poor self-esteem, I'm very judgmental, distrustful, and just overwhelmed. I don't use my trauma as an excuse, but I'm not happy and I want to be happy and I think when that happens most of the other issues will resolve. I don't drink or do drugs though, but I guess food is my escape.
spouse abuse
Yes, I have talked to the police, but he was married before and living in NC and I believe he may have a record there. He is a real slick one. He put scratches all over himself to try and make it look like I hit him. I have never had anyone do this before and he is a sick individual. I am sure he has had prior incidences.
We were only married for 6 months. I refuse to let anyone hit me, no matter how much I love them.
Thanks for your concern.
Spouse abuse
I was wondering if anyone could tell me if there is a way to find out if someone has a previous record of spousal abuse.
My husband hit me and I cant afford a lawyer but make too much money for Legal Aid. I want to do this on my own. I just need to know if there is a way to find out this information from a different state. Are these files open to the public? Or does a lawyer have to request these things?
Thanks so much for your help!.
My ULD was suspended for abuse too.....
I was so surprised but at least I know I am not the only Transcriptionist in the US to have this happen to. Lisa, I e-mailed you.
What, do you think?? I abuse my dogs, LOL
Like the post below, my dogs know when the collar is on/off, turned on/off. They are very smart. And, I do know the difference between just barking or something approaching. My dogs are very much loved and very well taken care of. I don't think you know the correct use of a shock collar at all.
Who said you abuse your dogs? Why be
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abuse comes in many forms
This truly is abuse. You may not have visable body scars but mental abuse is just as bad if not worse as physical abuse. I'm not sure there is help for your husband but you need to get out of this relationship for your own sanity. A tiger never changes his stripes. I had been in relationship that had the same elements. I worked all day and would teach a class at night and we were to dress in a professional manner and I would be accused of having an affair. (Huh, like you have the time and energy.) I had the courage to get out and have now married a man who respects me and treats me as an equal partner. Is that not what a true marriage is, a partnership. If you do not have family to help check with you local Women's Help Center possible that could be a start. I wish you the best and hope you have the strength to more forward and leave him in the dust.
Sexual Abuse
You don't even want to go there. It is not in your scope of practice as a Transcriptionist sitting in a room somewhere to determine sexual abuse.
For you to go over a physician's head and report it because "you" suspect it is a good way to get yourself at least fired, in essence you are saying the physician did not practice according to the law.
Not about child abuse, but...
...a pretty funny story. A friend was working with her horse when he tossed his head, smacked her in the face and broke her nose. By the time her hubby got her to the ER she had a huge shiner, a huge nose and was swollen and black & blue on one side of her face, plus had wrenched her shoulder.
Various hospital personnel began asking her how it had happened. About every 10 minutes somebody else came in to put her through the whole horse story again, and this went on for a couple of hours. Then a cop showed up and asked her the same stuff and also spoke with her husband, and then it dawned on her that this whole time they had been trying to shake her story. They thought her HUSBAND had belted her!
And about a week later she got a visit from a social worker just to make sure she was 'okay.' Far from being upset about this (although it was annoying to have people bothering her constantly in the ER) they both thought this was pretty hilarious. And they figured that their tax dollars were not being wasted and their county agencies were doing what they should be doing.
Sexual abuse
As a survivor of sexual abuse, I can tell you that I wish someone had made a report. This was back in the 70's when it wasn't widespread knowledge, wasn't talked about. I honestly think that my mother was relieved he wasn't bothering her. Everytime I was taken to the doctor as a teenager (which wasn't very often) my mother would go in the room with me. The doctor sometimes would tell her she could wait in the lobby, and there was always a nurse in the room. I never got to ask questions that were burning in my teenage brain, I never got any help. I think my mother was afraid I would say something. This was after she found out about it and acted like it wasn't happening. He started when I was 13 and stopped when I was 18 when I threatened to cut his you know whats off.
I know in the performance of our jobs that we can't say anything about the things we learn. But hopefully the doctor stood up for this young person and did the right thing. I wish mine would have.
I don't believe in child abuse
or drug abuse, but I don't refuse to type reports involving child abuse victims and drug overdoses.
This seems a little out there to me. Don't get the logic.
Child abuse reports
I too have typed the child abuse reports and I go through an array of feelings. I just cannot believe what some people can do to other human beings -- much less an innocent child. I know that after I type those reports, those kids will be forever damaged at the hands of someone they love and trusted. Sad stuff.
dog abuse in China story
Listen . . . .what is your real posting name anyway?
My priorities are not your concern. It is a well known fact that people who abuse animals easily go on to violent behavior against people. If clubbing innocent dogs to death doesn't bother you, it should. There are much better ways to deal with a rabies problem than that. Perhaps instead of ranting about my priorities, maybe you could put your energy toward helping create a solution for the abuse of innocent childern or one of the other million problems going on in the world. What ARE YOU doing to help make the world a better place?
These same people abuse ambulances too!
I typed a note on some woman who called the ambulance because she stubbed her toe! Geez, hope nobody in her town was having a heart attack at that time...
I would do it just to save my hands from further abuse! nm
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Reporting sexual abuse?
If we are transcribing a report that we believe to be a sexual abuse case, are we required to report it if the physician does not? Is this a breech of confidentiality and a violation of HIPAA?
reporting sexual abuse
This is hard to talk about. Two weeks ago my daughter woke me up to tell me her friend "had" to talk to me. I was asleep, not very happy with 17-year-old drama. Long/short the girl's father had been sleeping with her "until she turned 16". At that point apparently she told him she would tell if she did not get her own bedroom....she then went on to say the reason she "had" to tell someone is that the night before she heard him through her wall now with her 14-year-old sister. There were two other little girls in that house - the mom had apparently moved 60 miles away and gave this monster custody while she found herself or whatever. When the girl started telling me the rest of the story, I was stunned. I am so visual that as she spoke my skin began to crawl - I wanted to beg her to stop with the chilling details, but I knew she needed someone to tell and I was it. I felt like a victim myself. It was the creepiest story ever. She went on to spill details that made me 100% sure she was telling the truth (like....he got really, really angry when he found out my sister had started her period) that type of thing. By the time she finished her gut-wrenching story, my own daughter looked at me and said...mom...you are just staring....Ended up calling a Sexual Assault Hotline. Next morning I was driving home and there were 7 police units in front of this creep's house. The mom came and picked up all the girls, thank God.
I think what happened to the MT who read this sexual abuse case is the same thing that happened to me -- somehow in even reading or hearing about it -- you become somewhat of a victim yourself -- a victim of just how sicko the * of the world can get. Thanks for letting me vent. The friend of my daughter stays in touch and says she is much happier. I am going to watch in the courts and make sure that this sicko does not get off lightly -- let em just try that...not on MY watch.
I hate the ones where child abuse is suspected or
the injury could have been avoided entirely if the parents hadn't been so stupid, like a young child without a carseat in an MVA. I used to hate the death summaries at my old job, especially on young people.
I did child abuse reports for 2+ years then quit.
I did a report on one kid, just learning to walk, who had the little feet stomped on by mom's significant other. That was the beginning of the end for me with that job. Of course mom kept significant other and lost the kid.
I had to get up and walk away and go back to it.
I honestly do not know HOW you got through your report.
I don't watch fear factor. They abuse animals. I also have better
stuff to do with my time then watch someone eat pig intestines.
cover with thiamine and (s/l) serafellon for alcohol abuse
Got no help on word board. Running out of time.
Thanks in advance
Child sexual abuse cases - used to do them sometimes where I used to work - sm
now do a lot of Trauma ER, it used to bother me a lot, but not anymore unless its kids. Guess I am getting used to all the gunshot and knife wounds in the city nearby, that is sad in itself.
Their control obviously isn't putting fear in those that abuse the information though. nm
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