Spending too much time with your child?
Posted By: find an adult to talk to. on 2005-08-02
In Reply to: I still wouldn't like her even if I WAS a lesbian. - I'm rubber, you're glue
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If you are spending all that time having to proof
may as well hire someone else and proof their work. I've considered starting a business of my own but I can definitely see there would be headaches. I do IC for a gal and I really like working for her. She pays me a decent wage and I do my best to make the client happy because I know that will make that gal happy. Don't get me wrong. I'm sure I have made an error here and there; NO ONE is perfect. There are good days and bad days. Some days, I have to send loads of blanks to her but usually because the doctor seems to mumbling, sound quality, maybe a doctor's name in the report I'm not familiar with and don't want to put the incorrect spelling in, or a discrepency I may find in the report. There are other days when I have great docs, great sound quality and the doc may even spell an unfamiliar doctor name for me. :) I definitely hope the gal I work for is happy with my work and I would also hope she would say something to me if she was unhappy so I could fix it. Have you talked to your MTs about your concerns? Sent them changes you have had to make when you proof?
Guess what? When he's at work all day at HIS job, he's not spending time with the family
Grrrrr.
You would be better of just going to work and not spending so much time tilting at windmills.
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I replied this morning and was deleted. I asked if you're spending a lot of extra time on the ex
work. If so, I see no reason why you can't charge her by the hour for what you do. It could me maybe $100 a week insted of every 2. I do think that is a rip-off and you're being taken for your generosity.
You spending 3K in gasoline to make 4K plus all that time on the road?That doesn't make sense Pat
You should take this as far as you can. The next time it may be a child on the other end of the
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Your time at home with your child is so
Your child is better with you..being near the sounds, the smells, the love of mom. I recognize that some moms have to put their children in daycare, but to rationalize it that they are "better off" there because if you stay at home with them and work, they aren't getting enough attention just isn't right. You find a way to give them the love and attention they need. Is daycare going to sit there and give your child one-on-one attention all day? Are you prepared to have your child be sick all the time? My daughter has barely had a cold in her first five years of life. It's just a cop out to think that daycare is actually better.
Agree. Next time may be YOUR child with
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i have 4 in school and only allow one activity per child per time. sm
oldest is just basically not involved as she wants to "hang out with friends" at games, etc. 10 and 9yo both are in cheerleading, practice 2 days a week for 2 hours, games on saturdays. 7yo in cub scouts, maybe one gathering a week at most. it is hectic enough just getting each child to where they gotta go, keep up with house, homework, chores, and work for me. no way, can we do more than 1 activity per child at any given time. nowadays they have homework 1-2 hours per night and highschooler with honors has sometimes 2-3 hours a night after being at school for what 8 hours....
In time past my child was diagnosed
with a disease that is catastrophic. He was in college and quit that day. I was employed in hospital setting and immediately sat up Cobra, and carried it for about 4 months I think until which time he got a job and got his own medical insurance. My insurance covered as long as the child was in college. I knew with the disease if no insurance bridge would never be able to be covered again and with the cost of the medications needed just an overwhelming thought and even though I have money, would never be able to cover the costs of thousands every month to be paid out.
My child worked part-time at 14 after school
She started at minimum wage and now is an office coordinator and medical assistant for 2 surgeons making much better money (and goes to school at night). She didn't work at 14 to pay for her stuff. She stashed all the money away as she had always done with birthday and holiday money and so at 17 she bought her own car! This child amazes me - she GOT the work ethic!!!! *lucky mom here* Actually it was more than luck....it was hard work on my part but it ALL paid off. A lot of it was based on my own insanity. I had to know if, G_d forbid something happened to me, that she could support herself, take care of herself, earn a good living, and keep on keepin' on in a forward-moving pattern. She is doing just that!!
Proud mother here....
Go to NBC10.com - Our local news has "Wednesday's Child" which is a child for adoption.
Every Wednesday they introduce a child who needs a home and a family. There should be some information there as these kids are up for adoption.
www.NBC10.com -
Hope that helps!
WRONG! A child that has a fear of discipline = a well behaved child.
I have a beautiful, intelligent 11 year old daughter that hasn't had a spanking in 6 or 7 years and probably only 3 her entire life. She is very well behaved and I get compliments on her behavior constantly. When she does get out of line all I have to say is, "Shall I call your father?" Call it what you want, it works. She respects and obeys me and her father. Why??? For fear of the facing the consequences of misbehaving. Having a total lack of fear or respect for authority is exactly what's wrong with Generation X/kids today. I turned out just fine as did my siblings. Why?? Because my parents took "time out" to bust our a$$es whenever we got out of line.
Is that clear enough for you???
I'd be all for spending some money on ....
tracking down the father of her child. Where is he? Why shouldn't HE be made to provide for the child he brought into the world. That's another big problem... Not saying this is your friend's situation, but when you have an average of 30% of whites, 50% of Hispanics, and 69% of African-Americans having children without benefit of marriage, we've got a REALLY big problem here in this country. People are turning their lives into a train wreck and then expecting the taxpayer/government to pick up the after math. Let's hold the 2 people who bring these children into the world truly responsible for them financially. Maybe people would be a little more careful if they didn't know the govt would be their safety net.
Oh yes, I'm spending 3 times as much it seems.
I have been trying to make up a menu for each night and trying to include the cereal/bagels whatever for kids in the morning and buying only what's on my list. It did help, but I've only tried it twice. Another good thing is it's in and out as I buy it because I truly believe that the meat in the store has just sat there since no one is buying. I'd much rather go twice a week (it is across the street) than go only once a month and buy "old meat." I'm not a big fan of frozen fresh meat anyway; it seems rubbery after it's been frozen...
OF COURSE we know what daycare is! Its anyone OTHER than Mom spending the majority of the day
course, just the way lots of you like it!! Dump and run!! Unreal. The Govt monitors day care - oh, there's a relief! Then the Govt monitors schools, which are your next dump off point for your kids! And of course you can't spend the day with your own kids - they grow AWAY from parents over the years, not closer. You can't control your own kids, cause they're NOT your kids - they belong to daycare and their peer group friends.
wealthy spending money
I have minimal respect for Oprah. Yes, she does some good things, but I have noticed that she always makes sure she get splenty of publicity for her "good works." Her remark to David Letterman about her show being so much more than a "talk show" was arrogant, pompous, and demeaning to the rest of the "talk show" hosts.
Last year when her audience got those cars, it was publicized as if she gave them the cars - in fact, the car manufacturer donated those cars - it didn't cost Oprah one red cent. When her audiences get all those goodies on the show, I'm willing to bet it isn't costing her - that stuff is mostly if not all donated. It's a tax deduction as a cost of business for her anyway.
Frankly, I think she and Dave deserve each other. They are 2 extremely self-absorbed people.
Gracious! You all are spending way too much $$ on stickies
GSMI, Inc. Has good single sheet or flat fold.
Computer Extras has a great price on the large roll of stickies. Their flat fold is too flimsy for my printer and separates too easily.
I usually get 1" perforated roll from Computer Extras for $54 including shipping. It looks like it is for dot-matrix printers (has the holes on the side of the page as leaders to fit the printer) but works great in laser printers. I tear off as little as 6" inches and stack them up in my manual print tray. The leaders give an easy separation guide for the offices, too. The 1" perforation makes little waste when separating multiple chart notes/patients on a page. 
Same here, although I won't be spending it on a trip to China
I do disagree about not being good at MT though. I think many competent MTs shoot themselves in the foot by not recognizing the value of their skills and working for less than they are worth.
As long as you're doing it just for spending
money & have a husband who is the bread-winner, then you'll do fine. If you're a single mom counting on this to support you and your children, then I'd recommend another field. Now that the greedy corporations have taken us over & are sending most of the work to India, they've pretty much destroyed our industry.
The difference between not caring what you spend and spending as
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Does it bother you they're spending the inheritance?
And I know that healthcare costs are so out of control here that there are organized flights that go to India and other countries to get get their health care. Because it's sadly cheaper to fly halfway around the world, get a hotel/apartment for a month, buy food, and pay cash for surgery or medical care than it is to stay here and get it down.
He11, even some of the insurance companies were pushing for offshoring our health care to India.
And nobody has yet to say that we don't have great medical care here; the big gripe is that so few have access to it.
Yes because i will be spending money i don't have and won't earn anything with work decreasing
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Spending a couple weeks traveling in 4-corners area
We have about 3 weeks to wander around this area -- starting in Albuquerque and ending up in Phoenix. Looking forward to seeing the National Parks, Monument Valley, etc., but would love to hear about out of the way or particularly neat stuff!!!
Are you the one with the ill child ???
If so, please realize that the stress of an ill child can be devastating to a marriage. Unfortunately many men deal with this kind of thing by drinking. My best friend in the world went through 4 yrs of fighting leukemia with her little boy who became ill at 12 months. Her husband turned into a total and complete jerk, drinking, and eventually becoming abusive to her. A major medical illness can pull people apart. On the other hand, it sometimes draws people together, but less often. I had our third child extremely premature and she was critically ill for 2 months and then spent another 2 months in the NICU, 4 months total. It was a big stress, but fortunately we weathered it okay. Some people are not so lucky. My first thought is that all this nonsense with your father, and his mother, and wills and money, and all the rest is just something to fixate on. It may very well NOT be the source of the current friction in your home and your marriage. Maybe some counseling if you can get him to go, would be in order. My best to you and your family.
It's no wonder--with a child like you...
your mother probably ripped her own uterus out, and that will be the one and only post to this person. It was just too easy!!
Why would you do that to your child?
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New car for my child
My 17-year-old did get a new car for his birthday for several reasons: He has never given us a bad time about anything, he has a 4.2 GPA, and did a 2,210 on his SAT (the new SAT),is headed to the college he had his eye on for several years now (asked for and got early acceptance letter) and he has been working part-time since he was 14 years old.
We decided to get him a new car because he will need it for school (it's a few states away and we want him to have something dependable) and because he has really gone the distance and worked very hard to get to this point.
I'm really not bragging here, these are just our reasons. He didn't get a fancy racing car, just something that is nice and dependable and made us comfortable.
Anyone whose child has gotten the flu?
Symptoms of coughing, fever, chills and sweats, no appetite, hurts all over, sleepy. Grandson has been this way for 5 days, 2 visits to the doc, lost 2 lbs in 5 days (which for a little guy is a lot). X-rays show no pneumonia. What can we do? Any ideas gratefully appreciated.
Think about the child
and the fact that it is not wanted. Funny I did not hear one mention about adoption in this post. Sometimes abortion is the best choice (IMO).
Let's do think about the child
Adoption has been mentioned in some of the posts, but you may have missed it. A person who kills somebody else may be thinking of many things, but the actual well-being of the person he or she is killing is certainly not one of them. Everyone is "not wanted" by somebody else at some point in their lives.
The best defense for a child...
As heart tugging as they are, accurate transcription is sooooo important for any person, there is a lot at stake and your best effort at triple checking what you have typed is our little helping hand at helping those seeking help. Flag ANYTHING you doubt, if you get lost in the "he said, she said," someone else will too and calling attention to those items WILL HELP to ensure the reports are easily read and understood. Keep up the good work, the job we do IS IMPORTANT! Any complaint or abuse is paperwork, paperwork, paperwork, just be sure those you do are the cream to help those who in need.
different child, different methods
I am the mother of two 20-year-olds, 1 boy and 1 girl. I can tell you from first hand experience the type of discipline depends on the child. My daughter, she might have had 2 spankings in her whole life. She could be talked to and punished in other ways that worked. My son, on the other hand, about every 6 months he would be due for a spanking and then he was fine again. I have learned from experience, never say that you will never do something or that you will not do something. If one thing does not work, believe you will go to spanking if it means saving your child.
Any child is more adult than you are.
I grow weary of your tiresome chatter.....
does anyone have a child that models? sm
or in commercials, print ads, etc? My 6 YOS is just adorable (of course!) and he has a very bright, outgoing personality. I am told all the time that he should be in "pictures", but don't know how to go about getting started. I don't have money to invest in all the pictures and things. I know this is probably a long shot, but any info would be greatly appreciated. 
Don't think I'd put my child in that business (sm)
It's something they can pursue when they are old enough.
Also, don't spend a lot on pictures, if you have to pay for just reprinting of pictures and they pay for the photographer that is probably reasonable.
CHILD SUPPORT??
 Can ANYONE give me some legitimate service who goes after "deadbeat dads"???? I'm at the end of my emotional rope, and my state (Oklahoma) has not helped much in nailing down this butthead ('cuse my French)....I've talked to a few "services" which IF they get anything from him, they will probably take 60-70% of it!!! Has anyone had any luck anywhere?? Why do these guys (and I'm sure there are gals out there too!) get away with not supporting their kids???
Sorry to vent  ...I type for a living (like you) and beating this keyboard sometimes helps me feel better! Thanks for listening (reading ??)....
child support
Believe me, deadbeat moms are very prevalent, moreso than people think. I know from personal experience that these moms rather spend their money on themselves than send even the tiny amount they are required by law to send to their child, all the time professing how much they love their children.
Child Support
We have a newer prosecuter in one of our local county's who started a new program to go after deadbeat parents. 3 times a year, she post the pictures of the worst offenders on the front pages of the newpapers, along with how much they owe...usually has a pretty good rate of call in's to report seeing them. She's also working extremely hard to get the state to NOT renew drivers lisc. on any of those who are over 2,000 in arrears.
My sister finally got the attention of our prosecuter when her ex got close to 30 grand , the folks at CS just did not seem to have a working phone or at least one they answered, so they went after him, showed up in court, the magistrate took all of 10 minutes to look over the files...asked the idiot and the prosecuter if he had a working wage deduction in place (which he did on paper), and then said...Well he has the wage order in place, so case over
Now how the heck do you think he got to the 30 grand mark if the wage order was working........duh Good luck, been there before and glad mine has paid on time.
Child with GERD
Hi there!
My son started projectile vomiting when he was just 2 months old. It took us 10 months to find a doctor that would diagnosis him with anything. As of now he is almost 7 and he takes 20 mg of Priosec daily, 5 mg of singular, and OTC Pepcid AC when he has a flare-up.  Which is almost weekly. We had him on 40 mg for a long time, but the doc is wanting to try to get that down!
After such a long time of all this gasping for air, the same as you described, we took Josh to an allergiest and he has been diagnosed with asthma also. This is VERY common in children with GERD. I would MOST definiately check that out!!!
Good Luck and let us know how you are doing!
Chel
Keeping any child
I disagree. I would much rather home school a child than send them into what passes for education today. I support the mothers who home school!
be sure you get child support
It might not be much, but it will help. I didn't have the option of working fulltime from home when my son was small, so I had to put him in daycare. Found a reasonable sitter who was very reliable. But to supplement my day income, I did work part-time at night. I fed him, helped him with homework, bathed him and then put him down for bed and THEN went to work at home, many nights until 1 a.m.God gives us strength to get through things when we need it, cause I certainly don't think I could do it now! It will not be easy for you with 2 young children, but it can be done. It will require sacrifices, but don't sacrifice time with your children or time for yourself! Do a lot of praying. God Bless and I wish you the best. Keep a support group around you as much as possible.
say that the best doctor for the child(ren)......is...sm
THEIR MOTHER............
True................
believe it or not - Good Mommy's are the best diagnosticians of their children. 
32 next month one child age 6
I am 31, 32 next month and I am divorced with a precious son who is 6
raise up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he
I figure I taught him what I know and believe. He has to make the decisions from there, and if what I taught him was strong enough, and believable enough, he will do OK. May make mistakes, but he'll do OK.
Exactly that, it is a fetus and not yet a child.
Not yet a human being. Many people miscarry and although devastating you don't see them acting quite the same as if they lost a 2 year old child, do you? They do not hold a funeral service for a fetus along with burial and a headstone, do they? It is definitely not the same as a child.
Yes... Each child learns on a different day in a different way.
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This just has to be a child posting, no??
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if you have a child togehther.
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I believe it should be left up to each child and
what they are comfortable with (of course also what the parents can handle too). My son has to be limited to 1 sport at a time along with his guitar lessons. Anymore than this at a time stresses him out and I know this. He makes mostly A's with his occasional B. (He is 9 years old.)
In saying that though, I have an 8-year-old daughter who prefers to be very, very busy. She is also an A&B student She run CC track, does ballet, on a competition cheer team and gymnastics and is wanting to add a dance class. For an 8yo though she is very good at time management. She starts her homework on the bus and takes it with her to work on between classes some nights. She has been at the same dance studio for years and they know how she is, so she goes and sits behind the front desk to do whatever she feels she needs to do.
I guess what I am saying is this... Your child will let you know if it is too much or not enough. Just give them the chance to make the decision and not have you do it for them.
what an amazing child you have...
Your post brought tears to my eyes. She's really something special...you are so blessed. Please give her a BIG HUG for me...she's an inspiration!
P.S. You must be pretty amazing yourself!!! You deserve a big hug too!
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