Sounds like you are depressed....Nothing to be ashamed about.
Posted By: NYMT on 2006-03-20
In Reply to: Looking for a website for encouragement - me
I recommend you talk to your physician and maybe get in some therapy sessions, not necessarily medication, but get to the root of how you can assess where you are overwhelmed and what steps you can take to take control. This site is actually a great site, on occasion you will find some nastiness, but overall there are some wonderful women who are very supportive in situations like these.
I was diagnosed last year with depression and anxiety and although I was on meds, I think the therapy was major reason for my successful outcome. I learned why my life is so unorganized and stressful and I learned some very helpful tools to use on a dialy basis when confronted with these issues.
One thing I found to be helpful for myself is I started to take my shower before I started work, even put on makeup. It really does change how you feel about yourself. I recommend you start there.
Good Luck!
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Great post and i agree 100%. As a former depressed person myself, ,I learned that the most depressed
people are self-centered whether they want to admit or not. I stayed in my cave and only talked about me and my problems and I was severely depressed (runs in family)
After I found God and started attending church regularly, I have completely changed and am off medications. I also give lovingly now to my husband, children, family, and friends and have recently taken over teaching a large woman's Bible study class locally and have never experienced such joy, peace, and happiness in my life.
It wasn't until I began taking my eyes off of me and started looking around at others in more desparate situations that I began to learn the true meaning of life.
Great post. I, too, think fasting is a life-changing exp. When I fasted from food for the first time (I am very overweight :) it was one of the most powerful experiences of my life. There's just something about withholding something that you truly desire or want - it's like putting out flames to a destructive fire within you and it feels GREAT!!!!
Depressed? sm
Write it all down. Then, when he calls, you can start rattling off the numbers to him. More than likely, he is feeling a bit guilty for not being there. Yes, we all know that he is doing what is probably the most important job in this world, but to him, he may not feel that he is fulfilling his duties to his family.
Ride with it, hon. Give him the numbers and he'll feel better.........and so will you.
depressed sometimes too
Just focus on good points in your life now, and things that made you feel good, like having that unconditional love, even though it was awhile ago, you still had it. Even little things you come across every day like someone making small talk with you in line, or a compliment, or seeing your dog wag his tail or seeing an interesting shaped cloud, making someone laugh. Not trying to sound hokey, but its true. Theres ugly people who will use you and walk all over you in this world, crime, evilness, but if you make it a point to focus on the good and innocent, the bad won't go as deep, and you can bounce back. Its like retraining the brain. Life is pretty much neutral, but its our perspective that makes it evil or awesome.
Depressed sm
I'll keep you and your husband in my prayers. I can definitely relate to your situation.
In 1999, after having a very difficult pregnancy, being on bed rest and not being able to work, we ended up losing our house, filing bankruptcy and having my car repossessed. My husband was self-employed also at the time. I was deeply depressed.
With time and prayer, things do get better. There is hope for you. I know it's hard to see that now, but there is hope. Don't give up.
Have you tried talking to your mortgage company or other creditors? Maybe they can work something out with you. I wish I would have tried a little harder to work things out with our creditors. I just practically gave up which is the wrong thing to do.
Things are a lot better for us now. We're purchasing a new home (better than the one we lost) and have a new vehicle. Things will get better for you, too.
He is depressed. He does need help.
xx
Boyfriend who is depressed.
A great therapist I used to work for would tell folks in your situation, that you ARE not trained in counseling, therefore, you can not help him in the way he needs. It's just not your job so to speak. Go easy on yourself, it sounds like you have been very supportive, you now just need to decide how long your willing to do so.
I am just sooo depressed
Hello!! I am a newbie, stay-at-home military wife and my husband is the only one working for now. He is deployed right now and I am managing all the finances, since we have separate accounts, I transferred$1000 in my account which made him mad. It felt like I overspent and use the money for nothing. Money that I didn't even spent shopping!!! He knows where the money goes but he still questions me about every single penny I spent and I really felt so bad.
Thank you guys for reading my post. I just felt like sharing this with you. I just need someone to talk to. 
Hi, I am here. I was just too depressed today
I also was dumped a whole lot of work today. I just didnt want to cry in your ear. I will call tomorrow around lunch time if that is okay.
:) Thanks for thinking of me.
I almost didnt see this post. Too depressed to read. It caught my eye.
depressed as hell
Lost my in-house job...outsourcing...trying to find something at home. It's really rough....
depressed as hell
thanks...will do...
You sure you're not depressed? (nm)
How lucky, you only got depressed; (sm)
my girlfriend lived through the well-known FDA "black box" reaction -- the one where the antidepressant makes the patient agitated and exceptionally suicidal? Her shrink doubled her dose, then went on vacation with no back-up coverage available. Fortunately she knew what was going on and called her friends for help after she kept feeling the urge to hang herself or run out in traffic; we sat with her in 4-hour shifts, distracted her, and kept getting her to drink and pee in hopes of flushing the junk out. Finally, after 8 days, she could sleep again and felt better. Next time she gets depressed, she says she's going to do mushrooms as they're much safer.
one question for depressed
How do you pay for your internet connection?
Oh Lord, I'd be depressed again too! :D nm
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Huh? and you're not ashamed
I have gotten nothing but leftover garbage today thanks to people who think like you. Have you ever heard of karma? Don't you think I have to earn a living too? I guess the difference is I don't believe in screwing over my fellow MTs to do it.
Do not ever be ashamed of who you are.
or where you live, what you drive, or any other outward trapping of society.
The only people who have cause to be ashamed are those who belittle others for whatever reason; they are bigots and all bigots require only that they can make themselves appear (to themselves and others like them) to be better than they are by tearing down the lives of others. Quality has nothing to do with outside show, it has only to do with inner worth.
Bigots will always be among us. Pity them, they will never understand what quality - "class" - really is. They know the price of everything and the value of nothing.
That's ashamed...
I know I have many clinics try to diddle me town line wise, but I just refuse to be their little slave girl. They either want a good job done or they don't, and if they want a good job done, they're going to pay for it, or they can go find some little mamma willing to do it for nine or ten cents a line and then sit there with the jaws hanging down to their fannies as they read their shotty transcripts.
Ashamed
I am so ashamed to have this MT be one of my colleagues, not that I work at the same company, but just that we are both MTs. You know life is too short to be doing a job that you do not enjoy. I completely agree with the poster who said that most of would just be happy to get a raise! I work for one small MTSO, and have 1 doctor, and doe not get paid very much. BUT, this dictator is the same every day and I have many shortcuts set up for this dictator and so I make a more than decent amount per hour. What I would not give to have the same dictator every day and get a raise! I am so sorry that this MT did this to you and to the owner of you company. Sometimes people are like children give them an inch and they will take a mile. I hope the owner of the company talks with this MT and backs you up. If she does not want her job I would be interested in finding out more about this having the same dictator every day and working for a company that gives raises!!
Don't be ashamed...
With kids it's hard to have a savings account. It seems all my hubs and I do is work, work, and work and then when we do get a vacation, we tend to use what should be in savings for "fun money." I'm sorry but life is way too short.
I have a kid in braces and another one that wears glasses. Copays just went up majorly. We have Aetna, and there are deductibles out the ying-yang. Hope and pray none of us are majorly ill, we'd be done for.
I could find a job very, very fast but I'd probably slave for minimum wage since experience doesn't count in this profession even though they claim you must have 1-3 years before they hire. I have 19 and make the same as someone with 2 years of experience. Go figure!!
Thank goodness for my own accounts to stay afloat and thankfully I am here when the kids get home from school and can grocery shop when it's not busy. I save money by not buying fancy clothes for work but do treat myself to the hair salon (need a little something once in a while).
Don't be ashamed; we have no savings either... Oh well... Hopefully, the kids will get scholarships for college and if not, then I guess we'll just finance that too or they'll have to work their through and appreciate it more in the long run if they have to earn it the hard way like I did. No silver spoon here and no handouts either.
We work hard. No, we would not be hurting if we lost one paycheck, but 2 or 3, most definitely would leave us behind in our bills.
Things are on the upswing, but have been depressed.
Gas prices soaring again, tens of thousands of people being laid off, plus the war and the hurricanes have certainly taken a bite of out a lot of budgets, not to mention increasing interest rates. While the economy seems to be doing better, we are still walking a very fine line. All you have to do is watch the news now to hear about how spending is down from last holiday season, that people are very cautious about buying big ticket items, the car manufactures are laying off 30,000+ people. Doesn't hardly sound like a booming economy to me.
Not everyone wants to live in your depressed little world.
There are more fun things to think about. Unfortunately, all the things you mentioned will NEVER go away. Does not do much good to worry about them.
Ah, go ahead...don't be ashamed...
No one will laugh. And, most likely no one will slam you for it either. There are only a few really nasty, jealous people here. 
LOL!!!! I have no reason to be ashamed
There are consequences for every choice. Not preparing for the consequences of choices made and expecting to be bailed out of those consequences constitutes the typical welfare mentality. A choice to live in a disaster-prone area without making adequate preparations for disaster is a choice that will have predictable consequences. Those who embrace the welfare mentality immediately blame others for the consequences of their failure to plan ahead and demands that others bear the cost and the responsibility for salvaging them from the results of their own choices. The welfare mentality is not the exclusive province of welfare recipients. Trust me, I will never seek or expect help from you or anyone else. I would far rather rely on my own preparation and resources. Besides, whiners have nothing I need.
Whatever. Nothing to hurt and I'm not ashamed.
I'm a little ashamed to say....just I enjoy going to
I know this isn't as exciting as the other posters, but honestly...just going to the beach and relaxing is great for me!! :>
You shouldn't be ashamed..
So what if it's not the South of France. As long as you had a good time and enjoyed yourself, that's what it's all about!
I have done a lot of traveling, and I can tell you the best vacation that goes down in my memory book is going to Sanibel Island, Florida - surf fishing, catching fish - swimming in the ocean - and kicking back wtih my honey with a Mai Tai. We sent out to dinner at lot at some really nice restaurants there, but the best was steaks on the grill the resort had available there and a great bottle of vino.
I hope you get to Myrtle Beach again and enjoy yourself.
(High Five To Ya') 
I'm sure your grandparents would be ashamed of you
maybe that's why you hate successful whites so much - you're jealous
sorry..ashamed to "say"...not same..duh lol
xx
Yep, had a distant relative going through some depressed times and did just that
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I'm ashamed to say I don't know how to copy to a floppy. Can you
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No on is an idiot and you should be ashamed of yourself for calling anyone that. nm
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My son did. I am ashamed to say that I didn't know how and I had to ask my teenager to do it.
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1984. I was in 4th grade. I'm 32 and not ashamed to say!!
Good for you! Every vote counts!
Myrtle Beach! Nothing to be ashamed of! I would rather go there!!!nm
xx
I am almost ashamed to same I am from the same state as these freaks...
They absolutely sicken me. They are a radical CHURCH group believe it or not that protest funerals all over the U.S. on the basis that for one they love the publicity..and their "grounds" for protesting funerals is that the people who are dead are dead because it's God's punishment to the world for society's and the military's acceptance of gays. That's it. I mean come on...I don't care what your position is on gays, I cannot fathom the idea that they feel it's ok to stand outside the funeral of a soldier killed in Iraq or now these poor innocent children....to hold up disgusting hate signs with such things as "911 is God's gift to gays"..and they truly believe these people deserve to die because of this. It's total INSANITY to say the least. They are absolutely disgusting.
Unfortunately, NO. Didn't help me. It made me depressed. Reverse effect. nm
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My kiddos start school next Wed and I'm not ashamed to say it will be a relief. My teenaged son
gives me hourly updates on his boredom every single day. Now, my daughter is starting kindergarten this year and I will be sad probably the first week because she's my baby - my last baby - but she is sooooo ready for school. She just can't wait. Maybe I should be the one with hurt feelings since she can't way to leave me! 
I highly doubt my son's feelings are hurt when I say "Just think, you won't be bored when school starts."
Kind of ashamed to admit I threw daughter's card away
I know some will call me petty. We haven't ever had the best relationship because she has been a difficult kid since grade school. Just really, really hard to deal with and nasty much of the time. I keep trying and trying and trying and trying. I help her out financially when I can, watch the baby every day while I'm trying to work, too. I had tears picking out a card for her, and I put some money in there with a little note to treat herself. Yes, I took the money out and tossed the card. I know it sounds harsh, but I feel like I keep putting forth the effort and barely get a thank you in return. Instead, I get a "what's your problem?" Now my son..I can deal with. At least he treats me with some kindness and he tries.
Sounds like you are SM
working for one of the few remaining good companies. Wouldn't it be wonderful if they all at least made an effort to even out the work? When you factor in VR and the number of newbees that some companies hire, who just don't have the experience to do the difficult dictators, that makes a sorry life for those who do have the experience and can do it. Which is why I say if "anyone" isn't happy with what they are doing, then they should look for a company that recognizes their MTs as human beings. I think part of the problem is that the bigger companies are run by "suits" who don't have a clue about actual medical transcription, all they see is the bottom line and any way to make that bottom liine bigger is fine and dandy with them. I even heard one of those "suits" say once that it didn't matter if all their MTs quit, they were just typists and the manager could just go out and hire some more.
Sounds like you have too much going on. Take
things in little bits. (Un)pack/clean for 15 minutes and then work for a bit. Set a realistic goal to work - say an hour that you can make yourself work, then get up and (un)pack/clean, do laundry, etc. and then come back and work. If you can afford to work a few less hours do it. It will give you time to complete the move and give you a break from work.
We are remodeling/redecorating and our house is total chaos. Some days I can jump right in and get something accomplished and other times I put on blinders and just ignore it all. Some days I dig right into work and knock out my lines, other days I'm on-line more than working.
Take a break, get refocused, and then try out different routines. I think we all go through burnout at least once a year and sometimes it takes a bit to get refocused.
Sounds about right
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Thanks, sounds like just what I need.
It isn't that I can't afford either, just concerned that I don't want a 2 year process, because I need to start living now.
I don't need to know particulars, but just wondered how far back your trauma went? Mine is pretty much a lifetime of traumatic events, but I think most of my issues date back to when I was 5.
sounds like
Pfannenstiel scar
now this sounds better..
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Sounds like...
We need to take what THEY say with a huge chunk of something, and it sure ain't salt! Talk about "The Stepford Transcriptionists." Sheesh. Thanx for ur input - it was driving me nuts!
sounds like there
may have been a problem with their server. Try it one more time. If you get the same error page, click the 'refresh' key at the top of your screen to see if this brings the page up. If it doesn't, you should call someone.
Sounds like MDI
Who do you work for - -if you don't mind saying.
Sounds like what I'm looking for.....
Thanks so much for the replies!
Sounds like my son. sm
My son had an economics project in junior high school. The class was split into groups. Each group was given $75.00 in cash and told to come up with something to make their money back. If they made any profit, it was theirs to keep and split.
My son went through all of the grocery store flyers until he found cans of Pepsi on sale. Then he called all of the pizza places to see if he could get a buy 1 get 1 free special. They bought a bunch of pizza and a bunch of Pepsi, set up a table at lunchtime, and sold the pizza for $1.25 a slice and the cans of soda for $1.00 a can. They doubled the money, gave the original $75.00 back and split the rest.
Right now my son works in food services at a nursing home. I'm surprised he doesn't charge the residents for delivering their dinners.
Must be. Sounds just like them
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Sounds like PMC to me...
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