Sounds like a textbook case of passive aggressive behavior.
Posted By: psych major on 2006-01-23
In Reply to: Take my husband, Please ! - The Singing MT
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I am SO tempted to be passive aggressive here.
This darn doctor wants me to send a copy of the report to another physician. "Send a copy of this to foreign doctor's name." No spelling, no address, nothing. I finally find the address by accident just by scrolling through the directory. The doctor has not only badly mispronounced the name, but gave the last name as the first name. I'm really tempted to provide the phonetic spelling as he dictated it and tag it with a noted telling him to verify the spelling and provide the address. Really, how on earth am I supposed to know the doctor's information?
passive aggressive men..dumped him too...LOL..nm
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Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder...
You just described my ex, and he has passive aggressive personality disorder and oppositional defiant disorder.
Here's a description: http://www.toad.net/%7Earcturus/dd/papd.htm.
I would also recommend reading "Why Does He Do That? Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft. You can buy it at Barnes and Noble and amazon.com.
My ex loves to annoy people for the fun of it. The only way you can get him to do anything is to tell him not to do it. And, of course, he is extremely controlling. It is just my opinion, but I think that people with these types of personality problems just shouldn't be married to anyone. Every time my ex gets a new girlfriend, I really just want to give the poor girl a hug. If your husband has this type of personality, you really should divorce him. Life is just too short to spend it with someone who makes everyone around them miserable.
who died and left her boss and expert on nut-case MTs or freakish behavior?
sounds like one of the MQ supervisors all filled with herself.
It sounds like a classic case of...
we get to reap what we have sewn. And to think we called the 80's the "me generation!"
Sounds like a case of poor upbringing, but still.... (s/m)
I find it hard to believe people can make it to marrying age without having at least HEARD about thanking people for gifts, even if their parents never taught them any manners.
I try not to take it too personally, but always, somewhere deep inside my mind, I never forget it when I go to a lot of trouble to give a gift and it isn't at least acknowledged. When my nephew got married, not only did a travel a great distance to attend the wedding, and was the only person from my branch of the family to attend, but I went to great lengths to pick out exactly the right gift for them. On arriving at the wedding, there was a big table where everyone put their gifts, and I added mine to the pile. The card was firmly attached, so I know it didn't fall off. Still, to this day (26 years later), I have never had any mention that they even RECEIVED my gift. I suppose it COULD have lost its tag, or even been stolen from the table, etc., but it's not too likely. Especially since all his siblings, AND his parents, were terrible at acknowledging gifts received from people. I of course am crazy about my nephew & his family, but that little "scar" still lingers in the back of my mind. As a result, I didn't bother to attend any more weddings in that part of the family, so his actions had repercussions on other people, as well!
A few years later, a niece got married, and this one I've never figured out. Beforehand, after the engagement was announced, I was invited to the SHOWER, and though I could not attend, did send a gift. The gift was never acknowledged. Not only that, but even though I was very close with this niece and her family, even lived with them for a couple years, I wasn't invited to the wedding or even the reception. The excuse was there "wasn't enough room." Hmmm.... whatEVER!
Their mother, my sister-in-law, is where their training was lacking. I had given her several very nice gifts for Christmas in years past, and I have no way of knowing if she even received them. Apparently I wasn't the only one who noticed this. For as long as I can remember, my mother could never stand this sister-in-law, even though she was always very nice to my mom. Turns out that 'way back when she was having her first child, my mom gave her a baby-gift - a hand-knitted blanket - and never got any kind of a thank-you. My mom took it a lot more personally, and has never had a good word to say about her ever since.
A few years ago, my sister-in-law called and left a message on my answer-machine asking me (on very short notice) if I would go up to my niece's house and take care of all their pets (dogs, cats, rabbits), as they were on vacation, and although my sister-in-law was babysitting the house and animals, she had decided to go meet them at their beach house (hmmm... wonder if she was even INVITED?)... and would I be kind enough to come take care of the animals. I rearranged my schedule in order to do that, went and fed, watered, cleaned up after, etc. the pets, which wasn't easy because I didn't know where anything was - had to do a lot of searching. And did I ever even get so much as a phone call from either of them, thanking me for caring for their pets? NO. So as you can see, each time someone fails to show appreciation for the little things we do for them, it creates a little erosion in our perception of, and respect for that person.
My mom positively HAMMERED it into our brains that all gifts and kindnesses deserve a hand-written thank-you! As soon as we could scrawl our names with crayons, we were taught to send thank-you notes to relatives who sent us gifts, let us stay over at their house, etc.
On a recent ski-trip, I had the misfortune to come out of the lodge at the end of the day to find my beloved skis and poles were gone! I reported them missing at the lost-&-found desk, but figured I'd never seem them again, and sadly went home without them, assuming my ski season was over. WELL! A few days later, the security guard at the ski resort called to tell me they'd been FOUND! Another person had mistaken mine for their rental-skis, and taken them by mistake. The security guard went out of his way to meet them in a town midway between the ski area and where they lived, exchanged my skis for their rentals, and then took my skis to his house, and finally back up to the ski area. The lost and found dept. talked with me several times to arrange a time when I would be skiing again, so I could pick them up. Although this was obviously part of these people's jobs, I was still extremely grateful that they had found my "babies" and salvaged the ski season for me! So in addition to thank-you notes, both the lost-&-found dept. and the security guard got plates of my very BEST homemade cookies.
So, what goes around, SHOULD come around, I say. Okay, now here's a similar thing that happened to me... but I'll put it in a new post at the top as a separate subject. Tell me how you'd feel about THIS odd situation! ;)
You could buy a medical terminology workbook or textbook. SM
Those usually have self-testing questions. Plus you could use the help of the textbook to form your own test. I know you said you wanted something free, but that sounds a little unprofessional to me and no offense, it sounds a little like laziness. You are hiring employees for your service and you want someone else to provide you with a ready made test for free because you can't be bothered with creating one on your own?
Coming here for help is one thing, but to look for a ready made test or even consider stealing a test from another service - I don't know, it just bothers me a little.
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Wheeless Textbook of Orthopedics - online - link below. I find this to be a priceless site. Good luck
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Bose over the ear/passive headphones
i didn't want to mess with the batteries of active noise cancellation type, but this is a passive noise cancellation, extremely comfortable and good sound; has a nice long cord. i just don't like things in my ear anymore. got mine on ebay.
aggressive treatment sm
You are correct. I hope I never get that QA person!
I wouldn't use lower case. I'd use upper case. Don't worry about it. nm
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You certainly demand a lot and are so aggressive. Hope you cool down when you are with your family.
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Given her previous behavior
she would probably accuse you of molesting her if you did try to hug her.
Unfortunately rude behavior
is becoming the norm - in many parts of the country. That doesn't mean it has to be tolerated, however.
Curious: Did you ask her 'what makes you think it's appropriate for you to attack me, when you clearly have not followed instructions?'
Very strange behavior...
Were cherrypicking work, or calling in sick...or anything else going on? I ask because that's just crazy for a high quality producer to be treated that way.
Paula's behavior gets stranger . . .
every week. I think she has serious problems. She can hardly get out a coherent sentence anymore.
That explains ALL your childish behavior.
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MT Company behavior Poll
This is because this MT is curious, you don't have to mention names of where you work, just curious:
1. Has anyone here ever had problems contacting the company they work for as an employee with noncommunication from supervisor frequently?
2. Regarding scheduling and work times, do you find that you run out of work when you were given the impression when hired there was tons and tons of work; then none for weeks during your shift?
3. Have many of you out there MT or QA ever been terminated without notice, and or by e mail after a lot of noncommunication?
You can answer any or all of these questions. Trying to get a sense of the trends out there right now, and wondering if it is best to become an independent contractor, because at least you have a contract, and or the ability to get a schedule you set so you can have a number of clients and you can have more control over work. Also, reliability of companies regarding sudden lay offs and no notice terminations seem to be happening lately, so trying to get a sense of that too.
Thanks in advance for your comments.
Another definition of satanic is a behavior that is evil , which I think may have been the original
poster's intended meaning.
I agree. Take none of this. Let their behavior be known and even if necessary call the local News
many TV stations have to help. There was a service in our city who never paid her people and the local news On Your Side was contacted and not only was she on the news for not paying but she was also picked up by the police. There is usually at TV station in every major area (even if they are not in a major area, will go to the local surrounding areas) to help folks with problems such as this. Take it to whoever you can. People like this do not respect you.
I never understood why people continue to work for people that are even one day late. Pay should be on time. If it isn't, the MTSO would never get an ounce more of work out of me and believe me he/she WOULD pay me! I am not one to let it go. I too have worked in the legal field and I do know how to proceed.
Just don't give them one more day of your time.
Just curious, is your dog a senior? I had a senior dog who had similar behavior. sm
She was a Siberian Husky who was 10-11 yrs old when I adopted her, and I got to have her for 5 yrs before she passed on. She was such a character! I still miss her, and we still talk about her antics.
Anyway, she always seemed to have a hard time at night. She would wake up, pace and pant, and sometimes howl as if calling out "Hey, where is everybody, and where am I!" I'd get up and go comfort her. It was like she was disoriented until she saw me, then she'd be okay and go back to sleep. I used to leave a night light on for her too, thinking it might help. (Her vision was not so good.) Come to find out, my vet said her behavior was probable canine dementia/senility.
I'm dealing with a similar situation now with one of my other Siberians, who is now 15 yrs old. Vet has me trying a supplement called Proneurozone (not very expensive). If that doesn't help there's a med. called Selegiline (sp?) we can try.
I just thought you might be interested, if your dog is an older one. ;o)
Upper case is lower, lower case is upper. Using InstaText. Anyone know how to fix this?
Aargh. It happened all day yesterday. When I brought in text that was all caps
IMPRESSION:
and had lower case on keyboard (as always do), it reverses keyboard commands. This is driving me c-r-a-z-y.
Won't be of much help to your case..
back in the middle 70s.. then got certification in 1987 by AAMT. Been at this for 30 years. Still going strong.. working 2 full time jobs.
In my case, it was because...sm
we live in such a rural area. I call it in the country. A subdivision was built nearby and I know of a couple of people on my road that were requesting DSL too. They put it in on my road shortly after the subdivision was built last year.
Well, in my case....
I work for a local hospital, deal with my boss and QA manager all the time, go in for meetings, and work a set full-time shift just exactly as if I were in-house. No "maverick" status for me. I have to play by the rules. The only difference is that my butt is in the chair at home, as opposed to the office. And I have worked inhouse numerous time, so I know how to do that and had no problem.
what would you do in this case?
I am a Transcriptionist with about 20 years experience who has a job which I do not like anymore, I used to liike the national that I work for but things have changed so much in the last six months that I almost cannot get up and get started and I even work second shift! I am thinking about changing jobs but need to move the first part of December so will need time off and have a bunch of company coming at Christmas so have taken time off. Do you guys think there are any employers out there who would hire someone to start, knowing that they are going to be needing time off in a month? I need to find an employee position because I need health insurance. I am a good worker and very seldom take any time off, this just happens to be a time when I need to.
In that case,
maybe they are afraid he will go to the EEOC - some of that stuff may be illegal age discrimination.
well, in that case, thanks!
Hehe. I've seen that (OP) before and never knew what it meant. But since I was the person who started this post I was too curious not to ask. Thanks for the info--learn something knew everyday! Happy memories to you!!!
looking for a case, are ye?.......nm
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In my case...
it was in our court decree that ex would carry me for 6 months. I then had the option to COBRA on, think maybe I had the option of converting to a private policy also, can't remember for sure, but it was too expensive, so I got my own policy. I don't think there was any way in our case, as his company was a smaller one, that they would have carried me as a "non-family" member on the company insurance. I know that you can work it out in the agreement that the ex pays for the COBRA as part of the settlement, which mine wasn't willing to do. I also thinks it depends on who the insurance is through. I had a family member who was involved in a divorce where it was a federal agency health insurance plan, and they had only 1 month to remain on insurance as per that agency's policies. I would be checking out what the exact options are, as you don't want to be blindsided with a lapse in insurance coverage. It's tough. I was a stay-at-home mom for 15 years and just starting out as an MT not making much so kind of scary. Good luck to you!
Definitely not the case...SM
He wasn't in jail over there for anything. That was a misreport. The only previous charges he has are in the US for child porn.
not sure what is going on in your case
The place I used to work had this function disabled but never told me about any feature that I could go back and see jobs listed there for any given date. I was told by this company they didn't have that information. I now work for KS and work on that same platform- Extext. They do not pay for headers or footers but the session statistics is enabled and I can check them at any time. The other company I worked for I could type and type 30 or more reports and the number was always the same 500, 600, 700 lines, ridiculously low. The Ichart website where you had to check was always lagging behind so was impossible to verify how many lines I was getting credited for each report. I type half that many reports now and the number is around 700. I feel like this is more in the normal range. Not sure what the situation is where you are but if it sounds suspicious why give it any more of your time and energy trying to figure it out? There are too many companies out there looking for MTs these days. Keep looking until you are happy and feel like your line count is fair.
So right ---- That is almost ALWAYS the case!
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In case get job somewhere else, ST is yours.
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Of course, you are right in which case IC needs
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I wish that was the case for me
This week the doctors that I work for saw 221 patients which meant 221 notes. Actually more. One doctor is notorious for waiting days before he dictates and then he dictates 20 notes or more all in one day from previous days, plus some of the ones from that specific day. Arggg. I still have a boat load and I'm off Monday-Wednesday next week.
If that's the case, you are are NOT an IC
As an IC, you set the work hours, not the MTSO. If they are calling you and asking you to leave dinners, conferences, etc., as an IC you say you're not available. If by doing so, they dismiss you, you are an employee and not an IC.
An IC sets their own rate and work hours. The MTSO (or client) either accepts those or not. Period.
I don't think you'd have a case at all.
They'll just find someone else who will do that. They have the right to make agreements on what to pay just the same as you have the right to agree to what you will/won't be paid, too.
Just simply state, "I'm sorry but I bill in this manner" and if it isn't suitable for them, then you need to find different clients.
As unfair as it may seem right now, you have to be careful what you force in business. It is not the emotional energy or financial resources to force anyone to do it your way.
In this case
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Not in my case...sm
I had the new Office 2007 suite on my Vista laptop and hated it, so I installed my Word 2003 with no problems. Not sure what I did right! 
maybe that was a different case, as
my letter states that our objections will be heard, if presented to the addresses given no later than February 12, 2009 to each of three parties. The fairness hearing will be March 26, at 3 p.m. Those that choose to attend in person may do so also.
in that case.
It probably depends on where you live, but here in the Midwest I was offered $55,000 for account manager. That basically was running everything but no travel. I figured I would be working 24/7 since work would be sent offshore. Didn't think it was enough money.
Not in this case. SM
He/she states that there are 6 MTs working for him/her that are all producing this amount, not just one MT. In checking back on this one, the MTs actually work 9-hour days, so it is more like 470 lph, but that still seems high, especially keeping that speed going for 9 hours. I can't imagine keeping that pace for that long! Someone did ask how they were counting lines, but no response yet.
In that case...
I think it may be possible depending on how they are paid per line and what type of accounts they are working on. But then again, with 6 people (I think you said) all consistently doing that many lines per day, it seems unlikely... but who knows!
I don't think so, not in every case. sm
Suppose a friend or co-worker who was morbidly obese came in wearing a new, tight white dress with big red polka dots and a huge bow in back, and she asked you, "Do I look good?"
I don't know about you, but I would reply, "You bet you do! That dress is awesome!"
Not a matter of alienation this time, but a matter of being kind instead of cruel.
in that case..
how about I take all the easy stuff and you take all the garbage.
Oh, hey, just in case...
I just re-read your post below and see you mentioned something about the zip file doesn't open? I'm not sure if you meant adding the files in the zip to Express Scribe won't open the .sri files, or if the actual zip itself doesn't open for you.
Anyway, I did download it to check it out, like I said in the other post, and the zip I found does have 4 files in it -- 2 dll's, an ini, and a readme.txt -- so in case you just got a bad link or something, here's where I found the link for the zip.
http://nch.invisionzone.com/index.php?showtopic=7378
Good luck.
ARUBA CASE
The parents had to known she was going to drink in Aruba. Why would these 17 and 18 years want to go of course to drink or they could have went to Florida instead. Even though this girl made bad judgement if she drank to much and went off with these guys this did not have to happen. We need to blame who ever did this. If my 18 year old wanted to go to Aruba I would probably say yes but lecture her a head of time. I know my 18 year probably drinks in college but I told her I don't want to know this. What I do not see I don't have to worry about it. I have no control of her when she is in college but she is not allowed to drink in our house or anyone elses until she is 21. I have a feeling that her body has been thrown in the ocean. The whole situation is so so sad.
I hope that isn't the case; however, if it is SM
then I will move on. I know what I need and whnt.
I'm willing to give them a good try first.
In my case, it was TransTech. I went with them
because they were the only company that I could not find a negative post about on this board. Live and learn.
I rest my case.
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