Sounds like a friend of mine - he is now her ex-husband - sm
Posted By: Laura E. on 2006-05-12
In Reply to: The sex is too good. LOL Besides, I'm a committed girl. I do love him. He's just a jerk somet - OP
though, even though "the sex is great", she'd say the same thing. She worked outside the home but was expect to cook a full evening meal from scratch every night (breakfast and lunch on the weekends as well as dinner), no frozen foods, kits, etc. , plus take care of 2 kids, dog, bird, lizards, etc. and of course keep an immaculate house, while servicing him every day. Things got so bad (he has quite a temper) that her kids actually asked her to divorce him, that is sad when that has to happen. But they are now away from Mr. Controlling and much happier. The daughter refuses to see her dad, granted my friend had to pull his teeth to get him to actually see the kids per the visitation at first (2 weekends a month was it), now he is all mad 7 years later that his daughter hates his guts, granted she is 16 now so that has something to do with it too (other than him being a total jerk). He would hold the child support hostage too, so if he was mad her wouldn't give it to her even though he knew she really needed it to make ends meet; so she went to the state and had it set up to be garnished directly so she did not have to "ask" for her support check anymore.....needless to say he was quite tee'd off when she did that. Things are better now but he is still a jerk. They do try to be civil to each other and work as a united front with the kids. Amazingly he has stayed single and has not sucked some other poor woman into his web. -- But you can't do it all. I have not had a night out for probably 18 months, but I do get out every now and then, but my husband definitely has lots of freedom but I don't begrude him as he cooks dinner every day, takes care of the kids as soon as he gets home from work so I can finish up my work or get started on the next day's allotment. He might gripe some but he does help a lot and he knows I do. You need to get yours to get off his butt and help out. As for a 2-day trip, next time just do it like you are tonight. He and the kids will live and maybe he will learn something. My husband had NEVER had the kids to take care of alone until 7/2004 when my mom got sick. I went up to be with her before and after her open-heart surgery. He had them for about 3-4 days, then I came home and took them back up with me a week or so later. He lived. The kids lived, and I think he learned, hey I can do this if I have too. You need to do the same thing (and then hope you don't come home to a mess of a house!). Good luck.
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Your husband sounds just like mine! sm
Except for the weight issue, they could be twins! He often makes comments that I never do anything with him. But he always wants me to drop everything in the middle of the day to go run errands, go out to lunch, etc. When I finally give in, a trip I thought was going to take 30 minutes ends up taking 3 hours cos he just wants to do this little thing and that little thing. I get so frustrated with him! His job is a prn type job, where he could work 80 hours in 4 days then be off the next 2 weeks straight. Of course, when he's home he thinks everyone else should be just as free as he is. I keep telling him he needs to get a job that makes him as miserable as I am! :) (I'm not really -- I love being an MT)
I wish I had some helpful advice for you, but unfortunately I'm in the same boat!
How about your husband tells the friend to tell his female friend to lose the #?
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Friend's husband does this (sm)
She looks upon it as cheating and plans on leaving him as soon as she can get the money together to go. I can't say I blame her. If it isn't physical cheating, it sure is emotional.
A friend of mine went to work for
them and had a very hard time, ended up going with another service. She told me she was docked in her pay for sending to QA with blanks. She said she could not make any money there.
A friend of mine works there and....
She really loves it! She has been there since August. Her pay has been really great. I am hoping I will get a chance there as well.
Good Luck to you 
Yep, reminds me of a friend of mine
who lost her job as a travel agent (due to technology, Expedia, Cheap Tickets, etc.) and refuses to work for less than $35,000 a year. Says it's "beneath her."
Well she has no other skills, and is uneducated except for a 6-month travel course at a community college, so how could anyone expect to call the salary shots in that situation?
I agree. You gotta do what you gotta do. Sometimes life hits you hard, but it's up to you to accept it or start over with an education.
If you choose not to "accept" a job that pays less, even temporarily, that's your problem, not the government's.
A friend of mine has been on it for over 7 years...sm
and swears by it. He has stayed very trim and his cholesterol is fine. I would like to lose about 10 pounds and thought about trying it, but i love carbs, so don't know if I have the willpower.
A friend of mine did the injections (sm)
and her legs looked great for a little while. Eventually, blood got trapped below the injection sites and they look worse now than they did before.
"Boredom comes from within", a friend of mine used to say.
I have changed careers a few times, all due to sheer boredom and after only 5 years I am already fighting it again doing MT. Interestingly, when my doctor prescribed Cymbalta for my diabetic neuropathy last year, I found my production went up and it was much easier to focus on not only the job but the housework, etc. Have no other symptoms of depression, and am off the Cymbalta now (it did work wonders for the neuropathy).
You might try spiffing up your workspace a little with new curtains or a nice picture on the wall...something that will make you smile when you look at it. Good luck, and take heart in the fact you are not the only one. 
Sounds like HR got HER job through a friend......
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Agree with Lab Rescue. A friend of mine sm
is involved with them and fostered labs before she got another dog of her own. They will provide the dog with medical care and a loving home while they try to find a good home for the dog.
Thank you for being so diligent caring for this dog. You sound like a terrific person. Labs are such wanderers. Hopefully someone will claim the doggie soon. Good luck!!
A friend of mine had this happen while she was pregnant...
And now, almost 6 months post delivery with no relief of the pain, she has been told that she will have to have the bottom part of her tailbone REMOVED! There was no inciting injury. She just stood up from a seated position and started with excruciating pain.
A friend of mine also had a bad experience with H&R Block
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A friend of mine has a brother who was paroled - sm
about a year ago. He was sentenced to 20 years (3 carjacking) and let out after 8, is on parole for 12 years. He was allowed to skip the halfway house situation as he had always tested drug-free in prison; that and his dad bought him a condo to live in. He had to have a signed form from wherever he was to live stating they new he was a convicted felon, out on parole, etc. , so to avoid having him live in a bad area, his dad bought a condo (nice and he screwed over my friend in the process but that is another story). He does not live near where he was incarcerated which is about 2 hours away from where he is now. I don't think there is a restriction as to where he is as long as he is in the same state, so if you are in a different state I'd say you were probably okay. But if he has family where you are, the odds are he is back there as he had to have a living situation set up in advance before they would release him. My friend's brother has already broken parole a few times and is still out, they even reported it to the parole officer but were told that they could not do anything about it (probably have to witness it) which stinks. Her family is now sheilding the infarctions as they don't want him to go back to prison since if he does he will probably die there (40-y/o with hep C, diabetes), plus they are scared of him. The whole situation stinks. But as for the prison officials, I would think they could at least give you the name of the parole officer. Try looking at the prison site on line, you may find something there. Good luck.
NetZero-A friend of mine uses it and is happy with them (nm)
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A friend of mine signed on at a hospital where
they plan to send her home in six months. She is a new grad. It does sound like some of the hospitals will send you home with the same employee benefits. Keep searching!
A friend of mine in same boat is at Encompass
She actually had less than 5 years exp and like you it was all clinic, and she got hired with Encompass and loves it. She's done both clinic and acute care there I think.
Try for a short sale, a good friend of mine - sm
did that a few months ago, had a mortgage and a 2nd mortgage, and just could not keep up. They agreed to a short sale on the 2nd mortgage, and by a miracle she got a buyer. She actually walked away with about $1K. Lives with boyfriend now which is saving his butt from foreclosure now.
Captain Morgan is a VERY good friend of mine!!!
Along with his south of the border pal, Jose.
Sounds familiar. I have a friend with a son who is now
a year behind where he should be because they fell for some private school cock and bull story about how he wasn't ready for kindergarten (the school was ready, however, to milk her for another year of preschool, I'm quite sure). So here's this kid now, a sophomore in high school and turning 17 in August. All for no reason, there wasn't a thing wrong with him.
thanx for all your input.. A new MT friend of mine asked about it, said I'd post it.. You've
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A friend of mine loves her Kirby, but it is a little pricy at $1200.
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This also happened to a friend of mine who applied to be a state trooper and ... sm
also to my husband when he applied for grants to college.
Sounds like your husband
did not really want to be involved in this, and perhaps feels that by giving you the number and you calling her that it would only involve both of you further.
While your husband has not asked for my advice, I do think that he should tell his friend that he prefers to choose who has his cell number and does not want the friend's friends calling him looking for the friend. (How ridiculous is that anyway??? I know I don't want people calling me looking for other folks.)
As most other posters have pointed out, however, if I were you I would not call anyone about this, although I personally would want to know if my husband had a "friend" like the one you've described, and in fact have been an informer in a similar situation years ago (did not know the wife, knew the husband well and my roommate was dating him . . . I called her when I found out he had asked for a divorce but did not tell his wife the true reason -- I did not want him getting off as easy as 'irreconciliable differences' when it was really adultery.) Nothing bad for me came out of it, but at the time I did not have a family and I guess now I would just be cautious and not get involved.
A friend of mine puts her fork in and twists the kernals on it and then eats it.
It's not as messy this way.
Friend of mine types 16 hrs a day to keep her clients happy. She has no life & brought it on herself
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sounds like your husband thought about it by
besides, anyone knows or should that you can't just go to do the doctor and expect WC to pay. you have to file with your employer first.
sounds like your husband doesn't know how to take care of incidents, not a problem with the healthcare system. it is working just as it should.
Your husband sounds like he could care less
help!
haha...Sounds like something my husband would do...
although he is afraid if he gets it done it won't work at all...
Your hubby sounds like mine LOL
I try really hard not to laugh at him, but sometimes I really can't help it. Watching a grown man throw a temper tantrum over what in reality is the equivolent of "spilt milk" is really humorous. My teenagers behave better than the grown man does.
Your experience sounds exactly like mine...
I do QA for one account, as well as I am an MT... I try so hard to encourage people but some of them just do not care, et cetera...My boss has told me several times that the MTs think I have a good attitude and they think I am doing a good job, so that makes me feel good also...
mine is fine...sounds like a monitor resolution thing--
or perhaps, did you download an antivirus update or something. maybe your video card acting up?? just suggestions.
Sounds like a good place, where you work! BTW: the other 2 posts are not mine
Somebody is cloning my username now and posting. Guess on a board like this anyone can troll. So, I guess I will change my username again, so as not to be taken the wrong way. Wow, people really have a lot of time on their hands!
A friend of mine got one and she is finding that some of her software, specifically her ISP software
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DH is dear husband or any number of colorful adjectives preceding husband. (no message)
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A friend of a friend is taking CareerStep - sm
she is under the misguided idea that she will be making very good $ upon completing the course (a friend of hers supposedly makes $55K a year). I told her no way, at least not starting out and not unless all the factors click together, i.e. good typing speed, good pay (not for a newbie), good dictators (unlikely) and dedication to working hard. I told her what I make after 5 years (16K) but that is PT and I have the potential to double that if I would push myself, not procrastinate so much (I web surf way too much) and work more than I already do. I am not a fast typist but am good at what I do. I will be surprised if she follows though. She told me she'd call me when she finished the course, I just hope she is ready for reality.
I totally understand but if your husband is like my husband... sm
When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"
Him: (shrug)
etc., etc., etc.
Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)
Funny! Mine is almost as large, and I don't mind cleaning mine!
It's no problem at all. Besides, I'll take lots of oodles of square footage any day of the week over living in a sardine can!
Mine isn't like that. Mine is 2. All are programmed different.
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Looking for friend
Hundreds of people are coming into Alabama and Florida away from NO and Mississippi. Go to www.nola.com (Times-Picayune newspaper in New Orleans) and look for message boards. Local papers and other shelters are posting names. Still waiting to hear about family members from Gautier, Long Beach, and Gulfport, MS. Hope you hear from her soon!
To "a friend"
I wanted to personally thank you for your opinion and also for putting yourself out there for me. The serious physical abuse for me happened mostly while I was pregnant (both times)with his children. He had not touched me in three years until two weeks ago. I am aware that I am in a volatile situation and I am doing something about it. I just needed to reach out today for some comfort and support. I feel I got both. I'm sorry I opened the door for people on here to hurt you. That was not my intention. Thank you and big hugs for paying attention to me. J.
Same here. Have a friend who is
a biller who is the same way. We all work at home and have very little people contact. It makes you a little agoraphobic. I have to run all my errands at once, or I will not do them. All the MTs I know are the same way. Can we get disability for this?LOL
Tell your friend
She can go online and change the settings on her bandwidth from the Vonage site. We had some problems and found out it was our cable modem. The strength of the service depends on your internet provider as well.
Is this a friend of yours? nm
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not a friend...sm
actually, it's a patient that I did a note on...the doc went into great detail about her home life, her husband, her finances...but it still burns me up  ! I'd love, love to talk to her...but guess my prayers will have to do...
think twice about a friend
Rather than worrying about training a newbie, I would think twice about a friend. I have had friends as IC's whichI have helped to train as well as just newbies. It is hard to keep that line between friendship and working relationship especially if you are the one giving her the work, checking the work and training her. Have almost lost two friends over this because they felt because they were friends I would understand their problems, family problems, time off needed, not getting work back, etc. They saw me work and bring in the big bucks and wanted to share in it but did not understand how it worked. You don't produce work, you don't get paid. I have trained a lot of people and helped out a lot but never again will it be a friend that is actually doing work for me. If they are working for someone else, I will help them out but just not for me. So I worry more about it being a friend than a newbie. Patti
Have a friend who is MT and she has
bought this, paid quite a bit for it. She had used escription before and now she does straight. She has arthritis in her hands and trying to alleviate some of the pain she has with straight but said wasted her money, tried and tried to educate the machine and still not worth the money she spent.
My friend went not once, but twice. sm
My friend went and she loved it. I lost touch with her the last time she went back. They did live in a compound and you had to adhere to the religious, traditional ways over there. When you left the compound you had to wear a burka. She said they furnished you your own really nice apartment. I thought about going back then, but with the political climate, I am too afraid. After all, they are our "allie" (wink), and over 10 of the 911 bombers were from Sauda Arabia our "allie" (wink).
My friend said she
could never do this as she's not disciplined enough. She's honest as it does take discipline.
You get out of it what you put in. Pretty simple!
i have a friend
Who is working for Inscribe, and is very happy there. She says that the people are nice, and there is always enough work. They hire part time, as long as you can commit to 20 hours a week.
very well put my friend.
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