Sounds like a case of poor upbringing, but still.... (s/m)
Posted By: Rad Typer on 2006-04-08
In Reply to: This is really bothering me for some reason - wedding gift etiquette....sm
I find it hard to believe people can make it to marrying age without having at least HEARD about thanking people for gifts, even if their parents never taught them any manners.
I try not to take it too personally, but always, somewhere deep inside my mind, I never forget it when I go to a lot of trouble to give a gift and it isn't at least acknowledged. When my nephew got married, not only did a travel a great distance to attend the wedding, and was the only person from my branch of the family to attend, but I went to great lengths to pick out exactly the right gift for them. On arriving at the wedding, there was a big table where everyone put their gifts, and I added mine to the pile. The card was firmly attached, so I know it didn't fall off. Still, to this day (26 years later), I have never had any mention that they even RECEIVED my gift. I suppose it COULD have lost its tag, or even been stolen from the table, etc., but it's not too likely. Especially since all his siblings, AND his parents, were terrible at acknowledging gifts received from people. I of course am crazy about my nephew & his family, but that little "scar" still lingers in the back of my mind. As a result, I didn't bother to attend any more weddings in that part of the family, so his actions had repercussions on other people, as well!
A few years later, a niece got married, and this one I've never figured out. Beforehand, after the engagement was announced, I was invited to the SHOWER, and though I could not attend, did send a gift. The gift was never acknowledged. Not only that, but even though I was very close with this niece and her family, even lived with them for a couple years, I wasn't invited to the wedding or even the reception. The excuse was there "wasn't enough room." Hmmm.... whatEVER!
Their mother, my sister-in-law, is where their training was lacking. I had given her several very nice gifts for Christmas in years past, and I have no way of knowing if she even received them. Apparently I wasn't the only one who noticed this. For as long as I can remember, my mother could never stand this sister-in-law, even though she was always very nice to my mom. Turns out that 'way back when she was having her first child, my mom gave her a baby-gift - a hand-knitted blanket - and never got any kind of a thank-you. My mom took it a lot more personally, and has never had a good word to say about her ever since.
A few years ago, my sister-in-law called and left a message on my answer-machine asking me (on very short notice) if I would go up to my niece's house and take care of all their pets (dogs, cats, rabbits), as they were on vacation, and although my sister-in-law was babysitting the house and animals, she had decided to go meet them at their beach house (hmmm... wonder if she was even INVITED?)... and would I be kind enough to come take care of the animals. I rearranged my schedule in order to do that, went and fed, watered, cleaned up after, etc. the pets, which wasn't easy because I didn't know where anything was - had to do a lot of searching. And did I ever even get so much as a phone call from either of them, thanking me for caring for their pets? NO. So as you can see, each time someone fails to show appreciation for the little things we do for them, it creates a little erosion in our perception of, and respect for that person.
My mom positively HAMMERED it into our brains that all gifts and kindnesses deserve a hand-written thank-you! As soon as we could scrawl our names with crayons, we were taught to send thank-you notes to relatives who sent us gifts, let us stay over at their house, etc.
On a recent ski-trip, I had the misfortune to come out of the lodge at the end of the day to find my beloved skis and poles were gone! I reported them missing at the lost-&-found desk, but figured I'd never seem them again, and sadly went home without them, assuming my ski season was over. WELL! A few days later, the security guard at the ski resort called to tell me they'd been FOUND! Another person had mistaken mine for their rental-skis, and taken them by mistake. The security guard went out of his way to meet them in a town midway between the ski area and where they lived, exchanged my skis for their rentals, and then took my skis to his house, and finally back up to the ski area. The lost and found dept. talked with me several times to arrange a time when I would be skiing again, so I could pick them up. Although this was obviously part of these people's jobs, I was still extremely grateful that they had found my "babies" and salvaged the ski season for me! So in addition to thank-you notes, both the lost-&-found dept. and the security guard got plates of my very BEST homemade cookies.
So, what goes around, SHOULD come around, I say. Okay, now here's a similar thing that happened to me... but I'll put it in a new post at the top as a separate subject. Tell me how you'd feel about THIS odd situation! ;)
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Sounds like poor management to me.
Worked at a company before whose office people weren't MTs and seemed to think everybody could just do whatever, couldn't understand the value of having people, particularly new people, do the same things. Very frustrating for the newer MTs.
It sounds like a classic case of...
we get to reap what we have sewn. And to think we called the 80's the "me generation!"
Yep, he's smart! A tent sounds great! My youngest just got her's 2 months ago, and my poor hus
Well, suffice it to say, he just shuddered...and got a tent...
Sounds like a textbook case of passive aggressive behavior.
http://www.straightdope.com/columns/030530.html
I wouldn't use lower case. I'd use upper case. Don't worry about it. nm
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poor, poor management
Line count stealing, no help, rude management, you name it SS has it if it is bad!!!!!!! Run, run, save your life.
Upper case is lower, lower case is upper. Using InstaText. Anyone know how to fix this?
Aargh. It happened all day yesterday. When I brought in text that was all caps
IMPRESSION:
and had lower case on keyboard (as always do), it reverses keyboard commands. This is driving me c-r-a-z-y.
Poor MT
Hi, Friend! Why do you assume all MTs are ladies? Isn't that a bit sexist? That aside, you should be the one who sets your rates. Do so in a very businesslike way. If they can't (or won't) afford you services, move on to someone who can. Good luck! Tom
Your Poor Son
I'm sorry that your son has to endure so much pain after what his father decided to try. I hope he doesn't have any further problems. My daughter had a very large plantar wart last year and had to get it burned off at the doctor's office. Thankfully it hasn't recurred. My neighbor's young daughter just had one and because of her age, the doctor told her to put duct tape on it. I thought it sounded really crazy, but it worked. It brought it right up to the surface after about a week. She would use an emory board to file off the dead skin around it and then she applied the one of those medicated pads on it for a few days and it popped right off.
All I can say is THAT'S SCARRY and POOR YOU!
Poor communication
I think it is very interesting and would make wonder why she was fired. Sounds to me like someone with poor management skills, who was communicating bad information as they were not happy in their job.
I have been typing operative reports on the DQS for over a year now. My office has never treated me like I am a "dime a dozen".
I agree with you on here, but why pay someone less because they are poor
than you pay someone that works for Public works. Why not give them a job at Public Works?
It's easier said than done.
If you think they are getting a lot on handouts, think again. They only get Tanif (if they have kids and dont get child support), food stamps up to I think 300 to 350 bucks (my family comsumes more), Medicaid (again if they have children), public housing (who in their right mind would want to live there).
These people are not living a life of the wealth. It is so little that they would want to go out and get a job.
I agree with you about making them work, but you cant give them slave wages either.
poor yuckster
you know why she had to become an MT don't you? She couldn't get hired working outside of her home because for one, employers refused to make the chairs customized to fit her fanny (too expensive) and also, the endless, sporadic combustion of her pimples was way to off putting to the public (bad for business). So, she had to become an MT and work in the safety of her home.
Poor Thing
Can you imagine waking up in the middle of the night with him curled up on your pillow, nose to nose with you??? Guess we shouldn't speak badly of the dead but since they embraced his ugliness I guess it's okay.
Oh, do I ever know how it feels to be poor at SM
Christmas. We had those years several times. But don't hock your wedding band. I know you were just kidding, right? Don't lose your priorities. If you have to, just TELL them. Really.
2-4 will make ya poor.
Your poor kids will be MTs for sure....they will have to be!
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Poor girl is right
I would hate to have to go without chocolate.
My poor mouse...
I'm surprised it's still going, as much as I use it out of frustration. I find myself grabbing it and patting it VERY HARD on the pad over and over and over again, all while saying something to the tune of, "WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?"
Poor Katie
i bet after hours of labor not being allowed to go to a hospital and with a sock or something stuffed in her mouth to keep her quiet, Mrs. Cruise might be ready to realize that her husband, no matter how rich and famous, is a total wackadoodle! If she had any sense she would go find a good divorce lawyer and get out of there.
poor little kittie--sm
I am a cat lover too and my heart just aches for this one. Has Parveau (?) virus been ruled out??? I will pray for the little kitties health. take care.
Poor baby . .
It it's from nerves try chamomile tea with honey. I think Celestial Seasonings Sleepy Time tea has chamomile. Maybe you could look into something homeopathic like Calms or Bach Flower Remedy like Rescue Remedy.
You Poor Thing!
Rough day for you. I think we all have been there.
Make some time for yourself. QUICK!! If you can't take a whole day off, take 1/2 a day. If that won't work....take an hour. But do something for YOU. You deserve it. You need to recharge.
Good Luck.
You poor thing. sm
Dictators like that make me so angry I want to smack 'em!
It's probably a good thing most of us don't have direct contact with the dictators. You've heard of road rage? If we could get our hands on some of these worst-of-the-worst dictators there might be a new term: MT rage! (Or maybe *going MT* instead of *going postal.*) LOL
I'm kidding, of course. I'm not really suggesting violence. But I do sometimes wish I could at least get to tell them off in person, instead of doing it at home at my desk, where they can't hear me.
Hope the rest of your day is better. 
Ah, so! Poor doc. Reminds me of one of my...sm
docs who butchers the English language. I called him on repeatedly spelling a term incorrectly (course rather than coarse) and he relied "I was a pre-vet major, not an English major!"
Sorry about the misunderstanding!
Poor grammar
I once had a doctor describing a patient on pain medications. She was wondering if it was safe to stay on them because she planned on becoming pregnant. Well, my doctor said "because she wants to have a kid." I typed because she wants to have a child. Kid? Okay did you really attend med school?
Ooh - your poor tummy!
That's a lot of acid to mix with an aspirin-containing product! Ouchy.
poor grammar
ARGHHHHHH!!! How can these kids spend thousands of dollars on college and med school and not be able to pronounce what the heck they are talking about? Left ventricular hypertrophy just became "verticlar". I can't even spell out how arthropathy came out. These aren't ESLs - these are good old American kids. Even seasoned docs often can't speak. How about isheemia? It isn't a speech impediment, either. They can't pronounce drugs, let alone spell them. The more I am around these folks, the more I believe in witch doctors, at least they can dance and chant at the same time. I still love this job but the quality (and I believe IQ) of some of the people going into medicine is sinking like the Titanic. I'm going to Starbucks. I need something besides Maxwell House this morning.
poor grammar
All of the accounts that I work on (major hospitals - no clinic notes) are verbatim accounts but complain if we don't correct the grammar. My company says, verbatim is verbatim. Talk to your inept and lazy dictators. And how about the females who dictate like they are practicing for phone sex? Spare me the breathiness toots. It may work on your colleagues but doesn't cut ________ with me. I've been doing this for 25 years and I can absolutely tell you the quality has gone down, down, down over the years and you can't blame no child left behind. Blame lazy students. Put the blame where it belongs. The first time a doctor tells me "I be fine" I'm outta there!!!
How sad for your poor dogs.
bark, I know something is going on. I would never, never, never put one of those on my babies. I consider that animal abuse. I feel sorry for your animals. Why don't you try one and see how you like it. You might have more compassion for your poor dogs.
Poor vision
That is funny!!!!
Poor dictators
I don't think the company gives a darn about how difficult some of these dictators are - it seems like they are so afraid of losing an account that they will not ask for anything that would help us.
Boy, am I having a bad day!
poor thing to really believe that is right
Doctors say and write lots of things that are not proper which is why Joint Commission adopted the Pharmacists' recommendation of dangerous abbreviations. It comes down to patient care, not trying to prove a point that a doctor or two write something that way. For the same reason it is dangerous to write Valium 5 1 daily, I will not use the two exposed numerals together in D5 0.25 normal saline.
Phyllis, if you are alive, thank you for educating me about normal saline and how to use it properly 15 years ago.
Poor hardworking mostly minority?
You are so wrong. He may not have grasped the vastness of the situation, but I don't think anybody else did either. I think they do now. I wondered when people would get around to blaming the response on race. You're a little slow.
Pray for these poor people.
Up to 20 Dead in Fire Aboard Evacuees' Bus
By SHEILA FLYNN, Associated Press Writer
Friday, September 23, 2005
(09-23) 06:01 PDT Wilmer, Texas (AP) --
A bus carrying elderly evacuees from Hurricane Rita caught fire early Friday on a gridlocked highway near Dallas, killing as many as 20 people, authorities said.
"Deputies were unable to get everyone off the bus," spokesman Don Peritz said. "We believe it's going to be closer to 20 fatalities.
The bus, carrying about 45 people, was engulfed with flames, causing a 17-mile backup on Interstate 45, already heavily congested with evacuees from the Gulf Coast. The bus was reduced to a blackened, burned-out shell, surrounded by numerous police cars and ambulances.
There were indications that oxygen used by elderly evacuees could have had a role in the fire, Peritz said. There were a series of explosions, apparently from the oxygen equipment, he said.
"The early indications are this is a mechanical issue. The driver did survive the accident," Peritz said. "It's my understanding he went back on the bus several times to try to evacuate people."
Interstate 45 stretches more than 250 miles from Galveston through Houston to Dallas. The crash site is roughly 17 miles southeast of downtown Dallas.
URL: http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/n/a/2005/09/23/national/a054557D10.DTL
©2005 Associated Press
Also, eating like a poor person
is not always a bad thing. I do need to lose some weight. :0)
Poor kid. You sound like a very caring mom. (sm)
Maybe a few months to get himself feeling better (antidepressants?) and you keeping him up in his studies will be enough to get him back on his feet and feeling better about school. I bet the school would be willing to help you with this (maybe even have a tutor come to the house a few times a week) if you speak to the right people.
Good luck to you, mom!
Poor thing, you have my sympathy. sm
Marcaine, though, is just an anesthetic. It numbs the area so the tendon can "relax." When my tendinitis was at its worst, the tendon swelled and compressed the ulnar nerve, causing numbness in my ring and little fingers -- it was like trying to type with a ham! LOL
I wish I knew a good way to describe the exercises my doctor gave to me. He said the mark of a good surgeon was one who doesn't want to do surgery, and I agree. My first flareup was about 10 years ago, and I haven't been "knifed" yet. 
Maybe there are some examples online of stretching exercises. Good luck to you!
Ya'll want to see a sight? Get a look at this poor
guy! OMG!
rich men versus poor men
I would take a blue collar over a white collar any day. Blue collar men are more down to earth, can take care of things around the house, do not worry so much about their looks (thats my job), are way more attentive and treat a woman like a lady, all the while being rugged and in charge. White collar men are metro, cold, corporate, skirt chasers, insensitive, arrogant. Love over money all the time for me. Even if I sit and wait for it until I turn gray, I will never settle for less than that.
Poor quality of food
I agree with the posters who state the quality of some of their foods are poor. I would not buy the WM brand of anything. Have tried a few things and my family would not eat it. Their meats look and smell horrible. The only thing I might buy from WM if it was cheaper, is name brand frozen foods.
I think one of the reason WM has had a boost in the last few months is due to the Hurricane tragedies. Cities in Louisiana are crowded and WM can't keep their shelves stocked. Stopped at a WM on the way home from Christmas shopping late one night and they were closed (suppose to be open 24 hours), every since the hurricanes they have been closing at 11:00 p.m.
Did anybody else see this poor kitty picture?
Copy and paste, you will be amazed and sad at the same time.
http://www.comcast.net/data/news/photoshow/html/news/301414.html
Holy cow, wonder what is in that poor cat's water??
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Oh Dianna, you poor thing. I am so
sorry about your pain. I truly hope you get some relief soon. I think I can muddle through my three weeks after hearing your story.
~~~Laurie
Yep, my poor tulips can't decide what to do. They actually
started coming up before my crocus. At least the tulips haven't tried to bloom yet and I covered them with mulch, so maybe they'll be okay.
I would like to have at least one good snow this year. Although we're supposed to get one of everything tomorrow, doesn't sound like we will get an accumulation of anything where I live.
TV is pretty poor any day of the week
I read or get books on disk from the library so I can listen and putter around the house or have movies from Netflix that I actually want to see. I had cable disconnected ages ago and don't miss it a bit!
Another example of the poor wages and long
hours MTing is a waste of time.
Oh, your poor baby! I had one of those growing up
even with a DOCTOR performing the excision. I can't even imagine -- nor do I want to -- what your poor little guy went through. I'd tie your ex down and burn the soles of his feet to let him see how he likes it! Grr!
Okay, on a less violent note, I agree that your ex had no business taking this into his own hands. I would definitely get something in writing legally saying he can't do anything like this in the future. That's just horrific to me. I can't believe he actually thought this was a good idea!
I've had some experience over the years with plantar warts and will tell you that sometimes they even disappear on their own (my son and I both had a couple after a vacation that just went away on their own). The doctor only treated that one of mine because it had gotten too deep and was hurting when I walked. Otherwise, he would've used treatments, probably similar to what you're doing, and just monitored. I recommend getting something in writing because plantar warts usually will recur (not always) and your son may get another later after these are cleared. I'd be darn sure you have some kind of recourse if the "genius" tries this again.
I realize he thought he was doing a "good" thing for his son, but in any other circumstance, that would be considered abuse! Yikes! I hope your little guy is feeling better and that his foot heals up soon.
ohhh...Rich Man Poor Man
Peter Strauss and Nick Nolte...I loved that show. Never could decide who was cuter - Strauss or Nolte!
My poor arthritic hands!!!
I'm 25 years old. Since I have been doing transcription, roughly 2 years now, I have developed the following symptoms:
1. Migraine headaches/eye strains.
2. Carpal tunnel syndrome in BOTH wrists.
3. Severe upper back, neck, and shoulder tension.
4. Arthritis in my fingers on both hands.
5. I'm beginning to develop kyphosis.
6. Bad posture, which aggravates my IBS.
7. Shortness of breath due to lack of movement during the day, although I can only blame myself for that one.
8. A weird mass on my outer palm and inner thumb due to holding my mouse pen all day.
And people say being an MT is easy! :P Granted, I'm also an artist and a writer. After I'm done with work, I'm otherwise typing even more, sculpting, painting, drawing, digitally coloring, or sewing, so that is all rough on my poor hands as well.
Again, poor management is the problem
Makes sense to me to put people on what they are most productive with, eh? Duh. That's universal, whether off-shore or in the U.S. It worked when I managed transcription in the hospitals. It also worked at small MT companies I worked at previously. Everyone made money and the work got done in a timely fashion. Sure, everyone gets some icky work (despite work type), but I see a lot of just piss-poor management going on these days. Just slap 'em on anything and they can type it! We ARE just typists, aren't we?
It takes time and knowledge of the work to match up the MTs to their best work types and authors for high level productivity. It's not happening anymore. I think about 80% of the middlemen now do not know what they are doing. They see numbers but haven't figured out how to truly make those numbers good while retaining good MTs and quality.
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