So sorry for your loss - Hugs to you and your family! nm
Posted By: Carol on 2005-12-02
In Reply to: As someone who lost their husband almost 2 years ago, I can tell you that no amount of money could - Jade
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So sorry for the loss of your precious family member -
My sister's lab has been attacked twice while on a leash in front of his own yard by a pit bull. The attacking dog seems to never been on a leash. Her lab had part of his mouth ripped open and required numerous stitches to reattach it, plus some bites to his back. Something needs to be done to stop people from breeding pit bulls with these temperments!
so sorry for your loss...there're a part of our family.
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My dwindling paycheck, loss of benefits, and loss of respect is all the proof I need. nm
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((Hugs))
I am so sorry you are going through this. It's not easy to be in that situation. I have been under a mountain of debt and staring at bankrupty before, with two small children and no money for food, and no help in sight.
I second the suggestion to talk with your creditors. Also, pay the necessities first, which of course you know already. I am going to look into Dave Ramsey myself, after that suggestion.
One thing I have leared is that change is constant. Things will keep changing and this will get better with time.
I do know people who have downsized from owning a home to moving into an apt. for a season in order to get out of debt. That may sound crazy, but in THEIR position it helped them with utility costs, commute costs, etc. I am not telling you to do that at all, but perhaps there are other options that would make things easier for you to pay everything right now.
Sometimes I feel like I would like to take just my laptop and a change of clothes and buy an RV and hit the road. 
Wish we could have a big yard sale together. 
Hugs to you.....sm
So sorry for your loss. I know how it feels. Let the memories comfort you.
Big hugs to ya!! { }... Don't let them
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HUGS
I hope tomorrow is better.
Hugs to you! I looked everywhere.
Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
{{{{HUGS}}}} Sorry to hear that. I'm sure....
his family would appreciate your kind words for their loved one.
Xs and Os -- Which are hugs and which are kisses? NM
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Kisses and hugs
X's = kisses and O's = hugs!
Thanks to both of you! *Hugs* back!
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HUGS! Yeah, I get it too.
My sister who is a CNA at a nursing home is constantly saying I 'just type what people say'.  Yeah, OK... I'd like her to even TRY to do this!! My other sister thought that way too until I played a dictation for her and she put the headset down and said he couldn't understand a word said. Wish I could get the older sister to try it, but she'd not admit defeat anyway. 
Or how it isn't a real job because I don't go to an office everyday. Yeah, I'd like to see them work with a toddler underfoot and still do a good job.
I'm happy with my career choice though and I'm proud of myself and my husband is proud of me so I'm happy with that! Plus I get to have this great job and still never have to miss any of my daughter's firsts. 
We all have days like that. Hugs to ya...sm
and try to get some sleep!
Awwwwwwww....((((((hugs))))))))) to you.
So very sorry. Good luck to you my dear. Try not to worry too much, it'll work out.
Hugs to you, Laurie...What the world needs now
is love, sweet love. It's the only thing that there's just too little of.
Thank you so much! xoxo - lots of hugs! nm
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Hugs to you. We really do care and are concerned. nm
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Hope you feel better soon. {{hugs}} nm
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First, cyber hugs. Next, you've done nothing wrong
There is no reason for you to feel humiliated. He is the problem, not you. You know your family best and must choose the path that seems right to you. However, please consider making it clear to your family, your mother in particular, what has been going on and why you have been forced to make this choice. He has no right to make you miserable. Is there a trusted family member in whom you could confide? Having an ally in your family would likely lighten the burden. In any event, please strengthen your relationships outside your family so that you have caring friends and associates to count on if there is no one in your family to turn to.
Have you noticed how Ryan hugs all over Elliott?
He doesn't touch Taylor or the other guys but each time Elliott is on stage with him he's hugging and touching him.
I truly hope that you get some resolution to this. ((Hugs to you, my dear.))
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Thanks! :::hugs Christina::: Didn't know about the upgrade :) NM
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family is family wheter 3 or 8 sm
i live in MA and $1200-$1400 a month is what good health insurance costs, ie $20-$40 copays. it was just passed into law that if you live in MA you have to have medical insurance so without being self-employed, you can go right to BCBS etc and get a plan directly from the major health insurace companies, but for a family plan and a decent income bracket, forget it. the prices are outragous. right now my husband pays $120 a week for family plan and this is after his employer pays 30% of the total cost. we have $20 copays, but we have a $2000 individual deductable per year with a $4000 family deductible cap. so when my daughther needed her tonsils out, $2000 and when my son broke his arm, $2000. someone on this board has to be able to tell you what they pay for insurance through their company as an employee. good luck.
So sorry for your loss.
I'm sure your sweet Lady knows you love her, and she'll be waiting for you over the Rainbow Bridge.
I am at a loss too regarding this sm
I was called on Friday by my supervisor. She begged and pleaded with me to please work this holiday weekend, and I said yes (my own stupidity since we get nothing extra for doing this).
So, I came home early today to type more and........no work! DQS has nothing for me, and I do 6 different accounts. Let's just say I am a little upset. Yes, this is the Amherst office.
loss
I certainly understand what you are going through. I lost my brother 2 years ago and it still hurts every day. We were so close, I was his major care giver for his last 2-3 years and i still find myself picking up the phone to call him! But I must say, the hurt DOES eventually lighten up a little bit. Good luck to you!
Sorry for your loss...see msg
Please grieve in the way that helps you. I know this doesn't sound like much help, but I grieve for a father I wished I had known. I lost him when I was only 16 y/o...he wasn't a part of our family, my brother and I didn't really know him at all, but when I went to his funeral, I felt so sad inside and I am now 45 y/o and still feel a profound sadness at NOT having a father in my life. My friends have lost their fathers over the years, and even though they grieve, they know I didn't have a real father at all, and they all say at least they got to know and live with their father, he was a daily part of their lives, and for that they are ever grateful. They too understood my grief.
I know you are truly grateful for the father you had in your life, someone to talk to, to lean on, to make you feel special and cared for. A girl needs that in her life. It would have made a big difference if I could have been so fortunate. Who is to say what is normal grieving time, but if you feel it is interfering with your daily life, please see a counselor or perhaps join a grief therapy group, so you can share your grief with others who can and do understand.
I understand about not sharing too much with your husband...my husband had his father in his life and lost him many years ago. But I don't think he really understands my grief for NOT having that relationship. Grieving is a solitare process, but there are others who perhaps can share that loss with you.
My prayers are with you.
loss of dad
I too loss my father at the end of September. I think you are handling it fine but grief is differant for everyone. So I thought I would just post a small note about what has helpped me. I do not look at it as my father is gone. For me, he has merely graduated to a differant plane of existance. This plane of existance allowes his spirit the freedome from his failing corporial body, so that now instead of being able to visit occasionally, he is with me all the time. He is no longer in pain, and all those little memories are his way af saying I am still here with you, watching over you. I still talk to him and ask his advice and guidance, and usually if I am very quiet.. I can hear what he would say. Perhaps it is just my imagination or perhaps it is really his spirit making conatact. Either way it gives me comfort and makes the loss a little less painful. I hope this helps you in your time of grief. My best wishes to you.
I am so sorry for your loss
I have a Beagle that I took in a short time ago. He came from a shelter and has had some medical problems. Although I have never been in your situation, your post made my eyes tear up. Pets do become such an important part of your family and you love them so very much. Just know that you have ended the suffering of your beloved pet and a better place is to come.
God bless!
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I know what it's like to lose a pet too, and to have to put them down. I had a 16yo cat that I had to put down about 5 years ago, and to this day it still makes me cry when I think about that awful day.
Take some time for yourself to grieve the loss of your beloved friend. Time will help.
Again, so sorry you lost your friend.
your loss
I am so sorry for your loss. We had to put our beagle mix down about 6 months ago. I was sure I would never want another one. We really miss her. We have healed enough to start thinking about another one. We began to realize just how much they give and never ask for a thing back.
Job loss
I know how you feel. My department was outsourced also. And, to top it off they asked me to train my replacement. I had been with my company for over 20 years. So, I guess that did not mean anything. Currently I work for a national; but, I plan to go back to school and get out of transcription. It is getting harder to make a living transcribing, which I used to love doing; but, I have come to the point where I know I will have to make a career change.
I am so sorry for your loss
When I was in the military, one of our docs read an OB ultrasound on an anencephalic fetus. He didn't bother to pick up the phone and call the OB, and somehow either the report didn't reach the OB or it didn't get read. In any case, the initial ultrasound was when the woman was in the first trimester, and it wasn't until she was well into her second trimester and had a second ultrasound that her OB became aware of the situation.
I don't know what happened with her - whether she carried it to term or not, but obviously it could not live outside the womb. And if she had found out during her first trimester, it would have been a lot easier on her physically, if not emotionally.
I had never liked that particular doctor. He always seemed like he became a doctor because of the money, not because he wanted to help people. After the incident described above, I disliked him even more.
and im sorry for your loss
i actually meant to post that to the person above you... but i must have clicked on yours last ...
I don't know what it would be like to lose my father... but I can only imagine so I hope you are doing okay!
I am sorry about your loss. nm
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weight loss
I use TrimSpa (baby) it's working o.k. I am making a conscious effort to not fry, not add salt, eliminated cornbread (I'm a Southerner), etc., etc. I work a lot of night hours and this helps me with my snacking between 9 p and mid. I do drink green tea. I think it boosts my metabolism....
loss of MQ lines
You especially loose lines when you have to do the back to back to back reports like many docs do. You spend more time putting in the ADT stuff than typing and we know we don't get paid for that. I purposely have sat the full eight hours in my chair and not gone on the net, not done anything but type during those hours and still am down lines. I would love to know if we are getting paid for spaces, I know they say we are, but.........
loss of MQ lines
Well anyone can obviously tell who spends more of their time on these boards gossiping than actually working at the job they get paid to type for!
weight loss
just a general word of encouragement to everyone trying to lose weight that YOU C-A-N DO IT!!!!! I am very small-boned, 5' 6', and weighed nearly DOUBLE my normal body weight. Looked like nothing but a big bowl of pudding. One day I decided to move. Maybe it was the Nike slogan, but I just did it. Could barely walk around ONE BLOCK. But I walked the block. One day, I could walk two blocks. One day I walked a mile. Took me two years to lose the weight, ladies, but I got skinny and toned by EXERCISE (95% walking, a bit at the gym, not much), and sensible eating. Every single reader here knows what sensible eating is: Eat healthy, not overprocessed food, and don't eat too much of it PERIOD. Deep down, we all know that. Admit it and change your eating habits -- and walk and/or exercise, and you can do it. By the way, I am not holier than thou, I did used to take ephedra at half the recommended dosage, every day in the early days, just to take the edge off at dinner time, when I would rip off the cabinet doors cuz i got so hungry for the deadly four: pasta, potatoes, rice and bread. Couldn't get enough of it. decreasing (NOT ELIMINATING) these and making myself full with veggies and water did the trick. I eventually eliminated the ephedra. GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU. Nike: Just Do It.
hearing loss
Has anyone noticed a loss of hearing over years of MT work? A new report on the news says that continuous use of head sets can cause hearing loss. I have noticed it (and tinnitus) among me and my MT friends. Anyone else?
hearing loss
After 30 years in this job, yes my hearing is REAL bad! I'm going to start pricing hearing-aids this month, mightly only be able to afford one. Insurance companies - if they are generous might pay for one - if you work at GM I'm told. I'm certain this job has accelerated a natural aging phenomenon. I'm hoping to make it another 5 years. I can't interview for another line of work if I can't hear the interviewer!
Loss of flexibility
I haven't gotten my packet yet, but it sounds like we will have to submit a set schedule. This is a problem if there is no work within your scheduled hours to work (which happens to me nearly every day). Then I have to rearrange my life to be able to make any money. It isn't going to work for me anymore.
I don't see it as a great loss. Bye.
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weight loss sm
I tried the following - a little more walking, no more white bread,(12 grain), flavored non-dairy creamer instead of cream, not water-friendly, so drank a lot of non-caffeine tea (raspberry) and Sweet & Low (don't think this is a good idea). Tried Benefiber chewable to add bulk and fiber; lean beef, 90% lean a few times a week only, sweet potatoes instead of white, only 1 at a time and generally cutting out the obvious (no alcohol, fried foods, rich pastry). Took off 15 lbs. and was able to get into an old Size 10 for my reunion, from a 14, and saved a bunch on new clothes and felt great! Hope I can keep it up. When my son was getting married years ago, I hated the "mother of the groom" puffy chiffons, so I stationery biked from Feb. to May and went from a 14 to a 10 (700 miles total) and wore a lovely silk suit. Unfortunately, I ate my way back because I felt the "empty nest" syndrome. Once you lose, don't snooze, keep it up! You'll like yourself better. This profession can ruin your body, take control by getting up and moving around as much as you can. I did not do that and suffer the consequences with my back, my right thumb is totally painful so that I can't open jars, unlock the babies' safety belts, etc., it comes upon you when the damage is done. Don't let it happen to you, exercise when you can, you're worth it!
Has anyone used LA Weight Loss?
If so, what were your results. Any info would be greatly appreciated. TIA
LA WEIGHT LOSS
I tried it and lost 40 pounds in 3 months or so but it came back as quick as it went. They are VERY expensive. Currently not working on anything but GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!
Sorry to hear about your loss.
I lost my dog this year when he got hit by a car. I still get teary-eyed thinking about him. Talking about the pitbull I had a previous neighbor/family who had a Doberman that they didn't take care of. He was outside 24/7. All they did was feed him and he barked and barked and barked whenever we were outside or anyone around the yard. He ended up dying so they got another dog. This time a pitbull looking dog which I found out was an English bulldog? maybe. There are some people who just have to have a dog that has a tough reputation. It sounds like those near you didn't just have a rep. I'm glad to be moved away from them. They were nice people but I hated that they didn't take care of their dogs very well.
Hearing loss
Is there any new technology out there on improving hearing loss besides hearing aids? My DH has a herititary hearing loss that seems to be getting worse these past few years. He refuses to wearing hearing aids even though we have spent $$$ on them. He is a teacher and it is getting very difficult for him to teach his classes effectively or without students making fun of or taking advantage of his hearing loss. Just curious if anyone knows of anything before we spend $$$ and time seeing doctors that will tell him nothing.
Hearing loss
My son who is 11 has worn hearing aids since before he turned 3, first the BTE kind (which were mini) and for the last couple of years, since he has shown so much responsibility, he now has ITE very small,programmable aids. Quite expensive, but worth it.
One of the contacts that assist me in the state (VA) with school issues recently sent me additional information; included was a brochure from NFSS Communincations which is a supplier of assitive-listening devices.
However, I would not just randomly purchase an item without discussing it with an audiologist that you trust. Fortunately, my son's audiologist is wonderful beyond words and quite helpful.
I have quite a bit of additional information on this subject if you need it.
My son says to tell your husband just to get good hearing aids and wear them. (Nothing mean intended, he just knows that if he can hear with assistance, then why not wear them). He has explained to the other children that basically it is just like someone who wears glasses to see better.
I hate to see anyone struggling due to this matter and hope that he finds something he is comfortable with. Good luck!
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That is horrible. I'm so sorry for your loss (sm)
Those animals should be outlawed as well as the people who train them to kill. We have a Golden Retriever who is the sweetest thing in the world and we love her and she wouldn't hurt a fly. I am an animal lover but I do not like pit bulls. I also have small children and I'm thankful no one in our neighborhood has a pit bull. Again, I'm so sorry for your horrible loss.
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