So since YOU don't have to worry about it because your kids are grown
Posted By: you think NO ONE should worry? on 2007-05-02
In Reply to: I don’t have to consider really because - Pattie
Have you ever ONCE tried to put yourself in someone else's shoes or see something from someone else's point of view? Have you ever, in your entire life, had an open mind about anything?
Apparently not, from what I've seen here.
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I agree - my kids are grown and gone.
The house looks great, but I do miss the days when they were kids and lived here.
I understand when the kids are grown, so I started over!
My youngest was turning 17 when I got pregnant with another. I guess it is called empty nest syndrome. I'm now 48 and raising a 7 year old beautiful little girl and I remember when my oldest children were growing up I'd think it was never going to end. Now I wake up every day thinking she is growing up too fast! I sure appreciate her more, now that I've seen how fast they will be gone!
Absolutely, any parent who does less is negligent! Glad my kids are grown, my baby will be 18 in Ju
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44-year-old WF, M, Texas, 3 grown kids, just had 26 year wedding anv.
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Don't worry about it. In 5-6 years you'll have plenty to worry about!
A 10-year-old is never in a situation where anything can "happen," and they don't understand anything "happening" anyway. At this age they're only capable of "having a boyfriend" because that's what they see on TV - that's what the world "expects of us", to pair up and "like each other."
Her friends aren't talking about adult "things" to do in a "relationship" yet, and she doesn't even have those feelings, hormones, or needs yet so don't worry about it.
At 10, having a "boyfriend" is the equivalent to playing "dress up" or "make believe" and is just "sitting together in the cafeteria" at best.
Plus they move on to a new "boyfriend" in a week, a few weeks tops.
Relax, Mom. The part to worry about is yet to come and I wouldn't want to deal with that again for anything!
Best of luck and enjoy these years while you can.
Why would a grown
woman think that what you are doing is fun? What is wrong with you?
Yep, even though she's grown and married
, he still gets it anytime he wants it. The molestation has never stopped.
Yes, a daughter, all grown.
I married & divorced very young. Have 2 roommates (friend and her boyfriend). Couldn't afford this house otherwise. LOL. I live in an area called Lone Mountain Vistas, not far from Summerlin.
Yes and grown-ups and do not cry like a baby
over some lost time on a newbie! Business is business. Why cry baby about it on this board! This kind of thing happens every day. People do get better offers and this OP wants to cry baby about some lost time! She should have picked someone who was experienced instead of trying to CLAIM she was helping a newbie! I bet if this all came out in the wash, she was only paying a small cpl and wanted a whole lot! I'd bet she's more upset about the fact that she has to do her own work instead of making more than half on someone else. I just don't think a "grown-up" should make accusations of "people stealing information" or try to slander someone's name simply because they cannot support the account. That kind of thing happens every day. If you feel sorry for this OP, you need help more than me. Misery loves company! I'm bitter, but the OP isn't? Who really needs to get over it? Me or the OP or maybe even you!!! tsk tsk on the OP and you! People quit, people make changes, get better offers, cannot put up with being micromanaged, and that is no reason to slander someone! Making false accusations regarding stealing information can also result in a lawsuit. Poor taste in this OP and I hope I never take a job with her and want to quit for any reason! JMO. 
My children are grown and now
I am still working at home. Get to be grandma now. Don't forget $3 for a gallon of gas also.
Grown-up daughters - say nothing unless asked. And then don't say too much. nm
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How could a grown man be in love with a child....
but they way she was dressed with the hair and make-up, etc., she looked about 25. Too many perverts out there and he definitely fits the image. I don't know how or who would hire him especially around some kids. He has pervert stamped all over him.
His hair has grown out? Not extensions - NM
NM -
As a parent of 3 grown men, I'd be real clear with him
on the reason for quitting. This is not the norm for most of these players, especially after playing for so many years. After this time it's usually "in their blood" as some would say. You really need to keep an eye on him and see where he really focuses his time now that he's not playing. Since his GPA is 4.0, it just throws up a flag to me as I read your post, and I'd be sure to keep a close eye on this young man. BUT, for your P.S., his team may nudge him back into playing and I don't necessarily think that would be a bad thing. Hopefully it's not a people problem that's caused him to want to quit, i.e. people picking on the little guy (wink, offensive linemen usually aren't too little, are they?). Just make sure you stay objective and keep an eye on the bigger picture if that's possible.
I remember when my now 25-yo was the tight end in pee wee footbal, lots of practice and lots of fun. He totally loved it but quit after midgets because he couldn't get along wth an upcoming coach. Ahhh, those were the days. Thanks for making me remember some good times.
51, female, married, 1 grown daughter
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I agree. Have grown child, but can work during their SM
school hours and in the evening. A split shift is highly productive.
Guess you're not ready for grown up humor then.
BLTs on toasted whole wheat with garden grown tomatoes and lettuce.
Do little kids like caramel? My big kids won't even eat it! We make the basic Baker's chocolat
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home grown lettuce etc salad, topped with chicken breast cooked in
fajita sauce, fried eggplant and fried zucchini along with zucchini/parmesan muffins. I'm stuffed!!
I never said you shouldn't have kids! Feeling guilty? I asked WHY you had kids.
You clearly stated in your post that you ship the kids off to camp all day, and they're TIRED AT NIGHT!! You know exactly what you said. You said it as a PERK - AS IN GREAT! They're gone all day, it wears them out, and so I shovel dinner in their mouths and off to bed! You can try to paint it any way you want, but YOU SAID IT. Again, I only hope your kids never hear you speak that way or write that way. Shame on you. Why have kids at all? Just another parent who has them, gets rid of them for day AND night, BRAGS ABOUT IT, and then calls ME wicked! Give me a break! Camp is fine - its WHAT YOU SAID AND YOU KNOW IT. Your own words showed your heart. Period.
Kids are demanding and so is MT work. My question is how CAN you do this with kids, rather than how
When you have two young kids, 11 months apart, (like I stated they are now 4 and 5) and have been doing this since they were born with no help from their father and no family around, YES, the kids get neglected. Part time might work but living on one salary, part time, is not an option. How can you possible tell me that anyone with two young kids can stay at home and work a full-time, 8-hour shift, and still give their kids the attention they NEED. I dont care how good you are at multitasking and how great your organizational skills are. It is a very difficult thing to do. And I am offended by your post making it sound as if it is easy to do.
I do agree that it can depend on how well your kids behave and how well they are able to play on their own. But my kids were not able to play well on their own. They needed constant attention.
So please take the time to realize that there are people out there in different situations than your own.
Reading our posts should help you to understand that everyone has a different situation. I believe everyone should have the right to shares their experiences as it might benefit the original poster in her questions and concerns.
I dont think anyone should be bashed for taking the time out to write about their experiences. I dont usually come on here to argue but you really ticked me off with your post. And try reading the post correctly. I said next time around I would have put them in day care. What I DID do with them was set them up to an activity like art or put on a movie for them. Geez.
Stayed "because of the kids?" I say "leave because of the kids"
You're in no position to buy right now. Keep saving, keep paying down your bills, and for heaven's sake get rid of that dead weight of a BF you're living with. You can do better.
So, should I return the $75 (x2 kids) in music cards I got the kids for x-mas...sm
My son has been telling me about free music sites and I was very leary. How do they skirt the law Radguy?
I don't have kids, but my Mom was from the "old school," and still had everyone, kids inclu
call her by her first name. The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away.
I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated. Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie. :-)
But, as someone pointed out, to each his own. If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that. I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks." 
Please do not simply give up, kids or no kids!
Talk with a professional. This can be worked through if he really puts forth the effort and you participate. The right counseling can truly make your marriage even better than it was before, if BOTH parties are willing to be honest. Give it a try. Nothing to lose at this point and everything to gain!
Please do not worry about it.
Sometimes, it seems as if we do everything the way we know it's right, but they nitpick about everything we do. I have proved my use of proper grammar documented with my college English books, but they come up with this, "That's how the client wants it" stuff. OK, so why isn't it on my account spec sheet?
I think the trick is to find a smaller MTSO, one who believes as we do style-wise. For example, I learned to use commas quite often. At one national I worked for, it was NO commas period. If you had two independent phrases connected by a FANBOY, you broke them apart into two separate sentences. I worked for two other nationals and a hospital, and they never had a problem with my work. It was just this one certain person at one certain national. You should see some of the other things I was corrected on. I wound up quitting because this person went against everything I learned in my MT course, at college, and in all my years of work experience. This was not a good QA person, and other people on this board have worked with her. (PRINCIPAL vs. PRINCIPLE)
However, the MTSO I currently work for gives me rave reviews. I don't have to relearn everything again. We evidently went to the same school of style! LOL Keep looking. You'll find your fit. It's no fun working in a constantly negative and nitpicky environment.
Of course, you don't worry. Don't want to get
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Not to worry.
When my husband was in the military and deployed, we had tons of "discussions" over finances. It's a control thing. He's gone and can't add his input into your decision making, so he feels a lack of control there. I kept spreadsheets and quicken files to prove where I did or didn't spend money. Then I'd send printouts to him so he could feel like he was part of it. Granted, you shouldn't have to prove that you weren't blowing his money at the mall! With my husband and I, our roles are reversed. I'm the critical one when it comes to budgeting, bills, and finances. My husband is more, shall we say, impulsive? He'd be deployed and go sight seeing and out to eat because he'd never left our state before joining the military. I'd be at home juggling the kids, the broken down car, the bills, my job, and everything else, so I'd get mad at him for having fun being the single guy. Granted, some trips were definitely not fun for him.
Let's see, you two are married, therefore, his money is your money, your money is his, etc. We had the whole his money, my money, our money thing going on as well. Have you thought about a joint account? Remember, he's responsible for supporting you and any kids you have, as well as for paying the bills. DO NOT let him make you feel guilty about spending money on bills or the household or about not working. I think the women of today have that problem. Women of the '50s were expected to stay home, clean the house, cook the meals, and care for the kids. Now, we're expected to do all that, plus work on top of it. I tried being SuperMom for the first 8 years of our marriage before I snapped. It's not worth it. Don't feel guilty because you DO contribute to the household even if you don't have a paycheck. He couldn't pay someone to clean the house, cook the meals, care for the kids, take care of your personal finances, and everything else that you do.
:))))) oh don't worry, I have
  
this ol girl has left the room
MQ kept wanting every year for me to invest more into providing profits
for them and yet never ever reacted to my inquiries of additional monies for
a line I produced. Well, I'm a business too. I need to increase my income to
meet my overhead and my cost of living goes up for me just as it did for them.
Yet all they could offer was "let me give you another account".......well, honey,
I told her--------there are only 24 hours in a day! or haven't you noticed.
 see ya
Don't worry. We all have to go through
the dreaded learning curve with any new job or account for that matter.
The more you work on the same account the faster you'll get so with you being full-time should help.
Oh and make sure you get plenty of samples for those difficult dictators and that you follow up on the blanks you have to leave them.
Is there another MT on the account that can give you some pointers?
Why worry.....
If you're going to get it, you're going to get it, and all the fretting in the world ain't gonna' change that. I mean, when you go out to check your mail, a car could hit the curb and run you down; are you going to worry about that, too?
I don't think you have to worry about any
subcontractors knocking down your door to work for you. You're generalization of "them" is what makes your posts so rude. We do not all look for excuses to not work. I work my shift every day unless I have an emergency. I do quality work. I do not bother my supervisor with stupid e-mails. After all, there are no stupid questions, only stupid answers. While I would agree that good MTs are hard to find, we are out here, and willing to work for a good company (which can also be very hard to find).
Don't worry. sm
Most of these little abnormalities are minor, not cancer. Don't lose sleep over this. Just follow your doctor's advice and don't worry!! This happens a lot, believe me.
Don't worry
It do believe that ADHD is real, but you need to exhaust all other possibilities before you go there. It is a possibility that she has just not matured enough to go to school and would maybe do better if held back a year. During that time you can set her up with a predictable routine and practice focusing on different activities for a period of time. A friend of mine did that and it worked. No one accuses her son of having ADHD anymore
Don't worry, not just you...
I have heard things being mentioned here and there that it is ridiculous and that things we really don't need to know are on the test. I took it around 5 years ago and it was not like that, I passed it easily. I also saw some sample questions in the JAAMT a while back. We type it, we don't diagnose it for crying out loud! I have not tried this, though. Where did you find the sample test. Is there a website? TIA!
Don't worry.... (sm)
 where one goes to EMR, there is another waiting in the wings for just the right transcriptionist. It sounds like you are good at heart, and good things come to good people! Maybe something even better will come your way!!! We are all rooting for ya' and hope something spectacular comes your way! 
Thanks - don't worry -
Yeah, I think it warrants a doctor visit. I'll get it checked out and get a real ibuprofen dose. (600 mg b.i.d.?) Okay, I'll stop doctoring myself!
WORRY NO MORE
I hear you! I am worried about my future also with transcription. I have been doing this for over 20 years, but found HEAVEN recently in a travel program. Go to www.teamresult.com and watch the short video, you will see what I mean. E-mail me if you would like me to call you to answer questions.
Michelle
manzotravel@gmail.com
I had this - nothing to worry about!
I had it about a year ago. It's called alopecia areata (I think). I didn't know what it was and I happened to see my hairdresser and she told me what it was. She said it can be caused by stress, or it come on for unknown reasons. Mine has grown back, although I have some nice short hairs there now! Not to worry!
No need to worry
MT is definitely not phasing out, but it is changing. MTs are now becoming editors like I am. I work for a hospital that uses EditScript, an amazing speech recognition program. Imagine putting out 500 plus lines an hour. That is how good it is. All the MT Editors use the same style and corrections and it remembers them and each time it recognizes the dictator better. Of course with that much production, we did have to layoff some MTs but because of the cost savings, accuracy and physician friendly program, this will be the future of MT. We will always be needed!
Should not be a worry
As long as the blanks are "good" blanks, you should not have to worry.
The company I work for would rather have us leave blanks than to guess, so even if we are "pretty sure" we know what they are saying but NOT sure, we are to leave blanks. - The same if we cannot verify something from a reliable source.
I have blanks every day. Some more than others depending on account and how well the dictators happen to be speaking.
Just do your best and don't fret unless they bring it to your attention.
we have to worry.
because of TAT, many companies are now outsourcing, not just for the price, but for the quick turnaround. and we also have to be concerned, as it impacts the amount of work available for the MT, when companies hire heavy for an account to keep the TAT and then the MT runs out of work.
yes, the eating while they dictate is my biggest peeve too.
Don't worry
Usually if you don't hear much about a company it's because there isn't anything to complain about.
Good luck with your interview.
don't worry about it. I take the sm
negativity and let it fly over my head!
The MTs that have been in this business for a very short time haven't had the experience to realize what you can do. It takes yeras and years and you really have to be a workaholic sometimes. They have already shown their attitude by the whole "I am not working weekends, holidays, nights, blah, blah blah" They don't understand this is what the job is.
My employers appreciate me also and let me know the same. It will never stop. There are always going to be MTs who rip the profession apart, say we don't what we are doing etc. etc. I would like to work along side of some of these MTs for a day or two and show them exactly how its done. I started when I was 22. to me that was pretty young starting from scratch and learning my experience.
Congratulations on your new job and I hope you love it!
And not like we don't all have enough to worry
about, but I keep asking myself that if this happens, what happens to our jobs? Will the government hire their own transcriptionists to do the work? Will they phase out all of the MTSOs (which in some cases may not be a bad thing, lol)? Will things stay pretty much the same, the MTSOs get grants from the government for doing the work, our pay go down even further (not like any of us can afford that either? Just things that I have wondered about since all of the talk about the government taking over healthcare. 
Don't worry -- they are the unhappy ones...
doubt they will ever find satisfaction with their attitudes.
They should be pitied for their woeful disposition.
They are embarassing themselves.
Not to worry! You met my expectations!
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Don't worry about it. I used to cook like that, too.
I'd be so tired from working all the time that it was Hamburger Helper, fish sticks, or chicken nuggets. Our grocery bill used to be cheap, too. Hubby and I trade off cooking now. Honestly, we're trying to eat healthier to lose weight. It's a "hobby" that has helped bring us together more in our marriage. We find new recipes on the Internet all the time. Gotta have variety somewhere.... LOL
I wouldn't worry!
I was the same way in HS!! I am sure that she will grow out of it..it will just take time!
I agree - nothing to worry about. sm
But I did not find it faster than typing in the long run. When the doctor speeds up, the software starts skipping words, especially articles, and that takes a long time to stop every third and fourth word to insert a very short word that the software missed.
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